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I have to get my son under control or I will lose my marriage. Please help me!
I am married since 5 years, my son has ADHD, I got married after I had my kids, my son dose stupid stuff all the time, taking stuff to school tells lies and I get a call from school almost every week. My husban told me that I am a bad mother and that I should do somthing more than just yelling at my son and telling him he is not allowed to watch tv or play games, and now he told me rather I get him strained out or he moves out, I am not from this country I left everything behind and we hear in the us since 1 year and now all that, I don't know what to do anymore please help me
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You get your son into therapy, ADHD is treated with medication. Therapy will help him cope and he can learn the proper behavior skills. Yelling at your son is not going to do anything for him but make him become more rebellious and make him resent you for punishing him. ADHD is a medical condition, Not a behavior issue. Yelling at someone who has ADHD is almost like yelling at someone who can't walk. They need medical treatment, You can seek treatment by visiting a doctor who can recommend the proper help too you and your son.
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Yelling at your son won't help anything, it will probably make it worse.
And if your husband has such strong opinions, he should offer to help. When he married you he married your whole family. Your son is now also his, and if he doesn't treat him well than he isn't a good husband.
You should ask the school if they have any resources for your son. Maybe there is counseling that can help him work through his issues, or an after school tutor program to help him study, and even a sport can help him learn discipline and to burn out some energy.
Is your son on medication? The school can test him for ADHD and you can take your son to a doctor, where the doctor can decide if medication would be a good choice for him.
Work with your son and talk to him about his feelings. Try to approach this calmly and rationally.
This should be a family effort, not all on you.
Good luck,
-Abby
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Hello I just suggest not yelling at your son because yelling does not resolve problems. If you just talk about it with your son maybe he will listen to you. Try to hide all of is things until he can get under controll. Maybe if your husband helped your with resolving your problems with your son maybey the family problens will all go away. Like i said before try talking in a nice calm manner and he will listen. Dont listen to your husband when he says that you not a good mother because you probably are. Just have confidence in your self and I know that you can do this if all of you are in. Just believe in yourself.
Hope I helped.
I hope your family can sty together.
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