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Unable to use condoms?
My boyfriend and I have had sex a couple times. I'm taking birth control, but he wants to be extra safe and use condoms too. The first time we used them, it went smooth, like usual. However, we tried them the other day because I'm off BC for a month while I'm changing brands, and for some reason, every time he would try and put it on, he would go soft. He says they feel like they're cutting off his blood flow and that's why, but if they're the same size as the other ones, shouldn't it feel the same?
Has anybody ever had this problem, or knows what could possibly be causing it?
And I know he's not complaining about it just because he doesn't want to wear them because a) he's the one who actually insisted on wearing them, even when I was on BC, and b) I can physically see it happen
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This could be totally wrong, but maybe he's unconsciously scared of getting you pregnant. He's the one that insists on condoms even with birth control, and now that you're off the birth control and only using condoms, the likelihood of you getting pregnant is intensified.
He might just unknowingly be freaking himself out about the condom breaking, and so his body reacts. In other words, he's losing his erection because he's terrified of getting you pregnant. Maybe just wait until you get on your new birth control. Or, you could try calming him down by looking up the statistics on how effective condoms are.
If you type in "condom statistics" there are thousands of sites with details. This one [Link](Mouse over link to see full location) says that there is no exact percentage, but from what I recall in High School it's at least 80% and some of the studies I've looked over just then have said that for people who know how to use condoms and use them regularly, breakage only occurs in up to 2-3% of users. This means they have a 97-98% efficiency. But once again, as the website says, every study is different and no answer is conclusive, but I think between 80-95% is a pretty fair call. As long as you use them regularly and properly, and remember to dispose of each one after use and apply a new one for every time you have sex, you have an incredibly small chance of falling pregnant.
There is always that small chance, which is why I recommend just waiting until you get on your new birth control to have sex if your boyfriend is freaking out, but try giving him the details and see if it makes a difference.
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Never have sex without a condom unless you want to end up pregnant. If the condom didn't fix you could always look for another size or even another brand. Condoms aren't supposed to be super tight but they are not supposed to be loosely fit either as they are meant to prevent pregnancy.
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