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Q: Alright, well I just broke up with my boyfriend yesterday that I had been dating for 2 months and some days. And we had tried going out like 8 times before and this time it worked out for a while. Well as the relationship went on the attention he was giving me slowed down immensely and he started talking to other girls way more than me and hardly called me anymore and stuff. We talked about it for hours and he didnt change so I finally decided that I could do better. I was pretty happy when I first broke up with him. But then I listened to a song that I used to tell him was to him and tried talking to him online and that upset me and I cried a lil bit but after I stopped talking to him I was better. And he suppesdly still likes me and cares and crap. Should I try and go back out with him or just get over it considering he doesn't want to pay attention to me when he had plenty of opurtunities to change.. thanks xo

Get done with it. Move on. You dont need that in your life. Dont fall that he still likes you stuff. Hes a flirt!

Q: im going up to New York for christmas and new years eve. Me and my friend want to do something awesome for new years eve because its the first year that were able to actually hang out with friends on new years eve, but then thing is we dont know what we want to do.. or what to do lol. what my question is, is does anyone have any ideas on what i can do for new years eve? thanks

I used to live there to. I would just probably go to a club or something or find a party. Depending on how old you are. Anyways.. either way.. you'll have party because its N.Y.E (new years eve)

Q: Okay. My friend told me something not to tell anyone. I accidentally told someone though, like it slipped out. She won't talk to me and she told me to tell the person I was kidding and I was just wondering, so I did and now shes like "you're crazy, you're insane" crap like that and it's really annoying but I don't know how to deal with it, because we were really good friends, and I would think she would have been more mature about something like that. Anyway, my question is what should i do about it, there is no way she is gonna let me have my say and tell her what happened and she won't even talk to me. How should I handle this?

Write her a note and slip it in her mailbox at her house. Thats what someone did for me

Q: Okay!Well my ex bf and I have been broken up for about 5 months and he completly hates me.I have been doing a lot of bad shit in the past 1 and half months. When ever I come to the point where I want to do something really bad, he is the only one who comes to mind. I just want to talk to him and actually have him listen. I just need him to care a LIL bit about me..Thats what I want for christmas more then any present. What should I do?

Go to him. Not just a hey in the hallway actually go to his house maybe with a present and just say look can we talk.. it'd mean something if you took the time out to talk to him and im sure he's not to blind to see that

Q: me and my ex dated for 4months...not a long time i kno but everything was perfect we were totally in love and i realli had faith in our relationship well we broke up in august and i still havent found sum1 that makes me truly happy like chris did. my friend mentioned that i should date her exbf but now she changed her mind and doesnt want me to date him. i respect that because he is her exbf and stuff but she did kind of have my hopes up on finding someone who would treat me right and stuff. i dont kno lately its been goin through my head to just give up on a relationship right now because im only 15 but another part of me wants to keep looking. should i give up for now or keep on looking? i just dont know...~!~xoxo~!~nichole~!~xoxo~!~

Keep looking. I've always told people this .. You are going to go through alot of relationships then end with a heartbreak.. and thats apart of life and thats how it goes on until the end of a fairytale thats not until then you find the one..

Q: Ok...Me and Caitlan are best friends, but we always get in little arguments about the stupidest things, and she gets mad at me sometimes for little things and it causes us to be mad at each other for a while. And everytime i start to like a guy, she hates him and she constantly says mean things about him. Like my ex-boyfriend Jeffrey, she doesnt know him, she's never talked to him and i havent even talked to him for 4 months and she's always like "brittani you still love jeffrey" and alot of crap and it pisses me off! and she gets mad if i get mad at her for that stuff. Then, now i like sean and she gets mad at me all the time for talking to him and it pisses me off! it seems like she's jealous! what should i do?! HELP!!

Makes zero sense to me. You need to be more clearer. But from the drift im getting. I'd talk to her about it and make her relize that you are now living in the future/present... not the past and that you are going to go out with alot of guys and not just stay attached to one..

Q: On Monday I broke up with my boyfriend that I had been with for almost 9 months. Sunday would've marked 9 months. Anyways, I really love him but I think he deserves someone better. We both knew we'd end up together in the end. Well yesterday we were talking and my friend told me that he told her that he wanted to get back with me so bad but he didn't think I wanted to get back with him. So I told him that I wanted to get back with him more than anything. This was all on the net so he told me that I would have to ask him out in person, which I was planning on doing anyway. Well last night we were happy and we were talking and he said he didn't know whether or not he wanted to get back with me because when we're together we're one and he has no control over his life. I said "I get it.. I'll go" and he said bye forever. He didn't even try to stop me. I told him I was going to do something really bad and he said he wouldn't feel guilty about it. A bunch of things were said between each of us and he ended up saying he wanted to talk to me just not then and he knew we'd end up together in the end. I just don't know what to do. Should I just stop talking to him and try to forget him (impossible), or should I wait? I need help. He was my last hope and last night after we stopped talking I cut myself and OD'd. I'm sorry it's so long but someone please tell me what to do.

Well you shouldnt put pity on yourself. By saying your going to do something bad. But if he isnt willing to talk about it.. then i think he isnt worth it. But i would talk to him and tell him how you feel

Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for around 3 and a half months. I really like him and he says he feels the same but we never talk. He acts like all he cares about is seeing how far he can go with me. When we are not hugging or kissing, we just stand around not talking. We just never have anything to talk about. I don't want to break up with him because I really like him but our relationship is based on physical contact and no emotional support. So what should I do?

Talk to him. He may just have a hard time w/communication skills or whatever

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Q: ok i got this bacterial infection in my throat adn i was prescribed pills but i dont care much for them. i took them how i was suposed to for a week and i have like a bunch left but i feel fine, should i continue taking them even tho i feel fine?

i would just take them as long as your were told otherwize you could call your dr. and find out

Q: I'm a 24 yr old girl...and I met this great guy at a bar a few weeks ago and since then everytime I'm out, no matter where I am, he seems to be there. (Like it's meant to be?) Well, I went over to his house after leaving the bars twice. The first time we just hung out, we didn't even kiss... and then the second time we went a lot farther then that. I think he's wonderful and I want him to like me for me even though everytime I see him I'm pretty wasted.. I want to keep talking to him and I don't want to ruin things because I feel wierd and don't know how to act because I went too far with someone new.. but I really like him, I think he's so perfect... what should I do?? How should I act???

Ment to be. Act yourself! And just try to go somewhere without being wasted!

Q: Ok, there's this guy at my school (i live in Vermont) who everyone thinks is gay. Even though the rumors are most likely not true, no one wants to be his friend because of rumors, and neither do my friends. I really think it's terrible how people treat him, and I want to be his friend; I don't believe sexual orientation should affect friendship. How should I be his friend without making my friends mad, or making him feel uncomfortable when my friends want to hang out with me?

I would talk to your consoler and have them drag you all into some kind of theatre or whatever you have at your school and have them talk about that because they do that sort of stuff at our school and it really gave a new perspective. Plus i no this guy named vlad and he is sooo awesome! I would have them meet someone and see what they think of them and later tell them that he is gay.. or she is whatever.. but yeah.. thats what i would do plus people need to grow up

Q: ok well im in junior high and i hang out with these 3 popular girls...and one of them is calling me ugly and a slut and a bitch and a ass hole and crap like that...i think shes jealous of me but she says shes not!! ive tried to be the lil angel just so i could stay friends with her b\c their like the group i hang out with...and were rele popular...she says i am full of myself and im not!! omg she calls me a slut just b\c ive gone out with alot of guys!? soo what? i mean she says everybody thinks im mean and nobody likes me and crap like that and like everytime she gets mad at me she starts all these rumors about me..ughh i dont know what to do.. i rele need some help i feel like shes gonna get the whole scholl saying something bad about me.. i mean i wanna stay cool but she calls me a slut and tells everybody i get on her sn!! omggg and its all not true but nobody ever beleievs me they beleieve her..ughh im soo depressed.. Everytime she gets mad at me..all my other friends do for some reason? ugh im so hurt and shes constantly saying shit about me!!!! But she calls me a slut and a hoe and says im so full of myself when she juss got done telling me she thinks shes sooo hot and popular..ugh thats sounds like shes a lil full of herself..w\e i just hope everything works out for me and my friends...=( i need alot of help!!! plzz....thanks...*sad ashlee*=(

Well listen *sad ahslee* You are in jr. high and jr. high is biatch if i dont say so myself. I actually was kinda.. my friend told me about her sit. I was the only that really didnt get mad her. I just stuck by her. I personally think if you have 1 good friend your set and you are able to get through this i would just call her and talk to her about it or something or maybe if your not to scarred you could go the counsolar about it and talk to her. I mean you dont have to give out her name or anything because that is your own business. But I would talk to her about it and see whats up because noone deserves to be called that. Maybe she does think you go out with 1 to many guys. She may be a bit jealous of that. But trust me ( I know you have probably heard this before but.. ) the older you get the less this sort of stuff will happan. Because you will start to relize that you dont need them. I just relized its better to be friends with everyone then to be in a "group" so that everyones likes you and you always have people sticking by you threw every kind of situation!! Trust me on that one I know it may seem like It will be hard to do but everything will turn out fine. ((Please gimmie feedback)) **trix

Q: Hey,
I need some serious advice a.s.a.p.
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 7mths now and we've kissed,held hands, made-out, and hugged and stuff like that. Now hes been touching me everywhere (and i mean everywhere!) whenever we are really closly hugging or holding each other closely when we sit together, it scares me really bad for some reason and my heart starts pounding, also i am a catholic grl and i follow my religion, i am also only a freshman in HS. I talked to my best friend about it (a guy) and he said he would touch his girlfriend like that too, and my other friends let their boyfriends do that too, now im starting to wonder if im too prude, or im not doing the right thing.
So should i let him touch me?

Thanx to everyone thats gonna help me,
*BaByItSYoU*
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Well no. You dont do something that you want to do. I am sort of just like that. I mean I might react a bit diff. but you do what you want and what is comfortable for you. Have you talked to him about it? I have a couple friends that are like your friends and I have friends who have never frenched. So I have many friends of various types. But just talk to him about it and No what you are doing isnt wrong. I am catholic to and you are just going by what you believe is right and nowhere is that written is that its wrong because its completely right and i give you two thumbs up for sticking to what you want and believe!! ((Please gimmie feedback)) **trix

Q: I need to buy somebody a Nintendo DS for Christmas, but I have no idea where. I've called all of the stores in my area, and they are all sold out. I know next to nothing about Ebay, so unless somebody can point me out a few good auctions I have no idea how to use it. Can anybody give me any help as to where to buy one of these?

I would check online-sorri for pointing out the obvious though

Q: I have a friend that lives quite a way away from me in a different state. We really enjoyed being together at a summer camp, and I really want to stay in touch with her, and "snail mail" goes so slowly. I don't want my parents to find out that I'm constantly sending letters, because she'll think I'm crazy and that I like her and stuff and she'll tell everyone that I know and mess up my life... I know I'm a guy, but how can I just let this be a friendship without people thinkin' I'm serious because I'm not? Thanx in advance!

Well i dont know why'd they get that idea anyways.. i know i wouldnt and im a 15 yr old girl. But whatever just make a point thatyou dont like her say what you want and hopefully they'll believe you

Q: I have a really weirdo stupid dog, lol. She bumped my head and now i have a HUGE bruise. Do you guys know how to get rid of a bruise fast? My parents and my older sister (Who's moving home today, YAY!), are gonna laugh at me and I hate it when they do. I also really don't want to go to school with the stupid bruise. Any help would be appreciated!!
-Caydee-

Cover it up with make-up

Q: I have short finger nails and I need to know a way how not to get nail polish every where aroung my nail, and I use dark colors so it's hard. Does anyone out there know how to do this? If so please help!
♥Jess

Before painting your nails.. push your cuticles down and put lotion on

Q: Ok every night I go to sleep and I dream about this boy I like and I always dream that me and him are having sex....I dont realy know whats going on or like what these dreams mean.

You maybe want to

Q: What can you do with a 7 yr old boy when your babysitting him? Thanx in advance!

Color.. watch cartoons.. go to the park/sledding

bio

My name is Trix, I am 17. I love pink, and degrassi.

I just recently got out of a relationship of 21 months. I love him still but I'm moving on.

I've been there done that im sure

ex. (with the number of expierences)

-Long term relationships (2)
-Bad expierence with BF's family (1)
-Broken bones (11)
-Stitches (2)
-Seen someone killed (1)
-Loss of family (1)
-Cancer in the family (2)
-Family in Iraq (1)
-Mom had brain surgery (2)
-Loss of pet (4)
-Moved from state to state (5)
-New highschool (2)
-Car accident (3)

Like I said "been there done that"