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What can I do, secually, with a married man without it really being cheating?
I don't know what's wrong with me, but I ALWAYS seem to go after the guys who are either in a relationship, or in this case married. There's this married guy, only two years older than me, so it's not like he's old or anything, who has been giving me some pretty strong signals. We flirt all the time. And it's reached the point where I'm actually wanting to hook up with him due to all the sexual attraction. What do I do? I know it's wrong because he's married...but he's not making it easy on me to just forget about it. So what are some things that we can do to go beyond flirting but not full on cheating?
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he is married love. you shouldent be playing around with that kinda thing. if he doesint want to be with his wife he should get a divorce. flirting is fine. but if he want more than that then you should tell him that if he wants to do stuff he should get a divorce with his wife. other than than just forget about it.
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I want to explore the psychological dimension of this: you seem drawn to men who aren't really that available, either physically or emotionally. Would this be a good description of how you relate to your dad? Is he there for you or is he distant or just not present in your life? Women often repeat in their personal lives what they experience at home (humans, like all animals, tend to be most comfortable with what they know). If this describes you, I would strongly urge you to avoid getting entangled in any relationships for the time being, especially with a married guy, for crying out loud, and see a therapist so that you can work the issue out and then move on to healthier and more fulfilling relationships.
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You should do absolutely nothing. You know what you are doing is wrong because if you didn't you wouldn't be asking this question. Leave the man alone he's married. How would you feel as his wife if you knew he was talking to someone else? How would you feel if you had a boyfriend and he did that to you? You wouldn't like it at all would you? I suggest ignoring him and moving on.
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I agree with sweet-lil-angel.
If you have to ask but you still want to push the boundary, then, it's cheating the moment you begin to try.
Alternatively, if the husband wasnt important, like your boss or a work colleague, you could always go to his wife and inform her of her hubby's false heart. 'cus we know that he's flirting with someone who isnt his wife, he's gone and formed an emotional bond with someone else....
As for you, I dont know you personally, but I might guess that you like the inherent complications that come with married men..
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I think you should picture your self married and your man with another woman.
There is nothing sexual and if your flirting with him hes done been cheating.
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Nothing.
There is nothing 'sexual' that isn't cheating.
Let's be totally fucking honest here:
Cheating is betrayal. It's the breaking of an agreement. It's lying. It's breaking the rules.
Do you think his wife knows he's flirting with you? Do you think thier marriage includes the agreement that lying and flirting with other women is okay?
Probably not. Which means he is ALREADY cheating on her. He is ALREADY betraying her trust and misleading her, and you're helping him do it.
Stop pretending that it's not 'full on cheating'. Stop trying to make excuses. What you are doing is not acceptable, so stop it.
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Have you ever heard of the golden rule?
Do NOT do unto others what you dont want others to do unto you...
pretty simple, do you want a nice, happy, peaceful life? then dont bug and get into a mess in others lives.. its so not fair and its not right. You wouldnt want this to happen to your life, so try to find someone who is available and im sure there is someone there. You know what is right to do, stop this with the married guy. Its really not right. Be strong, dont cause any more trouble. Dont be like eve did to adam... dont be a bad example for others.
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This man is married, There is nothing you can do.
Of course it is wrong to try and see someone who is married, This man's marriage is his main relationship not you. Getting involved with someone like that is not a good idea, You are stirring drama and feeding into his behavior is only adding fuel to the fire. Move on
The mature thing to do would be to realize that it won't work out, This man is NOT available. Cheaters never win and neither do liars. There is no way to see a man without it being cheating, You feeding into his marriage, You seeing a married man or even having a sexual relationship with one IS CHEATING. It's wrong, It's immoral and it's stupid. Cut contact or tell him to back off would be your best option.
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