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I got my hair cut above my shoulders & layered back in June or May. I DO NOT want to get it cut becuase i REALLY want it to grow out. Now, they layers are acting all wierd and puffing out, it looks horrible! I have very thin hair that is usually really stright exept for not its PUFFING out. Does anybody have any tip on how I can stop that? I straightning iron doesent even work.
PLEASE answer thankyou.

The best thing that I could think of is just putting your hair in a pony tail, putting it into a bun, styling it with some hair gel, braiding it, or something like that until you want to cut it. However, I'd only style your hair when it's wet so that it styles easier and doesn't puff out. I'd also try switching your shampoo and conditioner. Maybe that's the problem. I would recommend any of the products from the new line of Herbal Essence hair care products. They work wonders for me, and sometimes I have the puffy hair problem too, especially when it's really hot out because I have really thick hair... Other then that, I'd see a hair stylist and see what she recommends, because a professional hair stylist is your best bet.

-Mariah-

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13 female nationality: Filipino


youve probably seen this question but ill post it again to show you that im really not gonna give up about my situation.

skin pigmentation: EDP (erythema dyschromicum perstans)


i will do whatever it takes to get this skin pigmentation out of me. [description: its like gray spots all over body mostly around torso] i dont know any treatments or what caused it. not even any dermatologist ive been to. do you any good ones? i dont care about the money. i mean i cannot live my whole life like this not knowing what to do or just give up and stop researching and trying new things, had this for a year and a half and i cant take it any longer. this is my story im so jealous of the other girls my age, its summer time and they get to wear bikinis and clothes w/ no sleeves while i feel like i always have to hide my body. ima person who always "lookED" good and that boosts up my confidence around people. now that i have alla these spots all over me, i feel like im losing friends and people stare at me all the time and tease me. srry about my long story, i mean theres a lot more to say but youre probably tired of reading. i just hope i can get something out of people. maybe they have what i have to or if they dont maybe they can help me even if theyre strangers, it really means a lot to me, my parents who help me a lot are not enough. they dont even know how to use the internet and research stuff about so im asking you people if you could help me. IM really BEGGING. i dont wanna live with gray spots all over my body.. please do what you can to help me it means a lot to me.... thanks in adavance

You should just be happy with who you are. Everyone has problems with themselves that they have no control over. Just be happy with the skin you're in. You should read an article that was in Seventeen magazine a couple of months ago. I can't remember what issue it was in, but it was about all of these girls with skin conditions that they have because of their nationality. You just have to accept it. It's just like if someone has genetically big hips or a big butt because of their background, nationality, or their parent's builds, even with exercise, you can't get rid of it because it's part of who you are and you just have to accept it.

I know that you may lack some needed confidence because of this situation, but if you are confident and you show others that you don't care what you look like, then they won't care either. Be happy with just being you. :)

-Mariah-

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kay i guess these are typical highschool questions but PLEASE answer them.
- what should I bring on the 1st day?
- Should I carry a backpack or a messenger bag type thing?
- Is it easy to find your classes? If not, any tips?
- On the 1st day we have lunch. Should I buy my lunch or bring it in a paper bag?
- Where should I sit at lunch cause I DONT KNOW ANYBODY!?
- I am taking a sort of remediate math. What are the people like in remediate classes? Are they all druggies and such?
- For the 1st sememster, are your classes the same, in the same order, every day?
ok, thankyou.

On the first day, I'd bring the usual - pens, pencils, highlighters, notebooks, folders, binders, .etc. Usually schools send out a school supply list, so look at that to see what you have to bring to school.

I'd definitely recommend a backpack over a messenger bag. In high school you have to carry a lot more books and homework than you had to at middle school. For this reason, backpacks even out the weight so that you don't suffer back problems from the weight of your stuff just being put on one shoulder with a messenger bag...

Usually rooms that start with "2" are on the 2nd floor, "1" on the first floor. In high school you have to walk farther to get to your classes usually. Before your first day, I'd get a map of the inside of the school to find out where all of your classes will be and such.

I'd bring your lunch, or else you have to suffer through the cafeteria food, which is a real pain. Cafeteria food sucks. :P

Meet some people in your classes before lunch, then when you meet them ask if you want to sit at lunch together. I'm sure that you will be able to find at least one person in one of your classes that is friendly.

I can't tell you for sure, but I don't think so. If people are in remediate math, it's usually because math just isn't their best subject.

At most schools they are. Like at my school it's like clock work, sure the first week is hectic, trying to find your classes and all, but you will get used to it by the 2nd week, if not sooner. Usually you get a different schedule each semester, so that you get more variety and such.

-Mariah-

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how come it is worse for girls to do it than for guys? why is the double standard that way

Because guys don't get pregnant, girls do. Guys only have to suffer the emotional part if they're partner gets pregnant. Girls have to suffer it emotionally and physically. There's also no way of knowing whether a guy is a virgin or not, with girls it's different...

If you need anymore help, just ask.

-Mariah-

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Alright well i want my bellybutton pierced soooo badly.

...But my parents are dead set against it.

My cousin, who is a year younger than me, recently got it done.

I want it so badly.
I'm 14..

...What can I do!?

It's not a good idea to get a piercing or even a tattoo, just because someone you know got one, and you want to fit in or feel better about yourself because of it, or you'll feel older or accepted. I wouldn't get one, because in a few years you will probably regret it. Plus, it's hard finding a trusted piercing place that is safe and that sanitize all of their instruments so that everything is sanitary. Piercings also require a lot of maintenance, so if you're a lazy person and don't take proper care of your piercings, you could get infections, which can sometimes be deadly...

I wouldn't get a piercing, because piercings offer more cons than pros. Your parents are also just looking out for you and doing what's best because they care about you. Be glad that you have parents that care about you, some teens are the way they are because their parents don't care where they go, who they're with, or what they do. You gotta hand it to them; being a parent is a tough job with a lot of responsibility. Give them some props for doing what they do. :)

If you need anymore help, just ask. :)

-Mariah-

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Did anyone finish reading the book? If so, what are your thoughts on it?

I need help! I can't rest. I must know what other people feel about it because I'm divided. And I can't find any sites that have been recently updated about HP & the Deathly Hallows!

I just read the book and all the spoilers are wrong. Rowling introduces a new character named Gabriel who is a religious nutcase witch that works for voldemart. Gabriel befriends harry at hogwarts and then leads them into a trap. Ron sacrifices himself to save hermione and harry, then using ron for a shield harry destroys Gabriel. Following snape back to the bad guy's hideout, harry and hermione pull off a butch cassidy and the sundance kid maneuver and destroy all the deatheaters, including voldemart. Dumbledore and sirius return from the dead. Harry proposes to hermione and the book ends with hermione feeling harry's scar on their honeymoon beach.

-Mariah-

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Is there any creams to lift up your eyelids or something?

There are two options, I believe.

1. You could try Clinique's Anti-Gravity Firming Eye Lift Cream. Which can be found here: http://www.clinique.com/templates/products/sp_nonshaded.tmpl?ngextredir=1&CATEGORY_ID=CATEGORY4899&PRODUCT_ID=PROD577
It costs around $30.00 for a .5 oz container of it.

2. You could also try a more extreme measure, which is plastic surgery. It's a procedure called blepharoplasty, in which you can learn more about here: http://www.plasticsurgery.org/patients_consumers/procedures/Blepharoplasty.cfm

-Mariah-

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I heard face masks cause more acne because it clogs your pores or something? Is that true?

Do face masks really help?

It actually only clogs your pores if you don't wash it all off of your face. You need to use a washcloth or something to make sure that you got rid of it all, but if there is some still left, then yes, some types of face masks will clog your pores, causing acne.

However, I'd try Queen Helene's Mint Julep Masque. It's very affordable, and it works very well for most people. It's also the really thick type of masque that is really easy to clean off of your face, so it doesn't clog your pores like a thin masque does... You can buy Queen Helene's Mint Julep Masque at Sally Beauty Supply Stores, I believe. It's worth it, too. :)

-Mariah-

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14/f

so jonathan likes me and i like jonathan. we're kinda like, "talking"..but not going out yet. we've been talking for about 1 month.

[yesterday morning] So i was mad at him for something stupid, but then i got over it. he apologized and i accepted it.

[yesterday night-->]so usually we talk on myspace practically every day. and my friend breanna and him are friends. and she told me that he was going to ask me out but, then i got mad so ..he "forgot"...[yea..right] but that's not what bothered me. well if you have a myspace you'll usually see bulletins like..if you're single,taken and happy,..stuff like that. so he posted one saying he's TAKEN AND LOVING IT!!...and then he posted another saying the same thing..



AND YESTERDAY HE WANTED ME TO CALL HIM..he made it sound URGENT..and i'm so nervous.

and you know how Tom added that new view status updates...and his said "it only took 2 minutes (if you know what i mean)


I was just so mad and upset last night and this morning.

once again, i'm sorry it's long and thanks for answering.

so basically..
1) did he want me to call him because he was going to ask me out??!!

2) what did he mean by, "it only took 2 minutes,(if you know what i mean)

3) Does he really have a girlfriend??!!..because some of my friends think it's me..but he never asked me out??!!!

please just answer these questions and tell me honestly what you think.

1. You will never know what he wants to tell you until you call him up. You'll either spend a lot of time wondering, or you'll know for sure that he just needed to borrow a pencil. lol :)

2. I think he may be showing off or bragging to his friends about something, like a girl swooning or falling head over heels for him, and it's probably a tagline for him, showing his friends that he's a player and whatnot.

3. Well, then ask him out! There's no use in wondering if he really likes you or not, when you could know for sure that he really doesn't. What happens when you had the chance to ask him out or to see if he liked you, when afterwards he finds another girlfriend, and all along he really liked you...

You need to take action ASAP! :)

-Mariah-

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When I cook using cooking spray, it leaves brown
sticky gooey junk in my pans. It looks awful and
it is impossible to get off.

Does anyone know how to cook with the spray
so it doesn't do this?

I would try using the Pam brand of cooking spray, or get non-stick cooking pans. That should solve the problem. :)

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14/f

summer is just SO boring it's not even funny. So basically i have like 5 best friends but out of the 6 there's 3 that i actually talk to.And every time we try to make plans..either 1 of us can't go for one reason or the other. And so basically how do i make my summer fun without them. my summer is so boring[ i'm sorry i'm saying this alot but it's true] and the only time i actually went out was like i week ago went i went to six flags on saturday. And i GOT OUT OF SCHOOL ON JUNE 18th. So basically i want to know how to make my summer fun..and how to find and make new friends..and still keep my olds ones.

THNX IN ADVANCE!!!!!

If only some of your friends are busy, then what's stopping you? Hang out with your friends that aren't busy. Hang out at your favorite places by yourself, like the mall, a coffee shop, bookstore, the beach, the gym, or somewhere else and meet some new people that share your interests. That way, you'll have an excuse to go out and have some fun doing what you love. Whatever you do, though, don't stay cramped inside your house everyday watching PayPerViews or Netflix all day, waiting for one of your friends to call you to go out and do something fun. Call them! Or better yet, plan something fun for yourself. Pick out a good book and go relax on the beach with some new shades that you bought at the mall and gawk at hot guys strolling across the beach. What's more fun than that? :)

If you need anymore help, just ask. :)

-Mariah-

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hey
i just got my period and i dont know wat to do. I hate grany panyies. My cuz gave some thongs and i like them my mom dosnt want me wereing them and my mom had some thong pads and i dont know if i should tell her or just were them but the pads dont last 4 forever. i need help

If your mom doesn't want you wearing thongs, then you should respect your mom's decision. After all, your mom is the boss, and if you ever go against what your parents say, it usually lands you into lots of trouble. I'd just wear regular underwear, like girls' briefs, boy short style, or bikini style. You don't have to wear granny panties. If it's just what your mom buys you, then I'd earn my own money and buy the underwear that you want, but that doesn't go against your mom's rules.

Don't be scared about getting your period, it's perfectly normal and every girl goes through it. It seems like a big change, but you will get used to it, and it's one step closer to entering womanhood.

If you need anymore help, just ask. :)

-Mariah-

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haha.. i didn't know what category to put this under, so this was the best i could do.

i went to get contacts for the first time today, but i could not for the life of me get them in my eye. i kept blinking, and my eye muscles kept contracting etc etc. how do i get over the fear of putting something in my eye? i'm scared the lens will scratch my cornea and infect it and all that stuff, plus i just have a really strong natural reflex against them i guess. tips?

I had the same problem when I switched to contacts a few years ago. It takes time for your eyes to get used to them, but when you first start wearing them, I wouldn't wear them for the whole day. Train your eyes to get used to them for a few hours a day, then switch back to glasses. However, make sure that your glasses and contact lenses are the same prescription, or else that will make your eye muscles hurt even more. If your eyes ever feel scratchy and itchy because of them, try putting the contact eye drops in; they may just be dry, and when they're dry, they do hurt.

If they still hurt, I'd make an appointment with the eye doctor. They may have given you a prescription that is too strong for your eyes, which is leading to the straining of your eye muscles.

Also, be careful about your hair and eyelashes! They make your eyes hurt so much if they get caught in your eye while you're wearing contacts; just a little warning that may save you from the terrible pain someday. lol

If you need anymore help, just ask. :)

-Mariah-

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Ok I have been datting my boyfriend for almost 9 months.Let call him 'bob'. Well bob is best friends with my best friend lets call my best friend 'stacy' so 'bob' is best friends with stacy and stacy is also my best friend. But it seems like to me they hang out more than me and him do. And it really upsets me.. beucase it makes me think that bob is doing stuff behind my back with stacy and whenever they are around eachother and they call me.. he acts completly diffrentt, and it makes me so.. mad. I dont know what to do or think.. is he doing stuff behind my back.. should I tell him how I fell ( which I have tried and it just starts a fight) what do I do? what do I say? please help me.

Thank's
Much Love XoXoX

You have to stay calm in this situation. Yelling and swearing will only make things worse. Calmly tell your best friend and your boyfriend that you don't feel comfortable with what they are doing, and you'd like it if they could tone it down a bit. Be calm, but yet firm. You do not want to be a doormat.

If she is a true friend, and he is a true catch, they will both come to terms and respect your decision.

If they don't, then I think it's time to find a new best friend and a new boyfriend, because you deserve better, and if they can't respect your decision, then that's their fault; they just lost themselves a wonderful friend and a wonderful girlfriend.

If you need anymore help, just ask. :)

-Mariah-

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I want to do something new with my room.
I can't paint my room.
I have the box room. It's really small but i want to change it around a little, because it's been the same for months now.

Any ideas?

I would customize your room the best that you can. Try posting posters, artwork, or photographs. If you move your bed against the wall, your room will look "bigger". Put a little Welcome sign on your door to add a little home-style feeling. Buy one of those lap desks that you can set on your lap and hold office supplies, a lap top, and whatnot; it's good for doing homework on, holding extra pencils, .etc. If you can't paint your walls, then buy some wallpaper. Get a nice little rug to put on your floor if you have room. Get a mirror that hangs on your wall. Get a television set or a computer that can be put on a stand that hooks onto the wall.

There are a lot of things that you can do to your small room. You just have to improvise.

-Mariah-

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m/13

look i relize i sound like a poser dont get me wrong but i was wondering is anyone knew any stores besides hottopic that sells cheap emo/punk cloths....

Do not worry about what people think of you. Just being yourself is what's important. Dress, act, talk, and walk how you want to, not how you think you have to because everyone else is doing it and whatnot. Trust me, even if you are trying to fit in by acting and looking like the standards that some people set, unless you are really emo or punk, and you don't just want people to classify you as emo or punk, you'll start feeling really uncomfortable not being in your own skin.

If you need anymore help, just ask. :)

-Mariah-

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ok i am sooo sick of being called a skater i need a whole knew hairstly and wardrobe in order to be called something else ... but i dont know were to start i am going for like a punk/emo thing... and yes that probably makes me a poser i guess but think all you wish i just need help on were to find clothing thats cheap and punk also i need help on finding the right haircut! any advice helps =)

Do not worry about what people think of you. If they call you a Skater, then so be it. Just being yourself is what's important. Dress, act, talk, and walk how you want to, not how you think you have to because everyone else is doing it and whatnot. Trust me, even if you are trying to fit in by looking/acting punk/emo, unless you are really punk/emo, and you don't just want people to classify you as punk/emo, you'll start feeling really uncomfortable not being in your own skin.

If you need anymore help, just ask. :)

-Mariah-

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so we went out a year ago and recently started talking again, he replies to a bunch of my myspace bulletins and ims me on msn all the time. he recently called me to walk around with him at warped tour, but then backed out, and when i saw him at warped tour he invited me to walk with him but i walked away, and when i saw him again there he stared at me and spit water at me and threw a condom at me (jerk) and then when i ran into him a 3rd time at warped he wanted me to walk with him again but i said no again, and he was supposed to talk to some other chick and i asked him if they were going out and he said i dont know and my friend told me that was because he didnt want to tell me the real answer, and ive asked him where we stand before, but that was after him and a serious gf broke up, so he was still upset over that, and like he asks me to chill, but he always just wants to have sex, even though i always tell him no not unless its with a bf.. so i dont know, what should i do. does he like me and if so, how do i find out, and if he doesnt, how do i get him to lol

I would not get mixed up in this particular situation. This guy doesn't sound like a good guy to be hanging around with, much less having a suitable relationship with either. You deserve better than a guy like that, so I wouldn't worry about it. I would start looking for another guy that is more mature and that actually wants to have a relationship with you that is based on trust and true love, rather than sex.

If you need anymore help, please ask.

-Mariah-

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Is there a website (not urbandicitonary.com) where I can like look at a LIST of like slang terms for drinks?
A lot of my friends drink (I do NOTTT) and use terms like "handles" which means a bottle of vodka. They think its cool that I don't drink, but lame that I don't know the slang...

Although I don't recommend drinking alcohol anytime soon, I would try these two websites.

http://www.slangsite.com/slang/D.html
http://www.moderndrunkardmagazine.com/issues/05_04/05-04-drunk-talk.htm

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how can i get the smokey eye look with eye shadow/mascara/eye liner. what colors do i use?how do i put it on so it looks perfect?

Prep the lid by keeping your eyelids oil-free, so that you get a nice smooth crease. To do this start with a nice base of eyeshadow. I'd try Fresh Freshface Perfecting Eye Primer.

Apply liner in either black, brown, or gray above the upper lash line, drawing line thicker in the middle of eye.

For color on the bottom you'll want a lighter eyeliner. I'd take a little eyeshadow and a Q-Tip to smudge the color on the bottom.

Pair a lighter base with the darker hue. Use a nice cream shade for your base. Sweep a light, shimmery shadow over the lids to your browbone. I'd use a taupe or pearl color.

If you need anymore help, just ask. :)

-Mariah-

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