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BFF vs. BF?
So, my best friend forever is a little opinionated, close minded, and loud. Picture Paris from Gilmore Girls, for example. She's a lot like that but a little more feisty, if you will.
My boyfriend is opinionated about peoples opinions. He made her cry today by bringing up a past relationship problem.
We were hanging out today, the three of us, and she's really trying to be his friend. She even gave him one of her birthday cupcakes! But she's probably given up by now.
He almost didn't kiss me goodbye after I walked him home.
I just feel like I'm between a rock and a hard place here.
he's my first real boyfriend, and we haven't fought so far--its been a month and a half.
Any ideas? :/
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I think when it comes to relationships I'm a little old fashion. So first off, you shouldn't have walked him home!!??
But its hard when your in a relationship & have best friends [not saying don't have a BFF or BF]
You say its your first real boyfriend?
well look at it like this, if you hang with your friend all the time he is going to get jealous your not around with him, just like if you chill with him all the time she is going to get jealous yall aren't hanging out....
Talk to him about how he acts toward your friend, see if you can get to the "real" issue, like maybe she said or did something he didn't like a while back and hasn't gotten over it, if you 3 are always hanging out they could cause problems and conflict between everyone. its really hard to have to chose. you didn't state your age, but just think a head, is he going to be there for the rest of your life? or is your friend going to be there?
just give it time and see how everything goes, it may surprise you and they become good friends and every is happy, or they comments and will keep coming & u will lose both....just speak to him & take your BFF opinions, they are your BFFs for a reason right?! =)
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i really think you have to confront your boyfriend. tell him he needs to cut your friend a break! Tell him to cut back a little,not be so mean. and well if he gets mad then it just prooves how much you really matter. and what he is willing to do for you. and if he is even worth your time.
if you have anymore questions PLEASE feel free to ask me.
hope i was able to help in some way =]
yvette
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I would say talk to him and tell him how you feel because she is your best friend.
After you talk to him about and he still won't try to make things work between them,then break up with him because you don't need him in your life if he can't accept your best friend.
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I know that at the moment you're probably happy that you have your first real boyfriend and you don't want to stuff things up with him, but he doesn't seem very nice. Your friend is trying to be nice to your boyfriend but he doesn't seem to be making any effort at all. I think that you should talk to him about this. Ask him why he is treating your friend this way. Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself and tell him how you feel. If things don't turn out well with your boyfriend then don't worry because, you're young and you'll have plenty of other boyfriends in the future. If you guys do break up, then you'll at least know that you have your BFF to help cheer you up.
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Okay. What I don't get is why is he so mean? If he doesn't like your best friend, why wouldn't he like you? Okay it may be your first serious relationship but if he is in the wrong you have to tell him. You can't just pick some guy over your "BFF". So you have been with him for a month and a half. How long have you known your best friend? Picking is hard but if you are stuck under the rock you need to pick at it until it is gone. Choose. Which is the rock that is crushing you?
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