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18 and 12:30 curfew?
so i'm 18 years old, female.
i will say, i love my parents to death. we have a pretty good relationship together and yeah they get annoying sometimes but they're always there for me. they care about me. the only problem is that i'm 18 and still have a curfew of 12:30!! even since i started driving at 16 my curfew has been that. now it's my dad who i have to try and persuade to try and let me stay out as long as i want. i've tried asking him if i didnt have to have a curfew and guess what he said? well if you want to pay rent, you dont have to have a curfew but as long as your under my roof, what i say goes. he also said he is worried about drunk drivers being out late at night, but whatever. it's not like ive ever done anything for them not to trust me, im honestly a really good kid. i get good grades, i have a job, i dont get into trouble. all my friends dont have curfews, i am 18, dont you think its silly too? how can i talk my dad into at least letting me stay out later?!
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Look this is what it comes down to. Your 18 you live at home its your MOMS and DADS house. Their house their rules. Sorry nothing you can do to change.
Good Luck!
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You're 18, you live at home, and you have a curfew of 12:30?
Lucky. :/
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i think that your parents are just looking out for your best interest. I would hate it to. having to come in by 12:30 sucks because that's when all the real fun starts. that's all i can say about that. see if you can get on their good side on a week where something big is about to popoff.
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It's not you he doesn't trust. He doesn't trust other drivers & people. If you stay out late, there are chances that drunk drivers will be out (well, they're out no matter what time of day it is) & that they could possibly cause an accident either with you, or near you. It's dangerous to be out late, especially at our age (I'm 18 as well).
Your father worries about you & only wants what's best for you. To be honest, I think 12:30 is reasonable. If you come home then, he knows you'll be safe, and he won't have to worry.
Just because you get good grades, have a job & don't get in trouble doesn't mean you deserve a later curfew. A curfew is a privilege, not a necessity. You cannot argue with him about this. If you keep up, he'll make your curfew earlier or he'll make it so you can't go out at all. And your friends don't matter. They are not his kids so he doesn't care what they do.
As long as you're under his roof, you need to follow his rules whether you like them or not, and whether you find them fair or not. I think you just need to deal with it. You need to see it from their point of view to fully understand.
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His house, his rules. I went through that myself when I was your age and, you know what? I hated it, but I kiss the ground my father walks on, now, decades later. It's hard to understand while you're in the middle of it because there is a desire for independence, but when you look back, you'll see how he was trying to protect you from the troubles that are in this world that you just don't understand yet. There is so much he is trying to do to make sure your life stays on the right track.
The way to get your curfew extended is to prove that you are responsible and sensible. When he is confident that you will do the right thing in every situation, then you will get more freedom.
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I don't think it's silly. I think your parents are exactly right.
Pay rent, and you are a tenant, you can come and go as please.
Don't pay rent, then you are thier child living at home, and you are subject to thier rules.
I'm 24 now, and when I go home my parents have some dumb ass rules I have to abide by while I'm in thier home. I'm not allowed to have thier car out later then midnight, I'm not allowed to be behind a closed door with a boy... and on and on.
Thier house. Thier rules.
Your dad has already told you this isn't about how much he trusts you, this is just about what he comfortable with living with.
I imagine your best bet, if you dad doesn't want you driving early in the morning, is to arrange to stay the night OR don't drive at all, and pay for cabs. Offer those compromises to him, but in the end, this might just be a household rule that isn't going to change.
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