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a man i dont know i am really sure if he is messing with me
I have been talking to this man for a few weeks..right away we hit it off..but the thing of it is..hes in another state..do u think someone can actually feel something for you with out even meeting you? he is willing to come and see me in a few months..but he wants to get to know me..i just dont know if i can believe that..im a lil confused..this is all new to me..i am 29 female..
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Your instincts are right. Always listen to those!
You have known this guy only a few weeks.
There are many good people on the internet,
there are also just as many who are out there
only to take advantage of others. Its real easy to make up a nice story online.
If you think he is a nice guy then continue getting to know him. Ask questions. Be cautious. If he is a good guy, he is going to understand your uncertainty.
If you do decide to meet, do not go alone.
Meet in a public place with a friend in tow.
He will also understand that. If things are
going ok, your friend, or friends can give you some time to talk alone and still keep you in sight. Meet in a restaurant and they can move to another table..preferably between you and the exit.
No harm in letting him know all this ahead of
time. If he balks, or tries to guilt you with
"you don't trust me", then don't trust him. You
know the online personality but not the real him.
Just be safe and use caution. He could be a good guy, there are those out there. But its only been
a few weeks. Good luck! :)
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I absolutely believe in long distance relationships and internet dating. It's not ideal, but it happens all the time. Many relationships start because of dating websites and are kept alive through instant messaging. In 2007, it's not uncommon at all.
Unfortunately, like all matters of the heart, it's a game and you have to play to win. Be safe and responsible. Don't let your feelings get the best of you and make decisions you'll regret later on. Take your time with this and take things very slowly.
The slower things go and the longer you take to get to know him before you meet, the more informed you'll be about his character and what you might be getting yourself into. It's true that there are a lot of bad people on the internet, but isn't that true about anywhere in the world?
Just be smart about this and use your head. Don't be afraid to be selfish and do what's best for YOU and your life. Any guy worth taking a risk for will be willing to wait patiently and be understanding. It's not the same for us as it is for them. If he can't comprehend that, he doesn't deserve your love.
Good luck!
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Personally I would <b>NOT</b> meet him there are <b>A LOT</b> of creeps on the internet. You take so many risks by doing such things I do not recommend it. But to answer you question I do not really think you can fall for someone over the internet. If you do not really know someone and physically talk to them, I do not really see how you can have a connection.
Good Luck!
P.S.
Be Safe!
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