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Hiii everyone (= im Brianna but people mostly call me bee & im the sweet 16. i was born 9 - 9 - 90. i have two younger brothers which makes me the only girl and the oldest. im in 10th grade at HAHS. i plan to either be a pediatrican or an accountant. i have a problem trusting boys. just boys in general. i think because of my past relationship, it made me realize how easy it is to believe a lie. but dont get me wrong, i will give a boy a chance, i just learnd not to believe everything someone says unless its proven to me. i dont really have a best friend actually i consider my mom my best friend. i tell her everything and i cant picture myself hiding something from her. i plan to get married eventually but no kids. im a unique person and i could be trusted with anything. i like to help people out and make them realize things from a different view. so thats what brings me to this site. if you have any questions or need help with a situation, im here (=
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I don't really know how to start this off so i'll just go from the begining.
So, I liked this guy (g) for a while, and my mate (j) found out about this and started acting all funny with me. Over time i kind of went off G and starting having feelings for J. So I got my friend to tell J (who still thought i liked G) "You know she don't like G any more...she likes someone else"
Right after she had told J, I walked into our form room (this was at school) and he shouts my name, calling me over and says "what was all that about?" and i just said dont worry.
So, next lesson he was like messing around with me and that (so i thought J got the picture i like him). As I said before, when J knew i liked G, he was being all weird with me. Now, i won't be seeing J for a week now, due to school holidays, but I was just thinking about this situation, what should I do? Is there anything I can do?
We speak online and everything, but I'm not sure if he knows i like him or not, i got my friend to ask him if he got what she had said to him earlier but she still hasn't replied.
Thanks xxx
I think ( J ) does like you, since the way hes acted towards you changed. he probably wants to give you hints about him liking you so that you can make you be the bigger person and ask him if he wants to be with you. since your friend already told him that you dont like your boyfriend and that you like someone else that was probably his little " cue " to move in. you know ? Since you wont be seeing him for a week, make sure you keep the contact, try not to talk to him 2 times in that week. like maybe on the computer, talk as long as you can & flirting always helps. also ask him for his number & talk to him at night before you two go to sleep. theres always movies & the mall or something. so this way when you two go back to school, the communication will still be there. and hopefully one of you two will make the first move, not in that way but telling one another that you have feelings. as for the other guy, girl get him out the picture. cause i dont think you like him enough to still be with him especially when your thinking about someone else. good luck!
well ive been going out with this boy for about a year now and i really love him, i do. We are best friend. but lately i have been having feelings for my ex. i cant help them and i dont know why im suddenly feeling this way. im not going to tell my current boyfriend because it will just ruin everything..can anyone give me any advice on what i should do? how can stop these feelings? why am i feeling like this? ughh its so fustrating!
i cant really relate to this at all. so i will try my best to give advice that might help. i agree with you though that you shouldnt tell your boyfriend that you feel these feelings for your ex cause it could ruin something so good and another year down the drain. i think your feeling like this just because of flashbacks. since you have a year with your boyfriend, you may think if you and your ex stayed together, would yous` make it this long ? where would you too be if you two stayed together ? something you will never. really i think its something you have to live with, you know how people say they loved someone but that person broke their heart ? thats life, unfortunally & we all go through it. im not saying these feelings will go away cause only god knows. but just know its normal to always have some kind of love in your heart for another person. maybe your first love ? who knows. just try and remind yourself that if you made it a year with the person your with now, he must be doing something right. he must be treating you the way you want to be treated and you dont want to ruin something that you are fortunate to have.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for seven months. We've been having a hard time lately because I've been very angry with him about stupid things. =/ He just told me it bugged him today & he actually broke up with me.
He's "broke up with me" in the past. But, it seems like he's serious this time, like he kept saying no when I'd say please.
I want to be with him, so bad. I'm seeing him tomorrow & I was thinking about making him something. Can you give me some ideas? Please.. Or just what to say to him.
Thankyou
I dont really have any ideas for you to get him something but i do have a couple things in mind for you to say to him. when you see him try not to cry, be as strong as you can. also dont jump right to him when you see him. wait alittle then approach him. ask him if you two can talk in private if theres other people around. tell him that you truely are sorry from the bottom of your heart for making him stress and for getting angry over stupid things. explain to him that hes the one you want to be with and no one else. tell him how is he gonna throw away everything you to have and say that if he was in your position, you wouldnt wanna break it off over a situation like this. ask him to try one more time, sometimes love deserves a second chance. i wish you all the luck in the world. keep your head up.
Well they say two wrongs don't make a right. I was told that you cannot prove a person guilty of something with evidence you were not given permission to collect. Does the same go for relationships? I found out by logging onto my girl-friend's email that she asked her friend for advice about a guy she said she liked. She denied she did this to me. The law says to let it be since I had no rights to find out on my own about it but will the same apply here in this situation? If I did not sign into her account, I would not have found out about this guy in the first place.
I know that was wrong for you to do that. but ive dont it before =x and trust me, i saw / read things i didnt want to see. but unfortunally it was for the best. i realized what he was doing behind my back and realized that i wasnt the only girl that he had feelings for, so i had to be strong and end it. not something i really wanted to do, but im not gonna be in a relationship if its a lie ? and you shouldnt be neither. if she is having feelings for someone else, why is she still with you ? she cant even say its love because when your in love, the thought of another person doesnt even cross your mind. i dont care if you had to be sneaky to find out soemthing like this because how else would you know ? obvisiously she wasnt gonna tell you if shes denying it. be a strong person and realize what you gotta do.
14/f well i really need advice soon please..Well on Friday afterschool..i was hanging with my friends as always, and this guy comes..and i never met him in my life..but he kept flirting with me and asking me whats my number and if i wanted to "bone". (He was just joking though,just to make me laugh) he was really cute..he kept asking me out and for my number but i was too shy, i wanted to tell him yes..but i didnt.i think on he is coming to where i hang out next frieday...so i need advice,do u think he was serious when he said he wanted to bone...cuz i thought he was joking but i wasnt sure, please give me tips on how to flirt with a guy and show him that i like him..in a sexy way.thanks in advance
Both of us cant tell if he was joking or not, its too early to tell. since you dont know him and you probably dont know his past, dont be quick to judge. so if you happen to go to that place and he is there, try not to get so worked uhp just act natural. you know like you were before he walked uhp to you and asked you for your number. i would say wear something cute but not showing too much because he might get the wrong imperession of you. and im sure if he did really did mean " bone " then you dont want him to get that impression. so when he gets there ( if ) dont walk uhp to him. let him come to you and if he asks for your number again, give it to him. because who knows, you too can end uhp together but just know that if ever you get the wrong vibe or when you start seeing the " real " him and you dont like it, theres always a decline button on the phone ;) also, try not to flirt to much, make him wonder because they love to have curiousity. just alittle tip! well good luck with everything.
Ok so i have this problem,my ex boyfriend says he doesnt want to know nothing about me anymore and that i should go and f*** another man...he tells this to my friend,he says that all i do is chase him around which is not true because i dont even call him...even though i still like him i dont communicate with him.So i dont know wat to do i believe he was super mean to my friend and he deserves for me to call him and tell him off,or should i just ignore him and let him say all those things about me.Please help thanks
You see this is exactly why i changed my whole outlook on boys. this is why the way that i am. i dont trust no boy with my heart and i probably never ever will again. stupid a^^holes for real. i went through that. my ex thought he was the shit or something and he was telling everyone that i stay calling him and that im on his d^ck 24 | 7. you know what, let them tell everyone whatever they want, if that makes them feel better about themself, then so be it. we just know the truth and thats all that matters right ? they just need to get lives and grow uhp already. damn boys these days really needa act their age and not their shoe size. anyways, honestly, i dont think you should call him. girls are strong and if he hurt your friend, you needa say " does he matter to her " my guess is probably no & if he doesnt matter then who cares. mind over matter! let him act the badass all he wants, just know it aint gonna get him no where. and you`ll see who comes out on top (= amen!
okay so , this is actually really comnplicated but i'll try to make it short & sweet & not waste too much of your time. Once upon a time i fell for one of my friend's boyfriends (don't worry i told her about it and she was cool with it & liked the idea of us being together)Things were going great and according to my friends he was planning on asking me out he was just wating for the perfect moment (which was a blind date Xmas present thing) well he never did and i later find out that thigns statred to get complicated and confusing for him right around xmas break (the time he was suppose to ask me out) & then i find out that there was sorta another girl he liked at his school & his ex girlfriend started to feel things again (i knew that would happen & he always felt stongly about her & it took some time but i was the one to change his mind and make him move on) so i got frusterated because he didn't know what he wanted and backed out of the picture so i pretty much slowly backed out of the picture so he could have time to himself and figure things out. And well we don't really talk so much anymore, & my firends don't really care for him anymore. But i just want to find out reasons, why he didn't jsut ask me, if he liked me that much, why did he hesitate, and yet im still crazy about him, I mean i try to avoid him but i secretely still want him. Does that make any sense, And he is my first major crush in a very very long time. How do i get his attention again, & how do i get those answers to why he changed his mind? Anyway thats BASICALLY it, Theres more detail but you don't really want to hear that,s o yeha, does anybody know what i can do???
18 yrs old
hmm where to start! first off lemmie say i have alot of respect for you for getting away from him and making distance with him. because not alot of girls are that strong to that. you did the right thing especially since things were getting hard for him. Because sometimes when a person is overwhelmed, it can lead to things being said but not being meant. i think that even if your friend didnt have feelings for him again, it would change the outcome. because look, they`re not talking anymore so what is holding him back from talking you again ? i have so many thoughts about why he could of changed his mind, since i really dont know the person, you could probably pick out which one it is sicne you know him better. maybe he was scared to have another serious relationship ? like scared to catch alot of feelings for a girl since the last relationship turned into them not being together anymore. another possibility could be that he lost feelings, sometimes people realize that they just dont want a relationship and they want to be single. i guess what im trying to say is that if he really liked you and wanted a relationship with you, he would be the one to come to you and say that he still likes you and say sorry for what he did. you cant really bother him too much just incase he gets annoyed. just give it time and if nothing happens, then let it go. i really wish you the best of luck.
I really like this guy and he knows but he said I'm not ugly he just dont want a gf right now, and hes not really aloud, but he does anyway! but i dont know what do do I'm not sure if i know what love is but i think I'm in it...
What do i do?♥
Let me start off by saying love has no age. love can start at any age, so with that said, you could be in love - then again you may not. But to be honest, hes not the one to share your love with. he could really mean that you are pretty but i doubt that he cant date obviously since he got a girl. he just wasnt man enough to tell you that he didnt have feelings for you but now look where you ended uhp right ? unfortunally broken hearts end uhp from situations like this, but there is nothing you can do as bad as it sounds. you just have to move on and eventually you will meet someone who will want to be with you and wont lie to you. just always remember, what doesnt kill you _only makes you stronger!
Hey. Well I'm thirteena and in seventh grade and I like someone who's14 in 8th. See, I don't know if I like him or not. Becuase like, somedays, [when I was going out with him] I'd be thinking and I'd just be like "Uhg, I really don't wanna be with him." Then other days I really like him. What's wrong with me?
I been there before. actually it happened to me in the same grade, except the boy was in the same grade as me. What happened to me was when i was going out with him, i felt like i shouldnt be with him because i didnt have alot of feelings for him. but before that, i " acted " like i had this HUGE crush on him. the reason why i used the word acted was because after i broke uhp with him the feelings were gone. i think at the time, i just had to have a boyfriend. maybe i was sick of being single or something, i really honestly dont know what it was. but my point is i really dont think you have feelings for him because if you did then you would stay with him through whatever. its true what they say, girls want what they cant have. so maybe when your not going out with him, you want him just to have him. you will eventually grow out of that but until then just keep reminding yourself of this. best of luck.
i like these two guys, one of them is my really good friend, the other one is mh friend but i don't see him very much and i don't really see him outside of school. so both of them have girlfriends... which really sucks. the one that i'm really good friends with has a really happy relationship... they're soo cute... so he's off limits... but he's a huge flirt and he makes moves on me and stuff... and it's really hard for me to not come back at him and flirt right back. so how can i keep my self control when it's sooo hard to do with him? and the second guy is even more of a flirt! and i really like him, and i think he likes me. but he's with another chick, i really hope they break up... which is totally messed up, i know! so forgive me for asking this but is there anyway that i can get them to break up so he's avalible? and if you're going to tell me that i should just get over him or something like that please just don't say it.
Well for the first guy that you like with the amazing relationship, since hes a big flirt, maybe he just wants a " peice. " because i mean if he liked you then he would break uhp with his girl and be with you, you know ? you just cant make someone like you so honestly distace yourself far away from him as you can. because trust me i know its hard not to flirt back with someone who you have feelings for. i know you heard it so many times but there ARE other fishes in the sea, ones who have the same feeling that you have for them. you just cant break uhp something that two people have, thats life. There are ways to break two people uhp but im sure that after its done, you will feel like a horrible person. really, i dont think that you could live with what you done because i know i couldnt. i mean what if they did break uhp ? how are SURE that he will go right to you ? would you want to see either of them unhappy ? just have patience and you will see that you`ll find a boy who you can have a great relationship just like the two boys that you know. i really hope i helped.
me and this boy have been together for 9 monthss.. i like him so much! theres this other guy though, we talk alott.. and we hang out every now and then, and i have feelings for him too. When he wont talk to me it hurtss mee.. and when we do talk i like him, but sometimes more than others..
I cant just stop talkin to him though, cause i like himm... even though i know its wrong, because i have a boyfriend who i also like a lott.. i dont want to leave him he treats me so good, i feel like such a bad person though for having feelings for someone else
what can i do.. or what should i do?
ah i really need help : (
unfortunally, ive been in this situation before. and i felt like the worse person, not only because of what i was doing to my boyfriend but also thinking to myself " this aint me. " because i know i wouldnt like it done to me. your best bet is to probably break uhp with your boyfriend, as bad as that sounds because i know its something you dont want to do. but i just looked at it this way, imangine if the boy your liking found out you have a boyfriend OR what if your boyfriend found out that had feelings for someone else ? if you break uhp with your boyfriend, tell him you still want to be friends and keep a real close relationship. also still stay talking to the boy you like. because that is no where near cheating. in the end, you will find out who you like more, your " ex " will still see how amazing you are and the boy you like could end uhp as your new boyfriend. best of luck!
So I've always been really mature for my age, and sometimes I feel like I'm one of the only people in my school who actually is mature. But now it's really starting to get to me. I mean, I'm sitting there in English class trying to get work done while all of the obnoxious people in my class are yelling and talking about how drunk or high they were last weekend and I just get so angry! I want to turn around and scream "shut the hell up" to them but I know this will just make matters worse and I'd probably just get picked on or something.
Also, when i was in middle school, I was really excited to go to high school to get a nice, unannoying boyfriend, but in fact, all of the guys seem to go after all of the ditzy, slutty, obnoxious girls that crave attention in high school. Well, I always used to think that in high school, people would be more mature, but in reality, they are just as obnoxious. I sometimes think that things are going to be so much better when I'm in college, but I really dont know, college could actually turn out with even more immature people who are even more obssesed with getting drunk.
So, my question is, will I, a person whose felt like she was too old for her age, fit in more in college? Or am I just too mature and serious, and I'll have to be less responsible and less mature to ever really fit in? I know this is really long and I appreciate anyone who took the time to read it.
i can relate to your situation. to start, i have alot of respect for myself, more then anyone in my school. people start to call me prude and stupid names like that but honestly i can care less. i have never smoked before or gotten drunk and im 16. to me, all the outcomes and possiblities of what can happen, is NO WHERE near fun. i get the same feeling when i hear someone saying how " high " they were or how " fxcked uhp " they got over the weekend. theres no point really ? what fun do they get out of it ? we are very mature and we can thank every outcome of sitautions like that. we learned from other peoples` mistakes and thats why have the knowledge we have. just dont EVER think for a second that you need to be doing what everyone else is doing. im sure sooner or later you will meet someone just like you. so you are no where " too " mature or serious. there are other people like you and your not alot. it`ll just take time to find someone as special as you and who sees views like you. keep your head up!
Ok My name is Meghan and in 14 years old and i like this boy that goes to my school and his name is Sean and we were like bff's and then i started to like him and he started to like me but we did'nt go out because he had a gf.Well then after we told each other that we liked each other we stopped talking and now him and his gf broke up and were talking again but i don't know if he still has feelings and im afraid to tell him how i feel.
I dont think that you should be afraid to tell him how you feel. because it seems to me that he has the same feelings for you like you do for him. if he didnt then when he broke uhp with his girlfriend, he wouldnt of started to talk to you again. so im pretty sure he wants a relationship with you and he wants to see where it goes. with that said, i think you should have confidence in yourself and with him. just suck it up and be the bigger person, tell him how you feel and ask him if he feels the same. it could turn into something so great. i wish you the best of luck.
when a guy wants to hook up with you, does that mean he finds you attractive? also, will an experienced guy think it's cute if the girl he wants to hook up with has never been with another guy before? but like he doesn't know i've never been with another guy before. i know he isn't liek straight up using me either. he thinks im cute and likes my personality (his friends say so, and i think i can trust them, but im not sure). and like if my GUY friends see us talking, they can tell that he likes me. by the way he's 2 years older than me, and isn't known for using girls what so ever. what do you think?
thanks
To answer your first question, when a guy wants to hook up with a girl that can either mean two things. he can either like you and wanna see more into the relationship or since guys are dogs these days, he can only want a " peice. " for your second question, it depends on the guy. if hes an expericed guy and is known for sleeping around and being a male wh^ore, then he wont find it attractive and will act as if he never knew you. but if this guy is looking for a relationship, im sure he`ll probably find it cute & he will respect you more since you havent been around the block and back. now onto the situation, i dont think hes going to use you and be like most guys. since his friends know him pretty good and even they say he finds you cute and stuff, its probably from far him wanting a " peice. " i think get to know him BUT be careful what you do. ive realized if you do certain things with a boy while being friends in only alittle amount of time, they loose respect for you. just be yourself and im sure he`ll love every bit of it.
f/16. I've never been in a real relationship before, and I've only been on maybe 3 or 4 dates. But that's not the problem. I don't want this to come out sounding conceited, but I do think I'm a fun person, pretty, and smart. I don't have problems with guys liking me. I've been asked out five times this year. But the problem is, I always say no! Even when they're cute guys. I don't know why. I'm outgoing and a "people - person", and I want to have a boyfriend, but for whatever reason I have a problem starting relationships. Am I too picky? I keep telling myself that I'm holding out for the "right guy", but am I being too idealistic? Anyhow, anyone who has had this same problem ... your advice is appreciated! :)
I would love to meet you because i feel like your my twin. i am the SAME exact way. i just recently starting being like this though because of what i went through in my past relationship. now i think that no good is worth my time because im scared to get hurt again. and i raised my expectations so high. its normal to me, its just that we know what we want and we wont settle for less. also i think its the same thing with guys, " they want what they cant have. " im sure sooner or later you will find one that makes you fall head over heals and believe me im sure he will have the same feelings because you sound like a great girl. the longer you wait, the better they come. just always remember that.
Theres this guy, Jake. I've known him for two years, but until this year we didn't really talk. Last year, he would say hi to me and all, which was nice because I was new, and we weren't really friends. This year, we started talking more because we had classes. We're kind of friends, I guess. But I developed a huge crush on him. And now he seems a little more distant. Like, he'll talk to me, and say something really sweet, and he seems like he's genuinely interested. But then I respond and he seems like he suddenly loses interest. Why!?
I could think of two things. He might be scared that you dont like him and when he says something sweet to you, he might think you only answer back to be nice. so in otherwords he stops the converstaion just so he wont say something stupid or saying something to make you feel uncomfortable. on the other hand, he may just want to be friends and nothing more. im torn in between the two because i dont really know him. i would say your best bet is to really tell him how you feel and if he feels the same way then im happy for the both of you. but if it doesnt work out, then being just friends is for the best. be the bigger person and stop the curiousity and find out for sure. best of luck!
I'm 17/f. I've never been kissed before or had a boyfriend since middle school. But that's besides the point. Now there is this guy I like who's in one of my classes and I have no idea what to do! Obviously, I'm terrible at flirting/getting guys to like me because if I were any good at it, I probably would have had a boyfriend in the past 3 years. I really like this guy and stuff, but I have really low self-confidence and I think he's too popular for me and he'd never like me and whatever. Whenever I try to talk to him, I just get all negative and think that he'll never like me because no guys ever really notice me, even though I know I am attractive, but I'm quiet and mature-ish. So how can I get him to notice me more because I feel like I'm really awkward around him. Any tips for someone who's terrible at flirting?
well i can deffaintly relate to this. im 16 never been kissed and havent had a boyfriend in the longest time. but the only difference is i love to flirt. haha. but if i was in your situation, i would probably start a conversation with him. about anything. just to give him a little hint that you wanna talk to him. im sure he`ll be smart enough to realize it. maybe ask if yous` have any homework and if yous` do, theres always a study date (= eventually you will feel comfortable talking to him and the feeling might be mutial. just try not to doubt yourself so much cause it will hold you back from so many things. hopefully from you too talking it will take your mind off of thinking so much. i know you`ll be alittle shy to go uhp to him and ask him something or start a conversation but its something you have to do and eventually you`ll be so used to it, it`ll feel like nothing! i wish you the best of luck.
16/f
I've talked to this guy on myspace [I knew him from middle school] so he's not a stranger to me. We talked for many weeks. We met up about 3-4 times and we are going out now.
But I feel so stupid because I'm so shy and I can't look at him
We are surrounded around our friends and we haven't been alone.. I can only glance at his face. If i really stare at him, i get so shy.. my eyes water [for some reason? sensitive eyes?] and i blush like mad. I'm awful at eye contact. i keep telling myself to look into his eyes but i end up looking away.
I'm also tensed and nervous. I don't know how to feel comfortable around him. We haven't been dating long. Maybe a week? How can I be more open? Not so shy around him?
I can hug him but it's so awkward standing next to him. Maybe it's because he's watching my every move. It sort of scares me.
I need help:[
i think its normal to feel like that around someone you dont see as much especially if its your boyfriend. since both of you are fine with the distance relationship my advice would be far from breaking uhp. i really think you will get over it, im not sure though when because each person is different. it might be from not seeing him as much as you like and when you finally do get to see him your overwhelemd with happiness and butterflies (= thats good because its a strong feeling. tell him how you feel, he might laugh but think its cute. if you can get over telling him that, he`ll try and make you more comfortable around him. best of luck.
at my school we had this kind of fundraisor the highschoolers did. what they did was sell cut out hearts that kids can buy and give to people with a sucker. unfortunately the people selling them gave them to the kids that got one from someone who bought them one. i got one who didnt put there name on the heart on purpose( secret admire). it looked like the guy got a girl to write my name and the comment which was( my heart aches for you) i found out later by talking to one of the women that work at my school that a boy got her to write it to me but she wouldnt tell me who! all i know is hes not in my class.i dont even know if hes in my grade but its a good chance he is. how do i find out who it is?
the curiousity would kill me! id go crazy! haha. well obvisiously its someone very shy. so it might be someone that you never would of thought. since the girl wont tell you, theres really nothing else to do. because her and the boy are really the only people who knows. you just have to sit back and wait until hes ready to tell you. until then, try not to think about it so much and dont stress because he wants you to know but just not yet. hopefully you find out soon! (=
when you date a guy, but he doesn't send anything to you or call you or email you or anything on Valentine's day.
Do you just break up with him? Or you call and ask him what's going on?
same exact thing happened to me =| i didnt get a call or anything yesterday. ill admit i was pretty upset and disapointed because all my other friends got stuff and it was a special day for them. then i realized that its just a day. boys dont think like us so im sure he didnt mean to hurt you in any kind of way. i think girls just make it into a big deal when its really not. just think of a regular day something like halloween. you know nothing really too special. we dont need a day to make us feel loved right ? so in other words stay with him because like i said im sure he didnt mean no harm.