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well thanks for the advice compliment. But about the colors I guess I could change them, but that's really not the point of my site is how long I've had the colors or if it's boring or not. I made the site to help people.

Love,
MELii

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One of my friends (who is married) was having a party and I was invited to go. Almost everyone that was invited is dating someone or married. I had been single for a long time, so I was thrilled when I was able to find a guy to take as my date.
I was really excited, but then my married friend got upset and told me I wasnt allowed to bring him!! Everyone else thought it was cool that I had a date. When I asked him why I couldnt bring him his excuse was that he didnt want any strangers in his houses. So I had to break the date. I've also seen him get jealous when I talk about dates I've been on, and when my ex bf was trying to get me back. I think this is odd behavior for someone who is married. Does anyone else agree, and have any insight to his behavior?

It sounds to me like he's kinda jealous, like he likes you or something. =/ I'm not sure. It also might just because he cares for you alot and wants to see you happy and doesn't want to see you with the wrong guy or anything. Just don't try and talk to him about your dates or bring them over his house =/ I might want to talk to him about it. Just ask him why he always gets jealous whenever you talk about your dates and see what he has to say. I hope I helped.

Love,
MELii

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OK, the story goes like this. I go out with my ex-girlfriend and she says she won't ever leave me, and BANG. A week later she leaves me(she's f/17). I tried to call her...a lot for two weeks. I then decide not to contact her anymore but it's been two months and i'm still not over her. Must i contact her or must i just accept that she will never come back?

I'm sorry she did that to you. But I think it's really nice that you keep calling her and trying to get her back. It shows that you really care, but obviously she doesn't feel the same way =/ Sorry to say but I think you should accept the fact she's never coming back and move on. =/ Show some other girl how much you care for her but only this time, she'll return it and she won't leave you =] This girl doesn't know that she's missing out on a great guy. =D I hope I helped.

Love,
MELii

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I just got powerchains put on the front of my braces..and they are a really bright color. Is there anyway that I could make the color fade.. maybe by brushing my teeth a lot or drinking a lot of water or something? Because I wont be able to get the color changed for another 2 months. Thanks

Sorry, they're not going to fade =/
You're just gonna have to wait 2 months till' you can change the color =/
Aren't braces a bitch? Haha.

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hey i ham dating this guy i met off the internet. we have been dating for a month and i am starting to get feelings for him. he already told me that he is opening up to me and the more time we spend together, the more he is likeing me even more. well he also said he could see him loveing me soon. we get along so well, i mean it feels like i have met my match but i am not for sure. i wrote him a letter telling him how i felt and i dont know if i should give it to him. so my question is should i give him the note? i feel what my heart feels and i listen to my heart. i havent felt this way since my ex about a year and half ago. i think i am in love again. but should i give him the note? please help decide what to do

Thanks, punkbaby69

There is one thing I can say right now that I truely mean: I am going through the exact same thing. =] The 16th will be our one month =] Anyways, this isn't about me but I'm just saying I can relate. I think you should definetly send him the note. He needs to know how you feel about him. I just send mine a two page letter explaining all my feelings about two days ago myself. If he could love you, then why not send it? It's not like your going to get rejected. You two obviously have feelings for eachother and you should show eachother as much as possible =] I hope I helped!

Love,
MELii

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guys think im pretty but they are all kinda nerdyish and i was wondering why not alot of the popular guys think im pretty? i've always wondered about this so can someone tell me why? easy 5 unless your mean

Well usually whenever it comes to popular guys. If you aren't 100% hot with big boobs, popular and easy, they probably won't talk to you. Does it matter if the popular guys won't talk to you? It just might be because you don't talk to them and they haven't gotten a chance to get to know you. But seriously, why not just settle for a normal, laid-back, good looking guy? Cause later in life, popular people aren't going to be popular anymore and nobodys gonna care what they think anymore about whats "in" and everything. I hope I helped.

Love,
MELii

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Last night, my middle school had a dance. I finally got the courage to ask (let's call him "Will") Will, this guy I've really liked since April of last semester, to slow-dance. Well, the song was really short, and we're fairly good friends (we usually talk most of the time on AIM) so he said to me "Hey, Penelope, can I tell you a secret? I have a huge crush on Catherine." Isn't that awful? I feel terrible. And to top everything off, it's my birthday today too :( Is there anyone I can talk to? Because my friends don't really get it and neither do my parents.

Aw I'm so sorry. =/ You can always talk to me whenever you want =] Just please IM me at:

MELii x MARiiE

I'm usually always on. =]

Love,
MELii

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my boyfriend and I are going to have our 1 year in december so I have alot of time to prepare. I'm going to do something very special in my guest/spare bedroom. It has a couch and a tv. I want to cook him dinner and dessert, decorate it with candles and stuff, but I don't have any ideas. What kind of food can I make that's easy? He'll eat ANYTHING. How else can I decorate besides candles/roses? maybe music? How do I make this room look AMAZING? I'll take anything.

First of all, Happy One Year =]

For the room, maybe put roses all around the table and candles all around the room. The scent of the candle should be really sweet smelling. A peach candle possibly. Whenever you go shopping for candles, try finding some with the word "romance" or "love" in it =] Those are always the best smelling candles. =] Heres some sites I found. The one had a good idea I think about making 100 balloons ( maybe you could make 50 ) about reasons why you love them and turn it into a little intro game and then the last one says "I love you" and it'll lead him to the room and I think that's very very romantic and sweet =] You could also make a trail of roses.

http://scripts.lovingyou.com/mdb/search.cgi?mdb=ideas&cat=special

http://www.ehow.com/how_3616_create-romantic-atmosphere.html

Heres a site for cooking:

http://www.lovingyou.com/content/cooking/

but to be simpler, do you know what he likes? Just make some of his favorite foods. It doesn't matter how exravagent or romantic it looks, its the thought that you were thinking about what he'd like. =]

For the music.. do you guys have a song? I might wnat to play that. But if not, usually classical music or soft jazzy kind of music usually sets the mood and it's really nice to slow dance too =]

Also, on the table I might suggest a homemade card or a home made photo album. Or both! =] In the photo album just dedicate each page to a month. One October, one November, etc. And on each page put in pictures from that month or write memories you remember having in that month. ( or if you don't remember WHEN the memories happened just have pages dedicated to memories and pictures =] either way its really sweet ) and maybe inside the front cover of the album maybe write him a message something like.
" These are just some of the amazing memories that we have had together and I will always cherish them. I only hope that we can fill this album with more. I love you so much " or something like that =] Homemade things show you really care =] I hope I helped and I hope you two have an amazing romantic night =]

Love,
MELii

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Is it normal to not be able to get over the guy you lost your virginity to? I lost mine to an asshole who completely used me as a bet and lied about how he was a virgin and "wanted to loose his virginity to me too" I can't get over him. It's making me depressed and I don't know if I'm overreacting or what?

It's completley normal. Girls always get attached to the guy they lost their virginity to I mean you lose your virginity to him. It shows how much you care about him and love him. Its a big thing to that with someone. This guy IS a total asshole. I mean I know he was your first and you care alot, but you just need to try to get over him. And find someone else who will love you back and care about you just as much as you care about them and won't use you as a bet and won't lie. =/ I'm sorry he did that. You are totally not overreacting. Just try not to think of him and try to focus on your friends and don't do anythign that reminds you of him and slowly but surely someday you'll forget all about him and you'll be happy, and he'll probably be miserable and alone. I hope I helped.

Love,
MELii

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ok i have this friend and hes my ex but we are still good friends and for a week iv had the same dream when im snuggling up to him really close and we are kissing and some other think (holding hands...) but i dont know what this means! is it something thats wrong with me? should i ask him out again? if its any help i still have a cup he drank out of from my best (girl) friend's b-day party and her party was in June! please help im desparete im afraid ill do something stupid!
**sleepiesheep**

Yeah it sounds to me like you pretty much have feelings for him and want to get back together with him. You obviously miss him alot. I wouldn't exactly ask him out yet. First, find out how he feels about you ( ask his friends, your friends to find out, or maybe just ask him yourself ) and then just be like," Well do you wanna go out with me? If you say no then cause we just forget I said it and remain friends? Cause I wouldn't want the relationship we have now to be ruined by this." Cause hey, wouldn't you rather have SOME sort of a relationship.. then none at all? I hope I helped and I hope he says yes! =]

Love,
MELii

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well me and my friends have been friends since middle school. now they all see to have started leaving me out. not asking for plans. barally talkign to me in the halls, talkign to me like only if its convienent for them. even my best friend now has a boyfriend and she does not make time for me and i ask her all the time for plans but yet it seems as though she has plans for them. im so lonely. i recently stoped talkign to the kid i like. and we stoped hooking up, and i have no one. please dont say that i should go make other friends. cuz this is highschool, its not that easy. those are my friends. i just dont now what to do anymore. i hate sittin ghome and being alone.

Well that's what happens. As you get older, you tend to lose your friends because they start changing and getting new friends. I lost pretty much over half of my elementary school friends but what I did was I replaced those friends with new friends whenever I entered Middle School. And then once I replaced those friends, I wanted more. I know it's tough to make new friends in High School, but you gotta try a little. Just start talking to someone that you could think be a new friend. Don't be discouraged if they might not talk alot at first and everything, but just be friendly =] But also with your old friends, try talking to them explain to them your feelings and how you miss them all hanging out with you. The friend with the boyfriends understandable. Girls tend to spend all the time they can with their boyfriends and lose friendships with their friends. But just keep trying to make plans with her and then if it's still not happening then talk to her. I hope I helped.

Love,
MELii

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Ok im really bad with my self-confidence like some of my friends think i just say "oh i'm so fat" just to get them to tell me im not.. but i really don't i really think of myself as fat.. like my face is pretty but i always think im fat, sometimes i think its because i have such gorgeous friends and they get all the guys i never think i can get any. I always brush by hot guys because its almost like i know they would never like me.. it's horrible but its how i feel.. like (1) i need to know how to feel better about myself and not think of myself as ugly. (2) does anyone know why i got this way.

Well in life there's always going to be someone "prettier" or "smarter". I don't think I'm no Tyra Banks or nothing but I think I'm alright looking and most girls are it's just they always complaina bout NOT being pretty and being ugly, and that's what makes girls unattractive. So you just need to live life and stop worrying about others. I never thought I'd find a guy either ( I'm 14 and never had a boyfriend, and I always found myself sad and ugly because of that fact ) but then one day I just met this amazing guy who loves me for me and I'm just so happy and I don't care what people think anymore. Anyways. The reason you got this way is because practically ever girl is born this way. Low self-confidence. I've never seen a girl not insult her self in any way. They are either "fat" or "ugly" or "stupid" or all three. =/ But after awhile they begin to realize they aren't and they realize their good qualities. And just because a "hot" guy would never get with you, doesn't mean somethings the matter with you. "Hot people" usually tend to have very high standards. You need to BE perfect to DATE them cause they are perfect. I hope I helped!

Love,
MELii

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I've been with my boyfriend for over a year, and I couldn't be happier to be with him. But, about 4 years ago, when I was 11, I had my very first 'love', and I'm a freshmen now. Well, my first love has his locker close to mine, and when I see him, I like talking to him. I find it making my day sometimes because I really liked this guy and I doubt that I still do, but why do I feel happy around him if we were something years ago? And why am I curious to know how hes doing a lot?

15 and a freshmen.

Well I mean he was your first love. The first guy you ever really really cared about and liked and you might still have feelings for him ( not like romantical feelings ) just happy feelings about all the times you shared together and everything. There was obviously something about him that you liked about him before ( personality, humor, etc. ) and maybe your just being reminded of it. I hope I helped.

Love,
MELii

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ok so i like this guy and he may find out i like him the thing is i dont want him to find out i want him to like me and ask me out on his own i want him to do it bc he wants to not because he feels like he has to. i would just tell him but im way too shy i mean yea i flirt and try to get the message across but im not the one to make the first move i wasnt raised like that im so worried about this my friend says if he asks about it just tell him that i like him im so confused what should i do? tell him or not?

I think you should tell him because like you said he's starting to find out that you do so if he's going to know anyway, best just tell him. You don't even have to tell him face-to-face. It could be by letter, or tell him over the phone..just be like," Look I don't know if you've noticed, but I like you. I don't know how you feel about me, but if you don't like me like that can we just forget I mentioned this and just stick to being friends?" Because even if you can't be more than friends, it'd be better just to be friends with him, then nothing at all, right? I hope I helped.

Love,
MELii

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I love my best friend I think that he love me too but evryone said that our love is impossible what would I do give up or try to make it happen.

Well why does everyone think your love is impossible? Don't they think that best friends can date or something? =/ please IM me at MELii x MARiiE to talk more about this cause I need to know some more stuff but I'll just try and answer it now. Well best friends can totally date so I think your love IS possible. And besides, who cares about what others think? If it'd make you happy, then do it. =] Friends should be happy for their friends, whatever they decide to do in life. Like I said, please IM me =] I hope I helped.

Love,
MELii

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i really like this guy ...and its not like he doesnt know i excist we talk alot but he doesnt think of me in "that" way at all ...he goes for a different type that just is not me ..i dont know if i should change for him or let it go because i am just wasting my time. And hes kinda a bad boy so im not so sure he could hold a girlfriend even if i got the chance ...what do you think .. help me out please ?

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Well usually the "bad boy" types can't keep a girlfriend. But every now and then some are good boyfriends. But even so, I still think you'd be wasting your time. You shouldn't change yourself just for him. What if you became his type, yet he still didn't like you like that? What if he didn't like..blondes? You'd dye your hair? You should never change yourself and plus, if the relationship were to end you'd be sitting there looking like something your not all alone. =/ It's best just to move on and find someone new. I hope I helped.

Love,
MELii

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Okay, so I'm dreading next week. Its the 5th anniversary of my dad's death. And for this last month it seems like everything i look at or touch reminds me of him and i just break down crying...but its been five years i mean im almost 18 i shouldnt be acting like im 5, right? I have the support of my boyfriend, but my family isn't here to support me, they dont and havent liked me since the day my dad passed away. I'm not thinking about hurting myself in anyways...its just that my heart hurts terribly...is this normal?

Of course that's normal. And your aren't acting like a 5 year old in any way. I mean he was your father, of course your going to miss him and of course you are going to be upset whenever the time of his death has come around. It's perfectly alright. I hope I helped and I'm sorry about your fathers death.

Love,
MELii

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14/female
ok like i reallly hate my life. But i live in a semi good neighborhood with a good famliy (mom, dad and sister) in a good house and everything but like nothing ever goes my way. Like i dont think im that pretty.. im 14 and only had 1 boyfriend (which only lasted 2 weeks ) and all my other friends have had manyy boyfriends and like all my friends that are girls are prettier than me in my opinion. and i dont really have a bestfriend. i used to but now someone else is her bestfriend. So now i just have like friends, but only like 4 really close friends. I'm naturally a very nice person.. but you know what they say: nice people finish last. Also, im a bit of a pushover. People sometimes just "walk all over me" and i cant really stand up for myself. I am very self-conscious about myself and im not that confident.
But then i think about the poor people or homeless people who probably have 20 times worse life than me and it makes me feel bad that i complain about my life when i should be thankful. So my question.. do you think my life is good or bad? is there anything i can do to improve my life? or should i be thankful instead?

I think you have a very very good life. I think you should be thankful, but you can still improve it some. For the prettiness/boyfriend thing.. so? I'm 14 I've only had one boyfriend and he lasted a week and a day, so ha, I did more worse =] but I don't think I'm that horrible looking. I just thought I hadn't found the right person yet, and that's probably what it is with you. I found the right one right now and I couldn't be happier, and that's whats going to happen to you. Theres some really pretty girls who have gone without boyfriend until their like, 17. But that doesn't mean their ugly or anything.. they just haven't found a good guy they like. The friend thing.. well maybe try making one of those 4 friends ( or all of those 4 friends ) your best friend/s. The more the merrier =] Just try hanging out with them more and getting to know them alot more and just have fun =] You need to up your self-conciousness and you confidence. Whenever you think you look ugly or anything, just think of you better qualities and just remember: ALOT ALOT ALOT of girls are self-concious about themselves and they could be really pretty. So you just be one of those girls. For confident, just try takling to people more ( to make more friends along the way =] ) be socialable and just be yourself =] And just try not to let people walk all over you. Just say no to them next time and just don't let them walk over you. You need to stand up for yourself more often so people don't think your a complete pushover. I hope I helped!

Love,
MELii

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Okay so i'm 16 years old in the middle of my junior year in high school. I really want to move in with my mom who lives across the country from my dad. My mom wants me to move in with her too so she hired a lawyer and had to pay 5000 dollars for all the stuff. Since she had to pay all this money she has really been strapped for cash and might have to move into a smaller house, and maybe even to a new town, forcing my little sister to change schools. If i tell her i dont want to move then she can get some of the money back probably about half. My mom really wants me to move in with her but this financial stuff is really getting bad. Should i tell her i should just stay so she can get half the money back? Or should i just move anyways? Making her have really bad financial security
any advice would be great

I wouldn't move in with her at the moment. I would wait awhile until she gets a hold of some more money.. maybe even help her earn some cash. Try taking up a job or just doing some things are the house and getting some extra cash. Because if you lived with her now, whenever you get there, you might be costing her some more money ( you need transportation so theres gas money, etc. ) so yeah just wait awhile until your mother gets some more money and then move in =]

Love,
MELii

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Ok I'm Like In Love With My Best Friend... and it's not some stupid teenage thing, because i'm not the type of person to just be like oh my god i love him when i dont, i know what love is. o.k well moving on.. im like in love with him and he has a girlfriend, and they never talk so theyll eventually break up hehe, but i didnt make them so dont think that hehe..

but hes like soo awesome and hes in my english class, and were reading the pigman, and all through it i always look uph from my book and there he is staring at me and than when i look at him he makes a face.. and like its almost like he likes me too, but its soo hard to tell because he shows it, but hes not telling me

(oo and by the way i did tell him i liked him lol)

And in the book theres john and lorraine john smokes and drink and lorraine cares like so much about him, and wants him to stop and is in love with his eyes, and yea lol

and me and this kid, remind me so much of this book, he smokes and drinks and i care so much about him im like forcing him to stop, and i want him to give me a chance after this girl , but it doesnt seem like he'd go out with me .. but how do i tell his singnals:

1) always stares at me
2) makes faces at me and than me and him are the only people laughing in my english class..
3) we always talk ! .. and mkae fun of eachother..

What does that all mean ?

Those could be signs of liking.. but those could also be signs of just friends =/ try flirting with him sometime ( after him and his girlfriend break up, you don't want to cause awkwardness or anything ) and see if he flirts back. He might like you right now, but doesn't want to act upon it because he has a girlfriend, you know? So whenever them to break up, go and ask him if he's interested in anyone. Because since he knows that you like him, he might fess up adn tell you that he likes you back. But if he says he's not interested in anyone at the moment, then he probably isn't. I hope I helped!

Love,
MELii

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