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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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ican anyone give me tips on how to last longer when i have sex. (link)
As a paid user I can see the age you
have listed is 13. If that is true
then age has a lot to do with it.
Not many 13 year old guys are getting
any and if they are it is just so
new to them they get overly excited.

Its normal and nothing at all to worry
about.

As you get older you will learn to
think about something else before
you ejaculate. That will hold things
off for a while. You can certainly
try it now and see if it helps. Just
start thinking of homework or something
before the big moment.

I have to say it, though I hope you
already know it. Always use a condom.
I know they can be uncomfortable for
some guys but protect yourself and
your partner at all times. You have
a long dating life ahead of you.
Be responsible. :)


14f I THINK THAT PEOPLE SHOULD BE ABLE TO DATE AS MANY PEOPLE AS THEY WANT.If you have a boyfriend you should talk to eachother about also being able to see other people like calling them your bf/gf also. I mean, why should you have to stick to that one bf/gf, that will get boring, give your love life some variety. The whole commitment thing is i think overrated. Or you can call it a commitment but have the same with other people too. I want as many peoples opinion on this. Maybe someone can change my mind. Thanks (link)
I think its very important for young
people to date a lot of other people.
How do you find Mr right if you stick
like glue to just one person?

I don't know that you call those people
Boyfriends or girlfriends. They are simply
people you occassionally go out with as
friends. Your boyfriend would be a guy
you decide to date exclusively after
dating a lot of others.

I want to make it very clear that I
am talking about dating. Not having sex.
You save that for the special guy.
Having sex with a bunch of different
people is a whole other ballgame.
I do not recommend doing that at all. :)


i cant pull my foreskin fully back. It seems to be attatched to the head of my penis. This means i cant fully clean it aswell. what do i do? (link)
You need to see a doctor about this.
I know it is a scary and possibly
embarrassing thing to do but you need
to.

Being unable to keep things clean
makes it possible for you to get
an infection and have problems
with smelling badly. Talk to your
doctor as soon as you can. It can
be fixed. :)


If a guy fingers your anus will his nails tear your ass hole? And will it hurt because my guy wants to have anal sex and I don't want him to hurt me (link)
If his nails are long and jagged
it is possible. Make sure they
are not.

Anal sex can be painful. If you
add your fear it would make it
even more so. If you decide to
try it use plenty of lubricant.
If you don't want to try it,
don't feel you have to.


Ok...
I get really bad cramps, and I hate having my period...Its gross and I hate it!!! So I want to go on the BCP, you know, have like have it go away, but I am only 14, and I think I am to young...and how would I bring this up with my mother? And I also think that I am moderately depressed, will this make a difference? And I don't know f this is relevant, but I am extremely active, track and I have 2 horses....so yea any advic is welcomed (link)
If you are old enough to have your period,
you are old enough for birth control. No
worries about that.

They do help reduce cramps and if you
want to try them talk to mom. I will
give a search with a lot of sites on
the subject at the end. They actually
help with a lot of things. Do some
research and then go over some of it
with your mom. Explain to her you
have been having severe cramps and
had heard the BCP worked. You looked
it up and here is what you have found.
Ask her what she thinks about it. Thats
all you need to do. It won't be nearly
as hard as you imagine it will.

All teens go through some depression.
It comes and goes and is normal. If
you are depressed for months and it
just doesn't go away at all, see a
doctor. Anything else is normal. It
should not make a difference as far
as going on the pill in concerned. :)

Exercise is good for cramps. Keep it
up.

Here is your search.

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what do guys look for in girls?
do you like blonde,brown,etc.? (link)
These type of questions are being
asked a lot today! Let me tell you
what I know.

A guy may have a preference. My
hubby for instance likes red heads.

A red head might get looked at
first if a guy likes red heads.
When it comes right down to it,
the color of a girls hair isn't
real important.

If you have clean hair that isn't
a total mess you will still get a
guys attention. If you are nice
and interesting, he is going to
fall for you no matter what you
look like.

So don't worry about hair color
or any of those things. They
really truly don't mean a whole
lot.

By the way, I am a brunette. :)


What nipple does the baby suck onn after it comes out for milk?
The right or left? (link)
Either one. They both work. :)


I came across the movie, '17 Again' on google starring Zac Efron and Matthew Perry and I really want to see this movie. But it confused me because I don't know if it's coming out or already came out? Does anybody know this? xD (link)
Info per IMDB. Looks like it will be released
In August. :)

Overview
Director:
Burr Steers
Writer:
Jason Filardi (writer)
Release Date:
August 2008 (USA) more
Genre:
Comedy more
Plot Outline:
About a guy whose life didn't quite turn out how he wanted it to and wishes he could go back to high school and change it. He wakes up one day and is seventeen again and gets the chance to rewrite his life.
Plot Synopsis:
View full synopsis. (warning! may contain spoilers)
Plot Keywords:
Number In Title
Production Notes/Status:
Status:
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Comments:

Status Updated:
12 February 2008
Note:
Because this project is categorized as being in production, the data is subject to change; some data could be removed completely.


how do i make a good first impression on my boyfriends family. hes met my parents. and my parents like him. so i want to make a good first impression on his. ideas? (link)
This site has some good ideas.

http://www.ehow.com/how_2184259_good-first-impression-his-parents.html

There are other sites out there too.
If you care to see any of them here
is the search I used. :)

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how do i properly shave my vagina (link)
Here is a good step by step guide. :)

http://ezinearticles.com/?Guide-to-Shaving-Pubic-Hair&id=62057


ok if anyones read my first thing about the guy they would understand this ok as u know the guy from my previous question isn't talking to me and now and he told my friend rachel that he aint talking to me because i threatened him that i was going to tell the cops and everything for trying to have sex with me . the problem is i was never really goint to tell on him i was just really mad at the situation because he wasn't going to be my friend anymore so ive texted him and ive even left a voice mail on my phone saying im sorry. and he still hasn't answered me back i need advice from a guy to know is he will ever forgive me because i truly am sorry for threatening him. oh and fyi from 1st letter i am 15 and hes 19 and i really care about him i tried being mad at him but i just care about him to much to be mad for long.thankies (link)
I'm not a guy but I think I can safely say
you won't be seeing him again. Not if he is
smart.

You see, having sex with a minor is
considered rape. Even if you say its
OK. You screw up his entire future.

The fact that you even thought to
threaten to call the cops was probably
enough to keep him clear away from you.
He isn't willing to gamble away his
future on a girl who would do/say
that. There are other girls out there.


okay. long story. okay. so yesterday "thursday" some kids dared me and this girl to kiss. so we did. and so someone convinced me to tell my b/f. and so did. and he got really pissed. but he "said" he got over it and he wasn't pissed anymore [[yesterday]] so today, i went to this thing after school. and so i got these 3 guys to call him and say "dude, your girlfriend is a really good kisser" and hang up. but i NEVER made out with any of them. and he got really mad. and he left a comment on my profile. it says. "I will never trust you again.You broke my heart.I trusted you with everything now that is shattered.you meant everything to me now you mean nothing i will remember you but hope i will forget.you were my life,but thats now over. I HATE YOU" i don't know if he means it. and i don't feel bad for getting them to call him. but i do feel a little guilty because i hurt him. but i don't really care about him. or i don't want to. because everyone i've ever dared to love has gone. and. i just need to know if i should care. i mean. we've been through alot. and i do think i love him. but i don't want to. i mean. i care. but. what should i do. i don't wanna loose him. i really don't. i can't afford to. i mean. he's been there for me through all my bullshit. and i think i hurt him really badly. and. i really just need to know what to do.
i don't know what to do without him. and i guess i do care. but i dont want to [[sorry for the repitition]] please help. everytime me and him have gotten in a huge fight i started cutting again or i've attempted suicide. i really need him in my life. i can't lose him. (link)
You pushed him to far and now you will
have to live with the consequences.

You keep saying you care in one sentence
and that you don't want to care in another.
Then you say you need him in your life and
can't lose him. You don't care or you wouldn't
have done what you did. When you care for
someone you never hurt them on purpose.

So, while you say you care you really do not.
You have taken a guy who cared for you, who
was there for you through all your BS and
ripped his heart out and stomped on it.

You are selfish. You are immature and not
ready for a real relationship.

Get some help for your cutting and suicidal
thoughts. Tell your parents and get some help.


i started talking to this guy online about 2 years ago. then i stopped and blocked him, because i didnt think it was right, and now im talking to him again. i just blocked him because i didnt think it was right for me to be lying to this guy, not because he was rude or anything like that. he thinks i'm older than i really am and i orginally sent him a picture of not me, but a different girl because i didnt think i would still be talking to him. so i feel bad and like its wrong that im talking to an older guy and lying to him about my age and appearance. and i know this must sound crazy, but he's seriously amazing, like i've never talked to anyone like him before. and yes i know that he could be a petophile, but i am careful and dont give out any personal info. he wants to talk on the phone but im not going to since i think he would be able to tell that i was younger than he thinks i am, plus i dont want him to keep calling me and dont want to give out my number. and we really dont cyber(online sex) like in a way we do but its not like the usual chat room talk you would think. so anyone please give me your advice/comments? i would like to know what you think. thanks (link)
If you really like the guy you need
to tell him the truth. Look at it this
way. You will never have a relationship
with the guy the way things are now anyway.
If he gets mad and stops talking to you,
it is just something that would eventually
happen anyway.

Its not a good idea to do to much lying.
You have the option of just not saying
how old you are. Use a screen name and
don't give out your real one. Lying if
you are under age and he is not could
get him thrown in jail for "kinda"
cybering with a minor. And it wouldn't
even be HIS fault.

Come clean or block him and move on.
Only you know the right thing to do here.


so, my friend brian likes my friend ashley. but ashley's not sure how she feels about brian. brian asked her out again, but in their past relationships, ashley always broke up with him without really giving it time. usually always gives it a week at the MAX. brian has asked her out again, and she has taken 2 weeks to answer. she says shes not sure how she feels about him, but hes really tired of waiting for and answer that has a 50% chance of being a no. Should he keep waiting for the answer? or just forget and move on? (link)
If she really liked him she wouldn't
have to think about it. Tell him to
move on. :)


I was watching this show and a pastor of a church was on there and he said to streghthen or save a relationship you should have sexs for thirty days straight. I've only been on birth control for a little longer than a month and i was wondering if i had sex everday for 30 days will there be more of a chance of me getting pregnant? (link)
No you'd be fine.


so my boyfriend is like a reeally good kisser. and i no im not a good kisser. how can i be a really good kisser? what should i do with my tongue? how do you suck on someones lip and how do you nibble on their lip? please tell me everything you no. thanks! =} (link)
Here is a whole list of links on kissing tips.
There are a lot of them so I will let you
choose the ones you'd like to see. Some have
videos. :)

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Recently, I started chafing around my mouth, and it it burns. I tried putting lotion, waiting for it to dry, and then applying my regular makeup. But, then I get a dark circle around my mouth because of the makeup setting in and blending with the lotion.

How do I get rid of this? It's really bugging me. It's not that noticeable, but it's irritated and it burns [as I stated before]. (link)
The best thing I have found for chapped skin
is blistex. It comes in a liquid and works
pretty quickly. It may do the same as lotion
under makeup but maybe not. It is a clear
gel and dries a little faster. :)


how can you verbally tell from Ms. and Miss? theyre both pronounced the same, so its okay, right? =) (link)
Actually I think Ms is pronounced Mizz.
At least it used to be! Still not much
of a sound difference really but a little. :)


how do i delete my advicenators account? (link)
You contact dangernerd with the reason
and he will delete it for you.

dangernerd@gmail.com


Why is it that some fellow advicenators tell young girls and boys it is okay to have sex or do other sexual acts "if they feel that they are ready" when they know that it is wrong. I believe they are just looking to get good ratings, do you agree? I'd much rather tell them the truth, that they are TOO YOUNG and have NO IDEA of potential consequences BESIDES pregnancy and get a lower rating than tell them it's okay. Am I the only one?

I suppose this can be seen as purely subjective, but is there anyone out there at or about my age (20) who thinks it's ok for 12 year olds to go around having oral sex and/or intercourse?

(link)
I don't think they should be having sex.
No way. I do think many are saying all that
so they get good ratings. Either that or
they are close to the same age and think
it is ok to do.

If they ask straight up do you think
I'm to young, I will tell them they are.
If I answer the question. They may just
be looking for someone to say they are
to young. If they rate me bad so what.
Anybody who has been here for the long
haul knows this site isn't about the
ratings. The only time a rating means
a thing around here is if you have a
very low one.

In order to give responsible advice
though, you have to just assume they
are going to do it anyway. Sad as that
is. Nicely tell them why they are to
young and point them to a site like
coolnurse.com where they can find a ton
of info on everything from age of consent
charts to pregnancy symptoms. They will
need it sooner or later. :)





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