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My name is Carrie, and I just recently turned 25. I've been told that I give excellent advice, so I created this column last year with the intention of helping as many people as possible. Although I do believe I succeeded, I ultimately turned my back on this column when I discovered just how cruel and thankless some people can be. Almost one year later a lot has changed. I've gained a whole new perspective on life and the world around me. I'm much more positive, sympathetic, and willing to listen when people truly need help. So now I've decided to come back and focus my attention on the individuals who are truly in need of advice.
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My BF and I were having anal and we had no idea what we where doing, so for some reason his penis went down towards my vagina and then the condom broke. We don't think there was any seman on it or anything because he did not cum. so i took a test and it said i wasn't and then i got my period today, but its really light and spotting. Could i still be pragent? or what is the chance of me being pragent? (link)
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My advice is to not do anything sexually if you don't know what you're doing. If you haven't done something before, instead of just jumping into it, do some research first and learn about what you're getting yourself into. Yes, it might take some effort on your part and his, but it beats the effort both of you (probably and especially you) will be putting into raising a child you aren't ready for.
If I were you, I would go to the doctor and get yourself checked out - make sure you aren't pregnant or anything like that. The chance of you being pregnant from this sexual experience - if it took place the way you said it did, which I'm sure it did - is very, very slim. I wouldn't worry if I were you, but I would play it safe and go get things checked out.
If you decide to have anal sex again in the future, use an obscene amount of lubrication. You can NEVER use too much lubrication - I tell this to people all the time when it comes to anal sex. Your problem was, if you were using any at all, you probably weren't using enough and the friction caused the latex to tear. Not only might his condom tear, but your anus could tear and cause bleeding and expose you to a lot of stuff NOBODY wants to be exposed to.
So here's my anal sex checklist in case you decide to do it again:
1. Make him use a condom like you did before - (don't let him use more than one condom - don't let him "double bag it." Latex on latex friction makes it very easy for condoms to break and actually defeats the purpose of wearing any condom at all.).
2. Use lots of lubrication. Just when you think you've used too much, use more. There's no such thing as too much lubrication. Lubricate his penis, lubricate your anus, lubricate fingers or any toys that may be involved...go crazy with the lubrication.
3. Stimulate yourself anally before he penetrates you. He can use his fingers; you can use yours, or you can experiment with a toy. Either way, the anus is not meant for penetration, so if you're going to penetrate it then do it gradually.
4. Practice breathing techniques before and during anal play. Learn to relax yourself through the power of breathing properly. There's a bunch of websites out there - educate yourself. If you tense up, so will your anus, and it'll be even more difficult for him to get inside. When you learn to breathe properly, it can be a very enjoyable experience.
I hope this helps. :)
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I have a friend whos going out with this guy i really like but nobody knows. I dont think hes really interested in her but he said he likes her. THe dont talk often or anything. I like him i'm not afraid to talk to him and i pretend i'm happy for them. Hes really shy around me and hes only talked to me a couple of times and i mainly have to start the conversations and hes only started in a couple of times. I realllllllllllly like him and everything but i'm afraid to lose my friend. I think hje would go out with me because my friend was in the same situation as me and they ended up going out. Hes really cute to (link)
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You should have spoken up about your feelings sooner. Obviously your friend doesn't hesitate when it comes to things she wants. You should take a cue from her. Nobody can read your mind, and if you're not gonna say how you feel, then you have no one to blame but yourself. Take this as a lesson learned.
Unfortunately, there's really nothing you can do but bite your tongue. Your friend did nothing wrong, so you shouldn't burden her with your feelings. You'll just make everything awkward if you open up about this after the fact. In the meantime, find other ways to express yourself. This pain will pass.
There's going to be lots of cute boys that you like in your lifetime, but if you're like most people, there will be a shortage of friends. So I would keep the friend and put my crush on this guy on the back burner. Way down the line if things don't work out between them, you may have another chance with him.
Take this time to focus on your friendship and yourself. Be more assertive and go after what you want in the future. If you don't, you're going to spend a large portion of your life on the sidelines being the girl who always wanted things but was never willing to go get them. I've been that girl, and it sucks.
So take control now while you're still young.
(...God I'm old.)
:)
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I have been talking to this man for a few weeks..right away we hit it off..but the thing of it is..hes in another state..do u think someone can actually feel something for you with out even meeting you? he is willing to come and see me in a few months..but he wants to get to know me..i just dont know if i can believe that..im a lil confused..this is all new to me..i am 29 female.. (link)
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I absolutely believe in long distance relationships and internet dating. It's not ideal, but it happens all the time. Many relationships start because of dating websites and are kept alive through instant messaging. In 2007, it's not uncommon at all.
Unfortunately, like all matters of the heart, it's a game and you have to play to win. Be safe and responsible. Don't let your feelings get the best of you and make decisions you'll regret later on. Take your time with this and take things very slowly.
The slower things go and the longer you take to get to know him before you meet, the more informed you'll be about his character and what you might be getting yourself into. It's true that there are a lot of bad people on the internet, but isn't that true about anywhere in the world?
Just be smart about this and use your head. Don't be afraid to be selfish and do what's best for YOU and your life. Any guy worth taking a risk for will be willing to wait patiently and be understanding. It's not the same for us as it is for them. If he can't comprehend that, he doesn't deserve your love.
Good luck!
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ok im 14/f 5 feet 7 inches tall and i weigh about 119 lbs. and i want to just loose alittle of that extra belly flab, what should i do to loose it before summer is over? (link)
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Do any kind of aerobics that focus on your stomach.
I would suggest doing crunches, sit ups, waist bends, etc. If you can join a gym, do it. They have a ton of equipment that specifically works on your abs. If you're interested in bringing the gym to your home, they have many items like the Ab Lounger that can help you to firm up your belly.
Finally, do a search on Google for post-pregnancy exercises. Nobody in the world wants to lose their bellies more than women who've just given birth. They have the absolute best tips on how to make your stomach disappear ASAP. Hope this helps. :)
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i'm going to the library on wednesday.
& i'm just wondering what are some good books to read..
i've read twilight, new moon, lovely bones, a lot from laurlene mcdaniel & a bunch others like that.
im interested in getthing.. this lullaby & sara dessen books. =]
but if you can think of any that are kind of like that. i woulddd appreciate it. thanks! (link)
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Whenever I want any kind of entertainment reference, I go to Amazon.com and type in stuff that I like. There's a section on their site that says something like "people who purchased this title are also interested in these titles..." and they show you a few links to items similar to the one you like.
Just click on one of the links and you get a few new links. Just continue doing that until you find a couple books (also works with CDs, DVDs, games, etc.) you're interested in checking out from the library. Hope this helps. :)
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ok i'm 15, 16 this year
i get a £10 a week off of my gran
my mum and dad live on benifits
next year *june* me and my friends are planning on going on holiday
i need help on how to save my money to go on holiday because if i saved my £10 a week then i won't be able to go out at all for the next year,....i am looking for a job but i some help in the mean time
any ideas would be much appreciated (link)
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You should talk to your neighbors and/or relatives.
Trust me, I guarantee you that there's someone you know who'll have some chores you can do or need someone who can help them out. Babysitting, house sitting, washing cars, delivering newspapers, mowing yards, dog walking, etc. are all things that many, many people need help with.
Ask around and don't be shy - promote yourself and your skills. Someone will admire your ambition and take you up on your offer. There's not a person in this world who can't relate to your situation - everyone could use a vacation. :)
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ok i live in a small town, and me and my friends walk all over, like to small resteraunts and stuff, im 14/f by the way not like an adult. and i see this kid that i like sometimes all over. but he hates me, he doesnt really know me and i dont know why i like him, but i cant help myself, hes not even good looking. neway, i just want to become friends with him, i kinda know its impossible, but idk, what should i do? (link)
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I don't think becoming friends with him or anything else is impossible. You should be more positive and try to be more optimistic. Maybe you have low self esteem and he's picking up on that. It's time for a little more positivity in your life. When you like yourself, others will like you too. You just have to be secure in who you are.
Also, many guys who are around your age don't know how to express interest in a girl yet. All they know how to express is indifference and/or dislike - like is usually much harder for them. Look at this as a challenge - make him like you. What's the worst that can happen? You find out he's not worth your time and you're better off without.
That sounds like a pretty good lesson to learn to me!
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sometimes when i wake up in the morning and look in the mirror i have blood all over my teeth and my lips are all brown because it's dried blood (cus i have to sleep with my mouth open cus im a severe allergy sufferer). I know that it's not chocolate or anything because i always brush my teeth at night and my teeth are fine. this has happened to me probably 5 times, once at a sleepover (!) which made me rush to the bathroom really quick before anyone else saw. does anyone have any advice as to how to stop this and does anyone have the slightest idea what it could be (and why) it's happening? thanks. (link)
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I would definitely advise you to get to the dentist ASAP. While I highly doubt that this is an emergency, it's something you wanna get checked out. If I were you, I would start a journal and write down my nightly routine for a week. Maybe you're doing something without thinking about it and it's causing this to happen.
Maybe brushing your teeth before bed is causing this to happen. Maybe you're eating or drinking something that's irritating your gums. Like someone else said, maybe you're grinding your teeth as you sleep. There's endless possibilities, but writing down your routine will help to put those possibilities in your face and hopefully narrow it down so that you can find out what the problem is.
Good luck!
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Say if you wanted to dream about something specific, like a person or a character what are ways you could do that? Like what do you think about/do in the day so you can dream about something you want to at night? (link)
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There's absolutely no way you can control your dreams. Your dreams are made up of random thoughts - a part of your brain that only opens up when you're asleep. Think of your brain as a computer. Different parts of your brain are made up of different folders. Throughout the day, certain memories (people, sounds, visuals, colors, thoughts, fears, conversations, etc.) are put into a folder that can only be accessed when you're asleep. Since the human mind is incapable of selecting the contents that go into that folder, we're unable to determine what our dreams will be.
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so thursday i get my license and i live in california so can anyone tell me what they ask other then hand signals, where headlights are, emergency lights, and windshield whipers. what are htey going to have you do? is it hard to pass? also i heard that after you pass every signal your suposed to check your mirrors (left, center, right) is that right?
i also heard that when they ask you to turn on your car they don't want you to turn it on fully but i drive a prius and it only has a power button to turn on fully even if my foot isnt on the brake it turns on fully because they need to make sure your lights are working and stuff? so what do i do about taht
thanks so much (link)
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I'm not from California, but this link may help you out.
http://www.dmv.ca.gov/pubs/interactive/tdrive/exam.htm
Also, try Google for other sites that may be able to help you prepare for your test.
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Why would a guy chase after you for months and act REALLY interested, but then when you finally flirt back he cools off? This happened to me, so I cooled off back and now he's acting interested again! Can anyone explain this to me? (link)
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Some guys like the thrill of the chase. They want what they can't have, and when they can have it they don't want it anymore. These guys are usually very immature. If I were you, I would proceed with caution and keep my heart guarded. He sounds like trouble and probably isn't worth your attention. Consider focusing it elsewhere. Good luck. :)
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i was wondering if girls like it when you shave your balls or not cause i am debateing if i want to shave them (link)
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I don't like when guys groom too much down there. If your girl likes you looking a specific way and you're OK with it, tell her to groom you however she likes. I like a manly man who takes control, but I also like a man who's smart enough (and open enough) to let me have the final say. If you're willing to do something like that for a girl, she's going to be much more willing to do something for you.
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15 f (might be long jsut please bare with me, i will rate!)
ok so i broke up with my bf because i felt we didnt have communication anymore or trust. we were together for 9 months. i still really love him. i asked him for a break but he didnt want it. so now hes always online adn i have the urge to talk to him always, so i aimed him today and he was alwys liek being eman to me. so i told him why are you awlays mean to me like i did something horrible o you. and he said "omfg, the funny thing is that you ask me that! wtf, you know what you did" so he blocked me right after that. i know what i did and i feel horrible for brakign up with him but he had no trust. i still love him though. and i dont know what to do. i know hell unblock me, what should i do? any advice? comments? about us? anything? thanks (link)
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It was very mature of you to realize that you needed a break, but somewhere along the line your maturity took a dive and your emotions took over. It's completely normal to be sad, devastated, heartbroken, etc. after a break up (no matter who caused it), but you need to relax and calm down. Your pain will pass, and it's not the end of the world. If you needed a break and he couldn't comprehend the complexity of that, then you're too good for him anyway.
You need to stay in control of your emotions and your actions. Stop stalking him via AIM. If he's blocked you, he obviously needs some time away from you, and you have no choice other than to respect that. You're being a hypocrite now by not giving him the break he needs. You can get through this moment with or without your dignity, but if you ever want another chance to get back together with him, I would suggest getting a hold of yourself right now.
Don't turn this into some overly dramatic teen moment. Handle this heartache maturely - I guarantee you there's more heartache to come. You have to learn how to deal with it. Don't let the pain control you - you control it. If you continue to go on with your life and not let the pain overwhelm you, eventually it will begin to fade away, and your broken heart will begin to heal. Don't let him or this moment consume you. Stay focused on your goals.
You have your whole life ahead of you and the power to choose how big of a moment this will be. Choose to underreact instead of overreact. Don't feed the pain by dwelling on the situation or on him. Just keep living your life and time will take care of everything. You're not the first person to get their heart broken. I promise you, you'll be fine. You started this situation by making the mature decision, so end it the same exact way. Give him space and be patient.
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I'm kinda bored at my house.
I was wondering if you had any ideas of what I could do with my boyfriend. To distract ourselves from making out. :]
Things at house and things away from house. I'm going to dye his hair but not any time soon, so I'm not sure what to do.
We are up for anything really. To watching disney movies to taking pictures.. going to a park. I don't want to do the same things in case he gets bored.
Ideas? (link)
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Put a 10,000 piece puzzle together. Play a board game. Play a video game. Play an outside summer game (like horseshoes, croquet, badminton, etc.). Get two word puzzle books (the same ones!) and have word puzzle races. Take turns coloring the pictures from a coloring book.
Paint pictures for each other - give yourselves a time limit and don't show the other what you're painting - then surprise each other with something sweet and heartfelt. Watch a TV show together - something with a storyline that you can both get involved in. Go volunteer.
Anything you can do with your hands that takes some imagination and focus will help keep your minds off of each other. Also, something else you might want to try - time your make out sessions. Give yourselves a set amount of time to get it on, and then get it out of your systems.
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ok well im really confused! here's the situation: im 13 and me & my boyfriend have been together for over 2 years. i know he really loves me and we're like best friends too. he tells me he wants to stay together forever and someday get married (i know that probably wont happen, but anyway...)
the problem is he flirts with other girls all the time. its like hes trying to get them to like him, or make them think he likes them. ive told him like a zillion times how bad it makes me feel. he'll stop for a while, but then he'll do it again. sometimes i get the feeling he really does like another girl and wishes he could go out with her. it makes me so jealous and mad and i hate feeling that way.
so i asked my sister and brother for advice. my sister says: i should dump him. that if he really loved me, he wouldnt be interested in other girls and would care about my feelings. she says he wants his cake and eat it too and i shouldnt let him do that. she thinks hes just keeping me around until he finds someone he likes better and then he'll dump me.
but my brother says: its just harmless flirting thats normal for a boy his age. that most relationships our age dont last this long so its only natural for his mind to wander sometimes. but since hes stayed with me for all this time it must mean he really loves me. so my brother thinks i should stay with him and not let it bother me.
sooooo... who do you think is right??? (link)
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I think both your brother and sister are right. True, if he loved you he wouldn't continue to do something that hurts you, but (please don't take this the wrong way) he's just a boy and you can't expect that much from him. It's a scientific fact that girls mature much faster than boys do. You're probably way more mature than he is. In fact, I bet the two of you are sharing a very different relationship experience because of the maturity difference.
A part of me is in shock that you and he have been together for so long (I'm assuming he's a young teen as well). I wouldn't dismiss him as quickly as your sister is suggesting, but I also wouldn't put up with his behavior the way your brother is suggesting. Since no one is forcing him to be in this relationship, he needs to step up and take an active role as the man. Somewhere in the middle is where the two of you should meet - with you maybe expecting a little less from him and him putting in a little more effort for you.
He needs to quit flirting or at least tone it down to the point that it doesn't bother you. You need to not be so bothered by his actions and focus on yourself. He might be trying to get a reaction out of you. It's a selfish thing guys do to feel that they have power over you. Don't give him the satisfaction and go on as if it doesn't phase you. Or try to make him jealous. Sure, you'd be sinking down to his level, but it might put an end to his flirting once and for all. If he can play games, so can you - and even better.
Finally, I just wanted to say that you seem very smart and level headed. I love the comment about marriage not happening. I like that you're wise enough to be realistic about your relationship (even though I HOPE it all works out for you). I'm 24, and I can tell you that most people my age still aren't as grounded and mature as you come across. So good luck and read my profile if you need any more help. :)
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My dad has been acting all mean lately. He used to be so nice and we would always hang out. Like tonight, I was in his office because he was trying to fix my computer, and then he said I have to concentrate, get out. So I was with my dog and I was about to leave when all of a sudden he tried to kick me and hit me. He NEVER did anything like that to me and he doesn't drink or anything. I ran to my mom in her room and he was about to throw my computer. He also canceled our trip tomorrow. It was really hard to breathe and my mom said he was very mad to. I'm really scared and sad. Now my trips canceled because my stupid dad. No offense but I think I hate him. I hate my dad! (link)
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Wow. I'm so sorry you had to go through this. If this behavior isn't typical of your father, something big must be happening in his life that's causing him to stress out (maybe something you don't know about) and lash out in anger. Even if that's the case, we all stress out from time to time and have to keep our hands to ourselves. Whatever your dad is going through, it gives him no right to be a jerk and try to harm you (or your dog) physically.
If (and only IF) your dad truly isn't like this normally, I would wait for him to calm down and then bring this up to his attention. Tell him how hurt and angry what he's done has made you. But if he's done stuff like this in the past or this behavior continues, I would tell another adult - a teacher, a neighbor, an aunt/uncle, grandparent, etc. - someone who can help put a stop to this. You've done absolutely nothing to deserve this kind of treatment - nothing at all.
Whatever's going on in your dad's life shouldn't affect his attitude towards you. If he can't control his temper, he needs to get some help before he does something he regrets. His problems shouldn't become yours. And if this situation has caused you to be angry at him - that's OK. You have every right to be angry. I would be too. Allow yourself to feel it and express it in a healthy way like he should have done!
If you need any more help, please read my profile. :)
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This is from: Friendship to Relationship
Well I am not ready for a relationship; I was curios if friends can get together and if it will last a good relationship.
I am a women who is slowly realizing that I am Bi, I had past boyfriends but didn’t work out, I am still good friends with my last boyfriend and I talk to him often. The reason why I broke up with him is because I didn’t want to be with someone that I don’t like, while I was crashing on someone else. And she is my best friend that I new for 9 years. In those years I started to have deep feelings for her and I didn’t understand why I did.
I started to think about her 24 hours a day and I help her on her issues, be there by her side when life got her down and I wish for her happiness.
I might be in love with her but I don’t know, I don’t want to see her with someone else and not with me but I can’t stop her on who she will like.
I told her how I felt about her and she was shocked but supported, she told me she will still be my friend no matter how I feel in my heart. She felt fine about me liking her but she doesn’t feel the same about me and she not sure herself about what gender she is interest in.
I was glad she told me that because I am not ready for a relationship with a women and I want to find out who I am before I make that decision.
She is very close to me and a touchy person; I get confused about her because before I told her how I felt about her, she then is a touchy close person to me. And when I told her how I felt she IS STILL a close person to me.
I try not to think much about it but then I start to think that she might like me back but not sure her self.
I would ask her but I don’t want to it‘ll be award. I want to get over her and move on and that’s what I am going to do. I don’t want to wait for her to make a decision IF she likes me back. But if she tells me that she does I will make that risk and go out with her. But its her decision, I want to see her as my friend but I just cant so that’s why I am planning to move away out of state and start new.
Is that right should I move on?
Why is she close to me STILL?
Sorry that this is long…
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Thank you for writing me back and giving me some more information about your situation. I'm in a similar predicament too but in your friend's position. I've been friends with this guy for about 3 years, and he's fallen in love with me and seems to be unable to just be my friend. So I know how tough it must be for you and your friend as well.
Before you move away (if your feelings for your friend are the only reason you're leaving), I would ask that you try to look beyond your feelings for her and think of how much she cares for you as a friend. This is a person who accepted you when many people wouldn't have. She still treats you the the same - with love, respect, and acceptance.
Do you really want to shut her and all of her many wonderful traits out of your life forever? And do you really want to leave her without your support when she was there to give you hers? Just as you can't turn your feelings for her off, she can't turn her feelings for you on. It's frustrating, but you both have very little control over this situation.
Whatever decision you make, there's going to be pain involved. Unfortunately, that's life. You're going to hurt either way, but at least you'll be hurting with a friend by your side who will support you and help you through it. Whether your friend remains in your life or not, your feelings for her will eventually fade away. I'll explain more later.
If you decide that the friendship isn't worth the pain you're feeling, pursue a relationship, and discover that she's into you too, you have an entirely different situation on your hands. If you're really into her, I would suggest telling her how you feel and asking if she feels the same way. Don't try to read her mind or guess how she feels. Just ask.
I know it might be hard, but you and she deserve to have all the facts before you decide to leave. She might like you and you will never know if you just disappear. Personally, if you don't have to leave, I don't think you should. I think this girl seems like a good, loyal friend, and she deserves to have a good, loyal friend too. You should be that friend.
It might feel like you might not ever get over her, but you will. Love, like any emotion we have, only lasts if we continue to feed it and nurture it. If you go out and try to meet new people - guys or girls - eventually the focus of your attention will shift to someone else. And you'll be very happy to still have her friendship in your life.
Please let me know how things go. :)
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so im really bored today and i decided to clean my entire house (13/f) i have 7 hours to clean it in and i want to know how to do this or some tips fro cleaning. thanks (link)
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First, make a list of everything you have to do. Each time you complete a task, mark that task off your list. Your motivation to continue and get everything done will kick in once you see the tasks disappearing from the list one by one.
Second, start with the things you like doing the least, and make it fun. Play your stereo loud or take your ipod/walkman with you, and turn on some music that gets you in the mood to get moving. This will make it seem less like work.
Third, take a short break in between every chore / room you get done. Give yourself a chance to recuperate so it doesn't feel like a non-stop suck-fest. Whatever you do, keep it brief so it doesn't distract you from getting your work done.
Fourth, once you get all the hard / boring stuff out of the way, the stuff you don't mind doing won't seem so bad. Just keep reminding yourself that you're almost done, and think about how nice everything will be when it's finished.
Finally, don't view this as one big long chore you have to do that's going to take you all day - that'd be overwhelming for anyone. Instead, break it down into more manageable steps (like one room at a time / one hour at a time) that make you feel better about having to do this.
Your attitude will determine whether or not your day is miserable or something you can get through.
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How many people think having a relationship with your best friend is a good thing or a bad thing?
If your friendship sparks and you know each other for 10 years or longer. Will it last or mess up your friendship?
I hear that sometimes when sex is involved it wouldn’t be the same. Is that true?
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Your friendship will absolutely change - there's no debating that. Whether it'll be a good change or a bad change remains to be seen. Some transitions from friendship to relationship can work beautifully making your bond even stronger; however, some transitions can end in heartache.
If it works out, there's a chance that your best friend could end up being your soul mate, and that kind of love usually lasts forever. If it doesn't work out, not only have you lost the relationship, but there's a good chance that your friendship won't survive either. A lot of broken up couples make promises to remain friends, but it rarely happens.
If the idea of losing your friend breaks your heart - I wouldn't risk it by starting up a romantic relationship. If the love you feel for your friend is overwhelming and you think he or she may be your soul mate, then it may be worth it to you. In the end, it's up to you to weigh your options and make your decision. It won't be an easy decision to make, but hopefully my advice will help you.
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plz give me any advice
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Tell you're parents if they don't know. If they aren't any help, tell your school counselor. Cutting is very common with girls your age, and I'm sure your counselor can help you a lot. They probably have a group you can join with other people who are overcoming this problem. You need to address the real problem and find out why you're doing this to yourself. Underneath "it feels good" or "it makes me feel alive," there's a real reason you're doing this and once you uncover what that reason is, you can begin to heal and overcome this problem.
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