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Falling Out of Love?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a month now. I used to enjoy talking to him, and being with him, but recently I went through a period of depression, and I feel that things havn't been the same since I started feeling better. Now we don't talk as much as we used to... I don't even know what to talk to him about anymore, and we rarely see each other (only once or twice in a couple of weeks, even though we live close to each other). I now find it a chore just to be with him, and I don't think I feel anything emotionally for him anymore. I don't think I want to break up with him, but I'm not happy with him anymore. Should I break up with him, even though it wil hurt him and me, or is it possible to fall out of love because of non-communication, and if so, is it possible to fall back in love again?
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Yes non-communication can lead to falling out of love. But if you guys could also fall back into love if you open up communication lines and talk to him about that. But yes you could also break up with him because sounds like he hasn't been a very understanding before about your depression. He should know that you guys were goin to need a break for you to get better.
FYI Tina Duh is stupid and her advice is worse. (She doesn't give good advice at all) don't let her discourage you guys.
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I think you should break up with him. Leading him on when you don't feel anything for him will hurt him way worse than the break-up. It'll hurt for the both of you, but it's best to get it over & done with so you can move on. You'd want people to be honest with you right? So be honest with him. He'll respect you much more in the long run.
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It's crazy because I was in the same situation as you are right now. My boyfriend and I were dating for about a year though and I seriously got bored of the relationship. I was bored of it for about six months, but just stayed with him because I didn't want to not have a boyfriend because we literally hung out with each other like everyday. After a few months of us dating though, it seemed like we always talked about the same things or nothing at all and that hanging out with him wasn't as much fun anymore. And I also felt like you do, that it was a chore to hang out with him, something that I had to force myself to do.
Personally, I think you should tell your boyfriend that you need a break. One where you both don't talk for a while and if need be you can call him up in a month or so just to see how he is. The only way you'll find out that you're in love with him is separation. If you can go a month without talking to him and you feel happier without him in your life, then he obviously isn't the right one for you. If you struggle after a while and you still feel things for him, then start seeing each other a few times a month again. You may need to just liven your life up by hanging out with friends or other guys. If you do go on a break and it seems a little hard at first - just ignore those feelings, it will be hard but you have to persevere!
And if you don't have a break right now,then you could possibly be going on in this relationship for a couple more months with both of you being unhappy and then if you break up with him then you'll be hurting him more then you would if you broke up with him now! Good luck to you. And I hope everything works out for the best!!
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