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Dads Changing
My dad has been acting all mean lately. He used to be so nice and we would always hang out. Like tonight, I was in his office because he was trying to fix my computer, and then he said I have to concentrate, get out. So I was with my dog and I was about to leave when all of a sudden he tried to kick me and hit me. He NEVER did anything like that to me and he doesn't drink or anything. I ran to my mom in her room and he was about to throw my computer. He also canceled our trip tomorrow. It was really hard to breathe and my mom said he was very mad to. I'm really scared and sad. Now my trips canceled because my stupid dad. No offense but I think I hate him. I hate my dad!
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If your dad has been acting like this you might want to give him some time to figure things out. You two obviously had got along well before he just might be going through a rough patch somewhere in his life. I think that if he keeps physically hurting you, you should tell someone you trust. Like a teacher or friend
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possibly he found out something you did that you tried keeping a secret. think about that but if not then he could have a disease my dad has ms look it up he gets cranky too. its hard on all of us and when we didnt know what he had i was scared and crying. dont hate your dad obviously sometihng is wrong with him ask your mom talk to him about it. things mite get worse if you dont im sorry if this hurts you.
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Hes probably got alot going on in his life right now...
Give him some space and then try to talk to him later this week.
He doesn't want to be this way and I know you don't want to hate him. Show him that you love him. If he realizes how erratic he is being then you showing him that you love him might change his attitude towards you.
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Oh my goodness, I am so sorry. Have you read the book 'A Child Called "It"'? or the sequal to that, 'The Lost Boy'? It's exactly what starts happening with the boy and his mother. But the story gets so much worse and she just turns all psycho on him -- I think that's what your father is doing. You need to let somebody know, you need to notify your mother about this. I know you already have but you need to keep pressuring until she believes you or does something about this. If she doesn't, well... cycles continue and the last thing we need is more child abuse in the world. Get the police to know, and explain to them everything that happened in specific detail. Even though there is absolutely NO EXCUSE for this, he could be on drugs. He may have been stressed out by his work so he started getting high or something. But like I said, there is NO EXCUSE. End of story. You just don't do that to your child it's so cruel. If you mother doesn't help solve the problem, the police WILL be willing to help. I know it's scary and you probably never thought you'd be in this situation but please; before it gets any worse you have to do something. Something further and more crucial than anyone on this website can tell you to do. The decisions you make now can add up to your future in the end. You're responsible for them. Do you want to live in total heck with your dad and continue the child abuse cycle? Most parents who abuse their kids, have their kids grow up to be child abusers as well. That's what I mean by cycle. So, please. Save yourself. I mean that.
Much Luck.
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Wow. I'm so sorry you had to go through this. If this behavior isn't typical of your father, something big must be happening in his life that's causing him to stress out (maybe something you don't know about) and lash out in anger. Even if that's the case, we all stress out from time to time and have to keep our hands to ourselves. Whatever your dad is going through, it gives him no right to be a jerk and try to harm you (or your dog) physically.
If (and only IF) your dad truly isn't like this normally, I would wait for him to calm down and then bring this up to his attention. Tell him how hurt and angry what he's done has made you. But if he's done stuff like this in the past or this behavior continues, I would tell another adult - a teacher, a neighbor, an aunt/uncle, grandparent, etc. - someone who can help put a stop to this. You've done absolutely nothing to deserve this kind of treatment - nothing at all.
Whatever's going on in your dad's life shouldn't affect his attitude towards you. If he can't control his temper, he needs to get some help before he does something he regrets. His problems shouldn't become yours. And if this situation has caused you to be angry at him - that's OK. You have every right to be angry. I would be too. Allow yourself to feel it and express it in a healthy way like he should have done!
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