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Self Confindence!
Ok im really bad with my self-confidence like some of my friends think i just say "oh i'm so fat" just to get them to tell me im not.. but i really don't i really think of myself as fat.. like my face is pretty but i always think im fat, sometimes i think its because i have such gorgeous friends and they get all the guys i never think i can get any. I always brush by hot guys because its almost like i know they would never like me.. it's horrible but its how i feel.. like (1) i need to know how to feel better about myself and not think of myself as ugly. (2) does anyone know why i got this way.
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Well in life there's always going to be someone "prettier" or "smarter". I don't think I'm no Tyra Banks or nothing but I think I'm alright looking and most girls are it's just they always complaina bout NOT being pretty and being ugly, and that's what makes girls unattractive. So you just need to live life and stop worrying about others. I never thought I'd find a guy either ( I'm 14 and never had a boyfriend, and I always found myself sad and ugly because of that fact ) but then one day I just met this amazing guy who loves me for me and I'm just so happy and I don't care what people think anymore. Anyways. The reason you got this way is because practically ever girl is born this way. Low self-confidence. I've never seen a girl not insult her self in any way. They are either "fat" or "ugly" or "stupid" or all three. =/ But after awhile they begin to realize they aren't and they realize their good qualities. And just because a "hot" guy would never get with you, doesn't mean somethings the matter with you. "Hot people" usually tend to have very high standards. You need to BE perfect to DATE them cause they are perfect. I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
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Welcome to my life!
1 - Life is short. Over time, looks fade, boobs sag and wrinkles appear, there's nothing we can do about that I'm afraid so why not live life to the fullest instead of worrying how you look? I'm not having a go or anything like that..it's just, the guy of your dreams SHOULD and WILL like you for you. If you think positive, they will too!
2 - One word for you: Teenage! We all go through it, some suffer more than others. It sucks and people find different ways to deal with it.
G'luck!
x Steph x
P.S If you want to talk more, puddycat11@hotmail.com is my email, feel free to add me and I can try and help some more if you want me to :)
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The way to start making yourself happier with your looks are to stop critisizing yourself in front of your friends. This needs to stop because it sounds like your friends are getting a little irritated with hearing it a lot, and also, it just brings you down more when you say it. Don't put your friends on the spot by telling them that you're fat, you know that anyone who complains that they are fat, the people around will always say, "oh no you're not, you're so pretty!" Somebody will always say it, because what if nobody said anything? That would hurt your feelings. You need to start thinking about what happens when you put yourself down, you're:
1. Making yourself feel down and depressed for the most part of your day.
2. Making yourself think that you have no future and that you'll never meet someone who will love you for what you look like.
3. Setting yourself up to failure because you make yourself think that you aren't good enough and won't ever be.
4. Make yourself look worse by having your negative attitude, and negative outlook on everything in life before you even get a chance to see if you like it or not.
In other words, you do a lot of things when you put yourself down at all. And you probably didn't even realize that this wasn't exactly what you thought you were doing. You say that your friends are very pretty and always get the guys. Well, think about this, do you think half of those guys are even worth having as at your age? Likely a big no. When you don't get guys you want, it does not make you less loved, or less of a person. Everyone gets rejected by love, and even the pretty girls that you speak of get rejected. When you look in the mirror, you just need to say:
"You know what, even though I'm not quite as loving for my body as I should be yet, I am a great girl with a beautiful spirit. I help my friends as best as I can, I try my best at things, and I know that I am the most beautiful and powerful girl on the inside of me, and no matter how skinny or pretty I get on the outside, that could never be as powerful as the girl inside."
That all is true I am pretty sure. I am sure that you are a warm hearted girl that tries to be there for her friends. You have to pay attention to who you make yourself out to be. When you say you're ugly, you make yourself out to be as ugly.
-TheTeenGirl
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everyone thinks somethings rong with them at one point no ones perfect. just dont care so much what other people think of you i ust to be like i always thought something was rong. something always had to be rong w/ me. but when i started 7th grade i disided to not care and now i acully have self-confindence and even thow i no im not perfect i dont always think there stuf rong. so just tell yourself your pretty dont be highmatnice but just think of yourself like you thiunk of your friends.
Hope i Helped and hope that made sence.
<3 Tabby
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okay you shouldnt compare your selve to your friends, you should be happy with what you got and you shouldnt care what people think, but if they give you good compliments, then take em.. you need to stop looking at yourself in a negative way, and start thinking positively about youself...
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i am the same way. people always are telling me, you are gorgous and not fat.. but i never bievle them..every girl has something negative about themselves. its just part of growing up. you just have to put your best outfit on.. and look at yourself in the mirrow and just think positive. and anyways, im sure you heard this but its true, guys should like you for who you are on the inside not the outside.. corny right? but its true...hope i helped even alittle
x0xo
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