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I have a friend whos going out with this guy i really like but nobody knows. I dont think hes really interested in her but he said he likes her. THe dont talk often or anything. I like him i'm not afraid to talk to him and i pretend i'm happy for them. Hes really shy around me and hes only talked to me a couple of times and i mainly have to start the conversations and hes only started in a couple of times. I realllllllllllly like him and everything but i'm afraid to lose my friend. I think hje would go out with me because my friend was in the same situation as me and they ended up going out. Hes really cute to
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Talk to your friend, then talk to him. Don't steal him, really, but tell her how you feel and then do whatever feels right to you. I suggest putting your friend first, it they're a good friend that is.
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You should have spoken up about your feelings sooner. Obviously your friend doesn't hesitate when it comes to things she wants. You should take a cue from her. Nobody can read your mind, and if you're not gonna say how you feel, then you have no one to blame but yourself. Take this as a lesson learned.
Unfortunately, there's really nothing you can do but bite your tongue. Your friend did nothing wrong, so you shouldn't burden her with your feelings. You'll just make everything awkward if you open up about this after the fact. In the meantime, find other ways to express yourself. This pain will pass.
There's going to be lots of cute boys that you like in your lifetime, but if you're like most people, there will be a shortage of friends. So I would keep the friend and put my crush on this guy on the back burner. Way down the line if things don't work out between them, you may have another chance with him.
Take this time to focus on your friendship and yourself. Be more assertive and go after what you want in the future. If you don't, you're going to spend a large portion of your life on the sidelines being the girl who always wanted things but was never willing to go get them. I've been that girl, and it sucks.
So take control now while you're still young.
(...God I'm old.)
:)
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It is pretty much like this if you break them up, or they break up and you start dating him...she's going to be really pissed most likely. I think you would be too if you were put in her position. My advice to you is just be friends with him. If you and your friend dis like each other after a while you can date him but I would not try to break them up. Try to talk to him more let him kind of know that you have feeling for him but if he shuns you down do not try to work your way in. If he has some sort of idea that you like him and he likes you back he will take control of his relationship with your friend and do what he feels is best. Until then you can only sit back and give him signals. But do not be a little skank and get him to cheat on your friend because that is not very nice.
Good Luck!
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