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good life or bad life?
14/female
ok like i reallly hate my life. But i live in a semi good neighborhood with a good famliy (mom, dad and sister) in a good house and everything but like nothing ever goes my way. Like i dont think im that pretty.. im 14 and only had 1 boyfriend (which only lasted 2 weeks ) and all my other friends have had manyy boyfriends and like all my friends that are girls are prettier than me in my opinion. and i dont really have a bestfriend. i used to but now someone else is her bestfriend. So now i just have like friends, but only like 4 really close friends. I'm naturally a very nice person.. but you know what they say: nice people finish last. Also, im a bit of a pushover. People sometimes just "walk all over me" and i cant really stand up for myself. I am very self-conscious about myself and im not that confident.
But then i think about the poor people or homeless people who probably have 20 times worse life than me and it makes me feel bad that i complain about my life when i should be thankful. So my question.. do you think my life is good or bad? is there anything i can do to improve my life? or should i be thankful instead?
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OMG IF YOU FRIKIN THINK YOUR LIFE IS BAD srry kinda spazed out there you can't complain you shouldnt complain at least you have your parents and your sister and your obviously overreacting about how notthing ever goes your way if you even have to ask if you have a bad life you obviously don't
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WOW, if this website was around 10 years ago i would have been writing the same thing you are. i warn you know this could be a very long responce. when i was 15 i was the exact same way. if this site was around maybe i would have made better decessions. you see i didn't have alot of friends either. and i hung out with the kids who didn't have alot of friends. as we got older we found more friends that didn't have friends. the reason they didn't have friends is because they wanted to smoke pot instead. so thats what we did. we smoked pot, we stole to pay for pot, our grades dropped and we almost didn't graduate. well some of us didn't. actually i was the only one who changed my ways and stayed in school. i couldn't tell you were half those guys are today.
any way what changed me was my family. i stopped and notice that my brothers were heading down the same path i was. one of them (now 20) spent 6 years in adult prison for stealing cars.(he went in when he was 14) my parents started to not care what i was doing with my time. and that hurt. after i changed everything changed. i couldn't take it anymore.
after all that changed my way of thinking. i made new friend(abandoned the old ones) got a girl friend( who i am now married to.(we've been together for 8 years tis may.) changed my whole life. i am closer with my parents than i ever was. in my senoir year i was voted class treasured. do you get it? I WAS FINALY POPULAR. it was awsome. better than any hi.
your probably asking "how does any of this help me"?.....i am not sure. maybe someone else can learn from my mistakes. i am just trying to tell you that it is not as bad as you think. it is waht you make it. i don't care what you look like. Confidence is beutiful. dwelling on the bad and ignoring the good is not. i dont mean to sound "preachy" but you should also find God.
good luck, sorry if i put you too sleep.
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Your life is normal. Its not good nor bad. Sometimes you sound like you have good moments and bad. I didnt like myslef for awile either. What i did was change my appearance. Like makeup, hairstyle, or changed the color of my hair. Now that i changed my appearance i felt like i was a diff. person. Making changes is the best way to go. Never change the person you are. You sound very nice and cool to me.
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Hi There. I don't know if this is going to sound too "deep", but my father once gave me some really good advice:
You are completely responsible for your own happiness or unhappiness. It is a conscious decision.
Life is what you make of it.
You have money. Some people have none.
You have friends. Some people are all alone.
You have kindness. Some people only know hatred.
I could go on and on. Unfortunately, people such as yourself usually have to have something really bad happen to them in order to appreciate the good in their lives. Try skipping the tragedy and try looking at the world around you in a different way. If things don't start to look up, at the very least you're not going to be a teenager forever and things are bound to look up.
I hope I didn't sound too harsh. I'm not trying to be rude. I'm just trying to make the point that your life will NEVER be all good or bad. But your attitude towards it can always be changed.
Good Luck,
Anne Nonimo
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i personally think you sound like one of the sweetest people ).And because of you being such a naturally awesome person it may seem like your life is really horrible right now because you feel like you have nothing. I know that dosent make any sense now but years from now you will see. but I was in your place at one point. First off you dont need to be pretty to get a boyfriend. If the boy is worth it then he will look at you as beautiful no matter what you you look like. Looks arent everything either. When people are as sweet as you they seem to be taken for granted. I always felt like that growing up. I would always let people walk all over me. It sometimes still happens. But you can still be a nice person to people but if it seems like they are walking all over you then dont bother with them, and when I say that I mean dont tell them off but just dont stick close with them, you dont need that. Its not a good feeling knowing your being taken advantaged of. As you get older you learn to take charge of that though. And it builds your pride, along with that you get a positive outlook on life. And things will seem alot better. You just gotta wait it out, growing up takes time. And always remember that things will always be okay in the end. It may not seem like it now but its the truth. Well, If you feel like that helped at all and you need to talk to someone I'm here girl!
Have a goodnight hun.
<3chrissy
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Hi
Tell u what, if we keep licking our wounds what we find at the end of it is our skeleton. So pick yourself up and seize the moment, the hour and the day.
Out of experience i can tell u that I was steady for 3 years with my girlfriend, we broke up and for 2 years i would not let go of the gamut of feelings. Finally one day as i left my home to visit my best friend to cry on his shoulder, I found that i was walking with a clenched fist, a tight walk and with lot of resistance in my body.
That moment i took deep breaths and said it is not worth it. When i met my friend that day i did not discuss anything that was my past and till day 13 years later i still do not visit my past except if it is a learning for strangers(Unknown friends) like you.
Take care
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I think you have a very very good life. I think you should be thankful, but you can still improve it some. For the prettiness/boyfriend thing.. so? I'm 14 I've only had one boyfriend and he lasted a week and a day, so ha, I did more worse =] but I don't think I'm that horrible looking. I just thought I hadn't found the right person yet, and that's probably what it is with you. I found the right one right now and I couldn't be happier, and that's whats going to happen to you. Theres some really pretty girls who have gone without boyfriend until their like, 17. But that doesn't mean their ugly or anything.. they just haven't found a good guy they like. The friend thing.. well maybe try making one of those 4 friends ( or all of those 4 friends ) your best friend/s. The more the merrier =] Just try hanging out with them more and getting to know them alot more and just have fun =] You need to up your self-conciousness and you confidence. Whenever you think you look ugly or anything, just think of you better qualities and just remember: ALOT ALOT ALOT of girls are self-concious about themselves and they could be really pretty. So you just be one of those girls. For confident, just try takling to people more ( to make more friends along the way =] ) be socialable and just be yourself =] And just try not to let people walk all over you. Just say no to them next time and just don't let them walk over you. You need to stand up for yourself more often so people don't think your a complete pushover. I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
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Hey there! Life is not at all that bad. It's all in the perspective, and the way you take happenings that occur in life. A person once said: "Life is 10 percent of what happens to me, and 90 percent of how I view these happenings," and so, it's all in the perspective. If you wish to have a good life, make it so. If you want to begin standing up for yourself, get up and do it girl! Don't just sit around and feel sorry for yourself, and be angry at how life doesn't treat you well. When you immediately begin to realize that your life is in YOUR hands, and YOU alone are in the driver's seat, you're immediately going to get what you want for yourself, and meet the expectations you want to see yourself achieve.
And secondly, stop comparing yourself to other people. If you go through life this way, you're never going to see you for YOURSELF, because you're always seeing yourself in the images of other people. It's time to wake up and stop underestimating yourself, be the person you want to be, and live your life. Not the lives of the people around you. When you immediately begin to accept and realize YOUR own beauty and talents, you're gonna steer far ahead.
I know of a lot of people who are going through a lot of trouble, and I'm really inspired at seeing them smile and carrying on their lives, and making it work for themselves. And so, it's all up to you. Do you want to continue hating life, and keep on sitting and complaining? Or do you want to get up and know that you can do things, and you will do them? "First accept yourself, and when you see something you don't like, change it."
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