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I miss my ex boyfriend and I'm not sure how to deal with it?
18/f. We ended up dating for several months and I broke it off about 6 months ago but we've been friends for about 1 year and a half. I was the one to end things with him because he was lying to me over and over again (about him and his ex and other important things) we stopped talking for a couple of months until one day he called me out of the blue. we tried talking things out but it didn't work so we agreed to being friends. He ended up transferring to my school and I see him every weekday. From the first day I seen him after the break up to a couple of weeks ago I would get irritated with everything he did, the way he talked, the way he looked at me, the way he talked. he used to tell me i wasn't "allowed to talk to other guys" and I started detaching myself from him. We're friends now and we talk every once in a while but for the past week or so, every time I'm not with him I miss everything about him. I miss just having him around me or simply hearing his voice and I'm not sure why. I know I do not want to go out with him because there's too much baggage but why all of a sudden do i miss him? how can i stop myself from missing him? I've tried distracting myself and keeping busy but no matter what I'm doing his always on the back of my mind and it's really starting to bother me. Have any of you ever felt this way towards an ex? how did you guys deal with it?
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Get away from this guy. One should ever be friends with liars, let alone lovers.
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I agree with the person below me. I use to get irritated so much about everything my ex did. I just had to keep getting irritated and angry to get completely over him. It's gonna take a while for you to completely get over all of it but it will happen eventually. Just keep doing what you're doing with trying to stay busy. All you're doing is missing the old him and all the sweet things about your relationship. You don't really miss him. You miss his voice because it was something you had loved and it reminds you of the good times. You already know you don't want him back so just keep telling yourself that.
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You likely miss the good times you had with him, However you need to keep reminding yourself that he lied, disrespected and tried to control you. Yes, Telling someone who they can and can't talk to is controlling them. This guy was clearly not a good boyfriend nor the right one for you.
You were irritated because you are in the process of getting over it. You will get over it, It will just take time. Like I always tell people who are dealing with a break up.. Put your anger in gear and use it too move on. All the pissy little fights you two had, All the things that annoyed and pissed you off start thinking about them and then remind yourself this is why you are better off. Seriously, If he couldn't be faithful or be honest with you then the guy didn't and still doesn't deserve you. Nobody deserves to have their feelings played with and on another note he doesn't deserve your friendship either.
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