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Q: By friend at school got a boyfriend and after she got him I just started flirting with him over and over and I dont even like him not like that or anything just as a friend and my other friend lets me I really dont understand

Well that is odd. mayb u are jealous

Q: okay, so im 13 and im really small like my body is and im only like 5"4 i weigh bout a little over 100 pounds and im not trying to be arrogant but im really fit. The only thing is my boobs are really big. I wear a D cup bra and even when i wear sports bras they like look really big anyways theres a lot of problems. Im majorly into sports and they get so much in the way and they make my back hurt really bad. Second of all I always get hit on by like way older guys and I dont want that because im a really christian person with a strong faith and its just wrong. Then theres also the problem that like a whole bunch of guys like me and the only reason is because of my boobs, and theres been like a whole bunch of rumors that i had a boob job which is NOT true at all and a lot of girls dont like me because of them because they get jealous that the guys at our school really like me even though i tell them i dont like any of them. Then i also have stretch marks and i dont know how to get rid of them??? can someone please tell me about any really good bras that will like hide them or help support them, cause ive talked to my dcotor and they just gave me this pain medicine to keep them from hurting when they put strain on my back and stuff and also to hide them from perverted guys that im tired of dealing with?? please help me

I would get surgery i read this thing in teen magazine for a girl who did that and she said her life is much better!

Q: i think i might have breast cancer. there is a lump in my breast and i don't know how to tell my parents or my boyfriend. i dont want to go to the doctor until i am for sure that i might have it. I don't know what to do! please help me!!!

I would tell your parents becuase thats something you should defintly bring up to them and get it caught before it gets to carried away

Q: Everybody I've asked has said different things about it but when is the best time to have sex so you wont get pregnate, alot of people say to do it when your on your period because its less likely, is that true? thanks a ton!!

It is less likely but use a condom and go on birth control.

Q: me and my boyfriend has been dating for a week now and he hasnt call me in 5 days. when we first started dating he got my number and dont have his, and we really hit it off good.and it is not like him to not call me, am so worried about him,because i like him alot,what should i do.

Doesnt sound like a real boyfriend to me i would just look at it as not going out.. but thats just me and if you see him again just act as friends or you could bring it to his attention and talk to him about it if you want

Q: What do you do when your best friend is kind of blowing you off and when you aren't hanging out anymore. I miss her and don't want to let go.

u need to sit her down and talk to her about it because friendships are good to hold on to.. plus.. if she is a good one she will sit down and listen to you complain or whatever. Just tell her you miss her being around i had that problem with a friend we hang out every so often but she is one of my best friends so whatever but just talk to her

Q: If you took a rat on vacation with you, but kept her in one of those mini cAges, would that be too stressing for the animal?? (i'd keep food, water, and toys in it)

nope!

Q: well every year i have a choice if i want to go to tennessee for christmas to visit my family. its my one chance to go 2 states away.... to get away from all my problems and to really just think. but i would be gone for 2 weeks, including christmas and new years. the problem is.... i dont want to leave my boyfriend. i love him and i have never spent new years eve with a guy and i want to spend it with him. i want to start out the new year with him. hes having a new years eve party too...and his family is having a christmas eve party and everyone brings their gfs and bfs and he wants me to go, but i cant if im in tennessee. i cant choose to go or stay. he is telling me to go so i can think and have time to myself and get away from all my problems for a while. but i would miss him SOOOO much and i dont know if i should go or stay.... what should i do?

alright hate to break it to you but he isnt going to be around forever you know. family is far more important then comes friends then goes your loved ones.. and im assuming your young. And plus its a time to get away from your probs. you said. Just talk to your bf and see what he says. IM sorri if i seem rude.. Just honesty helps. Have fun and make a good choice

Q: I'm 14 and a female. ok theres this guy that i really like and he wrote me a note and asked me if we could date, and i said i had to get to know him better. so we "talked" for three weeks and then i hear he didnt like me anymore and it was true. So i wrote him a note saying that we should just be friends, but thats not really how i felt, what do i do?

Well .. sometimes thats how things happan but just talk to him and see what happaned between the 2 of you and why he is acting like that and ask your friends if they know anything. good luck trix

Q: does anybody know how to evenly put on eyeliner on the top lid of your eye? like i do it and it isnt perfect..

lol stretch your eye

Q: wht do you do when you go to a school dance and your frined gets asked out but you dont. I just have a question because on the same night of the dance i see my ex-boyfriend slow dancing with this really mean girl lets call her marissa and he deserves so much better.I still have huge feeling for my ex and i just felt so depressed after that. i will rate a 5 for anyone who gives me good advice.,

Well just talk to him about it and see what he see's in such a mean girl but im sure you will find a guy and just ask your friends to help you out

Q: I recently lost my best friend ever... for the stupidest reason... well she didnt tell the whoel reason someone else did but she doesnt know that i know. She acts as if i messed it up but it was really all a set up... to drop me like a can of beans. She was only my friend beause she pittied me. But it just doesnt seem right. I mean we had just had the best time ever shopping. And then bam its all over. I dont know if it was peer pressure or if he really did jsut plan on dropping me. I cant get over it. i have tried 2 hard but it is really hard.

help

Well.. maybe you need to no the other half to fully understand it

Q: One of my best friends we'll call her Nicole did something totally uncalled for last night. We all went to this dance and she knows I have a major crush on this this kid. I'll call him Ryan she slow dances with him right in front of me. Next time I'll see her is Mon. and I don't know how to react to the situation. I have another crush but he was with his ex- girlfriend (who is also my friend). Help me please.

Jealous.. ya maybe.. if she was a real true friend then she wouldnt have done that to you .. but whatever. I would just would ignore her until otherwize and wait for her to come to you and talk about it

Q: well, there is this kid that i mite like but im really not sure he likes me though.. and there is this other kid that i really like.. he is soo sweet and stuff and he is like everything a girl would want in a man.. im really not sure what to do though because i dont no if he likes me and im not sure if he still likes this other girl - but im really shy =( so im kind of scared to ask him if he likes me.. ive asked him who he likes before but he just says idont no and stuff.. and now im really not sure i just don't no what to do.. the kid that likes me has asked me out like 3 times.. and one is still i dont no from me and he is guna ask me out once he finds out i like him .. what would you do if you were me ?

Well if i were in your shoes I would try to try find out if the kid i liked liked me back because if he did then we could go out. I would just have a friend find out for me or ask him if i was extremely not shy but you could ask him out online threw a note whatever but i would defintly find out. But if this one kid that kept asking me out i liked back then i'd go out with him. But the one you like more hten just got out with him. Good luck and im sorry if things dont work out which im sure they will!! :) good luck! -trix

Q: i've been friends with this guy for like... forever right? ok well, i'm really starting to like him and i don't know what to do about it. we're the kinda friends that hug every day, and he'll tell me i'm pretty and stuff, but still. i don't know if i should try ignoring my feelings or if i should try talking to him about it. a lot of my friends say i should ask him to sadies whenever that is. i think it's soon. so can somebody tell me what to do? i'd really appriciate the help.

I would talk to him about it and it might come off for him being scared but if you dont tell him then u might not find out if he feels the same way. But you could tell him thru a letter, email, note, IM, or text. Or thru a friend which alotta ppl do. but either way tell him!

Q: i have to do this thingy in front of my class.. which is 36 people and i have to memorize it... its a monologue. and im scared. i think imn gunna go out there and like freeze!! what do i do? 13/f

well one girl froze wen giving a speech for english and the teacher didnt make her do it

Q: How do I change my password on advicentators? I'm a computer retard and I can't find it on the help stuff! thanks in advance!

lol i dunno if u possibly can.. i dont think it lets you because of all the stuff u got on your column

Q: one of my best friends is really going down hill. lately she has gotten really deep into drugs and drinking. it is not like her at all. lately it seems like she wants me to be mad at her and she gets really mad when i try to help or tel her i understand and am not mad. has anyone got a suggestion or have gone through a similar situation?

yeah my friend ended up going into treatment and that helped her.. maybe you should talk to her and just let her know what she is doing to herself and that you dont like it and you really wish she could get it all back together.. maybe she is depressed.. i know it might be hard to do but you should tell her parents.

Q: i am directing a play . i don`t know what one i should do . can anyone think of a googd play

romeo and juliet.. or peter pan

Q: omg.. i just tried to respond to a question.. and it said.. "Chatspeak detected. Type in english please." and it wont let me answer it! and i did type in english? why?

You arent typing properly

bio

My name is Trix, I am 17. I love pink, and degrassi.

I just recently got out of a relationship of 21 months. I love him still but I'm moving on.

I've been there done that im sure

ex. (with the number of expierences)

-Long term relationships (2)
-Bad expierence with BF's family (1)
-Broken bones (11)
-Stitches (2)
-Seen someone killed (1)
-Loss of family (1)
-Cancer in the family (2)
-Family in Iraq (1)
-Mom had brain surgery (2)
-Loss of pet (4)
-Moved from state to state (5)
-New highschool (2)
-Car accident (3)

Like I said "been there done that"