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i have an on-going flirtation with this one guy that i go to school with. we openly flirt and will most likley hook up within the next month. i know he thinks im attractive and all but he recently said that i was a 9, as in a 9 out of 10. i dont know whether to be flattered that he gave me such a high number or insulted that he doesnt think im a 10. any opinions on this would be great.

thanks!





Why do you care so much what a guy rates you? Why do you care so much to let something so stupid and small insult you?.....I'm not being an ass I'm just pointing out that this would be the least of your problems if you were to have a relationship.

A guy shouldn't date based on a rating, Looks aren't what should matter it's the personality that counts.

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What does it mean when someone says your'e emotionally retarded?




Well I never really heard someone call someone "emotionally retarded" However I would definitely take it as an insult as the word "retarded" is not a compliment. You don't need people in your life that are going to insult you and put you down anyway.

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My prom is very early this year and I;m already thinking about it! I wanted some ideas now so I can get it ready an plan ahead! Yes I have to ask him because he doesn't go to my school. Suggestions and ideas would be great! Thanks in advance!





Just ask him


If he is your boyfriend then why is it such a big deal to ask him to your prom? Communicate and you shall succeed

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i took THREE home pregnancy tests (two yesterday and one this morning) and all three said positive. after i took my tests though, i started spotting. it's really light (definitely not like a period) i was supposed to get my period last week. it seems like i only bleed when i discharge. anyways, i just wanted to know if that was normal and how long its supposed to last. i've never also, what's the next step after finding out that i;m pregnant? thank you all.




I'm a bit more critical when it comes to these sort of questions.

I do not understand why people put themselves in such a situation then come to us because they are scared and don't know what to do. When you find out you are pregnant the next step is to make an appointment with your OBGYN and schedule a routine ultra sound appointments. If you are worried about the spotting again you need to make an appointment with your OBGYN we aren't doctors.

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I am married since 5 years, my son has ADHD, I got married after I had my kids, my son dose stupid stuff all the time, taking stuff to school tells lies and I get a call from school almost every week. My husban told me that I am a bad mother and that I should do somthing more than just yelling at my son and telling him he is not allowed to watch tv or play games, and now he told me rather I get him strained out or he moves out, I am not from this country I left everything behind and we hear in the us since 1 year and now all that, I don't know what to do anymore please help me




You get your son into therapy, ADHD is treated with medication. Therapy will help him cope and he can learn the proper behavior skills. Yelling at your son is not going to do anything for him but make him become more rebellious and make him resent you for punishing him. ADHD is a medical condition, Not a behavior issue. Yelling at someone who has ADHD is almost like yelling at someone who can't walk. They need medical treatment, You can seek treatment by visiting a doctor who can recommend the proper help too you and your son.

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I was unemployed for five, almost six months because of my unemployment situation I've been applying almost everywhere, recently I applied at Burger King, Blockbuster and a Halloween store.

I just took a job today at Burger King, the day after I interviewed with Blockbuster. I told the manager who interviewed me that I would definitely give him a two week notice if I was going to quit, because I felt like that was only courteous.

The hiring process at Burger King is still incomplete, he will give me information about my schedule on Sunday. I'm a little worried about their reliability only because when I first went in to interview today, he wasn't there and one of the team leaders asked if I could come back at 3:00. He did apologize, telling me that the shifts had been screwed up.

My question is that when I interviewed at Blockbuster she told me that I had to run a background check but that I seemed friendly and outgoing. There's a lot more opportunities to make money, and to advance within the company and their parent company Dish Network, meaning that I could work at Blockbuster for a year or two (it's a commissioned job, depending on how well I do) and then transfer to Dish Network.

If I get a call from Blockbuster, is it okay to tell Burger King that I have a better offer? Would that look bad or unprofessional of me?

I have mainly office experience working with a temporary agency, and he had asked me if I got a call back from the offices if I would go back. I told him that I would be that I would give him a 2 weeks notice. I don't think that I need to give him my two weeks because I haven't even started
working there.

-20/f




You take what job gets back to you first, Remember in this economy you take what you can get. If Blockbuster calls you before Burger King then you tell Burger King you had another offer and thank you for the opportunity. If you work at Burger King for a week and all the sudden Block Buster calls you, Then you either put in your two weeks with Burger King or you leave and go to Block Buster. Sometimes job comes with tough decisions and it's best to leave jobs on a good note but in the end you need to do what's best for you not what's best for them.

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can giving bj's make you more prone to getting strep throat?





No, Oral sex does not make you more likely to get Strep.


Here is a link with a bit more information on causes of Strep.

http://www.webmd.com/oral-health/tc/strep-throat-cause

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Hello, I am a 19-year-old girl, and for the past year I have been in a long-distance online relationship with a 50-year-old man. I did meet him in person, but have not seen him for two years, before we got together. I know it sounds weird, but we have made it work. He loves me very much and wants to marry me and have a baby with me. In fact, he's kind of intense about our relationship, and I'm not completely comfortable with the idea of graduating college and having a baby right away. Lately I've been thinking about what it would be like to date someone my own age, who I could actually see in person, and to not feel pressured to have kids right away. While I love my boyfriend, he doesn't give me butterflies anymore. But I don't want to hurt him. He's been with so many women who treated him crappy. If I left him, it would break his heart, and knowing that would break mine. He's told me he would probably give up on love entirely if I left him. What on earth do I do here? :(





The thing with dating ages apart is you need to realize that this man will always be more experienced in life, While you are in college and somewhat fresh out of high school he is years past where you are in your life. Sometimes we can care about a person but also know that in order for them to be happy in their lives they need to do what is best for them. Right now, A baby would probably not be a good idea as you are in college and college can take up a lot of time and stress never mind the responsibility or raising a child. If you are curious to what it would be like to date someone your own age then I advise you too seek our your curiosity. Someone of your own age would be more on your level, They would share the same struggles and likely the same interest and in the end they would probably relate more then someone who is 30 years older. You are young, You should enjoy life as you have plenty of time to settle down in your life. You say you care very much for your boyfriend but at the same time do you care enough to sacrifice your youth and happiness?....I would hope not.

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Okay, so I love my husband and my girl more than anything else in this world. And I hope he does the same too. But sometimes, he just goes way too far. I mean when we were dating, he never used to let me go anywhere without him or used to get into fights over me for normal stuff like if a guy used to tease me on the street or something like that. At first, I used to think it was kinda cute.. But with time this got really annoying. We got into so many fights for this reason. If I asked him that I needed my space too, he was like "yeah.. use that typical line on me as well.. you don't love me anymore."
Anyway, I somehow learnt to live with it. We got married and had a baby. And his apprehensiveness sprouted up again. He wouldn't let anyone hold or touch the baby unless their hands were disinfected. She's 4 now and he won't let her go out and play wih other kids saying they'll hurt her, they're not upto her mark or it's too dangerous to let her go on her own and play "In The Park"!! Sometimes, I let my baby go and play outside, but if my husband comes to know about it, he lashes out at me like anything and scolds her too. I somehow control my emotions, but I know it would be very difficult for my daughter. I'm afraid she might develop some disturbances in her mind this way. she's even afraid to ask for something from her father without first consulting me. She even asks me who asked me to marry daddy; why is daddy always so angry or whether I am happy with daddy or not.. I mean, tell me, is this normal for a child her age to ask?
God knows what would happen when she's a teenager. I know she would be dating other boys and all. If not dating, she's atleast be friends with them. But what would my husband's reaction be against that? He didn't let a guy put an eye on me when we were dating, what would he do in his daughter's case? I don't want him to put her under house-arrest kind of situation or something like that. I want my daughter to have all those liberties which I could never have.
Tell me, what should I do to atleast bring his agitations down if not completely change his attitude towards us. I'm just worried about my daughter and her upbringing.

P.S.- I am a resident of India.




While I agree with Razhie


Your husband's actions are controlling and manipulative. While you were dating he wouldn't let you go anywhere without his knowledge and if you did he assumed you didn't love him anymore? That is the first sign of a controlling person.

Without the proper help your husband will never change, He didn't change when you were dating and he didn't change when you married him and now you are your daughter are intimidated by his actions. I would probably go and file for divorce like Razhie said below it may seem a bit extreme but in the end it's probably in your and your daughters best interest.

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Im so nervous about my period i really want to get it all i see is brown stuff in my underpants not red!



Have you ever had a period before? It could either be your period coming on or just brown discharge. This is common among women, Most women who are experiencing their menstrual cycle get some sort of warning before hand.

Lower Back Pain

Nausea

Cramping

Dizziness

Increase or Decrease of appetite

I would personally wait a few days to see if it comes, Sometimes discharge can be a sign that it's coming. Be patient

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My baby daddy wants to be in our baby's life now and I still have feelings for him how can I tell if he wants to hook up and it's been 8 months and y he just wanna be in his life




I agree with the user below me with one thing, Men who tend to leave women during their pregnancy aren't real men and it does show just how immature they really are. It could be that the father is trying to come around and make up to the child the loss of time. As a parent, He has the right to see the child unless the child is being harmed in some sort of way. As far as you go, Know that a man who hasn't been around for you nor the child is going to be one who will take awhile to gain back your trust. You can't just magically begin to trust someone who hasn't been around to support you or the child. It's up too you but if this man is trying to get back with you I would most definitely be cautious and not go full head on into a relationship as how could you ever trust someone who bails on a child to begin with?

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I have come across some txt messages as well as fb messages involving my husband and other woman. We have been together for 8 years and have two children and one on the way. I feel lost and sad and worry about what he is doing way to much when I'm not with him. I tell him all the time how i feel and he lies and says theirs no messaging between him and other woman. I'm not stupid, I cant tell him how I know about the messages. Yes, I have been being sneaky, but I am looking out for myself. Yes, its would appear I am looking for something to be upset about but I don't want to be in yet another cheating marriage...it hurts way to much. How do I withdraw myself from worrying about him all the time, how do i get my mind off him and start worrying about other things in my life?



Your husband is and still continues to lie too you, I would sit him down and question him. If your husband chooses to deny it then I would be upfront and tell him that you found messages between him and another women. Your husband may be angry but I would let him know that you wouldn't be snooping around if you had no reason to do so. Also, If I were in your shoes for the sake of your well being I would split from this man. You are pregnant, You do not need stress due to his childish behavior. At a last straw, I would suggest marriage counseling. If your husband refuses this offer then at worst case scenario I would be filing for divorce.

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he says he loves me we are having great sex, but i think he is already engaged to someone else but has not told me



You think? I'm going to assume you know.


First, Stop having sex with him. Someone who is engaged to someone is on the road to getting married to that person. He is already committed to someone else and while you allow him to have sex with you he is cheating and being unfaithful to the other. I believe a cheater is a cheater, Let him go and spread the word to his fiance that she is about to marry a man who is already having affairs.

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I just moved out of state to live with my boyfriend of two years. We just got in an argument and he was yelling at me, while putting his hand in my face. Out of reaction, I lightly slapped him.
He slapped me back on the head, then threw me off the bed.

I know hitting should never be tolerated in a relationship, but it's not exactly easy for me to pack all my stuff up and go home.

What do I do? :/



You dump him, That's what you do.


Find someone to stay with until you have a permanent living plan. If you need to go to a women's shelter until you can call someone. NEVER let a man hit you, I don't care what his excuse was it is never to be tolerated. Do you have any family you can call? In the meantime you really should report the boyfriend, This is abuse and abuse is not okay. Also, Forgiving someone who abuses you is telling them it's okay and trust me it will happen again as long as you allow it too. Someone who is violent cannot magically change themselves on their own, They need to seek professional help for the problem. Right now I would advise you to find a shelter or call the police and report him. It is better to be safe then sorry

- An EX victim of 5 years


EDIT: Doesn't matter if he had thrown or hit you that hard in the past, You still need and should leave him. The bottom line is he is abusive towards you and nobody needs to be in a relationship with someone who is going to hurt them. I was in a relationship that was abusive for five years, I thought things would get better I also thought well.......It wasn't bad this time but if it's bad next time I'll leave and I never did. The abuse got worse and worse and I finally got myself together to leave. Believe me, It was the smartest choice I ever made. Do NOT let him manipulate you, I can see already by what you added to your question apparently he is already trying to bribe you and manipulate you into staying with him. Remember, The longer you stay with him the longer you prolong your own pain. You are worthy and are too worthy for that jackass.

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I recently just got out of a bad relationship and I no longer want to keep my ring that my ex gave me.. Its real diamonds and bought from Zales Diamond store. Where do you think is the best way to sell this for cash? there's a pawn shop down the road I could go there. Or should I try selling it online at craigslist? what about going to Zales and asking them to buy it from me since he bought it there (I don't have receipt though).

What do you think would be the best option for me? thanks!





If your ex told you can keep the ring then you are free to do whatever you want, Make sure you have the permission first if you don't then the right thing is to give him the ring back. If you don't he could very well take this too court and charge you with stolen property.

Zales will not take a ring that has already been bought from the company, They most certainly won't take it back without a receipt. If you sell it too a pawn shop you can get cash for it but you likely won't get half of what he originally paid for it. Pawn shops aren't top dollar, I sold a 300 guitar once and got maybe 50 bucks for it. That is just a prime example. Craigslist is not reliable, There have been a lot of scams and not to mention bad reviews. If you have permission to keep this ring then you could just try and sell if off of Ebay that may be your best bet.

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Hi. I'm a 23-y-o, straight female. I've had the same best friend since 3rd grade (15 years). She often brings up sexual topics in a way that bothers me. I know I'm too much of a prude, so sometimes I feel like I shouldn't be bothered.

I wouldn't mind talking about it so much if she and her BF were having issues or she needed advice on something (not that I could provide it). Usually, though, she's just bragging, pretending to hit on me (we're both straight girls), going into way too much detail or making crude jokes. This happens almost every time I hang out with her and I tell her to stop and that it bothers me and nine times out of ten, she'll do it again a few minutes later.

Sometimes, when we hang out with her BF (I'm single so I'm often the third wheel) she touches him inappropriately under the table or when she thinks I'm not looking, but she isn't good at hiding it. Only, she recently told him that she's an exhibitionist. I think she's using me as an audience for her sexual gratification and that she wants me to see.

I've told her to stop so many times and she just ignores it. Is this sexual harassment? It bothers me so much that I'm not sure I want to be her best friend (or a friend at all) anymore. Is this worth ending such a long friendship over?



Sit down and talk to her, Or next time you talk to her be stern about it. Your friend could very well not be taking the fact that it bothers you seriously.

Tell her that you are uncomfortable discussing sexual things with her, You are uncomfortable being around her while she is with her boyfriend because of ....and you tell her what you told us above. Then if she still doesn't get it then you make boundaries. This could be classified on sexual harassment very well so, Yes. If your friend isn't willing to respect you and your feelings then as much as it sucks it would be pointless to be in a friendship. Respect is one of the main things that keeps a friendship going, That and trust. If you are in a relationship with someone who you can't talk too or be comfortable around then you shouldn't be in the relationship to begin with.

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Can someone explain to me about all the news on what they are calling "Crazy Ants?" I don't know if I should be scared or not. I live in the south and they are already in a state that borders mine. This is scaring me very badly and I want to know if I should move to another state to get away from what is coming or not?

Am I the only one that thinks it sounds like killer bees you can't get away from? I am terrified! Please tell me what you think about all this?




Well I haven't been following it a lot but from what I've read the ants are migrating into the southern states. Moving to another state isn't going to solve the problem, We have killer bees, We have fire ants, We now have little pesty crazy ants. Basically, The ants are nothing more than another millions of pest we already have. If these ants are in the south then some way or another they may find their way other states. Right now as far as my knowledge goes they are looking to get it under control and are working on coming up with a plan to stop them from swarming into other states. The media tends to over exaggerate anyway, I still remember back when the fire ants where the big deal and I'm just going to assume that this is another exaggerated example. Don't let it get too you just try and take the precautions to prevent them from coming but at the same time I wouldn't stress over it either.

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My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. I really like the jewelry they have at james avery and pandora. I like james avery's rings and pandora's charm bracelets. My uncle stole a lot of my jewelry from me and i'm left with nothing but pony bead bracelets. My boyfriend has never given me a piece of jewelry besides buying it from forever 21 (which were a dollar fifty a piece - literally) and they were cute but i was hoping that one day for a gift he could buy me a charm bracelet and like start me off with two or three charms. he could get them offline for way cheaper but he says he doesn't want to waste money on that. if he got it for me i would wear it ALL the time. especially the charm bracelet. but the rings from james avery are really cute too . I know people who always get nice jewelry from their boyfriend and i'm wondering when or if he will ever feel like it's not a waste of money. for gifts he will give me money to go clothes shopping and that's really nice, but i wish i got one single thing that i could look at in all of its beauty and know he put more effort into it. he is usually the guy to learn is lesson. one valentine's day i baked him brownies and bought him russel stover chocolates and bought him a pair of his favorite sunglasses and he gave me the gift his mom got for me, cheap chocolates that tasted like rubber and sugar and a three dollar pillow. he didn't even pick it out (that's what really botheredd me...he put no effort) and after i told him that, the next year he picked out flowers and got me awesome chocolates.so i was wondering how i could tell him that not every gift he gives me has to be jewelry, but at least something. he has given his other girlfriends (who lasted way less than two year) jewelry that was really nice. i wonder if he doesn't think i'm worth it. I've bought him a kinect, his favorite shoes that were around 80 bucks, gauged earrings made of horn and a gift card to buy one new xbox game that he lost.



It could be a few things, Does this guy have a job? Maybe he doesn't have the kind of money to go out and buy you things that you want. However, I'm going to assume this isn't true because he gives you money to buy clothes.

Have you ever told him how you felt? Let him know that instead of money for clothes you would rather have something from Pandora or James Avery?.....If you told him how did he respond? Did he ignore you?

I can't really give you advice because I don't know these things. If the guy has a job and doesn't seem to take your interest and needs into consideration then by what you've said at the very last of your question I'm going to assume that he is using you because you give him nice things and in return he decides to be a cheap ass. Maybe he is going to cheap because he doesn't want to spend his money but something tells me that not only is he a cheap sake but he buys what may satisfy you and keep you around.

I would stop buying your boyfriend expensive things, Stop with the shoes, Stop with the gauged earrings and stop with the xbox games. If you really want to know whether or not he is using you then test him by not buying him so much stuff. If he seems to not really want to put the effort into the relationship then you already know what you should do, That would be dump him. There is no need to be a cheap sake but at the same time you can't expect a dude to constantly buy you expensive things all the time either.

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is it good to fuck own sister and she like it actually she want to do it every night.





If this is a serious question, NO of course it's not okay.


Having sex with a family member is considered incest and incest is illegal pretty much anywhere. It is gross and wrong.


I advise you to read the following:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Incest


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i cant were a condom cause i have a huge penis what can i do


Condoms come in different sizes, Go another size up

Condoms are supposed to be somewhat tight, If they are loose then they are not fitted properly.

Condoms come in all different types you just need to find them and stop being lazy about it and coming up with bogus excuses.

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