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Q: I am wanting to know the best brand of menstrual pads I can use during my period. Price is no issue. I can't use tampons because my mom had cancer down there and so my doctor said I am high risk cancer and I shouldn't use tampons just in case. I don't have a problem with that anyway. I want to use the best pads though but I don't know what brand might be really good. Something comfortable and does what it needs to do (soak)! What is the pad brand?

I really like the U by kotex pads. They're the perfect size, comfortable and they do what they need to do. But it's all up to you. Different people have different preferences.

-Kat
xo

Q: Hi!

Any myspace experts on here that can tell me how to make my about me section into a scrolly box thing?

If you can that would be great!

Please and thank you!

DELETE THIS WRITING AND ADD YOUR OWN

just adjust the height and width to how you like it.
Also this code is for an "invisible" scroll box, which means it has no border.

If you want one with a border these websites are a big help
http://abrax.us/bbz/ScrollableBox.htm

http://www.myspacegens.com/handler.php?gen=scrollbox

Hope I helped
tc.xo

Q: my hair is like dead. i dyed my hair 3 times. the 2nd time it turned out wrong and went platinum blonde. (god was that horrible). but now my hair is golden blonde with dirty blonde/ light brown hair roots coming out. it is extremely ugly. the roots are about 3 inches long, i went to my hair dresser about 2 months ago to get it dyed, and she said she wouldn't dye it because if she did my hair might fall out so she said wait till my roots came in good. well i really want to dye it now, but how do i know its healthy enough without going back to her and asking her ? and i've been scrunching my hair more often for about 3 weeks now to make it more healthy, but what are more healthy ways to make my hair more healthy than deep conditioning ?

Try to avoid heat as much as you possibly can. Instead air dry your hair and allow it to flow naturally.

If you've been deep conditioning like a fiend and using no heat for a couple of months and your hair still doesn't feel any better, get a hair cut. Sometimes only a few inches is needed to make your hair look beautiful again.

Good hygiene is important for healthy hair. This includes brushing the hair properly and washing it with a mild shampoo.

Good nutrition (a well - balanced diet of fresh foods and lots of water) not only helps one to have beautiful - looking hair but also improves it's texture.

Give your hair a good brushing before bed. This should be done by bending forward from the waist, head down, brushing from the back to front. Brush at least fifty to one hundred strokes.

If you use alot of styling gels, hairsprays ect, you need to make sure you get all of those products out of your hair. You could use a clarifying shampoo once a week or you could just add a tsp. of baking soda to your regular shampoo.

Do not vigorously rub your hair dry, this may damage it. Instead blot your hair with the towel and let air dry.
Never brush soaking - wet hair, as the hair is quite elastic at this time and can be pulled and stretched to the breaking point.

http://www.allsands.com/health/advice/healthyhairget_stt_gn.htm
This website has some good tips too.

Good luck. Hope I helped

-Kat

Q: Does anyone know the lyrics for the song Closed Heart Surgery by Kill Paradise? I love it and I can't find the lyrics anywhere!

[MUMBLES]
Nobody really knows,
Everyone makes mistakes.

No, let's go home.
You are not.. I'm here to save you,
So please don't tell me so.
You know.. it's an easy mistake,
If you have to make a mistake.
Make this one, make this one.
Oh, so tell me exactly
How you've been talking to her,
How you've been getting older,
Ways you live longer, I just need to know.

Always here for a conversation starter,
But you never had to tell me the time,
And if you wanna talk, let's talk when I'm on time.
You know, you know!
You know [x19]
Up & away.. up & away...
I'm lonely.

Because none of these days, everybody's got somebody.
At least that's what it seems like.
Blow the air out from me, it's like caramel.

So begin; hear me out, in the air,
And there is no one quite to compare you with.
Where'd you run to, where'd you go?
I need a hero; or a stereo,
To play these musical notes,

It's the only thing that saves my soul,
Its the only thing that has a toll on me.
Oh can't you see
I'm so lonely.. it's all a part of life
And you're always truthful.. so true.
And it seems like you and me,
Have always been a part of 1-2-3,
Step to me, step it easy.
Love so go, so go, you're soul,
By tears tonight, it's like an old dream
Come on and give it to me.

We don't have the time, the time, the time..
Where did she hide?
Everybody's screaming and we don't know.
It's all the same to me and everybody, it's all the same.
Everyone knows it's all a part of me..
Hold me.

'Now it's time to kill paradise.'

Sorry that's the best I could do. He mumbles a lot and it's hard to understand everything he's saying
but I hope this helped.
At the parts where you can't understand what he's saying you could just make up your own lyrics.
:P

Hope I helped
-KAt

-Kat

Q: 15/male and ive never had a girlfriend and im worried that my penis is small there may be something wrong with me its about 5 inches long is that normal for my age? do girls care about penis size?

Your still young and your penis is still growing.
The average size at the beginning of puberty is 6 cm (2.4 inches) with adult size reached about 5 years later.
It's still growing so give it time and don't stress too much about it.

Yes some girls do care about penis size but others don't. Me and a lot of my friends don't care about penis size, they just care about the guys personality, so don't worry about that either.

I hope I helped.
-Kat

Q: Hey! I woke up like a week ago and my boobs hurt. They hurt a lot! This is almost a week later and my boobs still hurt. What does this mean? Do I have cancer? :'(

When your boobs hurts it usually means your about to get your period or your currently on your period.
Mine start to hurt a week before I get my period so you might be the same as me.

If you think you might have breast cancer check around your boobs and see if you can feel any lumps. But to me it sounds like your to young to get breast cancer so I wouldn't worry too much about it if I was you.

Wait a couple more days and if your period doesn't come and your boobs still hurt, go to the doctor and get yourself checked out.
But I'm pretty sure it's nothing serious.

Hope I helped.
Good luck
xo

Q: So I'm in Drama 1 in my high school, and we have our first play coming up.
We're doing Snow White, and we just received our roles yesterday.
I'm really excited because I got a major role.
But I need some memorization tips..seeing as there are a lot of lines to remember.
Any tips would be great, thanks.

* cue cards (one for each scene, which also can be used to keep track of blocking)

* tape recording (make a tape of only the other character's lines, then use it to rehearse - this is great if you do a lot of driving)

* rehearse with a friend or relative

* read the line above yours, covering your next line with a sheet of paper. Say the line, lower the paper to check for accuracy. Repeat as you work your way through the scene.

* Cover the script with another sheet of paper except the line you are saying. Glance down at that line and pick up as much as the eye allows you. Look up and say the line aloud, slowly. Repeat this pattern through the entire page.

* Use a computer to retype the scenes you are in, putting them in larger print and using colored ink for the major words. The visual cues on this printout will make the lines easier to read and will aid memorization. It's also amazing how much of your lines you will learn just through the act of typing them.
* Write out the lines on a sheet of paper writing down only the first letter of each word. For example: (From "Our Town" by Thornton Wilder) Emily: I can't bear it. They're so young and beautiful. Why did they ever have to get old? Mama, I'm here. I'm grown up. I love you all, everything. - I cant look at everything hard enough.
Would be read as: Emily: I c b i. T s y a b. W d t e h t g o? M, I h. I g u. I l y a, e.-I c l a e h e.
I do this for both long paragraphs i need to learn, or monologues...but also for dialogue i have trouble with. You can either write out the other person's lines in their entirety between your lines, or you can just write a snippet of them to help jog your memory. Hope this helps a bit, it usually does me some good.

I got these tips from a website I found,
http://www.musicaltheatreaudition.com/joomla/content/view/116/64/
They have more helpful tips for memorizing your lines.
Check it out

Hope I helped.
Good luck

Q: im 15 female my boyfriend is also 15 weve been together just over 6 months hes really shy we make out but when i try to do more he gets nervous he doesnt seem to want to do more and he still shy about me seeing his penis he says its small i told him i love him i dont mind but hes still shy about his size i dont want to push him too much but how can i get him to be more confident?

You have to give your boyfriend time.
Maybe he's just not ready to do anything more than making out.
If he's not comfortable doing anything more, don't push him. When he's ready he will tell you himself.

In the meantime just try and make him more confident. Keep telling him you love him, just be there for him and maybe he will open up more and be more confident around you.

You could also talk to him about it. Just sit him down and tell him how you're feeling. Tell him you don't care how big his penis is, it really doesn't matter. All that matters is that you love him and you want to be with him.
If he still refuses to do anything more then just give him some time. Hopefully over time he'll grow to be more confident.

I hope I helped
xoxo
good luck

Q: i have really thick hair but i hate my bangs because i have so much of them..i have side swept bangs but they're really annoying just because theyre thick...would it be possible to thin them out? would it look weird>? thanks

it is possible to thin them out but you have to be careful because if the hairdresser doesnt do it properly it won't look good. I have thick hair and very thick bangs and i got my friend to thin them out for me. but they grew back really quickly so i just pin some sections back with some bobbypins or i wear a nice head band.

Q: Do you usually use Maxi Pads or Tampons? And do you know any kinds that work good?

I personally wear pads, I dont really like the idea of tampons :P
I really like the ones from libra called, ultra goodnights. The packet is purple I think. I love these ones because they catch everything. I don't like the "invisible" or "ultra thins" ones because they move around and my undies end up catching more blood then the pad.
I can't really help you out with tampons because I've never used them before and because ones that might fit me might be uncomfortable for you.
The new tampons with the little wings sound alright but it's really up to you, that's just my opinion.
I hope I helped.
Take care,
-Kat

Q: i have been with my boyfriend for 6 months, and i was wondering, if you were going to get a present from your girlfriend, would you want a photoalbum?

Guys, please answer truthfuly. And girls, id like past experiences or stuff. Thank you so much. Im so nervous he wont like it =[

I think you should fill the album with photos of you two together.
Like if you two had certain days,
like if you went to a place and had lots of fun and you took photos then put those into the album so he can always remember the good times you had together,
but leave some of the spaces empty for when you have more of those fun days. If you get what I mean.

hope this helped
-kat

Q:
I have never had a boyfriend, nor have I felt the desire. I wanted to wait , until I was mature, ready. Last week, at a party, I met a guy. I just loved him, maybe not loved him, but wow.
I never like guys, but this was different. He had all the qualities, I really liked him.

My best friend, HAD a boyfriend at the time. They were going though a rocky patch.
A couple of days after , my best friend's relationship ended. She was PRETTY gutted. She said to me, I still love him. The guy I met invited her round (cos he did get to know her, as well) and he turned round and kissed her. She didnt stop it - obviously I know she was on the rebound - BUT she didn't even like him - I mean she was making little remarks about him during the party.

He said to her, that he really liked her. And now they are going out. WTF.
I am so hurt, I can't even breath. My friend doesnt know I've fallen for him, and now, they're happy together. I am so gutted, it hurts so bad, the first guy i like and I'm already been knocked down. I spoke to him and he was saying all this stuff about how happy they are and I had to sit there and smile.

& I have to be a best friend to her. I am not going to say I've fallen for him, when she's going out with him and she's on the rebound. But it hurts so bad because, well this is no jealousy issue she gets what she wants. I am second best against her(not as intelligent,pretty etc) that DOESNT bother me, because I know I am still a good person :) I am totally secure.
But she gets everything, and it's just lie YOU HAD A BOYFRIEND, why for once? Couldnt I get the guy? I've never felt this attraction, and now. It's over.

The whole gang go out together all the time, I have to sit there and be happy for them.
God, I''ve been crying. I never cry.

How do I get over this? I mean, what advice do you give me?

I Still wanna hang out with the gang - just because my best mate and him are there doesnt mean I should stop hanging out and dodging them. I should be happy for them, I should support her right no matter how much it hurts me, right?

oh my god i know EXACTLY how you feel. I have a best friend that always gets what she wants and always gets the guy. Its very annoying.

You said that just before her and "your guy" got together she told you that she was still in love with her ex.
Well she might just be using "your guy" to make her ex jealous. Or like you said he could just be the rebound guy.
Either way I don't think that their relationship sounds like it's going to last very long.
I think that you should talk to him, get to know him, secretly flirt with him, just kinda make him fall in love with you,
so if/when their relationship comes to and end, he'll have you. Just make sure your friend doesn't find out and make sure that you don't end up being the rebound girl.

If they don't end up breaking up then don't worry about it. There are plenty of other guys out there and I'm sure you'll meet the right one, one day.

hope i helped.
good luck,
-kat

Q: teachers always think theyre smarter in every way than all the students. the past 3 days 3 different teachers have said something smart ass about me and my boyfriend.

I was cracking his back (and a teacher came up to us and told us to stop smooching, we did nothing , and she physically made us seperate and go to class early)

I was putting my backpack away (once i was done i hugged him and a teacher told me that school was a public place)

These are just some examples. every time a teacher says something like this to me i just want to punch them in the face.
what should i do?
what should i say back?

And its not like were having sex in the hallway, we hug, and occasionally peck on the lips. this is very common for couples at my school

Haha sounds like a typical teacher to me.
I understand how you're feeling. There are teachers at my school who can be serious jerks sometimes and REALLY annoying.
Even though punching them in the face sounds really fun, you shouldn't do it.
And I know it's very tempting to tell them to shut up and mind their own business but talking back to them will probably make them pick on you more or it might get you into trouble so I think the only thing you can really do is just ignore them and shrug it off.
Or just be polite 'yes miss/sir' and walk off.

If it's just one teacher constantly picking on you, then you should talk to the principal or one of your parents and tell them what's been happening.

But if it's a bunch of different teachers just ignore them. They're probably jealous that they can't get a boyfriend, nah just joking, but seriously just ignore them.

Catch up with your boyfriend on the weekends or after school and spend time with him then.

Also try and avoid teachers when you do decide to hug or kiss, if you see a teacher walking your way, wait for them to leave, then do what you gotta do.

Hope this helped
:)

Q: there is this guy i like but i dont know if he likes me, he somtimes has sweaty palms around me, he always gives me a hug, he jokes around with me like grabbing my side, i chatch him staring at me somtimes, he listens to me, he sometimes lets me listen to his ipod, and he asked out the last girl he liked (and got denied) so i dont know if he likes me but is hesitant, or doesnt like me.

Most of these signs mean that he's interested in you but you won't know for sure unless you ask. If you want to be a bit more sure that he likes you before you tell him how you feel, then flirt with him a bit and see how he reacts. If he flirts back then it's likely that he likes you back. If he sort of denies your flirting then it probably means he's not interested and just wants to be friends. Some guys can be really blind and won't notice that you're flirting with them, so if your guy is like that then you should tell him how you feel and hopefully he'll feel the same way. If he doesn't then don't worry because over time if you continue to flirt with him little bit by little bit and continue to be his friend then he might start to like you. But you shouldn't dwell on the same guy forever. If he shows no signs of progress in liking you then you should just move on.
Hope this helped
:)

Q: how do you tease your hair? like without it looking like naughty? wen i do it, it just looks like a huge knot and it doesnt look cute WHAT SO EVER. and my hair is jus so like flat. HELP

The way that I do it is,
I grab a section of my hair and lift it up on top of my head.
I use one of those combs with lots of little bristles and the long metal pole on the end that's used for separating hair, I think it's called a rats tooth comb.
Anyway, I get that section of hair and brush it downwards towards my head.
But I don't start from the roots, I start close to my head so it gives it more volume.
Once I have finished teasing it I spray that section of hair with a bit of hairspray and it usually holds for a long time.
hope this helps

Q: is it better to work out before or after you eat?

You should eat before and after exercising. And if your workout is really intense you should eat something during the workout aswell.
When you eat before exercise, you're giving your body immediate energy to use. But you shouldn't eat a whole tonne of food, eat something light like a whole wheat bagel. If you don't eat properly before the workout then your body will take fat from your internal organs.
Once you have finished your exercise you should eat something light in carbs and rich in protein. If you don't, your body will go into a state of hunger and you'll be very tempted to eat the whole contents of your fridge.
If your workout is very long and very intense then take a break halfway through and have some sports drink or an energy gel. Bread, juice, fruit or an energy bar work too.

Q: Well this might be just a little confusing...But I have this Friend (a guy) and ive known him For a year exacly. last year i met him and he was this shy, scared looking nineth grader (i was in 11th grade) we became friends, Good friends We used to hang out almost everyday and talk for hours and well like i said it's been a year and in that year he has become somone i dont even know anymore it's like were strangers he makes me feel like we never met at all...He recently started hangging out with these girls he has never once talked to before and now...i also hear that he "might" be dating this girl he has known for only a few short months I used to know him like nobody else did and it makes me madd (im NOT Jelous) ive been accused of being jelous and im not im just wondering What happened to the friend i had a year ago?? the friend who used to hang out with just me?? did he grow up and realize that there are other friends...that might be true but he didnt have to desert me like we were never friends to begin with....this makes me sad and hurt all at once...any good advice out there>>> id reallyyy Appricate it....

Now don't take this the wrong way, but maybe your mate just got tired of hanging out with the same person all the time and decided he wanted some new friends to hang out with. Or maybe he wants some friends that are his own age, because what will happen to him when you leave school? He'll be stuck by himself with no one from his year level. What ever the reason may be you have to talk to him about it. Tell him how you feel. If he's a true friend he'll understand if not then you shouldn't waste your time with him. Remember that as you get older you'll lose some friends, you'll make new ones but your true friends will stay with you forever.
Good luck :)

Q: So, my best friend forever is a little opinionated, close minded, and loud. Picture Paris from Gilmore Girls, for example. She's a lot like that but a little more feisty, if you will.
My boyfriend is opinionated about peoples opinions. He made her cry today by bringing up a past relationship problem.
We were hanging out today, the three of us, and she's really trying to be his friend. She even gave him one of her birthday cupcakes! But she's probably given up by now.
He almost didn't kiss me goodbye after I walked him home.
I just feel like I'm between a rock and a hard place here.
he's my first real boyfriend, and we haven't fought so far--its been a month and a half.

Any ideas? :/

I know that at the moment you're probably happy that you have your first real boyfriend and you don't want to stuff things up with him, but he doesn't seem very nice. Your friend is trying to be nice to your boyfriend but he doesn't seem to be making any effort at all. I think that you should talk to him about this. Ask him why he is treating your friend this way. Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself and tell him how you feel. If things don't turn out well with your boyfriend then don't worry because, you're young and you'll have plenty of other boyfriends in the future. If you guys do break up, then you'll at least know that you have your BFF to help cheer you up.

bio

Hey everyone. My name is Katerina but people call me Kat. I am currently 16 years old. I know I'm young but I love to help people out and if you give me a chance I'm sure I can help you.
I'm outgoing and fun. Music is my life. I love the colour blue. Chocolate is my fave. I spend way too much time on the computer. I love making new friends and socializing.

:)