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My boyfriend really thinks im am or going to cheat on him and sometimes it makes me want to give up on us. Some people say it could be him cheating but dont want to be the only one doing wrong. I hope hes not and know i love him so much. What u think?




You should sit down with him and discuss your relationship status, One of the main things in a relationship is trust and to constantly accuse someone of cheating is basically the talk of death in a relationship. If you want a strong relationship you need to learn to have strong communication skills. Trust one another, Respect and so on. Your boyfriend needs to get his head out of the sand and learn to chill out or else I'd be rethinking the whole thing also.

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What does it mean when a guy throws things down your shirt, and looks at your lips and eyes?




They are obviously immature, Randomly throwing things down a women shirt is not only rude but insulting to some.

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i'm 16 male and i'm christian and i strongly believe in god and his words and i don't want to have sex until i'm married i know there are teenagers having sex and i hear guys bragiing about having sex but i don't want to be like that
i want to find the right girl who also believes in no sex before marriage i don't think i can be with a girl who's had sex outside of marriage and who doesn't fully believe in god i hoping my first time will be special with someone i love and who also wants to wait for marriage i want to follow god's word there nothing wrong with that?




There is nothing wrong with it at all in fact I applause you for being one of the teenagers that doesn't fall into sex at such a young age. The user below me is right though whatever you do don't allow yourself to fall under peer pressure. Peer pressure is really taking a toll on the younger generation nowadays don't be one of those teens. If someone isn't willing to respect your wishes and appreciate the relationship without pressuring you into doing something against your will then they aren't worth it. However, I think your train of thought is smart thinking

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Is it possible to contract an std (ghonerra, chlamydia, etc) from touching a vibrator or something like that? Not using it after someone, but after someone's used it and you touched it? sorry im so paranoid thank you




Yes it is

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I'm 11 and my babysitter is touching me wrong.He's 16 and he babysits me everyday after school. When I finish homework and watch tv he makes me sit on his lap and he puts his hands up my shirt.I say stop,but he says its okay and to just come down.Sometimes he even puts his hands down my pants.I know what he is doing is wrong and I want to tell my parents,but I'm to scared what do I do?



This is abuse, It NEEDS to be reported right away.

Tell your parents or someone you trust completely. What he is doing is wrong and it is not okay. Don't be scared to tell, You need to tell someone. They will handle it, You will not get in any trouble as you did nothing wrong at all. Please tell an adult so he won't hurt you anymore.

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Dont youg guys think that girls who do witchcraft on their boyfriend to keep them to their side are a litle bit imature?



Yes,


Immature and delusional as Rahzie said with a touch of insanity in my opinion.

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I guess specifically I need him to break up with her or something. I need some sort of satisfaction from it. Call it messed up, but this isn't "opinionators".
I've looked at articles with this title, and I know how to play hard to get. (if he didn't have a girlfriend this would be easy)
I wanted to ask for advice in the same way the articles did, but I wanna specify my situation for better help.
I'm 17, good looking, and I have confidence.
I'm not good with guys who have been in a relationship.
My situation is that we're coworkers.(don't judge)
I'm pretty interested, actually. He's really funny and I'm attracted to him. We are friends but not close. (in other words, we don't have eachother's numbers or socialize outside of work.)
ps, this is just a fast food job.
I don't like him or have a crush on him.
I want to know how to win this situation before I get involved in it.
Please give me some advice, but not if you're too opinionated in the moral of relationships.
Thanks. :)



I honestly don't care if you rate me a 1 either


Seriously, Are you really that bored to have to go and try to ruin someone's relationship? That is not just bitchy but immature. Are you insecure?.....

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I accept the words '' cheaters never win'' it's normal for the human being inlove. but I hope not he way he wanted to. He does know I love him, and I know he does enjoy seeing me and being with me. But he never say his feeling for me. But he does want to continue keeping in touch with me on email only. After a year not seeing each other I thought I am strong enough and good start to not seeing him anymore. But from time to time I still receive emails from him asking me where I am what am I doing. I honestly don't know what's wrong me, but a year without seeing him I found myself begging him to try seeing me again:-(. Although it's not I always wanted. At least I wanna see that he would make the effort to say'' when I can see you again'' but never heared of it. He seems to enjoyed hearing that I am begging him.the last time i saw him because I begged him, he told me he wasn't be seeing me anymore if he is not happy. I ask if he is now happy his answer is always be ''he can't complain more where he is wih his wife. doesn't mean im just a fling??




I'm going to be a bit critical and I apologize but here I go..


You are nothing but a booty call to him and that is why he is still in contact with you. Yes, You are and were just a fling just as all the other women he is trying to see on top of being with his wife. This man is married, His marriage is his main relationship. Not you or any of the other women he's been trying to get laid with. You don't need him, You are married and really should be focused on your marriage not fooling around with other people it is wrong. Your best bet is to move on, Ignore his emails because like I said it's nothing more then booty call mail. Also, How the hell do you expect him to be faithful to you when he can't even be faithful to his own wife? If you want a true relationship and something that isn't out of a fantasy then work on your own marriage, If you aren't happy like I said then go to marriage counseling or file for divorce.

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I am married woman, and have a lover who is also married.we've been seeing each other for 5 years now. my problem is he only see me when he wanted too. and when I do beg for him. He said we keep in touch, but I was always the one who made the first move. I always be the one to asked him when he will come to see me. he never let me know where he lives where he works and what is mobile number is! I wanted to stop my crazyness but my heart cant take it because I know I do love him.



You should stop seeing him, This guy isn't putting in any effort to even make a relationship with you work and on top of the fact you two are both married. This man didn't give you his information for a reason, That reason is he is not willing to mix you with his personal life. The user below me is right one one thing cheaters never win. People cheat for various reason but there is something that is lacking in your marriage or you wouldn't be trying to see someone else. If you aren't happy being married then I would recommend marriage counseling or worst case scenario filing for divorce but cheating is not the answer to your problems.

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18/f
I've been taking birth control for about 4 years, but I just recently (last week) changed brands so I took a month off to wait to start at my next period. My boyfriend and I have had sex a few time since stopping, with and without protection. He always goes soft when he uses condoms, but if we do it without them, he pulls out. I know you can still get pregnant even if the guy pulls out; my question is, since I JUST stopped taking BC, how likely am I to get pregnant?





You might be fine but there is always a chance, If you don't want to become pregnant then use condoms at all times. They come in all different sizes and the pull out method is one of the least effective methods out there.

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My boyfriend and I have had sex a couple times. I'm taking birth control, but he wants to be extra safe and use condoms too. The first time we used them, it went smooth, like usual. However, we tried them the other day because I'm off BC for a month while I'm changing brands, and for some reason, every time he would try and put it on, he would go soft. He says they feel like they're cutting off his blood flow and that's why, but if they're the same size as the other ones, shouldn't it feel the same?

Has anybody ever had this problem, or knows what could possibly be causing it?

And I know he's not complaining about it just because he doesn't want to wear them because a) he's the one who actually insisted on wearing them, even when I was on BC, and b) I can physically see it happen



Never have sex without a condom unless you want to end up pregnant. If the condom didn't fix you could always look for another size or even another brand. Condoms aren't supposed to be super tight but they are not supposed to be loosely fit either as they are meant to prevent pregnancy.

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18/f

Right now I'm in a relationship with a guy who's been in my group of friends for a couple years. We've been dating for about two months. And I like him and everything, but I don't think I feel about him the way I should. There's just no spark, at all. And it bothers me because I would like to be with someone who I'm crazy about.
This is his first relationship and I'm considering breaking up with him, but I have no idea how.
My other issue is this other guy. He's a friend of mine, and we had a thing in the past. I'm really, really starting to like him again. He's the one who makes my heart race and gives me butterflies and all that. And I feel like he may like me a little. But my friend has had a history with him and she's still not over it.
I just really don't know what to do. I'm at a complete loss and I need help because I can't even sort through anything.




Hm

Well, If you aren't feeling the spark in your relationship anymore it could be very possible that maybe you two died out. It's okay to remain friends but once you break up he of course will be devastated. Go with what you feel is right for you, You are not obligated to stay in a relationship you are no longer happy in. If you like the other guy then go for it! Your friend may not be over him but on the other hand she is no longer with him either. If he is available then you wouldn't be doing anything wrong. You could tell your boyfriend that he didn't do anything wrong but you don't feel the spark in your relationship like you used too and think it's best to go your separate ways. After, I would give the guy some time don't try and remain friends right off the bat give him some time to get over it first.

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i am in love with this girl who doesnt like me because i am a loser with no life.....she gave me the rejection number!




You are not loser


If the girl gave you the rejection hotline number then maybe she is the one with standards too high, There is nothing wrong with you she is shallow and you deserve much better. There are other girls out there that would love to date you, You just have to find the right one.

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I'm female. When I Was 20 years old I gave a married man a handjob. I also made out with him and got naked with him... I didnt give him oral but before he came I did bend over to swallow it so it wouldnt make a mess... I ended up not swallowing it because it tasted funny but still...

He fingered me, ate me out and placed his dick on my pussy, rubbing it and all that but he never put it in.

I would never normally do anything like this with someone who is married but he told me that his wife and him are more like best friends. Neither wanted marriage in their life but there was still a connection between them so they married anyway. She prefers sex with women over men so they have an open relationship where they are allowed to do such things.

Assuming he was telling the truth does this mean I committed adultry? I was not the one cheating, but I did know he was married and for all I know he was lying to me.

I am a mormon so if your mormon I would really like your advice, if your not I still want it and would apprecitae it greatly. I dont want my religion to be an indicator though if you dont actually know anything about the LDS religion. I just want general advice.

Please no negative comments. I know it was wrong but I want to know if I should consider myself an adultress becuase of it or if it was just simply sick and wrong.




No I wouldn't consider yourself an adulteress

I know you stated you know you are wrong but I'm going to point something out about the sound of your post.

You knew he was married and by what he said to you was nothing but bullshit excuse. Yes, He is married and he should of never cheated on his wife. Whatever the circumstances might of been between him and his wife still doesn't change the fact that he is married. I think sometimes men tend to think inside their pants rather then with their heads......He was wrong, You were wrong. You've learned from your mistake but in the future don't believe everything you hear.

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is it true when u sneeze it because someones thinking about you



No

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Its this girl i met a month ago she said she had a real good time with me. She also told me when shes was around me everything was clearer. i told her she special to me and i really enjoy talking to her, she responded by saying the feelings mutual. we talk everyday our conversations usually last for an hour or more. But the problem is i haven't seen her sense the day we met, she blames her job should i leave her alone or keep pursuing her



Okay

I really think you should wait, Like I said in your previous question she may have a boyfriend you don't know about. Let her come too you

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I was with my boyfriend for 3 months, and everything was going fine, till one night he got to drunk to go home and stayed at mine; we are both 16 but stayed in seperate rooms. (To respect both our parents) and his mom stopped all contact between us, and its been nearlly a month and I haven't contacted him just because she said not to, but he phoned me once and she found out and threatened to get me beat up, then again for no reason she threatened to hit me if she sees me and now she is saying I was pregnant and everything.. What can I do to stop her ?




Unless she has physically done something there isn't much the police can do, If she harasses through the phone then save all the voice mails/ Text messages and you take that to the police as it would be evidence. In the meantime I would try to stay clear of her and respect her wishes to stop contacting her son. Until the baby is born there isn't a lot you can really do, I would however fight for child support and if the mother pulls the whole "He isn't the father" then insist on having a DNA test. Sounds to me that this is going to be a matter you will have to take to court but do NOT let him/her get away with it. If it is his child he has part of the responsibly as well. If she wants to play games then fine keep all the evidence and bring it to the police.

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Okay i know this is probably not a big thing but i really don't if my girlfriend is being truthful to me about her sex life or her Sexual orientation okay like i ask my girlfriend tons of times do like girls too because i notice she notices them a lot she judges them all the time and most of her friends are bisexual i know this is not a big deal but i will like to know if she is since we are having a baby together and i feel she will never tell me cause she lied to me at least 5 times before and i feel like she will never tell me because she is scared i may leave her when i told her i will never leave her when i asked the first time she got so defensive about it so it made me wonder so im asking do you think she is and what should i do ????????




I honestly think if you two are having a baby together there are much more important things to worry about then her sexual orientation. That should really not even cross your mind for a period of reasons. 1, Your girlfriend is with you 2, You two are having a baby together and you are now asking her this? You are right, It isn't a big deal and it shouldn't be big enough that you would still be questioning her like that. Worry about the baby and act like adults not little curious teenagers.

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Its this girl i met a month ago she said she had a real good time with me. She also told me when shes was around me everything was clearer. i told her she special to me and i really enjoy talking to her, she responded by saying the feelings mutual. When we talk our conversations usually last for an hour or more. But the problem is i haven't seen her sense the day we met, she blames her job should i leave her alone or keep pursuing her



She may have a boyfriend you don't know about, This is half the time the excuse for not wanting to see someone. This girl may like you but at the same time she doesn't appear to be fully honest with you. Maybe this isn't the case here but this is my assumption. You'd figure if she had the hots for you she'd be sticking around more and trying to get to know you. Whatever you do I'd take it real slow, Don't rush things. For a short answer though I would wait and see if she comes to you because if she turns out to be lying at least you have nothing to regret.

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I have to have my first gyno exam since my rape in two days. I'm wondering how I should handle it. Do I tell the nurse anything, and if I do how much do I tell? What can and can't I tell her? Please help me!!!!!! I am really anxious and nervous about it. I could use all the advice anyone has.




You should be honest with her, She is your doctor and she is there to help you. Telling her will make her be more aware of your feelings and the situation. Tell her what happened, I know it's hard but in the end she is the doctor. I would advise you to seek therapy as well. Yes, Let her know and be honest about it.

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