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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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My teacher rubbed her hand up my leg and I was wondering If that classified as rape or sexual harrasmwnt.We were alone cause I had detention and she sat beside me and did it.She is damn ugly and I told her to get her stinkin paws of a me.I tell my principle and see what'll happen next.

Rape is when someone has sex with you against your will.

Your teacher did not rape you. But, she did cross the line & what she did is considered sexual harassment. I suggest you tell your mother, and your principal.

i just wanna know how many of you believe in mythological creatures like

-unicorns
-mermaids
-werewolves
-vampires
-dragons

things like that! i don't wanna hear something like..." we all would like to believe in such things for the joy of it...." blah blah blah
yes or no only please and why you think so , i would like facts to support your answer please!!!

thank you to all who answer my random question!

The only thing I believe in out of this list is vampires. I cannot tell you how many times I have google searched them and spent time reading about them.

There aren't very many facts on them because most are talked about through legend and word of mouth, but that doesn't mean people still cannot believe in them. Same deal goes for ghosts (though those aren't really mythological to me).

i know this is random! but i really want to know what it means to talk like your from a different time please help and if you know give me some examples and how to' s please!!!!!
thank you =]

It basically means you just use words that are from another decade or another century. I can't give many examples but my boyfriend said "Bemused" earlier and I thought that was weird.

Haha.

hey, im a christian, and im 16, i've been looking for some cute teenage quotes, for example:

God is Love and Love is Real.
Above al else guard you heard -Proverbs something
this is my command love one another -bible.

you know what i'm getting at?
help me out?

I used wittyprofiles.com before. They should have what your looking for. The quotes are all split up by category.

I've had a Facebook for like a year now under my name but I have no pic and when people add me I just don't add them. so it says I have no friends... but I have no pic and no ifo or w/e in it. i've ever even touched it.

If you saw a blank facebook like this would u think i am a loser or would you just think that it's just unused? i know it's a stupid question... but just answer it honestly

I would just think nobody's done anything with it or forgot about it or something.

Okay me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 9 months. Me and my gay bestfriend hungout the other day and got drunk together alone. Me and my gay bestfriend had sex. For like 1 minute then I stopped and said I cant do this. We were both really drunk and didnt know what we were doing. And I really love my boyfriend and if I tell him he will dump me and beat my bestfriends ass and I dont want that too happen. But I cant have sex with my boyfriend now not thinking about what I did with my gay bestfriend. What should I do?

You need to tell your boyfriend the truth. If you don't, it'll just be like lying to him. If he finds out from somebody else, the situation will be much worse.

Be honest with him. He'll be mad but after he gets over it, he'll respect you more in the long run because he heard it from you.

There's no way to avoid the anger, the disappointment, the betrayal & the break up that's going to happen when you tell him. Just be honest.

Okay So Today Is Easter Sunday And I Didn NOT Sleep At All Because I Was Talking To A Guy Named Anthony All Night And All Morning On MySpace IM And Yahoo Messenger. It Was For Like...More Than 10 Hours. Even Though We Have Never Gone Out With Eachother,We Tell Eachother We Love Eachother So Much All The Time. Then He Tells Me Something That Left Me Motionless And Breathless. He Told Me That He Wanted To Spend The Rest Of His Life With Me. I Was COMPLETELY Amazed By Him. I Didn't Know What To Say But "Oh" And "Really". And If Anyone In My Family Found Out I Was Engaged At 13 Almost 14 To A Guy That's 15 Almost 16...Then They Would Kill Me! But I Love Him Too Much To Let Him Go. Despite The 13 Mile Difference,I'm Going To See Him. I Love Anthony So Much! Tell Me If I Should Wait Or Go For What I Believe In And For Who I'm In Love With(:

You're really going to see someone you met online but have yet to meet in person? Are you crazy?

This is how girls your age are found dead, or missing. It is NOT SAFE to meet someone through the internet. You can never be too sure that people say who they really are.

For all you know this Anthony kid could be some 45 year old single guy who pedophiles and preys on young teenage girls. He could've sent you a picture of some teenage boy to make you think that it was him & then fed you lies to make you believe everything and that he was for real.

I'm not saying that this Anthony kid is a pedophile or 45 years old, but he COULD be. And that's what's scary. People take advantage of the anonymity of the internet. Anybody can pretend to be anybody and that is what makes the internet a dangerous and scary place.

Kids your age are much too trusting when it comes to meeting another person because you want everyone to like you & be your friend.

To be quite frank, do NOT go & meet this person. Make up an excuse why you cannot go, block him on your buddylist, and your MySpace, and end all forms of contact. Do not trust anyone you meet online - ever. You're too naive & way too innocent to go into this type of situation. And that is what a predator wants.

I'm not trying to scare you, but you need to completely think things through before you do them because things like this could have some serious consequences. Be careful.

i heard a song, but all i can remember is this part:

so ill scream 1, 2, 3
then youll back off me.
and the nights we spent together were so tendelry.
but maybe its true.
I can't handle you.
then its true.
I am a fool.

does anyone know what song it is and who sings it?

Are you sure you heard the lyrics right? I GOOGLE'd it with a different set of lyrics (I split them up) and couldn't find anything. It only showed me the related words in different songs, but not in the order that you have them. :(

I have a crush on this girl in school, but I no that she doesn't feel the same way about me(she has a boyfriend already). How do I get her to love me instead of him?

You can't. She's already with her boyfriend & you cannot make her love you just because you like her.

Wait for them to break-up. If you're not willing to wait, move on.

is lil wayne and weezy the same person?

Yup.

So I'm turning 18 in May, and I've been wanting a tattoo for so long. I just don't know what to get or where to get it. I want something relatively small, but meaningful. Not just a little heart, r butterfly or something. I wanted to do something maybe with the word faith. Any suggestions? Thank you

I have 2 tattoos, so maybe I can give you a little insight about what I know personally. :)

Tattoos are something that are really important & take a lot of thought. They are not something that should be spur of the moment. You really need to think out what you want, and when you decide on what you want, MAKE SURE you've thought about where you want it, the consequences & everything for a while. If you decide to get your tattoo & you regret it, there is no taking it back. It is there forever unless you can afford the surgery to get it off.

I would also suggest that since you're 18, DO NOT get your tattoo anywhere extremely visible (like your arm, neck, leg or anywhere else like that. I wanted a tattoo on my lower back when I was younger & I just think it looks so trashy now. Good places for a first time tattoo are your wrist (on the inside), the back of your neck (sides are off limits for a first timer), your shoulder blade, your foot or your hip.

The reason I say not to get it visible is because if you want a really good job one day, like a lawyer, or in an office setting, having a visible tattoo may turn off your employer from hiring you. They want somebody clean cut & nice. If you have a tattoo & they can see it, they probably won't consider you.

If I were you, I would probably suggest you get it on your wrist & small. The smaller you get it, the less the chances people will see it. And I know you might say "But I want people to see it!" and I understand that, but you must understand that your tattoos are not there for other people's enjoyment, they're there for your enjoyment.

As far as prices, every place is different. Also, the price of your tattoo will depend on how the size, location, what it looks like & how long it takes. If it's big, has a lot of detail & will take them a while, the price will go up. If it's small & something they can do in about 30 minutes, chances are it won't cost so much. My first tattoo was $80. My second was $40. You can look up some places online & give them calls to ask because they sometimes don't mention their rates on tattoos, or even if they have them. Some places start out at a certain price. For example, High Voltage (the tattoo shop in L.A. INK) starts at a rate of $200. I saw it on their site. Other places I called started at $60.

So, you really need to shop around before you pick a place. It took me a bit before I finally found a place I liked for my second tattoo. I got my first tattoo in my hometown, but I now live in Los Angeles so I had no idea which places were good, cheap, clean & welcoming. Things like that need to be heavily considered when you choose a place.

When you finally decide on a place, make sure they're clean. If they sit you down & their stuff is already opened & laid out, DO NOT TRUST IT. You want to go to a place where they open their needles & such in front of you because that way you know they're clean. Most places that already have it laid out are dirty & could put you at risk for a disease.

As far as the aftercare, the tattoo artist will tell you all of that, but I'll tell you here just in case. Make sure that after you take off the bandage from your tattoo (they usually make you wait 45 minutes to an hour), that you wash it with soap & water. DO NOT RUB IT DRY. Pat it gently. Same deal goes for the shower. Put some Vitamin D ointment on it (only a little) & then leave it alone. Do this a few times a day. If you go out in a sunny place, put sunscreen on it because the rays from the sun will make the colors fade if you don't protect it & you don't want a new tattoo looking like you've had it for years already. When it starts to scab over; because it will, it's normal) DO NOT PICK AT IT. Picking at it will make your tattoo look like shit. It's going to itch. When it starts to itch, do not scratch. Slapping tends to help but not always. Also, when it's scabbing over, you want to put unscented lotion on it. Your tattoo (depending on size) should heal in about 2-3 weeks. Even after it heals though, you still may want to put sun-screen on it to keep from fading.

I'm sorry this is long, but you're getting a tattoo for the first time & the things you need to consider are endless & really important. A tattoo is really special when you get one & you want to take care of it as best you can. I really hope this helps you & if you have anymore questions, you are free to ask either me, or the tattoo artist. :) Good luck!

so i'm 18 years old, female.
i will say, i love my parents to death. we have a pretty good relationship together and yeah they get annoying sometimes but they're always there for me. they care about me. the only problem is that i'm 18 and still have a curfew of 12:30!! even since i started driving at 16 my curfew has been that. now it's my dad who i have to try and persuade to try and let me stay out as long as i want. i've tried asking him if i didnt have to have a curfew and guess what he said? well if you want to pay rent, you dont have to have a curfew but as long as your under my roof, what i say goes. he also said he is worried about drunk drivers being out late at night, but whatever. it's not like ive ever done anything for them not to trust me, im honestly a really good kid. i get good grades, i have a job, i dont get into trouble. all my friends dont have curfews, i am 18, dont you think its silly too? how can i talk my dad into at least letting me stay out later?!

It's not you he doesn't trust. He doesn't trust other drivers & people. If you stay out late, there are chances that drunk drivers will be out (well, they're out no matter what time of day it is) & that they could possibly cause an accident either with you, or near you. It's dangerous to be out late, especially at our age (I'm 18 as well).

Your father worries about you & only wants what's best for you. To be honest, I think 12:30 is reasonable. If you come home then, he knows you'll be safe, and he won't have to worry.

Just because you get good grades, have a job & don't get in trouble doesn't mean you deserve a later curfew. A curfew is a privilege, not a necessity. You cannot argue with him about this. If you keep up, he'll make your curfew earlier or he'll make it so you can't go out at all. And your friends don't matter. They are not his kids so he doesn't care what they do.

As long as you're under his roof, you need to follow his rules whether you like them or not, and whether you find them fair or not. I think you just need to deal with it. You need to see it from their point of view to fully understand.

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a month now. I used to enjoy talking to him, and being with him, but recently I went through a period of depression, and I feel that things havn't been the same since I started feeling better. Now we don't talk as much as we used to... I don't even know what to talk to him about anymore, and we rarely see each other (only once or twice in a couple of weeks, even though we live close to each other). I now find it a chore just to be with him, and I don't think I feel anything emotionally for him anymore. I don't think I want to break up with him, but I'm not happy with him anymore. Should I break up with him, even though it wil hurt him and me, or is it possible to fall out of love because of non-communication, and if so, is it possible to fall back in love again?

I think you should break up with him. Leading him on when you don't feel anything for him will hurt him way worse than the break-up. It'll hurt for the both of you, but it's best to get it over & done with so you can move on. You'd want people to be honest with you right? So be honest with him. He'll respect you much more in the long run.

I'm a 13 year old female and i've been getting the urge to masturbate.
-am i too young to masturbate?
-does it hurt?
-how do i do it?
please help me! i dont know anything bout it but i've just heard of it.

No, you're not too young. You're at the age where you're curious about stuff like that. It doesn't hurt. I'll give you a google search on how to do it though.

Well this might be just a little confusing...But I have this Friend (a guy) and ive known him For a year exacly. last year i met him and he was this shy, scared looking nineth grader (i was in 11th grade) we became friends, Good friends We used to hang out almost everyday and talk for hours and well like i said it's been a year and in that year he has become somone i dont even know anymore it's like were strangers he makes me feel like we never met at all...He recently started hangging out with these girls he has never once talked to before and now...i also hear that he "might" be dating this girl he has known for only a few short months I used to know him like nobody else did and it makes me madd (im NOT Jelous) ive been accused of being jelous and im not im just wondering What happened to the friend i had a year ago?? the friend who used to hang out with just me?? did he grow up and realize that there are other friends...that might be true but he didnt have to desert me like we were never friends to begin with....this makes me sad and hurt all at once...any good advice out there>>> id reallyyy Appricate it....

People grow up, and change. This will happen whether you like it or not.

Your friend probably figured that you weren't the only one to be friends with & figured there was no reason to waste highschool with being shy & scared.

Sometimes when friends change, it's for the worst. You can either talk to him about it, or forget him. Losing friends is inevitable.

okay this is REALLY stupid.

butttt i have wavy/curly hair (depending how i sleep that night lol)

i kind of have side swept bangs..i can style my hair so that i have it but lately ive just been having a slight side part without bangs.

so i was wondering. i kind of feel like all the more attractive girls at my school have bangs...lol

but then my friend was telling me how some of the most beautiful celebrities and models dont have bangs..but im not a celebrity so it doesnt really matter..?

i like my hair both ways
should i style with bangs?

Style your hair however you like. I do mine both ways too, so it doesn't matter.

Who cares how celebrities wear their hair? They should have no impact on how you do your hair. There's no reason to care about them so much.

there is this boy i like and i been with him for a year and a couple of months and i i broke up with because he didnt know how to be nice and now i want him back and i askd him but he ignore the question and i dnt know what to do and i love him and i cant be without him and it really hard WHAT DO I DO?

Why would you want to be with someone who didn't know how to be nice?

If you really truly love him though, tell him how you feel and ask again. If he continues to ignore it, then it's your loss & you'll have to move on. Just because you made a mistake doesn't always mean you can fix it.

i usually get my period sometime at the beginning of the month. 31-5 sometime around there. well this month i havent had it so far and im not really sure why. me and my boyfriend havnt had sex. but we do fool around. im kinda getting worried. and im trying not to. and my boyfriend is getting scared and nervous. what should i do and what could it be.

How long have you had your period? If you haven't had it that long (as in, it just started for the first time a few months ago) I wouldn't really worry. Periods are irregular the first few years. You'll be fine.

ok well this is embarassing and actually bothering me for a very long time....to start with i am a 27 year old female, before i got married i was a virgin...and guess what...i got married in august of 08...and still am a virgin! well as much as it sounds crazy and funny...this is driving my husband and my relationship downfall...i am basically scared to have sex...we have attempted several times...but everytime the poor man tries to put it in...i back off thinking its going to hurt...its been eight months now...and my husband's just a very understanding patient man...or else i feel if it were anyone else he would have cheated on his wife by now...my mom, my sister my close friends that i have shared it with...all have yelled at me about it...i am starting to hate the fact that i cant get this fear out of me...i mean come on i thought sex was suppose to be fun...and i also know it keeps a married relationship good...but thats missing in my married life..and i have to do something about it...please help!

I'm going to tell you straight up that it's going to hurt. There probably isn't anyway to avoid it. The best I can say for you is to just relax when you guys go to have sex. If you tense up & get scared, it's going to hurt a lot more.

Relax a little, and maybe it could hurt less. I don't think you're a bad person or anything for being scared. It's normal when coming to have sex for the first time. :)

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I've been with my bf for a month and 8 days.
Hes nice, and very honest, and he treats me well, but sometimes hes weird and I cant figure him out. see if maybe you guys can...

the reason I say hes weird is that every time we talk on the phone, we end up not saying anything after a while, and just being on the phone doing different things without talking. sometimes i forget hes there altogether. and i hate that. but everytime i ask him what hes doing or thinking he always either says nothing or that hes thinking about me. I get the impression that hes not really listening to me and that he is either thinking dirty and doesn't wanna tell me, or hes not listening to me... And at one point, everything I told him hed answer with yes...

are you tired? yes
do you want me to let you go sleep? yes
am i going to see you tomorrow? yes
what do you wanna do? yes
what? yes
can you say anything else but yes? yes
say something else! something else

he was trying to be funny i guess so i said:

okay i think you should sleep, ill call you tomorrow morning.
Him: "not really"
Me: what do you mean?
Him: never mind
Me: what? why are you being so weird
Him: IM being weird?

and basically thats how our conversations are sometimes on the phone, he doesnt make much sense and ends up annoying me to the point where im like okay goodbye. then he gets mad at me???
i dont get it! can someone help me out? if i try to hang up he wont let me and says he wants to talk, but then he doesnt and when i try to he doesnt seem to listen and then when i ask him why he isnt talking he gets mad and shit. wtf???? can someone please explain?

He could be someone who dislikes talking on the phone, so it ends up being awkward for him and he doesn't know what to say, so he just doesn't talk. And when he keeps saying yes, maybe he's just trying to pass the time or get you mad so he doesn't have to be on the phone anymore.

He could just be someone that likes to IM or talk in person. Just ask him.

If that isn't it, then you guys probably don't have much in common & it's just going to get worse until you find some common ground.

Some couples just aren't meant to be.

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