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Hello,
i am a 17 year old female. What im looking for is an honest opinion from a guy becuase i have only talked to girls about this and i feel like a guys opinion would help alot. I am very insecure about my Vagina becuase my labia is about an inch long and i have no idea why. I was wondering from you, what your opinion is on them is?

I don't really have an opinion; a vagina is a vagina. Most guys would be too light headed at the very idea of being within striking distance of one to notice any perceived abnormality or difference. I wouldn't worry about it.

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How many regret breaking up with there first love?
we break up with our first loves (didnt fall out of love) because we want to go out and have fun and party with their friends and think maybe after a few years they will just find another person. How many people end up doing this and regret loosing their first love? Just out of curiosity, and how long did it ever take you to realize it was a mistake? tell me your stories, i really would like to hear them if you dont mind :)

The only thing I regret is not doing so sooner.

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Freedom aint nothing but missing the person you love?

ABSOLUTELY I LOVE TAYLOR SWIFT SHE'S LIKE MY IDOL

seriously omg

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How do i write letter to my boyfriend's mother?

Pen and paper.

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My name is Amanda, and I have strong feelings for a guy I have known for almost five years. We were dating four years ago and we fell apart. It was all my fault and I know that. We were working on being together and his ex came back and wanted to be with him again. She cheated on him and lied to him. He told me and when I asked him what he was going to do he said that he was not sure. That hurt a lot because I had never done anything to betray him and he was thinking about choosing her. So I slept with his best friend. Now four years later I still want him and he is with someone else. We are friends but he can not trust me like that again. It kills me to see him with someoen else because I would give anything for him to be with me again. We live two states away now but I want to try to make it work. He is not interested in a long-distance relationship. What can I do? Is there any way that we can make any kind of relationship work? Is it just too broken to fix?

There's no way to make this relationship work. The fact that you're multiple states away and he's (for good reason, believe me) not interested in something long distance is reason enough for it not to work. The additional bullshit of you sleeping with his best friend and your history together means there's basically zero chance of a fulfilling relationship developing right now. Maybe a few years from now, but not right at this moment.


EDIT:

If you took that as judgement or a guilt trip, then you're especially not ready for any type of relationship.

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is my boyfreind be loyal to me?

No, we're actually in bed together right now.



Sorry.

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What's a good nickname for my tall, blonde haired, blue eyed boyfriend, who is extremely funny, charming, and polite He's 15.

Call him "Nazi Joke."

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ok so me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year and a half. were both 17 we go to the same schoool. He just recently started working alot and i dont get to talk to him and i find my self cryinggg because i hate change and im used to talking to him 24/7 and i dont want to be clingy and i keep crying cuz i feel like he doesnt care and idk what to do anymore. i feel really depressed. please help me.

Get a life.

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I'm 17 and I have just graduated highschool and I have found out i'm pregnant. Me and my boyfriend want this baby very much and my mom told us she'd be strong and supportive which she hasn't been she just wants us to get an abortion and say's were too young, although we're truly not . He's 18 turning 19 this year and i'm turning 18 this year . My mom says she told my dad & I asked her what'd she say , and all she could do is look at me disgusted how she has been this whole time since we for sure found out that I am pregnant and say he's upset/ mad something like that . I haven't talked to my dad I've been avoiding him and now I'm sitting up in my room bc I don't want to see or talk to him . We had planned to talk all together today, but my mom told him and can't even tell me what he's said . I don't know what to do or say . My boyfriend's mother is very happy and understanding but my parent's aren't at all . It's so annoying because this situation is not going to change so I don't understand why anyone's making a big deal . So what should I tell my dad if he decides to spark up a conversation with me about it if I have to leave my room before he leaves . I am very scary I know ..

Listen to your mother.

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we've been together for 9 months. as we love and care for each other we'll be living together soon. months ago he always wanted to ejaculate in me and i disagreed and afterwards i wanted him to ejaculate in me he disagreed. but recently it has been a while that he says he wants to come in me and he also knows that i want a baby. is he hinting me to get pregnant? thanks

Is he hinting at it? I have no idea, ask him.



Also, you shouldn't be having unprotected sex if you've only been with him for nine months and there's not an imminent marriage date on the horizon. Otherwise, who's to say he doesn't knock you up and skedaddle immediately afterward? Be smart.

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I'm a 13 yearold girl and im not really sure i forget, you smoke weed right? what about crack? what do you sniff and what do you smoke? I'm not going to do any of this stuff I'm just wondering.

I'm not an asshole with a pulpit, so I'll avoid stating the obvious about drug use.


Weed is smoked, but if it's in the form of hash it can be eaten. Crack is generally smoked, but in the more pure cocaine form it's usually snorted.

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i posted a question on here about 2 months ago about me being addicted to synthetic ecstasy. everyone gave me really good advice, but nothing is getting better. its just getting worse.

and just the other day i found out that the synthetic x has traces of meth in it. my friend rolled with me and had a drug test the next day. (we thought it wouldn't matter since the x was legal) well, everything looked fine on the drug test except the meth line was discoloured, which meant she had some in her system. obviously, she didn't take anything except the legal x, so we knew it had to be that. luckily, it was her parents who made her take the drug test and they thought it was just defective.

my friend and i are suffering from this addiction together and as soon as we found this out, we did our research. a lot of things that were going on with us that we ignored did point to a meth addiction, afterall: withdraw from peers, loss of interest in certain hobbies, scratching, weight loss, etc. in my mind i know this is really bad, but i still can't stop. we've tried to cut back with little success. i've considered telling my parents so i can get help but it'll forever change my relationship with them. on top of this, my mom's brother was on meth for years and got locked up for it and if she knew her daughter was doing the same thing, she'd never speak to me again. and i know my mom, that is something she'd do. my dad would be disappointed and i don't like disappointing him. i need help, i just don't know how to go about that. anything is appreciated. 18/f

The reason nothing is getting better is because you didn't take any of the "really good advice" that you received.

And let's be straight forward; it's not going to get better unless you take the advice that was originally given; rehab. If it makes things easier, don't tell your mom you're on meth. Tell her the truth... you're using E and it's possibly laced, but you definitely need help with it.

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Hey everyone(: I was just wondering if these were some or most of the signs of being in love(:

♥ Always thinking about the person everyday all day?

♥ Always wanting to see him

♥ seeing him puttin a smile on your face and just feeling like you have something to look forward too

♥ One time when I was feeling sick like I was going to throw up I looked at pictures of him and thought about him then I felt better!

♥ always wanting to hear or see things that remind me of him

ok so out of that would you say someones in love? thanks!(:

No.

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Hey so you know how when people get really high they get all philosiphical and shit? Well when i get high im just super out of it and lost in the world.Im a pre good smoker and i get good weed so is there something wrong with how i react to weed?

Razhie's right; smoking weed just makes you feel like what you're saying is brilliant only because you're temporarily too stupid to know otherwise. The potheads around you are also too stupid, so it results in this perpetuated sense of intelligence.

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okay im 24 with 4 kids and i have a boyfriend who treats me like crap. he doesnt help me with the kids he stays out all night and im up crying waiting for him to come home the most hes been gone for is 7 days he didnt call or check up.to make things worse is were currently staying in a 1 bedroom motel suite.He come and goes calls me names and stresses me out.He spends my money all the time he even spent my cristmas money i had saved up for my kids.im tired i want better for me and my kids he rather be at the casino then to be with us.I want to leave him so baddd but i cant cus i have no where to go.I have family but there not there for me im a good mother and want to be happy,i deserve it. he didnt even tell me happy mothers day nothing.he has no respect for me at all.im always with my kids an he running the streets.Help

I am going to be harsh, and it's possible I'll regret this in a few hours but so be it.


You are not a good mother. You started off by bringing not one, not two, not three, but four children into this world when you're clearly in a terrible situation. I realize that that's an oversimplification of the situation, but I doubt you were living the good life when you became pregnant with baby number four. The more children you have, the more resources you'd better have ready to put into them so that they can live happy, healthy lives. You appeared to have made a misstep somewhere back, but that's okay because there's nothing you can do about it now. It's in the past.

But even barring past mistakes and leaving those to history, a quick summary of your question STILL debunks your "I'm a good mother" statement. You're with a man that continually robs you of the money you rightfully want to put into your kids. He blows it gambling, doesn't support your family at all, and leaves for days at a time. However, your rational for not leaving is that your family isn't there for you. Don't you think this could be due to your outright unwillingness to really entertain the thought of leaving this man? You say you deserve to be happy. You don't. Your kids deserve to be happy, not you. You forfeited your happiness when you became pregnant with your first child. What's best for your kids is to leave this man no matter what. Go to your family. Go to your friends. File a police report. Something. Sitting around fuming over him not wishing you a happy Mother's Day will do nothing when your children are being absolutely robbed of their own happiness. You are an accessory to this crime.

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k so i like these two guys and last night i had a dream that they were both trying to take me away from the other and then they started fighting and i think it was over me. what does this mean?

You're a princess.

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I am a 15 1/2 year old girl. I am thinking about going out with this guy, he's 20. We really like each other. If we did end up going out, how far would we be able to go?

All the way to prison.

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I've been talking to this guy.. We hang out a lot.. we like eachother.. we have sex... were getting to know eachother before make a jump into a relationship. Anyway he's in a hip hop group and they travel everywhere and do shows. The other day ago they had a local show and I asked if I could go and he told me it wasn't a good idea. He likes to keep his personal life and music separate. What do you think of that?

I think you're being misled. He doesn't really seem to have an incentive for getting into a relationship with you; you're already fuck buddies. He gets the perks of having someone that's DTF without having to go the extra mile of being in a relationship.

"We're getting to know each other before [we] make a jump into a relationship." Whose words are those, yours or his? I suspect they're his.

I mean, it's entirely possible that he really does want to keep his music life separate from his personal life. I don't know this guy, I'm sure it could be true. But it just rings of BS. You've admitted to not knowing him very well, it's possible he could have something to hide at one of his shows, like a legitimate girlfriend. I'm really only speculating and I don't mean to put a damper on what seems to be a perfectly good friends with benefits scenario, but from what you've said, it sounds like you want more. And from what I read, it doesn't seem like he's interested in providing it.

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Whenever I come on here to give out advice, I see questions that are so ridiculous..

- where can i get a dress?... ummm the mall??????
- am i pregnant?.... get a pregnancy test and find out yourself???
- how do i tell him i love him?- ........ just say you love him????
- do i have a yeast infection??..... how should we know? google it.

honestly. Is it just me, or is anyone else kinda frustrated that people are posting the most obvious and ridiculous questions ever???

The key to a having a long tenure on Advicenators is to roll with the punches. Answer what you know, care as little as possible about questioners, throw in a snide remark from time to time to stay sane, and pick your battles.

Those questions have always existed on this site and they will always exist. It's not a testament to the quality of the site; it's a testament to the quality of this generation. While these questions are silly, someone legitimately does want to know whether they're pregnant or not. The great thing about Advicenators is that there will always be a few patient people that are willing to explain to someone how to do the most basic, rudimentary research for questions like that. These patient people are willing to walk questioners ever so slowly through the steps of finding an answer to their question.

You don't need to be one of these people. I am certainly not. But the reason those questions get asked and are accepted is because people genuinely do want answers, and there are people here that are willing to provide for these people.

When you see one of those questions, accept its existence and keep on scrolling downward. 50 percent of being an active user of the site consists of sifting through what you perceive as bullshit. The key to staying here for an extended period of time is not getting burnt out by questions you find ridiculous and pointless.

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I went through all of my favorites on tumblr and it says i have 12 but when i click on it, only six come up. Same goes if i just clean it out completely. it will still say i have a certain amount in there when i don't.. does anyone know of how to fix this?? please help!! :) thanks

This question has gone answer-less for too long, and while I don't know the answer to your question, I can at least take a guess.


The answer is probably simple; Tumblr is buggy as fuck. As you probably know, the site is unreachable for hours at a time pretty regularly. Their email notification system is faulty, as is their notification system on the dashboard. Even today I've received the dashboard notification of someone reblogging one of my posts, when in reality they had reblogged it almost a week ago.


Basically the site is buggy and glitchy. Any weird problem or discrepancy can be blamed on that, I think.

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