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no sex before marriage
i'm 16 male and i'm christian and i strongly believe in god and his words and i don't want to have sex until i'm married i know there are teenagers having sex and i hear guys bragiing about having sex but i don't want to be like that
i want to find the right girl who also believes in no sex before marriage i don't think i can be with a girl who's had sex outside of marriage and who doesn't fully believe in god i hoping my first time will be special with someone i love and who also wants to wait for marriage i want to follow god's word there nothing wrong with that?
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It's great to stick to your guns, whatever those guns may be.
However, don't discount a girl because of the status of her hymen. What happens if you find the girl of your dreams, but she's had sex before? Are you going to tell her to walk on because of her past? What if she hides her past from you because she's worried you'll cast her out?
I know a happily married couple where the man was a virgin and the woman wasn't. When she began dating him, she stopped having sex and waited until they were married. If he had turned her down because she wasn't a virgin, they wouldn't have everything that they do.
Love someone for who they are, not for what they believe in or what their body parts are like. There are limits, of course: a Christian can't really date a Satanist without some serious head-butting. However, it's possible to find love with someone whose beliefs differ from yours. Just ask my Christian husband how he feels about his atheist wife ;)
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I applaud your thinking and as the others have pointed out I sincerely hope you do not fall victim to peer pressure. Your religious convictions sound strong enough that peer pressure should not be a problem for you.
To find the type of women you write about. I would suggest you stay within your church. Look for a woman/girl who has the same religious views as you do. When you find her and have taken the time to get to know her and the time is right; sex will be a beautiful thing for both of you.
Sex is not a game to see how many notches you can earn. Sex is not purely for procreation either. Sex between two adults who have grown to know and love each other is the next step in showing there love and affection for each other. In this manner sex is truly a beautiful thing.
You have established your moral center on this issue. Do not let anyone tell you you are wrong because they feel differently. You must do what is right for you. Doing what is right for you is always the right thing in whatever you do be it sex, school or work.
You are developing a good moral center. Stay with it and you will never fail.
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Nothing is wrong with that. I'm happy that you're one of the few guys that actually want to wait to have sex. Don't listen to any other guys. Waiting is always better.
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There is nothing wrong with it at all in fact I applause you for being one of the teenagers that doesn't fall into sex at such a young age. The user below me is right though whatever you do don't allow yourself to fall under peer pressure. Peer pressure is really taking a toll on the younger generation nowadays don't be one of those teens. If someone isn't willing to respect your wishes and appreciate the relationship without pressuring you into doing something against your will then they aren't worth it. However, I think your train of thought is smart thinking
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First: you are 16, enjoy your youth without the complications of sexual activity.
Second: you need to be in control of you, only you will know when you are ready to be sexually active. DO NOT ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE PRESURED INTO DOING SOMETHING YOU DON'T WANT TO DO!
Third: No matter what level of sexual activity you start with, it will only lead to more activity. Know this: things can get out of hand in an instant, and before you know it, we'll just do some heavy petting leads to more than you bargained for.
Good luck, enjoy being young, compared to having a family and a job, and all of the adult responsibilities, you have nothing to worry about!
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