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He got a job and now I cry because it feels like he doesn't care anymore!
ok so me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year and a half. were both 17 we go to the same schoool. He just recently started working alot and i dont get to talk to him and i find my self cryinggg because i hate change and im used to talking to him 24/7 and i dont want to be clingy and i keep crying cuz i feel like he doesnt care and idk what to do anymore. i feel really depressed. please help me.
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You should talk to him and let him know how you feel I had the same problem and one day my i told my bf that i was upset because he was working and that we didnt have enought time with eachother and he took a day off and we went out to some place special and he told me he was sorry and that he told me he hasnt stopped thinking about me and on that our relationship grew stronger
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Change can be hard, if you're scared of it.
And it kind of sounds like to me, that you're afraid of something bigger, that you see any change in your relationship/life as a bad thing. Its not. As long as he can create a healthy balance between time with you and his job, then he's not doing anything wrong, he's just living his life, with you, while doing something important.
If he's ignoring you and spending all his time doing something else, then you can complain, but until then, I would just say find something to do, while he's doing that. Are you social? Go out! Have a friend over. Read a book. Volunteer. Work, if you're not.
Don't stress. Nothings changed, you're loved, but everybodys got responsabilities. ^-^
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Oh my God, get a freaking grip! You are that much of an attention whore?
Sorry to be harsh, but somebody has to say it. The world doesn't revolve around you. Conditions change and you have to adapt.
The guy has a job so he can earn money to spend on you and you are complaining about it. Amazing. What are you going to do when you get married and your husband has to work 8-5 everyday?
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My boyfriend and I have been going out for a year, and he just moved to another state, over 4 hours away. I'm used to seeing him everyday, now I'll be lucky to see him every two weeks. Be thankful with the time that you have, and also appreciate the fact that he is being responsible and making money. I'm sure he'll use some of it to take you on dates or get you something nice.
-Abby
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Its actually a really good thing your boyfriend got a job. It shows hes responsible and prepared to be a hard worker.
It also means the time you get to spend with him now is more precious then the time you got to spend with him previously.
I wouldn't be upset with him having a job, it really is an important step in everyone's life. Your going to have to get a job eventually as well. You cant go your whole life spending every minute with the person your with, constantly talking to them on the phone or texting or in person. One day when your married your both going to have responsibilities and your not going to be around each other all the time. Might as well get used to it now.
Just a heads up, don't ask him to quit his job for you. That'd just be eff'd up.
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Get a life.
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