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worried former friend is plotting revenge
A woman that I used to be friends with is causing problems for me. Well she was a complete bitch to me. She used me, backstabbed me, blackmailed me, tried to control me, and even broke into my email. She made my life a living hell. It got so bad between us that I had to quit working at my old job that we both worked at to avoid her, and I had to put a block on my phone.
Well it's been two years since I've seen her or spoken to her. I got a new job about 3 months ago at a way better company. It got back to me from another friend that she found out I got this new job and wanted the store number! She was also asking one of my friends when my hours were. I'm worried she is plotting something. Should I be worried?
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go to the police if she does anything again.
she should be locked up in a mental place for all of this. you could always get a restraining order from her.
i think it would be better if i knew your age...
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My mum used to know someone similar to this. Luckily she lived a long way away soit was easier to break contact. Get a restraining order and tell the people at work, make sure they know what's going on. Take whatever measures you need to in order to make sure you don't see this woman.
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Yes, you should be worried. Please file a restraining or protective order; that means that if she comes withing a certain distance of your home or workplace, she can be arrested. Also, make sure none of your friends give out any work information. I wish you the best.
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Yes, you should be worried. This woman sounds dangerous unbalanced and you although you shouldn't be unnecessarily paranoid, you ought to be concerned in any case. Let your employer know about this individual and ensure that none of your friends give out any of your work information. If you experience harassment of any sort, *do* contact the police.
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It is very good that you are worried, you definitely should be. I don't think that she's plotting anything, then again I don't know her. In any case though, it is very important to prepare for if she were. I'm not going to repeat what was already said because I definitely can't say it any better, it's very good advice. Thinking on the positive side, maybe your ex-friend wants to apologize to you or rekindle your friendship. Just make sure that you don't rule that out. In no way am I telling you to give her another chance, that's up to you. If she did, in fact, have good intentions and were to show up or contact you in some way and you immediately attacked her, you might instigate something negative or end up not getting the apology that you deserve. Be cautious and I wish you the best of luck.
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The first thing you need to do is let your boss know what is going on. That way he has a heads up and she won't get you into trouble at your new job.
You should also make sure that it is policy for them at work not to give anyone your home number or any personal information. That is usually the case, but to be on the safe side your boss may want to make sure that everyone knows the policy.
Then, if she in any way tries to harass you, call the police and let her know in no uncertain terms that you are not going to put up with her harassment. You may be able to get her for stalking you if she attempts to follow you around.
Hopefully your friends know not to give her your personal information. If they don't, make sure they do.
And finally, if you get off work after dark, have someone walk you to your car until you feel that the threat of her attempting to locate you has passed.
I don't tell you any of these things to scare you, but she does sound a few bricks short of a load. Why take chances. Call police if she even threatens ANYTHING. :)
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