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my step dad works for 4 days and then he comes home for 4 days. Every night that he's home him and my mom have sex, they're very loud about it too, that's how I know. How do they not get ever get sick of it? They never take a break. It's like a nightly routine for them.




Sex is a part of a healthy marriage, If the noise bothers you then you could talk to one of them and let them know that you find the noise to be bothersome and ask them if maybe they can tone it down.

Nothing really works better then a pair of headphones though. I do not suggest doing what Adviceman said below, Masturbation is a healthy thing don't get me wrong but doing it because you hear your own parents having sex is just weird.

Try talking to the one you feel most comfortable with.

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I don't know what's wrong with me, but I ALWAYS seem to go after the guys who are either in a relationship, or in this case married. There's this married guy, only two years older than me, so it's not like he's old or anything, who has been giving me some pretty strong signals. We flirt all the time. And it's reached the point where I'm actually wanting to hook up with him due to all the sexual attraction. What do I do? I know it's wrong because he's married...but he's not making it easy on me to just forget about it. So what are some things that we can do to go beyond flirting but not full on cheating?




This man is married, There is nothing you can do.

Of course it is wrong to try and see someone who is married, This man's marriage is his main relationship not you. Getting involved with someone like that is not a good idea, You are stirring drama and feeding into his behavior is only adding fuel to the fire. Move on

The mature thing to do would be to realize that it won't work out, This man is NOT available. Cheaters never win and neither do liars. There is no way to see a man without it being cheating, You feeding into his marriage, You seeing a married man or even having a sexual relationship with one IS CHEATING. It's wrong, It's immoral and it's stupid. Cut contact or tell him to back off would be your best option.

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Okay, well let me start this off by saying my ex still likes me! So.....everytime we r going to hang out I'm up for it cause we r just hanging out right! But, when we actually start hanging out I get nervous/butterflies! Does this mean I still like him?? I REALLY WANNA KNOW IF I DO LIKE HIM!! PLEASE !HELP! ME PLEASE :)



Only YOU know whether you like someone or not. We cannot tell you if you have feelings for someone as we are not you. You are in control of yourself not us.

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Creply : 23 indian)Hi Zane,appreciate your reply.But the thing is i really looking for a guy.but still i didn't feel anyone.That married man always in my mind.there are no words to express my love for him.i need some more advises to forget him.honestly i don't want to lose him.please help me to make my mind



There is no advice none can provide for you unless you are willing to take the steps to do what you should do.


Meaning, If you want to forget him then you need to stop seeing him and stop contacting him. As long as you are focused on this married man you will not allow yourself to move on and meet other people. You not wanting to loose him is also your unwillingness to try and seek a relationship. I do not think you are trying very hard to meet someone else as again you are too focused on what is not possible.

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i'm a girl 23 years old.his age is 28.i'm from india.i met him from my office.he is one of our customers.i'm the person who handle his account.Every day i have to talk to him because of the accounts matters.
day by day we talk more,laugh more.we got very closer to each other.he told me every thing about his life.for his marriage life almost 3 years.his wife 2 years elder than he.still he doesn't have babies and madly waiting for a child.According to him,his wife is not more interesting in sex.but they do sex.his wife not performing well.and she not talk more.
i know him now one and half years.we talk a lot and lot and lot.our ideas are really matching.i had sex with him,its awesome.i like the way talk,the way behave ,the way doing sex,and also he listen to me he can understand me.he is very knowledgeable.he is my dream prince,no words to say my love for him.i feel his love also.
but we cant get together.with our culture he cannot divorce from his wife and he never thought of it.and its not fair for his wife also.
my ex boy friend is in abroad.he is coming next year.he is still waiting for me.but i don't have any feeling about her.i wanna good marriage life.i need somebody only for mine.but it's really hard to forget that guy.i feel him a lot.i have some hope about him.but i know it will never come true.please i need your assistance in this regard




If you want someone to share for yourself, Then find someone else. This man is already involved with someone, He is married and that IS his main relationship. If you want to find a real relationship then I suggest you to look for someone who is available and is not already married.

It is wrong to have affairs, If this man is having an affair with you then what makes you think he isn't cheating on you as well? It's unfaithful and wrong. Find someone else, The last thing you want to get yourself into is drama from a married man.

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So there this guy I liked and he asked me out, of coarse I say yes.The problem is that my friend has had a crush on him since like forever she won't let me near him.My boyfriend never really liked her more than a friend.Like whenever me and my boyfriend are walking together at school she'll come out of nowhere and squeeze in between me and him.She also stares at me and my boyfriend when where sitting and holding hands.I am getting sick of her always doing that.How do I tell her to stop.


Your "friend" is after your boyfriend, Therefore your boyfriend should tell her how it is. It needs and should come from him. No offense but this "friend" sound extremely immature and childish.

Have your boyfriend tell her to back off and stop harassing the two of you. This is YOUR boyfriend and nobody should be coming between that.

Also for the future friends don't come between their relationships. If this girl is so self absorbed to the point where she is willing to sacrifice her relationship with her friends then she shouldn't have friends in the first place. This girl is rude, obnoxious and immature...Chuck her.

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I've told my boyfriend i wanna be fingered by him but i'm reallu scared about it as i'm only 12 but i do really love him but i don't wanna be fingered now, how do i tell him?



You are 12 years old, You are not ready.

Why are you even thinking about sex? You are not mentally nor emotionally mature enough. Wait a few years until you are at least in your late teens. Never let someone pressure you into doing something. Again, You are too YOUNG

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Hi everyone. I'm 20 and my height is 5'7. I saw these beautiful platform pumps with 4" heels, but i'm hesitating to buy them because I think I might be a bit too tall with them. An extra 4" heel will make me stand at 5'11.. is that too tall? Also, i'm not at a perfect weight, I have like 10 pounds extra. Will standing that tall make me look skinnier too... or will I just look like a Miss Giant?? Please help.. thanks in advance. :-))




I really don't see the problem, If you feel comfortable and sexy in heels then go for it. I think it is attractive when women show confidence in themselves and express themselves as well. Nobody should ever tell someone what and what not too wear. As long as you don't stand at no 7 foot then you are just fine.

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is it wrong to be friends with my ex when i have a boyfriend right now? we only dated a few months and broke up BECAUSE we were better off as friends. im sure it makes my boyfriend slightly uncomfortable, but my ex is a pretty good friend. we dont hang out, mostly just text. not hiding anything. opinions?




Everyone has their opinions but in my eyes NEVER befriend an ex you previously dated for the following reasons.

Drama: Exes are known to cause drama and whether that may be one on one with you.....Jealousy sometimes stirs, Tension floats in the air and it is just plain awkward.

Unfair: Staying in contact with an ex is unfair to your current spouse. It will make your boyfriend feel insecure in the relationship. You will or possibly eventually lack trust and his questioning of being paranoid will eventually take it's toll.

Sometimes exes try to intentionally break up a relationship out of jealousy, While there is just so much drama being friends with an ex......Why not just move on and focus on the guy you are with now. Plain and simple.......Exes are nothing but baggage and added stress you seriously don't need. Likewise, It never works out. You both need and should move on and continue with what you have NOW. You are in another relationship and it is not fair to still be having an ex when you are with someone else. It's sort of misleading, It's rude, It's annoying and the stress is not worth it in my eyes.

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I am 17 years old
There is this 40+ year old man that is telling all my friends and his that we had sex alot.
I know who he is kinda but I have never even actually talked to the guy before.
I have told my friends to ask him to stop saying stuff but its just getting worse.
He's saying that he pimped me and we had sex all the time and now even his girlfriend who is also in her 40's is causing me problems.
Is there some sort of legal action I can take?



Yes there is legal action you can take and should take.

This is sexual harassment, You go to the police department and you file a complaint. If I were you I'd pull the creeper a restraining order also. Let the police know exactly what you told us, If you have proof with it make sure you bring it with you.

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i dont wana say this i need help. me and my best friend had sex and now everyday we hangout we go at it like rabbits its not like regular sex we wear kinky outfits and and she shove a cucumber up both our ass i wana know shouldd we stop




If you have to ask us then I'd imagine it would be a good idea if you stop. I'm also going to point out that using food products for sexual pleasure is unsanitary and can lead to infections.

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What to do everyone at school is calling me a gay even though i am not even inclined to that side??




Ignore them, People are always going to judge one way or another. Words hurt, Bullying sucks but dude think about it...

Who are they really making an ass out of? Them.

The mature one is YOU, Ignoring them only makes a fool out of nobody but THEM. If you ignore their comments and they get no reaction out of you then one way or another they will eventually get bored and move on. It's not fun picking on someone when they don't give a flying shit as the whole point in picking on someone is to get them pissed off. Who the hell cares what people think, Be yourself and seriously don't let others immaturity get the best of you. Brush it off, Laugh it off and walk away. (Laughing is the one thing that really pisses people like that off) Trust me.

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So me and this guy have been great friends fer a while...and I always send him messages on facebook, he gets online alot...but doent ever respond to my messages until about a day later....So wht is going on?? And when I talk to him...he always gets off without saying bye...and I is usually right in the midle of our conversation too..... so does anyone have any idea what is going on??




He doesn't sound interested, If you are talking to someone when they are online and they log off in the middle of a conversation then obviously they are trying to drop a hint.

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My in laws have had guardianship over my step son for around 7-8 years. My husband had him at a young age and the mother choose not to take care of him. My mother in law told my husband that my step son needed health insurance and the best way to do that was to give her guardianship and he could use her health insurance. So they did it. My husband has two other kids now with me and has been wanting his son with him. Hes scared to tell his mother he believes she would fight him on it. She also just lost her mother and her only sibling this year. I do not believe he is being well taken care off. The house is pretty gross. He sleeps in the living room. When I watch him during the week when he doesn't have school he arrives at my house at 6 am drinking soda and eating chips. He has been getting in trouble in school. Hes pretty much out of control and they can't handle him nor even trying to get him some help. He whips balls and my in laws smacks their butts etc. I know he would be a handful to handle but I think anyway to help him would have to be done now. I am just not sure what to do.


Your husband needs to file for custody battle, This is something that will need to be taken up with the court and a lawyer


Having a child live in an unsanitary environment is abuse and neglect. Your husband could try going about this the easier route by discussing with the mother it may be in the child's best interest if he lives with you and your husband. If she continues to put up a fight for it then that is where your husband would need to say that it is not fair to the child to have to live in an unsanitary condition and if it is necessary he will take the matter to court and fight for custody of his child. Either way, It will be a battle between them two.


P.S. While I'm at it, Thank you for being one of those people that care. Very seldom do nowadays

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My bf is coming over tomarrow and just a while ago he asked me if we could have sex i was gonna hang up but then i startled and said yes! He got happy and said he loves me and wont try to hurt me then he said he was coming over tomarrow! should i trust him ? Should i have sex with him? Im a 13 yr old girl and my bf is 16...and plz no hurtful words i just need advice! :3 thnxs




I'm going to be blunt because you obviously aren't getting it from your last post.

You are too young, You know you are too young so why are you letting your boyfriend pressure you? You are falling for what every typical teenager your age does today. Are you ready to raise a baby on your own? Can you financially support a baby? Do you have a full time steady job? No I'm not lecturing you, I'm asking you these questions because these are things you SHOULD think about before you go and even attempt to have sex. If your boyfriend threatens to break up with you because you won't have sex with him then clearly he wants nothing but sex in the first place. Seriously, Start using your head. In most states a 16 year old having sex with someone your age is considered ILLEGAL. You are too young to be having sex!

Start using your common sense, You may actually get somewhere in this world.

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One of my managers is in his low 20's, as am i. We both have sexual attractions towards one another and have discussed if we would sleep with each other. Has anyone every slept with their manager? Do you guys think it's a good idea if no one finds out? Thanks




This is a VERY bad idea, Many companies have a policy against co-worker relationships. You as an employee are hired to work for the company, If you sleep with your boss you put your job on the line. It is NOT appropriate to sleep with a boss, manager, coworker. If anything ever happened between the two of you your manager can fire you and press sexual harassment charges against you. Is it really worth the risk?

Seriously, Don't do it

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Im 20/male and Im a virgin. I have had 4 girlfriends. My first one was when I was 16 and she was abstinent, we broke up because she said she liked another guy. My second one I met irl but she moved away so we were long distance and never were able to be together in real life, we broke up because the distance was too hard even though we were deeply in love. My third one was a abstinent as well, but she would grind on me alot and I would finger her, we broke up because her parents didnt like that I wasnt white. My fourth gf would grind on me alot and I would go down on her and finger her and gave her hundreds of orgasms(literally), but she said she wanted to wait till college to have sex, and she chose to go to college across country after dating me for a year. I havent even talked to a girl in over a year, nevermind touched one. My sex drive is now insanely low for a young male, and I maybe think about it once or twice a day and only masturbate once a week probably. I dont know how to get out of this current predicament...




Added onto what the first user already said..


If you want to find a real relationship then I would start looking to date girls in another area, Meaning not long distant relationships, Not one that will moving away, Not one that is all about sexual pleasures for her own benefit. If you have mutual friends try and set up a date when you can all hang out as a group and maybe they can tag some people along. One of the best ways to get to know someone is through friends, If you want to meet someone you have to put yourself out there. Be assertive and try to find a girl that you can see yourself being compatible with. Get to know them as friends first and if you two seem to hit it off then work your way into a relationship.

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18/f. We ended up dating for several months and I broke it off about 6 months ago but we've been friends for about 1 year and a half. I was the one to end things with him because he was lying to me over and over again (about him and his ex and other important things) we stopped talking for a couple of months until one day he called me out of the blue. we tried talking things out but it didn't work so we agreed to being friends. He ended up transferring to my school and I see him every weekday. From the first day I seen him after the break up to a couple of weeks ago I would get irritated with everything he did, the way he talked, the way he looked at me, the way he talked. he used to tell me i wasn't "allowed to talk to other guys" and I started detaching myself from him. We're friends now and we talk every once in a while but for the past week or so, every time I'm not with him I miss everything about him. I miss just having him around me or simply hearing his voice and I'm not sure why. I know I do not want to go out with him because there's too much baggage but why all of a sudden do i miss him? how can i stop myself from missing him? I've tried distracting myself and keeping busy but no matter what I'm doing his always on the back of my mind and it's really starting to bother me. Have any of you ever felt this way towards an ex? how did you guys deal with it?





You likely miss the good times you had with him, However you need to keep reminding yourself that he lied, disrespected and tried to control you. Yes, Telling someone who they can and can't talk to is controlling them. This guy was clearly not a good boyfriend nor the right one for you.

You were irritated because you are in the process of getting over it. You will get over it, It will just take time. Like I always tell people who are dealing with a break up.. Put your anger in gear and use it too move on. All the pissy little fights you two had, All the things that annoyed and pissed you off start thinking about them and then remind yourself this is why you are better off. Seriously, If he couldn't be faithful or be honest with you then the guy didn't and still doesn't deserve you. Nobody deserves to have their feelings played with and on another note he doesn't deserve your friendship either.

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I'm 19/f and me and my boyfriend had sex sometime at the beginning of November, or the end of October. Not real sure. I usually start my period around the 14 of every month. November, I haven't had it at all. I'm getting kind of worried because I usually don't miss a period, and if it's late its only by a day or too. I'm in my first year of college, and Im not ready for a kid right now. I should have thought about that before me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex. He used the pull out method, and it took him a couple of seconds to actually nut by him jacking off. I know prenut can get you pregnant, and I know the pull out method is one of the worst things to do. I should have used condoms, and birth control, but we don't have insurance, and I pay for everything and being a college student, I don't have money, period. It sucks.


But anyways, today would have been a week that my period is late, and I took a home pregnancy test, and it came back negative. Even thought my friends say I should be relieved, I'm still really stressed and worried. I know being stressed won't help my period arrive; but for some reason I just really don't believe I'm pregnant. I haven't had any symptoms at all. But I know that doesn't matter. So I'm stressed.

What do you guys think? Did I take my test too early? Or you guys think I might be in the clear?




There are many things that can delay a period. Stess, Poor dieting, Illness etc.


A pregnancy test should be taken 7-14 days after intercourse. If you don't want to become pregnant then yes, you should start using condoms. You can buy a 3 pack for 4 bucks at just about any pharmacy. I wouldn't panic just yet as it's too early to tell, Stress could be playing a factor as well. I would advise you to be more cautious when having sex next time if you don't want a pregnancy.

Wait another week, Take another test. If you still don't have any signs then see a doctor.

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So I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year and a half, and lately he's been poking other girls over Facebook. He knows that this upsets me, but he continues to do it anyways saying "it's no big deal, it's just poking". I see poking as a way of him flirting and giving other girls attention, am I crazy? Or is it wrong for him to be poking other girls? Especially when he knows it upsets me




Are you serious?


You are getting upset and offended over poking on facebook? If something this small makes you insecure and jealous clearly you shouldn't be in a relationship period. Get over it

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