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my exes mom keeps threatening me :/
I was with my boyfriend for 3 months, and everything was going fine, till one night he got to drunk to go home and stayed at mine; we are both 16 but stayed in seperate rooms. (To respect both our parents) and his mom stopped all contact between us, and its been nearlly a month and I haven't contacted him just because she said not to, but he phoned me once and she found out and threatened to get me beat up, then again for no reason she threatened to hit me if she sees me and now she is saying I was pregnant and everything.. What can I do to stop her ?
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Unless she has physically done something there isn't much the police can do, If she harasses through the phone then save all the voice mails/ Text messages and you take that to the police as it would be evidence. In the meantime I would try to stay clear of her and respect her wishes to stop contacting her son. Until the baby is born there isn't a lot you can really do, I would however fight for child support and if the mother pulls the whole "He isn't the father" then insist on having a DNA test. Sounds to me that this is going to be a matter you will have to take to court but do NOT let him/her get away with it. If it is his child he has part of the responsibly as well. If she wants to play games then fine keep all the evidence and bring it to the police.
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I didn't drink, I don't like it, but he did and he asked me if he could stay, I said yes by all means if he let's his mother know, and he said he did. But he obviously didn't and that's why she went mad. Which I understand, but I don't understand why she is threatening me, and I have spoken to my uncle who is a police officer and he said the police won't do anything as of yet unless she phones and thretens once more ?
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In legal terms she has assaulted you. Assault means she has threatened you and has the ability to carry out this threat; "she threatened to hit me if she sees." It may even be child endangerment, this I'm not to sure about.
As to; "now she is saying I was pregnant," This is slander and defamation of character. A civil action that can be pursued in civil court by your parents on your behalf.
My advice is to tell you parents and have them contact the police. If you truly believe that she will hit you or harm you in anyway if she sees you that is the definition of assault. The police will investigate and file the appropriate charges or turn the matter over to the prosecutors office for charging.
I don't understand his mother. While you two were very, very wrong to be drinking at your ages. You did the absolute right thing to make him stay at your home rather then send him home drunk and possibly get hurt.
Underage drinking is very serious. If your parents were home and allowed you two to drink they too can be in trouble. If they were not home and you two were drinking from what was on hand at home; Well it depends on the laws of the state you live in as to just who is in trouble and how much.
You and your bf are definitely in trouble for underage drinking. Even though you were smart enough or mature enough to do the right thing that does not mitigate the crime. Yes, underage drinking is a crime in all 50 states. Whether you will be charged is up to the prosecutors office should you seek the police to help with the threat of an assault.
Mom or dad or both could speak to this woman and decide for themselves whether this woman's threat is credible and why she is so upset. They can also try and defuse the situation without contacting the police.
What is important her are two things. First: Is the fact that you did something wrong behind your parents back. That action is now causing consequences for you that the resolution of which may and could cause further consequences for you and everyone involved. Second: There are reasons we have the laws we have. You cannot pick and chose which ones you wish to obey, even as a juvenile. You may as they say, bite the bullet on this one, and walk away without any penalties. But let this be a lesson to you.
One of the first laws of physics is, for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. This holds true when ignoring or breaking a law. You may get away with it this time, next time you may not be so lucky.
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I would tell your parents about it! That's deifnitely not something that you should take lightly whenever someone threatens to hurt you physically. Tell your mother or father or guardian about what is going on. And if you don't feel comfortable than maybe talk to an adult at school whom you feel comfortable and tell them about the situation. And if I was you I would cut all ties with him completely. Be careful!
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