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Engaged At 13 Almost 14
Okay So Today Is Easter Sunday And I Didn NOT Sleep At All Because I Was Talking To A Guy Named Anthony All Night And All Morning On MySpace IM And Yahoo Messenger. It Was For Like...More Than 10 Hours. Even Though We Have Never Gone Out With Eachother,We Tell Eachother We Love Eachother So Much All The Time. Then He Tells Me Something That Left Me Motionless And Breathless. He Told Me That He Wanted To Spend The Rest Of His Life With Me. I Was COMPLETELY Amazed By Him. I Didn't Know What To Say But "Oh" And "Really". And If Anyone In My Family Found Out I Was Engaged At 13 Almost 14 To A Guy That's 15 Almost 16...Then They Would Kill Me! But I Love Him Too Much To Let Him Go. Despite The 13 Mile Difference,I'm Going To See Him. I Love Anthony So Much! Tell Me If I Should Wait Or Go For What I Believe In And For Who I'm In Love With(:
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"I want to spend the rest of my life with you" is usually a nice statement people say, and by no means indicates engagement (unless he specifically mentioned marriage).
I would meet the guy for a date before letting these feelings totally take you over. Although your relationship could potentially blossom, talking with someone online and being with them in person are two totally different things.
I wasn't totally able to tell from the post, but if you have never seen this guy in person, bring someone with you when you meet him. You never know.
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I'd say to maybe bump your status to "Promised".
First off, I'll state the obvious. You've never met the guy in person. As someone who is engaged, let me tell you that you do NOT want to enter into any serious sort of commitment with anyone you haven't met. The right time to get engaged is after living together (if your beliefs allow it), after seeing the good, the bad and the superugly, and after knowing darn near everything about them. I do agree, you can get a lot out of internet talk. But how do you know this guy doesn't have repulsive personal habits? Maybe he spits, and you can't stand that. Maybe he's bad with money. Maybe he wants to move to Botswana in two years, and hasn't gotten around to telling you that. Who knows.
Also, you are 13. I was told that I was too young, getting engaged at nearly 20 years old. And for any other person, I would agree. The changes that occur between the ages of 13 and 25 are so mind-boggling, it's a miracle that any relationships survive that long, and not really surprising that most don't. Give yourself the space to grow.
Enjoy your youth while you have it. Being engaged sounds like a lot of fun, but when you're attached to a guy you've seen 4 times and all your friends are out on dates, it would be pretty crappy. Leave that stuff for when you're older.
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You're really going to see someone you met online but have yet to meet in person? Are you crazy?
This is how girls your age are found dead, or missing. It is NOT SAFE to meet someone through the internet. You can never be too sure that people say who they really are.
For all you know this Anthony kid could be some 45 year old single guy who pedophiles and preys on young teenage girls. He could've sent you a picture of some teenage boy to make you think that it was him & then fed you lies to make you believe everything and that he was for real.
I'm not saying that this Anthony kid is a pedophile or 45 years old, but he COULD be. And that's what's scary. People take advantage of the anonymity of the internet. Anybody can pretend to be anybody and that is what makes the internet a dangerous and scary place.
Kids your age are much too trusting when it comes to meeting another person because you want everyone to like you & be your friend.
To be quite frank, do NOT go & meet this person. Make up an excuse why you cannot go, block him on your buddylist, and your MySpace, and end all forms of contact. Do not trust anyone you meet online - ever. You're too naive & way too innocent to go into this type of situation. And that is what a predator wants.
I'm not trying to scare you, but you need to completely think things through before you do them because things like this could have some serious consequences. Be careful.
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Obviously I think you're too young to even be worrying about something like this. Anyone with a brain would think that as well. I understand that you like this Anthony guy a lot, which is great because you're at the time in your life where hanging out and being with the opposite sex is a lot of fun. When I was 13 too, I would spend all night on the phone with a guy and then do it a few times a week. So, I completely understand how you feel. Obviously you won't be getting married anytime soon, so you can say you're engaged, but that really won't change your relationship with him at all for the next four years. Keep talking to him and see how things go, but I definitely would not advise you to tell your parents, haha.
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Being in love with is a beautiful thing, but youre only 13, and considering you don't really know this anthony person besides from talking to him on the computer I don't know how safe it is for you to go see him. I don't mean to put a downer on things but I honestly think you should get to know him first and make sure he isn't just some creep online. I know that you're young but you need to understand that getting engaged at such a young age is probably not a good idea, you have your whole life ahead of you. So, please do not rush into things too soon, wait.
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