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"Do not pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living, and, above all those who live without love" - Albus Dumbledore

Hi, I'm Laura. I'm a senior in college & I'm slowly deciding what I want to do with my life. I love Harry Potter, coffee, writing, and sleeping (amongst other things). I'll never claim to know everything, but I'm confident in my ability to help people with their problems. Feel free to send me an inbox question; I'll get back to you!

A few thoughts I've gathered from my teenage years (and being on this site for most of them!):
1. If you Google song lyrics, the song will come up 99% of the time.
2. Dress to fit your body type, and buy the size that fits. If you're a size 6, squeezing into a 4 won't make you look skinnier. It makes you look fat when you aren't.
3. You will never regret waiting to lose your virginity.
4. There is such a thing as a stupid question, but we're all allowed to ask them.

BU 2014 :)

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hey i was wondering how you put that google thingy like you put on these;

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=482694

You just type

[ search ]Fluffy Pink Bunny Slippers [ /search ]

but without the spaces around the [].

theres a song i cant think of and its like " f**k yeah we can live like this forever" and it seems like dashboard might sing it or something. i've googled that line and i cant find anything. please help!

"Holiday from Real" by Jack's Mannequin.

Andrew McMahon from Something Corporate's side project.

ok
the guy doesnt like me but im head over heels for him. and my ex bf, a total stalker might i add FOUND OUT. so he always makes jokes and crap. its so embarssing! and now the guy i like wont even talk to me :[

Boys will be boys. They never grow up. Talk to your crush and your boyfriend-separately. Tell your ex to knock it off. He's probably just jealous anyways. And tell your crush that you still like him, but understand if he doesn't like you like that. Besides, things could change. So you don't want to stop being friends with him over this.

:)

where can u find a website that has myspace icons in it?

Photobucket.com has an entire section devoted to icons.

Xanga.com sites have them too.

Google it!

Ok i'm smart and my highest number of A's were 12 and I want to be a doctor or work in the medical field but there's some things that are pushing me back:

I'm not sure I have the skills exactly. I have A's on the subjects to work in the medical field but it takes me hours to think for the homework and working in the medical field, your brain should act smart quickly.

I don't like the subjects to work in the medical field: math, science, etc. Sure I get A's on them, but it takes me hours to earn that A because I sit like all day working on it.

Your career should be something you like to do and based on your interests and talents. But my family cares about making money. All my talents and jobs related to it, don't make a lot of money. I want to make a lot of money so I can move out and buy my own house and be free.

But it's like I can only be a doctor because I feel like it's my job to be a doctor and help everyone, plus I make money too.

But I'm kind of scared of gore and stuff, but I can be a doctor for natural cures..

But all doctors are so old..they must have sacraficed a lot of their time and studying instead of playing with friends just to hlep these people. I want a lot of money to finalyl buy what I want but buy the time I'm that age then I won't be able to buy those clothes..
And I've been through a lot already so i dont' want to suffer anymore.

What if after everything, schools and stuff, right at the end when I'm about to be a doctor, I realized that I change my mind and there's no time left in my life to change?

I know this is long but please help me..I'm in so much stress and pain..

Okay, first thing, stop stressing so much, okay? It's great that you're thinking about the future though, so don't stop doing that.

To be a doctor, you're gonna be in med school for a loooong time. You'll know fairly quickly if it's for you- within the first couple years; and you could change your major since a lot of courses are the same the first year or so regardless of what you end up doing.

If your main concern is helping people, have you considered similar careers, such as a psychiatrist? Or, you could be a doctor and specialize in something that isn't likely to be gory and icky. Like feet, for example. Podiatrist, I think? Or a chiropractor.

I'm assuming you're still in highschool. Even if you're not, I'm sure you could still "shadow" someone at their job. Got an aunt that's an RN, or a close family friend that's a doctor? Ask if you can go with them to work for a few days, see what they do! Highschool guidance counselors are great for stuff like this; they may be able to "guide" you to a local hospital or clinic that does things like shadowing.

Money's not everything. If you're miserable making $80,000 a year, all the clothes in the world aren't gonna make you happy. You'll be better off making $35,000, buying clothes less frequently (you can wear things more than once, haha) and being happy. Plus, doctors work long hours. Keep that in mind.

I wish you all the best with whatever you do, and I hope I helped you a bit!
:)

well on myspace i saw this picture and some one made themselve look dead and i want to make myself look dead do you have any idea how they did it???????????????????????

Like, their pose, or the color?
Pose= just lay on the floor or something.

Color= make it grayscale. You'll be colorless. Then add touches of red (like on your lips or something) A lot of black eyeliner should help too.

i am starting to chew gum more to keep me from eating and snacking on stuff i dont need to. is this good? all the gum i chew is like orbit or something like it, but its all suger free. is there anything bad about this new habit?

As long as it's not replacing eating, say, lunch, you're absolutely fine. Chewing gum is actually a good way to keep yourself from mindlessly snacking. It sometimes makes people hungrier, but hey, if it works for you, great!

Just make sure you're still brushing your teeth like you should- even sguarfree can leave a residue.

:)

my school is having a crazy hair day in a few days
What are some ideas??
besides the ones everyone does, hair on top of head, dy hair, ect ect.

Get those multicolor clip-in braids or whatever they are from Claires.

Or like, straighten half your hair, or do NOTHING to it besides blowdry upside-down: Crazy volume.

You could always clip weird things to it using bobby pins, or just do a crazy up-do.

hi, well you know how when you buy a pair of new shoes, you get a packet of "silica" in them, and it says "do not eat", what happens if you do eat it? just curious, thanks

You'll sit there wondering, why the hell did I just eat that? It's all reverse psychology- they told us NOT to eat it, haha.

someone pleassse help me!! im looking for a book report on the booK Peaches, by Jodi Lynn Anderson, but i cant find one. if someone could even just find me a long summary that would be greaaaat. thatks

Reading the book always helps. By the time you find one online you could have just read it yourself.

I was wondering if anyone could suggest a really good steamy/romance novel or any teen books about life and relationships in general. Don't suggest anything corny like Gossip Girls or the A List Series. I'm 19, not 15. Thank you very much.

"Looking for Alaska" by John Green. My copy got thrown in a sink, so the author's name might have an "e" at the end, I'm not sure :) It's a great book though.

Also, anything by Sarah Dessen, especially "This Lullably" It's a book you can relate to so easily, and you'll fall in love with Dexter as you read it. :)

how do you delete bulletins you have received on Myspace?

You can only delete bulletins you posted yourself.
But you can delete MESSAGES using the delete button.

How is water good for your body? People always say drink 8 glasses of water but noone can accomplish it and it doesn't even give you any vitamins or protein!

Please. It's far from impossible. It's four Poland Spring bottles a day. And you can even count tea and juice!!

It doesn't GIVE you vitamins or protein, true. But our bodies are mostly water, and without it we die. Dehydration sucks, trust me. Imagine the worst headache ever, a killer stomachache, and cramps all over. Multiply that by thirty and you're close to what it feels like.

Plus, by not drinking water, your body won't be able to process vitamins, minerals, any food you take in. You won't absorb nutrients as well. At the very least, you'll get constipated.

In conclusion, just drink water :)

has myspace been messed up for anynoe eles today (3/22) or is it just me? like i will sign in then 2 seconds later it will etll me i need to log in again (its not a myspace becuase i click home, and i also type in www.myspace.com to make sure and enter it so its not a virus so dont etll me that) or it will take me to a sign up for myspace page, or tell me my account is locked for 15 minutes but then let me log in 2 seconds later. myspace difficulties?

Probably, seeing as 923462378467878235 people are logging into MySpace at any given moment.

Give it a few days. If your account still doesn't work, contact customer service, but don't be too hopeful about getting a reply.

In the meantime, find something else to do with your time, like reading a book or something.

ok me and my boyfriend are both 15 lol and have been wanting to go to the zoo forever. we never got the chance because winter came, so we were planning to go in the spring, which just started. today he asked hey would it be ok to go to the zoo with my mom and david too? davids their family friend, who i dont like because he laughs really loud and picks on me for not wearing a bow. i used to wear one in my hair all the time and it was him that actually made me stop wearing them. but anyways my boyfriend didnt let me answer yet and he went and asked his mom the same question. do you think im being i dont know what word to use...selfish i guess? because i want to go alone instead of with his mom and their friend? would you feel the same way? should i go alone or go with them?

Go with them. You may actually end up having a great time. Loud, obnoxious people are riots to watch at zoos- they're most likely to be imitating the monkeys, riding the elephants, etc.

Plus, you can always ask for some time alone, just the two of you. His mom and David shouldn't mind. Just say something like, "Hey Dan and I are gonna go see the giraffes now, can we meet by the lions in an hour and go buy something at Burger King for lunch?" Shouldn't be a problem.

If all else fails, grab his hand and run like the wind when they're not looking :D

haha, hope I helped and have fun at the zoo!
:)

OK, I feel REALLY REALLY dumb asking this by the way.

I know the actually term hooking up is having sex, but i'm aware that it means something else less sexual, but i just can't figure it out, i feel out of the loop and i don't know why i don't know what it means. help?

Sometimes hooking up means making out at a party, sometimes it's fingering/touching. Other times, it's having sex.

Depends entirely on who you're asking.

So my eyeshadow never stays on...

whats a base?? and where do i get one??

Bases are stuff that makes your makeup stick. I know Almay and MAC make them.

But before you go and spend all your money on one, try putting a little bit of foundation on your eyelids before applying eyeshadow. It makes shadow stay a LOT longer, at least for me. You could also try using a soft eyeliner as a shadow.

:)

Ok I wear pajamas to sleep but on tv and stuff I see girls wearing a tank top and some shorts.
Baby-ish? or am i old fashioned?

Sleep in whatever the heck you want. In movies and TV and stuff, they wear "fashionable" clothes that look good. I bet they also wake up with flawless skin and perfect hair? It's not real life, plain and simple haha.

Tank tops and shorts are really comfortable to sleep in though, especially in summer.

:)

uhm.okay.so,i planned a reunion for my friends in my old school since majority of us moved and we wanna see each other again.i marked the event on the 31st and then i woke up this morning and i realized that i had a tutor session thing on that day!what should i do?i can't afford to change the date of the reunion since everyone is fine with it and they're all not busy.and i can't have it on april 1st cuz its my mom's b-day.i would need to make up an excuse, but what? i'm thinking of saying that i need to go to a gathering..or should i just have someone say that i'm sick and can't go.i know my education is important but its not everyday i could see my friends again, and if i skipped the tutor session on that day, i'd continue anyway.so this is just one oppurtunity, i miss my friends. please help me :(

xoxo
roxy

Go see your friends. You can always reschedule your tutoring session, and it's not everyday you have a reunion.

Go and have a good time. Don't worry about it!

:)

How Do I create a playlist on myspace? Where I can have a lot of songs and people can choose wich one they wanna hear?

ProjectPlaylist.com

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