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Well this might be just a little confusing...But I have this Friend (a guy) and ive known him For a year exacly. last year i met him and he was this shy, scared looking nineth grader (i was in 11th grade) we became friends, Good friends We used to hang out almost everyday and talk for hours and well like i said it's been a year and in that year he has become somone i dont even know anymore it's like were strangers he makes me feel like we never met at all...He recently started hangging out with these girls he has never once talked to before and now...i also hear that he "might" be dating this girl he has known for only a few short months I used to know him like nobody else did and it makes me madd (im NOT Jelous) ive been accused of being jelous and im not im just wondering What happened to the friend i had a year ago?? the friend who used to hang out with just me?? did he grow up and realize that there are other friends...that might be true but he didnt have to desert me like we were never friends to begin with....this makes me sad and hurt all at once...any good advice out there>>> id reallyyy Appricate it....
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
Now don't take this the wrong way, but maybe your mate just got tired of hanging out with the same person all the time and decided he wanted some new friends to hang out with. Or maybe he wants some friends that are his own age, because what will happen to him when you leave school? He'll be stuck by himself with no one from his year level. What ever the reason may be you have to talk to him about it. Tell him how you feel. If he's a true friend he'll understand if not then you shouldn't waste your time with him. Remember that as you get older you'll lose some friends, you'll make new ones but your true friends will stay with you forever.
Good luck :)
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Since I know neither you or your friend it is difficult to give a judgement. You also haven't mentioned very clearly how your friend is behaving with you nowadays. You only said, it has become such that as if you know each other no more (how? please explain)) and he makes you feel you never met at all (how? please explain). The questions in the brackets wouldn't be there had you mentioned some specific and concrete examples of changes in his behaviour that makes you feel deserted and ignored. Just because he has been hanging with some other girls does not mean he has foegotten you. You heard (youd did not see with your own eyes and not proven as yet) he "MIGHT" (a probability not a certainty) be dating with a certain girl. Please do not get me wrong (for God's sake), are you in love with him? If not (and if you just want to be a friend to him) you should not be bothered by whom he is dating with. He now has more friend than before (including girls) does not mean he has forgotten you. Is it not very normal to have more friends as time passes? Remember when you first entered school you had very few or no friends at all. As time passed, your friends grew in number (or did they not?). The same has probably happened with your friend. When he had only one friend (you), he shared all his thoughts and time with you. Now that his friend circle has grown (which is very normal), his thoughts and time are being shared by a greater population. Imagine when you eat a bread alone you get the full share. But when you share it with someone your share reduces. Please do not be sad and talk to him. Tell him directly that you feel sad and deserted. Ask him to spend more time with you. Tell him you like being with him. If he changes, good for you. If he ignores you (still good), life does not stop there, please carry on. Make new friends and I am sure you will get some good (true) ones. Please do not feel I have supported and spoken (mostly) on behalf of your friend. I simply wanted your friendship does not get broken due to a misunderstanding. May God, to Whom belongs the dominion of the heavens and the earth, make smooth for you the path to absolute bliss.
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I dont think hes doing this on purpose. he may just want to get to know new people. Talk to him about it. Ask him if hes upset with you. The only way you will know if he is ignoring you is if you ask him about it!
good luck girlie! =]
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People grow up, and change. This will happen whether you like it or not.
Your friend probably figured that you weren't the only one to be friends with & figured there was no reason to waste highschool with being shy & scared.
Sometimes when friends change, it's for the worst. You can either talk to him about it, or forget him. Losing friends is inevitable.
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