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I really like this boy, but we moved too fast.. how do I act
I'm a 24 yr old girl...and I met this great guy at a bar a few weeks ago and since then everytime I'm out, no matter where I am, he seems to be there. (Like it's meant to be?) Well, I went over to his house after leaving the bars twice. The first time we just hung out, we didn't even kiss... and then the second time we went a lot farther then that. I think he's wonderful and I want him to like me for me even though everytime I see him I'm pretty wasted.. I want to keep talking to him and I don't want to ruin things because I feel wierd and don't know how to act because I went too far with someone new.. but I really like him, I think he's so perfect... what should I do?? How should I act???
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Ment to be. Act yourself! And just try to go somewhere without being wasted!
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first dont get drunk before you see him and think befor you act and i no it may feel pretty awkward but that feeling will go away once you get to know him better and try to contain yourself and try to just kiss or make out for awhile if anything and im pretty sure you wont ruin anything because he probablly feels the same way
~keely
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He's everywhere you go? It sounds a little like stalking...And if you're always wasted when you're around him, how can you be sure that he's "perfect"? You don't exactly have the best judgment when you're drunk...Don't get yourself in trouble. You've already done something you seem to regret with the guy. My advice would be to NOT get drunk one night, see if he appears at the same place you go, and then decide if he's really that great or not. You have to watch out for psycho freaks, cuz' they're everywhere.
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Well..since you met him only a few times..try not to get too much closer than you already have..i mean nobodys perfect! you should act like you always act around him..just make sure you dont give him mixed signals..or let him stalk you..its scary trust me on that one! just be careful! xo muah
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You liek him when your drunk and u do stuff when you drunk so i don't really fidn him trustworthy. I don't think you guys were meant to be that actually kinda creeeps me out that he's uauslly everywhere you are. Either he's stalkign you, its an amzing coincednece, or you are out wayy to much.
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Important first step - cut down on the booze. All a guy sees a boozed up girl for is sex, and you don't have the brain cells active enough to control your labido when the wrong guy hits the right pressure points. Instant female love toy. (Too far with this other guy.) Once you dry out a little and actually talk to the man he may cozy up to you better. That he controled himself on your first hang out session puts him in a better light than the average bar hopping guy. But putting a drunk woman in front of the common male is like waving a red flag at a bull and will earn you no respect in this man's eyes. Dry out, and try again. Luck and Love!
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Well, OK. First thing is first, doesn't it seem a little odd to you that every time he wants to be with you your are wasted!!! I mean come on it sounds like someone is trying to take advantage of someones intoixcation. And on the other hand how long have you really known this guy or do you really, remember you were wasted. I think you might want to salow things down a bunch and if not try not being wasted when you do them so you might be able to really remember what happened. AND if you really like him good for you. You might also want to think about him stalking you just in case since he is EVERYWHERE!
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Not to be mean, but it sounds like he is using you. Both of us have been in this kind of position before, not that anything has happend, but the situation has come up. In this case, you really need to examine your relationship and see what he really means to you? Do you spend most of your time in restaurants and/or bars? Do you then just go to his house where you do sometimes take things to far? Do you really think that this guy is meant for you or do you think that he is just stalking you to make sure you don't cheat on him? Think about it and good luck!
much love,
Steph and Steph's best friend
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At your age you should know by now that the best way to get to know someone is to be yourself. Otherwise what is the point. Try getting together somewhere other than a bar and see what he's like when you are both sober.
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I am a 24 year old chic too, and I know what you're saying. It's extremely hard when you have those drinks in you and you're in the moment. Drinking definately enhances emotions. This is what I did the last time I went out...well, I went with this person to a concert last month and I got totally wasted and we ended up kissing and making out (which I barely remember), but for the next time we went out, the following weekend I made myself have a drinking limit...and believe me, I am someone who cannot control my drinking so it really took a concrete mind-set to make myself not drink too much. I had 3 drinks, none of them with vodka (vodka makes me crazy), but instead with rums, kahlua, and even whisky's. Decide which drink makes you out of control and skip that one...just for the next few times you go out with him to allow yourself time to feel comfortable with how far you want yourself to go..just enough to have some control. Have your drinks be made weak. Try that. I guess that would be my advice, it worked for me, so I hope I was helpful enough for it to work for you!!
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Well, this may seem a bit of a bland answer, but I was just thinkng that next time you go out with him, go somewhere away from the bar. A nice restraunt or a movie. Then afterwards go back home and call it a night. So, I hope I helped a little. Good luck.
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Hmm, well in a way you have put yourself in a bit of a sticky situation. You really really have to be careful that this guys intentions are as sincere if not more than yours. Don't let him just use you for a quick lay. You can't take back what you did, you can only shape and form what happens in the future. So with that said, I think the best thing to do is to call this guy and asks if he wants to get off or a quick bite to eat. If he says no right then and there then you know without a doubt this guy just wants some. If he says sure, well then great. Go out with him to a resturant or a local coffee shop. Don't order and alcoholic beverage. Just stay sober. See how he acts around you. Is it the same? Sincere? Pissed off? Observe all these things. If you are getting good signals from him, then I'd maybe at the end of the day express that you are glad the two of oyu got a chance to get to know each other better 1 on 1 soberly rather than intoxicated. Tell him that's not how you usually are. If he says, yeah me too, well then you know you can continue things with this guy SLOWLY. If he's like, want to go to a bar? You know he just wants you when you are drunk, and you deserve better than that. Good luck! :)
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