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Okay to start out with, I have this friend named Shannon. I wouldn't really consider her a friend, because in the past she's really pissed me off & she's just not someone whom I can relate to. But, I still hang out with her, I don't like getting on bad peoples' sides. I'm always so nice to her, but sometimes she'll take it over the edge and yell at me about something so ridiculous & I just snap, but that happens to everybody.
Well, basically today this kid named Gordon that we had just met yesterday went up to Shannon and started physically pushing her around, and stealing her backpack & "strangiling" her. In front of every body at school, he'd literally just throw her up against the wall & it really scared me. Yesterday when I first met him he kept touching me physically just like around my stomach & butt and I felt so uncomfortable. I told him that he should leave me alone because I hate whenever people do that crap. But he tried to do it again today!
I left Shannon while she was getting pushed around by Gordon, only because she was laughing about it, and I thought it was all a big joke. I came back like 5 minutes later and couldn't find Shannon anywhere! Or Gordon, so I started to get worried. I eventually found her 15 minutes later hanging out with some people that would like protect her from Gordon, and he left. She's never ever came to me for anything, or ever told me her feelings before. But, she seemed so worried about Gordon like touching her & stuff and started asking me, why I left her. & She was explaining all the things that had happened.
I'm really pissed now, because Gordons really made me mad. I've never seen Shannon so mentally disrupted in my entire life & she won't stop talking about it. Of course I care about her now because of all of this. Tomorrow I'm going to see Gordon & I just want to know what I should say. I don't want to be too mean but then I'm going to have my good guy friend there with me, so if anything goes wrong or if he starts touching us again he'll get his ass kicked.
Sorry it's so long. But I promise rating & feedback!! :)
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Talking to Gordon about it won't change anything. I don't think it's worth it. He's not going to stop just because you told him to and confronting him with another guy will definitely lead to trouble. If there's a fight over it, which is something that is quite likely to happen, you and your guy friend would get into trouble as well. Avoid that by just going directly to an authority figure at your school. Someone you know can and will take care of the problem. It should be just you and Shannon together. Make sure you don't just tell them what happened, also tell them that you feel very uncomfortable and not safe. Gordon sounds like the type of person that is looking for a confrontation so don't give him that satisfaction! After you talk to the higher ups about the situation, it would still be a good idea to have a guy around you whenever possible, at least for awhile. Gordon can't be watched all the time and he may not take gettting talked to or disciplined about what he did very seriously. He probably won't attack you if there's another guy around. I really hope that something is done about this soon. It's definitely not a good situation to be in. Good luck!
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you need to be very firm and serious with him, tell him you do not ever want to be touched that way by him and neither does your friend and if he continues to do so you will report him. Seriously it's not wimping out getting some sort of authority of your school involved. Just have a quiet word with a teacher tellig her what's going on and take it from there if it doesn't stop.
Some people just have no sense of physical boundaries but since you already told him you dont like it he just sounds like a bit of a creep who needs to be kept under control.
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you are both being sexually harrassed, which is a very big deal, especially in schools. don't take it. if you have told him to leave you alone, and he still refuses, it is an extremely big deal! you need to talk to your school counselor or principle about it. don't think you're being immature and "tattle-telling" in this case. he needs to realize that he can't treat women like that. good luck!
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Kick his ass
film it
put it on the internet and splice some "pervert" messages in it
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this guy is abusive, and sounds potentially very dangerous, confronting him with a few guy friends is the 1st step, you dont need to be nasty, just firm and to the point,if things escalate,(sounds like they might) you dont want him to be able to say you started anything. with your friends, as both protectors, and witnesses, tell gordon clearly not to touch you or shannon again, in any way shape or form. tell him its uncomfortable when he touches you and that his attentions are not welcome,to either you or shannon.if and when he attacks either of you again, you must follow through with your witnesses in tow, tell your principal, and your parents.your witnesses must be willing to tell the prinipal or anyone else it concerns that they saw and heard you tell him to stop.if his abuse persist, your's and or shannons parents, may need to take legal action.dont allow this guy to hit or suggestivly touch either of you without telling someone.good luck!
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Well a guy that does stuff like needs to be put in his place. The best thing is to tell him or even scare him alittle. Tell him that you will sue for sexual harrassment and if he stops now you wont have to go that far. Suggest you guys can be friends but nothing more than that an dtell him you will protect your friend also.
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Wow! what a freak that guy is, ya defiantly confront him with your guy friends and you know what? you should threaten him or something. Be like "Gordon what's your problem?" and if he's all like acting stupid and stuff just be stern and tell him off. tell him you don't like it when he touches and messes around with you and your friend and be like i want you to leave us alone. I'm sure he'll be to scared to mess with you with your guy friends there. so ya and let me know what happens via inbox ok I'm curious lol!
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