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What do you think is the key to a successful marriage?
What do you think is the key to a successful marriage? Or what exactly are you looking for in the m an that you marry?
As for me I think that I found the type of man that I want to marry. We're both fairly young though, I still have yet to start college but I'm a bit behind (I'll be 21 in less than six months, so I'm a bit behind). My boyfriend just turned 22 in July, and has two years of college left to complete.
I say that he's perfect for me, because I think that in a man success is so sexy. He's the first one in his family to ever obtain a college degree, he got his associates in June 2011. To me that shows success because in a family where not everyone graduated college, it can be fairly difficult to actually get your degree of any sort. I have full confidence in him that in June of 2013, he will have his bachelors degree and be almost ready to obtain a good future for himself.
The point of success where the two of you are currently at should also be a strong consideration. If you barely have enough money to support yourself, the two of you are going to struggle financially which will lead to many fights. I've seen this plenty of times, especially exposed to parents who have been unhappily married for over half of their marriage.
The level of support that he gives you should be a consideration as well. My boyfriend is extremely supportive of me, and his opinion on things is very important to me, the only other opinion that I value more than his is my own.
Trust and communication, the two of you have to be able to trust each other and communicate very well together. Without trust and communication a marriage can be very miserable, I've seen this before. You have to bring up the little things that upset you about him, or else they're going to build into even bigger things. I trust my boyfriend very well, and we've communicated well with each other enough for him to be my longest relationship which will be six months on the 18th.
So I think in order for a marriage to work out the two of you have to be successful, be able to work out your problems, be able to trust each other very well, and support each other when the two of you need it.
As far as personal traits that I think need to be happy in a marriage one day is to be with someone whose caring, loving, takes good care of me, is good in bed.
I've never been married, so I don't know if I'm inaccurate as to what makes a marriage work or not. If you are upset or offended by something that I said, I apologize.
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The best marriage is no marriage. Seriously, why bring the state into bed with you? And then you can only exit the relationship through a court room after hiring lawyers who will cost you thousands, maybe tends of thousands? Stop the craziness! Let's stop the Matrimony-Legal Industrial Complex now!
Okay, more seriously, I was in a three year relationship and it looked like we were headed for marriage (it would only have been for immigration reasons so I could live in her country) but then an issue came up that we couldn't resolve and so I ended it. Thinking marriage after just six months is way premature, especially at your ages. Your brains won't stop developing until age 25, so your sensibilities are still evolving. Wait a few years.
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Well I've never been married either but when you look at him you should feel he is the one regardless of success because sometimes struggling a bit to get where your heading can only bring the two of you closer as for trust and communication yes that is the most important to make a marriage last but sometimes you have to work up to it especially because the two of you are young and should be out living up the college years instead of worrying about marriage not trusting each other will happen that's including being jealous so as long as you both know you love each other and would rather spend your life together then marriage should be come easy if you work at it
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I think the key to a successful marriage is definitely the trust and communication. Those are two of the MOST important things that you need even in a friendship or other relationships you might have in your life. Another thing that I would find to be important is laughter.. you have to be able to make each other laugh and to have a good sense of humor. Yet another important thing is being family oriented, family is an important thing.
When I was 20, I was with my ex for a year and a half and I was convinced that I wanted to marry him but I learned later on that I changed and he changed. Sometimes when you are with someone for so long you go in different paths and sometimes you both reamin on the same one.
My boyfriend now, it'll be 2 years in January, he is amazing and I would love to marry him but only time will tell. Love is an amazing thing. Love also has its ups and downs, but its how you manage both and how you continue to make the relationship work. Good luck to you and your boyfriend! :)
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i think the key to any relationship is love and trust. you need to have heart to heart talks with each other if something is wrong and know that your partner will work with you to fix that. but the key to keeping someone around forever is them knowing whats exceptable and whats not. they need to know if they screw up they can and will lose you. :)
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