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my married lover and I... also married
I accept the words '' cheaters never win'' it's normal for the human being inlove. but I hope not he way he wanted to. He does know I love him, and I know he does enjoy seeing me and being with me. But he never say his feeling for me. But he does want to continue keeping in touch with me on email only. After a year not seeing each other I thought I am strong enough and good start to not seeing him anymore. But from time to time I still receive emails from him asking me where I am what am I doing. I honestly don't know what's wrong me, but a year without seeing him I found myself begging him to try seeing me again:-(. Although it's not I always wanted. At least I wanna see that he would make the effort to say'' when I can see you again'' but never heared of it. He seems to enjoyed hearing that I am begging him.the last time i saw him because I begged him, he told me he wasn't be seeing me anymore if he is not happy. I ask if he is now happy his answer is always be ''he can't complain more where he is wih his wife. doesn't mean im just a fling??
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I'm going to be a bit critical and I apologize but here I go..
You are nothing but a booty call to him and that is why he is still in contact with you. Yes, You are and were just a fling just as all the other women he is trying to see on top of being with his wife. This man is married, His marriage is his main relationship. Not you or any of the other women he's been trying to get laid with. You don't need him, You are married and really should be focused on your marriage not fooling around with other people it is wrong. Your best bet is to move on, Ignore his emails because like I said it's nothing more then booty call mail. Also, How the hell do you expect him to be faithful to you when he can't even be faithful to his own wife? If you want a true relationship and something that isn't out of a fantasy then work on your own marriage, If you aren't happy like I said then go to marriage counseling or file for divorce.
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Why are you interested in this guy. He is, by you own words, a player. No women deserves someone like him. He is someone that is so full of himself as to think he is god's gift to women, when in fact he and those like him are the biggest jacka$$es to walk this earth. Regardless of how you feel or what you think you don't need him. There are many more better men out there than him.
Please accept what I am about to say in the spirit I am giving it. Which is to say to help you improve yourself.
In almost any question we receive I can generally get a feeling for the person writing it from how it is written. From your letter, because of the spelling and grammatical errors and the use of street talk I am unable to define who you are.
You need to do a better job of writing to get your message across especially when asking a question or asking for help. If a reader cannot properly define from your writing what you are asking or questioning you will not get the answers you are looking for.
If a reader such as I, can get a feeling for the person writing from what they have written. That too helps in answering the question asked.
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You're right 'cheaters never win'.
He has a wife and that is his main relationship. The reason he was cheating on her was because he wasn't happy in his marriage. Most cheaters will cheat over and over and over again. So what makes you think he wasn't going to cheat on you? The only reason he was contacting you is because he knows he has you wrapped around this finger. Anytime he wants to contact you, you probably are sitting next to the computer or near the phone wiating for a response. Am I right? You are making yourself available to him and he knows that and he's taking advantage of that. This guy sounds VERY selfish and wants to take care of himself and he doesn't care if he hurts other people while doing that. He comes and goes as he pleases, and to be honest he's just using you. I know it sounds harsh but you have to hear the truth, this man is selfish as I have said before and there's no way you are going to change his mind. You need to stop seeing him and cut off all ties with him because this behavior is not acceptable. You need to move on and find a guy who is single and who is going to treat you right and not like a doormat.
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