|
friends with ex
is it wrong to be friends with my ex when i have a boyfriend right now? we only dated a few months and broke up BECAUSE we were better off as friends. im sure it makes my boyfriend slightly uncomfortable, but my ex is a pretty good friend. we dont hang out, mostly just text. not hiding anything. opinions?
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
Kiddo, let me clue you in about men:
generally speaking, guys will only stick around a girl when they have some kind of sexual interest in her. Men are TARGET ORIENTED. Once that disappears, so does the guy. So yes, you need to cut the cord with the ex so that he can learn how to move on and so that you won't promote insecurity in your current boyfriend.
]
Just think of the golden rule, IF you were your boyfriend, would you feel uncomfortable, threatened, or weird if the girl youre with is still friends with her ex?
It is so true, jealusies, dramas etc can still surface...
usually, (since there is karma) we think of respecting the people around us, close to us, by doing what we dont want to be done to ourselves...
this might help...
]
Everyone has their opinions but in my eyes NEVER befriend an ex you previously dated for the following reasons.
Drama: Exes are known to cause drama and whether that may be one on one with you.....Jealousy sometimes stirs, Tension floats in the air and it is just plain awkward.
Unfair: Staying in contact with an ex is unfair to your current spouse. It will make your boyfriend feel insecure in the relationship. You will or possibly eventually lack trust and his questioning of being paranoid will eventually take it's toll.
Sometimes exes try to intentionally break up a relationship out of jealousy, While there is just so much drama being friends with an ex......Why not just move on and focus on the guy you are with now. Plain and simple.......Exes are nothing but baggage and added stress you seriously don't need. Likewise, It never works out. You both need and should move on and continue with what you have NOW. You are in another relationship and it is not fair to still be having an ex when you are with someone else. It's sort of misleading, It's rude, It's annoying and the stress is not worth it in my eyes.
]
No, it's not wrong to be friends with your ex. If you guys are cool with being friends, then it shouldn't be that big of a deal.
If you think he feels uncomfortable, ask him about it, and he'll tell you if he is or not.
Hope I helped, and if you have anymore questions, feel free to message me.
-Kaylie
]
More Questions: |