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i'm doing a project on ghosts and i need to conclude my essay about the believer's and non-believer's views and i'm a bit stuck for ideas! i've written about a few perspective's but i need a few more.
so for what reasons would a person either believe or not believe in ghosts?
Any personal views or points in general would be a great help thank you :)
i rate all answers :)
One reason a person might believe in ghosts is religion. Most religions have some sort of spirits. Personal experiences have a lot to do with whether a person believes in ghosts or not. "Seeing" is believing. That's one reason why people trust the "evidence" that technology can reveal. I don't know how much I helped, but I hope I did! Good luck with your essay. :)
ok so on friday, my freinds and i are going ice skating. i told this guy who i know and we flirt together all the time. I like him but I don't want a b/f right now... I just want to flirt. So, he is coming as well with his freinds and of course we are going to flirt like crazy. I'm just nervous because I don't want him to ask me out and then get turned off..AND I don't want him to go out with this rude snob that I hate. What should I do to prevent him to asking me out? If he does, what should I say?
I mean no offense, but you're being a tease! You're giving this guy the wrong idea by flirting with him so much. I'm not saying that you can't flirt with him, I'm just saying that if you are going to do so you need to make sure that he knows you're not being serious about it. Trust me, what you're doing can really hurt, a guy did it to me before. Leading someone on is just about the cruelest thing you can ever do to them. Try to let him down really easy. You need to tell him nicely, to his face, when you're alone with him, and as soon as you can. The sooner the better because if he tells you that he likes you or asks you out before you tell him how you feel, it's going to hurt him even more. You don't want to break his heart more than you have to! As for the "rude snob", well, it's his choice who he dates. It would be the friend thing to do to talk to him about her and tell him how he shouldn't date her because you don't think she's a good person, but wait a few days after you let him know you don't want to date. If he does ask you out before you get a chance to tell him DO NOT say yes. If you do you'll regret it so much. It's about your happiness too, not just his. Don't sacrifice yourself just to not hurt his feelings. His feelings need to get hurt a little if you don't want to date him, that's just how life is. The downside of all of this is that he may get upset and not talk to you for awhile. It will definitely save you much more trouble than it will make though. I hope that everything works out well and good luck!
This may sound like a really stupid question comming from a mother of 6 but here it goes. I have a 2 year old little girl and she is the love of my life, but lately she is driving me crazy with this whole potty training thing. Does anyone have any advice or tricks that I can use to help her train?? She is the only female child that I have had to potty train. Boys are so much eaiser!!!!!!! Any feedback would be greatly appreciated!!!!!
I remember when I was younger I was potty trained very early. My Godmother actually did it when she babysitted me for one day. Your daughter may have made the conclusion that mom changes her diaper and there's no reason to learn anything new. It's kind of like how kids learn that crying gets them things and they start faking it. If babysat by someone that she doesn't know that well yet, who just flat out tells her that she's not changing her diaper and that she's going to have to use the toilet, she just might. It may not work, but it's worth trying. She probably is quite able to use a toilet, she just won't because she doesn't have to. Another thing you can try was something else that worked for me. Stickers. After I started using the toilet my parents put up a piece of posterboared in the bathroom and bought a bunch of stickers. They made it into a chart. Every time I used the toilet I got to pick a sticker and put it up on the chart. When I didn't, a square was left blank. It worked really well. They used it on my younger sister too. It's not like giving your child a toy or a snack because it's inexpensive, and it's nothing that they can hold in their hands. It's a really good feeling to look at that chart and see all the stickers. I actually remember it. That's how much of an impact it made on me. I hope that you find something that works! Good luck!
How can you tell if one of your contacts is torn? As soon as possible would be appreciated. Thanks!
It hurts a lot! One of mine was torn slightly once and it felt like I had an eyelash under it. You can tell that it's torn pretty much just by looking at it, but if you're not sure just pull it apart a little. If it's not torn the chances of ripping it aren't very high. If there's a crease in it you should probably get a new pair anyways. My theory is, if you think there's anything wrong just throw them out. It's not worth getting an infection or anythign like that. I hope that I was able to help and good luck.
Hey guys, if you have taken ECP(day after pills) please help me out! if you haven't and know alot about it, that works too :o) I had sex with a guy like on the 2nd of January and the condom broke. I went two days after to get ECP and I took it about 48 hours after we had had sex. About 3 days after that I bled for like... maybe a day? It was kinda like having my period but it was very short. The weird thing is that im supposed to get my period at the end of every month, my last period was december 29th ish? soo if that WAS it, it came like, 25 days early! Also, the package says that you have irregular bleeding? could that be it? or was it my period? thanks soo much! btw, Im 16 if that helps any?
Day after pills pump your body up with a huge amount of hormones. Most people that take them get their period quite early. I don't think that that was your period, just the irregular bleeding (spotting) that the package described or possibly something that happened from sex. Just remember that your body isn't used to so many hormones being in there and that they're going to mess your cycle up. I hope I helped and good luck.
I had sex with a guy and the condom broke, its been like... 2 weeks and i was wondering what the earliest signs for pregnancy were? Like,what starts happening to your body? and how soon does it happen? pleeeaaseee i need to know as much as possible! im 16 and i CANNOT be pregnate! thanks alot!
The first sign is a missed period. However, you can miss it from stress. Lets face it, you are in quite a bit of stress. If your period is a week late go and buy a pregnancy test, but remember that you might not be pregnant. Other signs such as soreness or changes in your breasts start after about 4 weeks and morning sickness starts after about 6. It varies from woman to woman though.
When a condom breaks you need to get a day after pill. That is very important. It's about 70% effective, but 70% is a whole lot better than 0! If anything like this ever happens again make sure that you do this. Remember also, that you knew the risks, but made the choice to have sex despite them.
I wish you the best of luck.
I am not a very smart person, but I try hard to learn as much as I can. I learn and learn, but every once in a while, i seem to mess up my grades. I always screw up my good average. I would love to go to Oxford University.When I say love, I mean LOVE!! My life would be complete if I were to actually get in. What could I possibly do to make it into Oxford?
First, talk to your guidance counselor about this. That's what they're there for! Your guidance counselor will definitely be able to help you. I don't know that much about Oxford in particular, but I do know a thing or two about colleges in general. My advice would be to go there for an interview. Make a contact. When a college can put a face and a personality with a name it helps a lot. Another thing that you should concentrate a lot on is your application essay. You'll have to send in an essay with your application that will be read and reviewed and could help your case very much. If an essay really stands out to Admissions, they will consider letting you in even if your grades aren't quite up to par. Try to think of something really interesting or different about yourself and capitalize on that. Even if you don't think that you've had a very interesting life, everyone is unique. Try to think of a defining moment in your life, a person that has inspired you, something you've accomplished, why you are so interested in Oxford, or what you see in your future and how Oxford can help you get there. Even if you don't make it into Oxford, you can go to another school for a year and try to transfer into Oxford. You should have a better chance of getting in and will have a year of college under your belt so you'll have a better idea of what you want to do and what to expect. Again, talk to your guidance counselor about all of this. I wish you the best of luck with everything and I hope that you get into Oxford!
why do people on here ask about touchy questions when they dont want to hear the truth? like for instance some person just asked why people are mean to mormans or something along those lines and although ive never heard that i told the person exactly why i know mormans are unliked from where im from and he flipped on me because i guess thats not what he wanted to here. so if you dont want to hear the truth why do you ask those questions?
I agree with LadyGoodman. A lot of people just come here to rant. They have already decided that there is no solution to their "problem" and aren't open to new ideas. They just want attention and sympathy, or to get something off their chest that is frustrating them. Many already have an answer in mind and just want to see if people agree with them. Sorry, there isn't anything we can do about these people. I think sometimes, even though they can be rude and seem to be oblivious to good advice, they end up helping themselves feel better just by writing down what's wrong. Sometimes, that's all they need, so some good came of it. Missing information, the fact that it can be difficult to express emotions, and that these emotions can easily be misinterpreted adds fuel to the fire. Another thing that can get irritating is when people rate low because they don't like your answer, not because it isn't good advice. I like to think of my rating as a way to gague how well I'm doing and if I do, in fact, give good advice. I use it to figure out what I should improve on or learn more about, and to figure out what kinds of questions I should just avoid altogether. When people give you a 1 saying, "I would never do that", or "I already tried that", isn't it their own fault for not telling us in the first place? People need to understand that we're not telling them what to do and we don't know them. We're just giving them ideas. We can never know what's best for a particular individual, all we can do is try to help. So, that's my advice to you. Just try to help and even if you can't, you'll know that you did your best.
what does it mean to pop someones cherry? or something like that..
A lot of women bleed the first time that they have sex, that's where the popped cherry comes from. However, the phrase itself can be referring to a guy losing his virginity as well. A lot of the time if you have a site like myspace, the first person to leave you a comment will say something like "I popped your comment cherry". It basically means that they had your first comment and there will be more to come. People that say this think that a sexual reference for something completely nonsexual is funny. It doesn't mean that they want to have sex with you or that they think you're a virgin or anything like that, it's just a common thing that a lot of people say to be funny. There's no meaning behind it at all when used in that sense.
Okay Please help me on this..
How many inches are in 3/4 yard??
How many cups are in one gallon??
and
How many centimeters in a kilometer??
I rate high!! Thanx
You already got the answers, but if you ever have questions like this in the future, go to www.ask.com and ask Jeeves! Seriously. It's what I always do and you can get the answers really quickly.
what do you guys consider to be "popular? "
do you think someone that everyone knows of
(as in if sum1 said their name they would automatically know who your talkin about)
or someone who has a large group of friends?
(somone who hangs out with like 15 friends)
this is for a health project, those were questions to ask but let me know what you consider to be "popular" if you dont think its either i rate high thanx alot!
I would have to say that neither of your answers are true. Popularity isn't defined by having a lot of friends, by who knows you, good looks, or by personality. You have to think about it from the other direction. Anyone can have one or more of these traits and not be popular. I believe that someone who is popular is someone who others want to be just like, for the purpose of social advancement. There can be other reasons, but that one must exist, and it must exist for the majority of the people around them. I grew up in a very small school, and the popular kids only had 3 or 4 friends and were generally hated by everyone else. How could they possibly be popular then? Everyone wanted to be like them. They had particular traits that other people wanted to have themselves. It's different in different environments because in each environment, different traits are desireable. If I had to pick one of your two choices I would say the first one, but, again, I don't agree with it completely. I hope I helped you and good luck with your project. :)
what's better:
running for 15 minutes,
or walking for a half hour?
Definitely running. If you keep at it and work hard, you should be able to run about two miles in that amount of time. I am pretty sure that running is 4 times more effective than biking, (you have to bike for an hour to equal 15 minutes of running). Thinking logically from that, biking is a better workout than walking so you'd have to walk for more than an hour to equal 15 minutes of running, depending of course on how fast you were running and if you powerwalked or something. Walking for a half hour though, is very good for you and will keep you in good health if you do it a few times a week. If you just want to be healthy and don't care too much about being in your best shape, walking for a half hour is a very good thing to do. Few people have that kind of dedication. I hope I helped and good luck!
A woman that I used to be friends with is causing problems for me. Well she was a complete bitch to me. She used me, backstabbed me, blackmailed me, tried to control me, and even broke into my email. She made my life a living hell. It got so bad between us that I had to quit working at my old job that we both worked at to avoid her, and I had to put a block on my phone.
Well it's been two years since I've seen her or spoken to her. I got a new job about 3 months ago at a way better company. It got back to me from another friend that she found out I got this new job and wanted the store number! She was also asking one of my friends when my hours were. I'm worried she is plotting something. Should I be worried?
It is very good that you are worried, you definitely should be. I don't think that she's plotting anything, then again I don't know her. In any case though, it is very important to prepare for if she were. I'm not going to repeat what was already said because I definitely can't say it any better, it's very good advice. Thinking on the positive side, maybe your ex-friend wants to apologize to you or rekindle your friendship. Just make sure that you don't rule that out. In no way am I telling you to give her another chance, that's up to you. If she did, in fact, have good intentions and were to show up or contact you in some way and you immediately attacked her, you might instigate something negative or end up not getting the apology that you deserve. Be cautious and I wish you the best of luck.
Hey guys,
I want to do my eyebrows so they don't look so like bad. Should i get them waxed? does waxing hurt? Is there a way I could maybe pluck my eyebrows at home and not have it hurt so bad? thnx much luv xoxoxoxox
I think that waxing is silly. Why pay that money? You'll need to schedule appointments or at least go somewheres and what if you're not able to? You'll have to use tweezers anyways! Plus, a lot of people who get their eyebrows waxed end up with eyebrows that are way too thin, and very unattractive, in my opinion. If you do them yourself you can shape them exactly how you like and no one would ever know you did anything, which is what you want (I would think). People that have bushy eyebrows get noticed and people that have obviously fake eyebrows get noticed. Try to keep them as close to their natural shape as possible. There's not much you can do to make it hurt less when you use tweezers and from what I've heard from friends waxing hurts a lot too. The answer always is "but you get used to it". Why not just get used to something freeee if it's going to hurt anyways? A few tips for tweezing are to put water on your eyebrows beforehand and to put a finger next to the piece of hair that you're trying to take out. That makes it come out faster than just pulling it and it does hurt a lot less. If you pull more than one sometimes that helps too. I've never waxed so I'm sorry that I can't answer those questions. I really recommend tweezers, it's so much easier and much more practical. Whatever you decide, good luck!
I believe in abstinence, which is not having sex until you are married. I was just wondering how many guys would dump a girl who wouldnt have sex with him if they were going out? Guys tell me if you would dump me.
This is a tough one and it's the cause of so many problems in relationships. Yes there are guys out there that "just want sex", but not all guys that may try to talking you into it have the wrong intentions. Sometimes a guy (or girl) may get the feeling like the relationship is...stuck. They want the relationship to grow and progress and they get anxious to take the next step with the other person. They want to get closer and bring the relationship to the next level because they want it to last. A relationship that is "stuck" or at a standstill, for whatever reason, may cause a guy to have doubts about it. Now, I know that you, being a firm believer in abstinance, know how much emotional strain that sex can put on a relationship. Relationships shouldn't be or become solely physical. Waiting for marriage prevents things you may regret and it's a very honorable thing that you don't see much of nowadays to want to be completely committed to someone before sharing something so special as sex with them. I, myself have made the decision to abstain until marriage for lots of reasons and I respect you a lot for what you're doing. One thing you should keep in mind though is, how abstinant are you being? Many people have different interpretations of abstinance and virginity. I noticed that a columnist before me mentioned oral sex. As offensive as it may have seemed it's a very serious and good point. Oral sex is not sexual intercourse as are a number of other sexual practices. You can have a sexual relationship with someone and still keep your virginity intact for when you get married. I think that if you were in a relationship with someone you thought had a lot of potential to be with you for a very long time, that you trusted, but they wanted a sexual relationship with you, you should consider compromising with them. I'm not saying throw away all your beliefs and I'm not saying to agree to a sexual relationship before marriage. I'm just saying consider it. You could lose someone that you could have been very happy in life with if they think that your abstinance means that you are insecure and aren't sure about the relationship. They would think you had doubts so they would have doubts too. People will say "well if he cares about you it wouldn't matter". Sometimes it does. Again, don't give up your beliefs, just think about it. It wouldn't matter if you told the guy you had doubts, sometimes the person that has them doesn't realize it or won't admit it to themselves and he'd think that was what was happening. No matter what you say, sometimes, that's just how abstinance is interpreted. Is it wrong to interpret it that way? No, not really. The main or at least one of the reasons for abstinance is to save yourself for one person. That's insecurity in a way. Everyone is insecure, some people deal with it differently than others. Neither way is bad, just a way that people are different. Back to compromise. You could do sexual things for him and have nothing done to yourself even. It is all up to you no matter what though. Never do something you don't want to and please do not think I am trying to convince you to. To your actual question. There are a lot of guys out there that wouldn't dump you. There are also a lot that would. If you were willing to do those other sexual things, just not intercourse, and a guy dumped you, that's his problem and 90% of the time that means he "just wants sex". The other 10 meaning that he respects your beliefs very much, but just cannot be in a relationship without sex (just like you can't be in one with). If you are really into not doing anything sexual at all, find a guy that believes the same or at least in abstinance. Make sure that any guy you enter a relationship with knows about your beliefs somewhat early in the relationship. There are lots of guys out there that you could end up with and there are more guys out there than you think that do believe in abstinance. My boyfriend belives in abstinance and actually helped me form my own belief in it. So, my advice is to decide what your definition of abstinance is and try to find a guy whose beliefs in the matter are very close to yours. I may not be a guy, but my guy wouldn't dump you :)
I sincerely hope I helped you and good luck.
Hey. :]
Okay to start out with, I have this friend named Shannon. I wouldn't really consider her a friend, because in the past she's really pissed me off & she's just not someone whom I can relate to. But, I still hang out with her, I don't like getting on bad peoples' sides. I'm always so nice to her, but sometimes she'll take it over the edge and yell at me about something so ridiculous & I just snap, but that happens to everybody.
Well, basically today this kid named Gordon that we had just met yesterday went up to Shannon and started physically pushing her around, and stealing her backpack & "strangiling" her. In front of every body at school, he'd literally just throw her up against the wall & it really scared me. Yesterday when I first met him he kept touching me physically just like around my stomach & butt and I felt so uncomfortable. I told him that he should leave me alone because I hate whenever people do that crap. But he tried to do it again today!
I left Shannon while she was getting pushed around by Gordon, only because she was laughing about it, and I thought it was all a big joke. I came back like 5 minutes later and couldn't find Shannon anywhere! Or Gordon, so I started to get worried. I eventually found her 15 minutes later hanging out with some people that would like protect her from Gordon, and he left. She's never ever came to me for anything, or ever told me her feelings before. But, she seemed so worried about Gordon like touching her & stuff and started asking me, why I left her. & She was explaining all the things that had happened.
I'm really pissed now, because Gordons really made me mad. I've never seen Shannon so mentally disrupted in my entire life & she won't stop talking about it. Of course I care about her now because of all of this. Tomorrow I'm going to see Gordon & I just want to know what I should say. I don't want to be too mean but then I'm going to have my good guy friend there with me, so if anything goes wrong or if he starts touching us again he'll get his ass kicked.
Sorry it's so long. But I promise rating & feedback!! :)
Talking to Gordon about it won't change anything. I don't think it's worth it. He's not going to stop just because you told him to and confronting him with another guy will definitely lead to trouble. If there's a fight over it, which is something that is quite likely to happen, you and your guy friend would get into trouble as well. Avoid that by just going directly to an authority figure at your school. Someone you know can and will take care of the problem. It should be just you and Shannon together. Make sure you don't just tell them what happened, also tell them that you feel very uncomfortable and not safe. Gordon sounds like the type of person that is looking for a confrontation so don't give him that satisfaction! After you talk to the higher ups about the situation, it would still be a good idea to have a guy around you whenever possible, at least for awhile. Gordon can't be watched all the time and he may not take gettting talked to or disciplined about what he did very seriously. He probably won't attack you if there's another guy around. I really hope that something is done about this soon. It's definitely not a good situation to be in. Good luck!
okay, I'd like to consider myself computer literate, but I never figured out how to import CDs on your computer to make MP3 files! (not M4A like regular iTunes)
any help would be very much appreciated! I just need to know what program is easiest or what way to import into iTunes. thanks!
I have Windows and Windows Media Player 10 has worked the best for me. You can download it if you don't already have it from Windows Update. Taking music off of a CD is called "ripping". In the media player go to the Rip tab and you should be set from there. If you need any help finding anything or any questions let me know and I'll give you a more detailed explanation. Good luck! :)
I just had a volleyball tournament recently. Well, I got a few injures. I can't extend my left leg without my knee hurting ((Could y'all tell me what's up with that? I skinned it pretty bad)) and I think I cracked my tailbone. And my muscles are real stiff. Can y'all tell me what I can do to relive this pain?
I don't think you need to see a doctor or anything. Your knee got banged up a little and may be bruised. Otherwise, being skinned, it will heal, but it's going to hurt for awhile. Try keeping a bandaid over it to keep it from hardening. That'll help with the stiffness. It can get infected easily so keep it clean. Your tailbone is probably just bruised too and you may feel a throbbing pain from it for awhile, but that's nothing to worry about and sadly, there's not much you can do. Muscle stiffness means that you played really hard. That pain will go away soon. Take a pain reliever and a hot shower. Also, wear kneepads next time. I hope you feel better soon!
this may seem like a dumb question but i heard someone talking about it.
lets say you use a public bathroom & you're a girl. if there's sperm anywhere near the toilet, on the seat, in the toilet itself, is it possible to get pregnant?? if you were juss using the bathroom??
thanks!!
It is possible, but so unlikely that it probably has never happened and never will. Sperm need to be kept at a very particular temperature and only a few degrees variation from that kills them very quickly. Outside of the body on the toilet seat is much too cold for their survival. Secondly, sperm being on a toilet seat in the first place is unlikely. It doesn't just come out at will and most of it would go into the toilet itself. It has to come in direct contact with you to even have a chance. Thirdly, there is only a span of about 4 days a month when it's possible for you to get pregnant at all. Another thing is that sperm usually aren't strong enough to climb all the way up into your body. So basically in order for you to get pregnant from a toilet seat you'd have to be at a very specific time in your cycle, a guy would have to be in the bathroom before you and masturbate on the seat, immediately following he would run out, you would run in, not wipe the seat off before you sat down and rub your butt all over it for the sperm to have much chance at all for anything. Don't worry about getting pregnant from a toilet seat, it's not going to happen.
hey,
i'm in a band and we play shows all the time but lately i've started to blow my voice earlier and earlier in the show. we're a rock band and do loud singing but not death metal screaming. sort of like cobain, if you will. i need advice on how to build up endurance in my voice and still be able to sing as hard as i do. i have no money for vocal training, so any help is hugely appreciated.
thanks in advance
Sing all the time as often as you can and your voice will get stronger. I work at a summer camp and we do a lot of loud singing and shouting and stuff and I usually lose my voice near the beginning of the summer. My voice just can't take it because I'm not a loud person outside of camp. After a few weeks of it though, my voice gets so it can handle all that. The more you talk and sing and are loud the better off you'll be. Don't go overboard, because you'll lose your voice, but try to sing more when you're in the car or the shower or whenever you can find the time. I hope I helped and good luck to you!