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broke up with bf and now..i am so depressed
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ok so i broke up with my bf because i felt we didnt have communication anymore or trust. we were together for 9 months. i still really love him. i asked him for a break but he didnt want it. so now hes always online adn i have the urge to talk to him always, so i aimed him today and he was alwys liek being eman to me. so i told him why are you awlays mean to me like i did something horrible o you. and he said "omfg, the funny thing is that you ask me that! wtf, you know what you did" so he blocked me right after that. i know what i did and i feel horrible for brakign up with him but he had no trust. i still love him though. and i dont know what to do. i know hell unblock me, what should i do? any advice? comments? about us? anything? thanks
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It was very mature of you to realize that you needed a break, but somewhere along the line your maturity took a dive and your emotions took over. It's completely normal to be sad, devastated, heartbroken, etc. after a break up (no matter who caused it), but you need to relax and calm down. Your pain will pass, and it's not the end of the world. If you needed a break and he couldn't comprehend the complexity of that, then you're too good for him anyway.
You need to stay in control of your emotions and your actions. Stop stalking him via AIM. If he's blocked you, he obviously needs some time away from you, and you have no choice other than to respect that. You're being a hypocrite now by not giving him the break he needs. You can get through this moment with or without your dignity, but if you ever want another chance to get back together with him, I would suggest getting a hold of yourself right now.
Don't turn this into some overly dramatic teen moment. Handle this heartache maturely - I guarantee you there's more heartache to come. You have to learn how to deal with it. Don't let the pain control you - you control it. If you continue to go on with your life and not let the pain overwhelm you, eventually it will begin to fade away, and your broken heart will begin to heal. Don't let him or this moment consume you. Stay focused on your goals.
You have your whole life ahead of you and the power to choose how big of a moment this will be. Choose to underreact instead of overreact. Don't feed the pain by dwelling on the situation or on him. Just keep living your life and time will take care of everything. You're not the first person to get their heart broken. I promise you, you'll be fine. You started this situation by making the mature decision, so end it the same exact way. Give him space and be patient.
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It's good you got up the nerve to actually break it off.It's understandable that you feel guilty now,But it's a good thing you did it.If not, things would never change and things would get worse.He's just not handling it well obviously.He just needs time and what not.You can't sit there and expect him to forget you broke up with him and be all buddy buddy with him.He hasn't registered things didn't work out and you weren't happy with the relationship , So he blames you for ending it.It's not your fault at all and don't even try to blame yourself for it.If he can't handle it, don't bother to talk to him.You need to let it all go.Just make sure you know all the reasons why you broke up with him in the first place.You'll eventually get it through and move on.Remember, there are plenty of guys out there.It takes time to get back together.Don't give up hope.Hope I helped btw. :] Good luck with everything.
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Take that break you asked for for a couple of days. Let him breath &think about what he's missing out on. Then when he unblocks you just tell him that you still love him and miss him but you can't be in a relationship with someone that doesn't have equal trust in the relationship. Unless you did something wrong, he really shouldn't have a reason not to trust you. Try hanging out with him without dating him and let him know what he's missing out on.
Hope I helped. =]
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Let him cool off for a little bit. Try not to talk to him for a week or so more and then maybe after he unblocks you, that means that he's cooled off. He's just upset that you dumped him, and I know that any guy that gets dumped would be upset, no matter the situation. Once you start talking to him again, tell him that you really do still love him, but the relationship just wasn't working out. You felt like there was no trust and you'd both be happier if you weren't going out. You didn't do it to hurt his feelings or make him made, you just felt like it was the right thing to do. He should cool off eventually. He can't hate you forever. :) Good luck <3
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