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to good of friends..?
Ok I have been datting my boyfriend for almost 9 months.Let call him 'bob'. Well bob is best friends with my best friend lets call my best friend 'stacy' so 'bob' is best friends with stacy and stacy is also my best friend. But it seems like to me they hang out more than me and him do. And it really upsets me.. beucase it makes me think that bob is doing stuff behind my back with stacy and whenever they are around eachother and they call me.. he acts completly diffrentt, and it makes me so.. mad. I dont know what to do or think.. is he doing stuff behind my back.. should I tell him how I fell ( which I have tried and it just starts a fight) what do I do? what do I say? please help me.
Thank's
Much Love XoXoX
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Everyone has given you good advice already.
I just want to add something. :)
How did they act BEFORE you started dating him?
Were they friends then or has this just happened
since you started dating?
Because if they were friends before, you may
just be reading to much into their behavior.
Probably just a little jealous. If he had wanted
to date her he would have asked her to be his girlfriend instead of you.
I do think you should talk to Stacy. Let her
know what your feeling and even ask why they
treat you differently when they are together.
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You have to stay calm in this situation. Yelling and swearing will only make things worse. Calmly tell your best friend and your boyfriend that you don't feel comfortable with what they are doing, and you'd like it if they could tone it down a bit. Be calm, but yet firm. You do not want to be a doormat.
If she is a true friend, and he is a true catch, they will both come to terms and respect your decision.
If they don't, then I think it's time to find a new best friend and a new boyfriend, because you deserve better, and if they can't respect your decision, then that's their fault; they just lost themselves a wonderful friend and a wonderful girlfriend.
If you need anymore help, just ask. :)
-Mariah-
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First ask Stacey if anything has been going on with both of them. And be honest of how you feel.
And with your boyfriend, You have to trust him. Everyone gets that feeling of something going wrong. Just sit down with him and say you dont want to fight. Tell him how you feel, and if he says nothingis goign on with him and Stacey, you just have to believe him. It takes trust for a relationship.
And also, he'll see how much you care about it once you tell him how you feel.
I hope I helped!
(:
-Speakfreely
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just sit him down and talk to him. tell him first that you dont want to fight, and you just dont want to feel like this anymore.
tell him that you know that him and stacy are best friends, but they spend more time with each other then you both do.
tell him that you trust him enough to know that he wouldnt cheat, but you worry sometimes because its a natural instinct to feel a little jealous when your best friend hangs out more with your boyfriend.
tell him that he acts so different around stacy, and ask him why he does.
hope that helps a little :]
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Never raise your voice when theres something bothering you. Talk in a cool, calm, collected voice, and merely state facts. Don't generalize ("You ALWAYS do this!", "Why is it that ALL guys do this?!", etc.) and certainly don't point fingers, because that WILL start a fight.
Maybe try to talk to your best friend before going to your boyfriend, if you think she'll be easier to talk to, that is.
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