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Rings or Charm Bracelets
My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. I really like the jewelry they have at james avery and pandora. I like james avery's rings and pandora's charm bracelets. My uncle stole a lot of my jewelry from me and i'm left with nothing but pony bead bracelets. My boyfriend has never given me a piece of jewelry besides buying it from forever 21 (which were a dollar fifty a piece - literally) and they were cute but i was hoping that one day for a gift he could buy me a charm bracelet and like start me off with two or three charms. he could get them offline for way cheaper but he says he doesn't want to waste money on that. if he got it for me i would wear it ALL the time. especially the charm bracelet. but the rings from james avery are really cute too . I know people who always get nice jewelry from their boyfriend and i'm wondering when or if he will ever feel like it's not a waste of money. for gifts he will give me money to go clothes shopping and that's really nice, but i wish i got one single thing that i could look at in all of its beauty and know he put more effort into it. he is usually the guy to learn is lesson. one valentine's day i baked him brownies and bought him russel stover chocolates and bought him a pair of his favorite sunglasses and he gave me the gift his mom got for me, cheap chocolates that tasted like rubber and sugar and a three dollar pillow. he didn't even pick it out (that's what really botheredd me...he put no effort) and after i told him that, the next year he picked out flowers and got me awesome chocolates.so i was wondering how i could tell him that not every gift he gives me has to be jewelry, but at least something. he has given his other girlfriends (who lasted way less than two year) jewelry that was really nice. i wonder if he doesn't think i'm worth it. I've bought him a kinect, his favorite shoes that were around 80 bucks, gauged earrings made of horn and a gift card to buy one new xbox game that he lost.
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I know how you feel because I've been there. One of my exes use to say "the shiniest thing I'll ever buy you is a wrapper from a fast food restaurant". Romantic wasn't he?
I have come to the realization that some men don't know how to show that they care. Just because he hasn't bought you jewelry doesn't mean he cares less or that you're worthless. Think about the ways that he shows you he loves you. Focus on that. Whether it be if he makes you laugh, listens to you when you need someone to talk to, or even takes you out to dinner. So you buy him all these things, to be honest just because you do doesn't mean he has to as well. Sometimes guys need to you to tell them what to do and what you want. I catch myself at times when I'm with my boyfriend and I'm upset about the fact that he doesn't know what I want. Guess what my boyfriend is not a mind reader nor a psychic last time I checked. Sometimes if you want something you have got to say it.
And another thing don't compare yourself to the other girlfriends that he's had not a good idea.
I would also say talk to him about it and ask him what the deal is. If he is your boyfriend you should be able to talk to him about anything and let him know what's bothering you. I hope things work out!
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It could be a few things, Does this guy have a job? Maybe he doesn't have the kind of money to go out and buy you things that you want. However, I'm going to assume this isn't true because he gives you money to buy clothes.
Have you ever told him how you felt? Let him know that instead of money for clothes you would rather have something from Pandora or James Avery?.....If you told him how did he respond? Did he ignore you?
I can't really give you advice because I don't know these things. If the guy has a job and doesn't seem to take your interest and needs into consideration then by what you've said at the very last of your question I'm going to assume that he is using you because you give him nice things and in return he decides to be a cheap ass. Maybe he is going to cheap because he doesn't want to spend his money but something tells me that not only is he a cheap sake but he buys what may satisfy you and keep you around.
I would stop buying your boyfriend expensive things, Stop with the shoes, Stop with the gauged earrings and stop with the xbox games. If you really want to know whether or not he is using you then test him by not buying him so much stuff. If he seems to not really want to put the effort into the relationship then you already know what you should do, That would be dump him. There is no need to be a cheap sake but at the same time you can't expect a dude to constantly buy you expensive things all the time either.
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