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hey, i'm not a very nice person if i get pissed off, but i've gone through a lot in my life so i think that i can give good advice on a lot of things. if anyone isn't sure that they can talk to someone because they don't understand then feel free to IM me on my AIM and i can talk to you, and i don't mind letting you guys know about my past.
*~*shan*~*


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(this is my favorite quote) "as long as you've got one person in the world, you've already betten the odds"



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Ok. There us this guy named Josh. We have had plans to go out after my best friend had broken up with him (for the 50th time). We wanted to wait a while so she wouldnt get mad and so she would get over him. Well it turns out she isnt over him and hes not over her, but he still likes me. So i see him flirt with her all the time, and it really hurts. I know he still likes me because we always flirt together all the time. But i just dont know what to do. I don't think he can choose between me or her. I REALLY like him. But i dont want my best friend to hate me. And i am affraid that if she goes out with him again i will be really hurt and depressed, i have a funny feeling i wont want to hang out with her anymore. PLease help! I dont want to loose my best man or my best friend!!

ditch the guy, it's very clear what he's doing and that's playing both of you girls. he's not worth the time nor effort it might take to rebuild a friendship. and if your friend has dated him like 50 times then she needs to get over him and move on because it's clear it won't work out. both of you move on and find another guy, preferably one that your friend doesn't want

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A while ago, my classmates and peers used to make fun of me a while ago because of my "different" style of clothing. Now I realize that the style wasn't me and I changed it. Now, I'm always afriad of being judged, even though I'm not "openly" judged anymore (I used to be called names because I guess my peers thought I was goth). I know I shouldn't be, but I always am. Please help me get over this! Thanks so much!

i have one simple phrase for you, JUST DEAL WITH IT! i'm sure that doesn't sound very nice but hey it's the truth, people are going to make fun of you no matter what. there's nothing you can do it's just people acting like children to try and take their minds off their own pathetic lives. everytime you get picked on think about this. you're getting picked on because of how insecure people are. they are trying not to let it show that they feel so bad about themselves that they need to pick on someone else to feel better. just ignor them and they will go away

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sorry i didn't know where to put this so i just put it here .. well a few weeks ago i found out that i was pregnant. i decided that im going to have the baby but the problem is that i have an eating disorder. i know it's probably bad for the baby but i've been doing it for so long that i can't stop. Does anyone know how badly it can hurt the baby or what it can do to it?
14/f

eating disorders can cause you to miscarry, in reality you're killing your baby if you don't stop, all of the food that a pregnant woman eats has nutriants that go to the baby so it can begin to develop and be healthy, if you're not eating or you're binging and purging then you're really hurting your child's chances of survival

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Well i put some blonde streaks in my hair and ive got like one side which is quite gingery and the other is really blonde! lol i dont know what to do i cant go out like this it looks such a mess please help xxxx lush me xx

go to a salon, and have someone fix it, it won't be cheap but next time don't do it yourself!

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my mom puts me down so much and i dont know what to do anymore...like if i do sumthin shell jus say sumthin rude about it and leave it at that...nothen i do ever is good enoguh for her..all the rude things she says to me makes me cry so much and she dont even think whut she says hurts me...i try to talk to her but she never listen...my dad is even doin it now to..i dont kno whut to do ne more..help

just ignor it, believe me i know how you feel, as long as your parents think what they are doing is ok, then they're not going to stop, most parents believe that if they do something that means they are instantly doing it the right way. when in retrospect a lot of parents have no clue as to how to decently and respectfully raise their kids. try talking to someone like your school councelor and see if you can meet with your parents at a place like your school where you don't have to worry so much about what they are saying and talk to them, if that doesn't work then hey, just start looking for an out-of-state college then they'll be out of your hair and you don't have to talk to them again, that's what i'm doing

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well me and my bf have been going out for a while and i finally got my first kiss from him. the problem is that he doesnt seem 2 want 2 do it agian. if ne one have ne advice on how 2 get him 2 do it more would be very helpful!

there could be one of two things that i can think of, he either isn't big with kissing, or he doesn't like to kiss you

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i just started straightening my hair and when i straighten it its always frizzy and doesnt stay straight..i always see ppl with perfect straight silky hair and i wanna know how to get mine like that. please help!

i was born with insanley curly hair, and i had to try a million different hair straighteners to get mine the way that i like it, try that, and you might want to look into some defrizzer that i'm sure you could find at any beauty store as well as walmart

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14+f ...all right.. well I dont like hugging people.. i just dont.. like after achieving something amazing.. or saying hello/goodbye... i just HATE giving hugs and try to avoid them.. like.. i dont know.. I think i'm just afraid... is there like something wrong with me??


-Anti-Hug Person

no, you just don't like giving hugs, it's not a big deal you're most likely not to big with physical contact with other people, you'll grow out of it

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This morning my boyfriend is being a major jerk. I don't know why, but it's like he doesn't even care how I feel today. I wish he would just talk to me. I am trying to send him hints, but it's not working! How can I get his attention?

here's a clue, STOP SENDING HINTS, boys are stupid (no offence guys) they don't get when a woman is sending them hints or when she's just having "one of those days" just be straight forward with him, it works

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ok i have been going out with this guy for like 2 months and i really like him, but we havent kissed yet, should i make the first move? and he doesnt call me..what is up with that? i think he is just shy, and there is this other guy that told me he likes me and i kind of like him but i dont want to brake up with my boyrfriend for him what should i do?

well give it some more time, if your guy decides that he doesn't want to stop being shy about everything than i suggest guy number 2

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there is this guy and i have liked him for 2 years now. We went out last summer but the day before school started back we broke up. My dad found out some stuff we did and talked to josh and told him not to talk to me ever again. josh has a girlfriend now but i still want him so bad. My dad told me the other day i could talk to josh again. And i really want to but we havent talked in so long and i dont know what to say. I dont even know if he wants to talk to me anymore. Any ideas on what to do? i'll rate high for answers!!!

if you want to talk to him then what's stopping you? ask him if he wouldn't mind being friends with you and if he doesn't want to than that's that, if he does then congrats to you

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What do you think about these baby names:

Mattilynn Nicole
Jake Ryan
Zachary Daniel
Rylee Elizabeth

Twin girls :

Ashlynn
Joshlynn

honestly i don't like any of them, but i'm bias i've had my baby names picked out since my best friend got pregnant a year ago

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is it safe to try inserting a tampon if you dont hae your period? (just for practice)

not likely, but i wounld check with a doctor, i doubt that you need to practice using one though and if you feel that you need to then i'd just stick with using a pad

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ok well my b/f was sapose to come over to my house on fridy and he seemed like he really wanted to come like when i was on the phone with him he was looking up my house on map quest and he was telling my friends that he couldn't wait to come to my house but he also told my best friends thta he was scared..in the hallway i was like when r u comeing over and he go well my parents are goign to my grandpas birthday soo their gonna drop me off then and i was like u can't miss your grandpas party b/c of me and hes like yeah i can its the same thing every year and ive been waiting all week to come to your house then later he called me and told me that his grandpa was going to flip if he didn't go to his party so i was like ok and hes liek i really wanted to hang out with you though and was like i promise well do it over break so i was like ok well its his grandpas party...later that night i even drove by his house and there was no lights on but today someone told me that they saw him at a laxcrosse game on the same night..this really doesn't sound like something he would like im soo surprised that he did it b/c we have been going out for a whille and he acts liek he really likes me i dont know what to do please help me!!!1

he most likely thought you would get mad if you knew that he wanted to go to the game that's all, boys are weird like that

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hey my lips are always dry and i dont know why. i have to lick them all the time to keep them wet. they arent chapt so i dont need chap stick, but what should i do? i rate high

buy chap stick

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my boyfriend always trys to get me to do things in front of other guys... and when i dont' he gets mad and says stupid and prude. he gets his other guy friends to rag on me. and the other night i was on my rag. he wouldn't leave me alone.. so i took out all my anger on him... then he told me i was lucky to have him... hes realy sweeet wen nobody else is around.. and i dont' want to break up with him...what should i do?

you might not want to break up with him, but if he can't treat you the same way in front of his friends as he does when you're alone with him then he's not worth it, if anything he's lucky to have you, he sounds like a real jerk off

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I am 15 and 5'3 and 142 pounds..I used to be 112 when I was 12..I had gained 30 pounds :-x..I can't do sit ups for some reason or anything like that, I need to use my elbow to help me up. I have a breathing problem and I can't really run w/o having to stop and catch my breath every few yards. Is there anyways I can get to about 120 by summer?

go to the gym and get a personal trainer, and by the way i'm 5'5 and 115lbs but i still get winded when i run for like 5 min, that just means you're out of shape, nothing wrong with that

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Okay...I have alot of friends. But, there is this boy that i have been friends with since like forever. But whenever he has a gf we dont talk at all. it's like we dont even know each other. If i talk to him, or call him his gf will think i'm stocking him or i like him. Someone help me....What should I do? If someone could help that would be great. Thanx

talk to him, and tell his girlfriend to back off and if you want to talk to him you will and she needs to mind her business

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ok, my legs are so white right now! Im embarrised to wear anything other than sweat pants or jeans! They say italians tan fast,but that dosent happen with me! [[im also portuguese.]] Theres this sunblock that attracts the sun to get a tan with out burning,dose any one no where i can get that/what its called/and if it works?

**rate to 5's** thanks :)

why not try a tanning place? just because you're italian and portugese doesn't mean that you'll tan fast, everyone tans at their own pace, i don't burn but when i tan i do get sore, everyone is different. and the stuff that you're asking about might not even work on you, what works for others may not work the same way for you

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Okay, about a year ago I realized i had like pink/red lines on my inner thighs. i didnt think anything of it but now there are A LOT!! and there dark red and if u look at them at an angle it looks like ridges!! Please tell me what this is!!
*thanks* I'll rate!

odds are they are stretch marks, if not that then scars, if you want to find out then your best bet would be to see a doctor although i think that's a bit dramatic

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