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Is he to old? I am 15 1/2 and he is 20?
I am a 15 1/2 year old girl. I am thinking about going out with this guy, he's 20. We really like each other. If we did end up going out, how far would we be able to go?
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Ugh. No, Adviceman, a 20 year old cannot be charged with statutory rape without having sexual contact with a minor in any country in the world. Platonic relationships are absolutely fine.
So is kissing (the not-making-out-or-heavy-petting kind). That's about it, by the letter of the law, pretty much anything else you do can be interpreted as sexual contact, even above the clothes touching. Respect those boundaries because you're a minor and technically you can date whoever you want.
That said, it's not really the best idea. High school guys fit into high school relationships better, and at 15 that's what you need to be in, a high school relationship. A 20 year old guy is going to be looking for something a little more serious, in a few years he might be at a point when he wants to move in with someone, which means by the time you move out of your parents house if you're still together he'll want you to move in with him immediately.
Don't set yourself on that road of having to conform to what an older guy is ready for. The best advice anyone can receive about dating in high school is to date people you won't mind leaving behind after high school. It's a little early to lock yourself in. You aren't going to be able to take the relationship at your own pace with a guy who's 5 years older and in a different stage of life than you are. Not right now. You'll have to be an adult in a more adult relationship, and while you're working that out other things you're actually supposed to be putting your energy into at 15 will fall by the wayside.
Dating a 25 year old guy at 20 is not the same as dating a 20 year old at 15 for a reason. I'm sure he's cute. Put him in the spank bank and move on.
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Let me count the ways this is wrong:
First: This is a one way ticket to prison for him. Even if this is a platonic relationship, no sex. He can be charged with statutory rape. This is a Felony charge and he will have to register as a sex offender for the rest of his life. Should you for some reason cross a state line he can be charged with the federal crime of violating the Mann act, more prison time.
Second: IF you were 20 and he 25, I would say go for it. But a 20 year old dating a 15 year old is not good. It is actually quite dangerous as the 20 year old could be a child predator. You have to take that into consideration these days.
Third: Depending on the laws in your state you could be charged with juvenile crimes. While these crimes are not suppose to follow you into adulthood you better hope you never need a security clearance for any job you apply for.
These are just three of the real life facts of having a relationship with this man, platonic or otherwise. There is something wrong with him if he knows your 15 and wants to date you. He should be dating people his own age.
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You are basically punching the guy's ticket to prison and lifetime sex offender registration. So you need to reject his overtures for his own sake more than anything else.
Besides, a 20 year old who wants to date a 16 year old has some pretty obvious immaturity issues and you might find yourself getting fed up with that pretty quick.
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All the way to prison.
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Yes, That is too old
You are a minor, He is an adult and frankly someone of the age of 20 should not be looking at 15 year old's as girlfriend material.
You date him and you take a HUGE risk...but I wouldn't want to be you in the public eye if he gets caught...
Quick Answer: Find someone your own age and stay away from the pedophiles.
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You're a minor, which makes this illegal. I'll be completely honest with you.. he's not looking for a long term relationship with you.
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Depends on your state (or country).
In many states, sexual contaact between a 15 year old and a 20 year old would qualify as statutory rape. In many states, activities less than sex, such as kissing and groping, might also carry criminal charges.
Look, this is a bad idea. It’s a bad because it might ruin his life. Dating you could send him to jail, restrict where he can live and work, and generally fuck him up for the rest of his adult life.
It’s also a bad idea for you, personally, because a twenty year old who sees a 15 year old high school student as a viable romantic partner is probably not a good person for you to be in close contact with.
That has nothing to with you. You could be brilliant. You could be Aphrodite herself. You'd still be an 15 year old goddess, and a 20 year old guy who seems a viable partner in a teenager, is someone I would have serious concerns about.
It’s not your maturity or ability to handle the relationship I question: It’s his.
Find out if it’s illegal in your state - if it is, DON’T DO IT. If he is dumb enough to still think it’s okay as long as you don’t sleep together - save him from himself and DON’T DO IT. If it is legal where you live, please consider carefully. It is probably not a good idea.
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Been there, done that, can tell you right now it's a terrible idea, and illegal in most states. I used to be one of those people that said "age is just a number"...but I was proved wrong.
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Yes. Too old. Illegal. Don't.
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