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well i am a 15 years old girl that is soft hearted and i loves helping other people out. i love giving out advice. i can relate to a lot of peoples problems because i have been through a lot in my life. i have done a lot of stupid things in my life that i regert but i cant change the past but i can try to change the future. i love to dance and enjoy life to the fullest. i love my best friends to death i would do anything for them..




advice

13/f i have a boyfriend & we have been gonig out for about 2 months. i'm wicked happy with him and i've liked him for almost a year and whenever i see him i am always smiling. i've kissed him on the cheek and i know he wants to kiss me but when we are about to do it i get kinda nervous and i know he thinks i dont wanna, but i do. howw can i be less nervouss? this isnt my first kiss, but i dk why i act like it.

trying talking to him and telling about your sistuation. explain to him you are gettin nervous and want to do it but get butterflys in your stomach and he should be able to make the frst move for you.
♥ Steph

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Im 15/f and my boyfriend of 6 months wants me to give him a hand job and blow job. I know we've been going out for six months so its kind of ridiculous that i havent done that yet. But im just not "that girl." anyway, i really want to.. because i know he wants me to, and hes done stuff to me. But i dont really know how to make it feel good for him.. got any ideas?

http://www.sex-project.com/blowjobs.shtml

http://www.sex-project.com/1/index.php/topic,2876.0.html




i see nothing wrong with what you said i mean i didnt start doing any of that stuff until recently but me and my bf ahve been together for 11 months.

p.s.

u noe how u said that i am NOt That Girl. there some girls who actually dont ever do any of that. it just isnt them.. so yea. hope this helps.
♥ Steph

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I really want to gain weight, but the right way.
I don't want to sit all day and eat cheeseburgers to gain weight. And I wanna gain 15 pounds by august 26th. Any thing I can eat that is good for me that I could gain weight off of. Or any like things i could do.
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there is one thing that is good to do and also healthy..

eat more calories then you can lose

for instance make your meals biggger then usual.(dont over do this)

eat 5-6 days(recommend by doctors) and just eat more of it. hope this helps.
♥ Steph

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How many calories do I need to maintain [sp?] in my regular diet if I'm 13, 5"7, and 127 lbs?

Thanks.

my trainner told me an average person should let 1800 calories.

what i have learned is that you eat less calories but you are supposed to burn twice as much.. that link is on 24 hour fitness check it out and they got a whole bunch of myths and etc.




http://www.24hourfitness.com/html/fitness/youth/tips/


♥ Steph

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what are you suposed to do with your tounge when you are french kissing someone?

because i mean. yeah you stick it in the other person's mouth. what next?
it just feels awkward.

most people (i even do this) is you can play little games with the other persons tongue.
1- you can wrape tongue with theres
2- make it go in a circle motion
3-(somethign i lvoe doin) try getiin each others tongue thats fun and cute;)

♥ Steph

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http://www.conair.com/product_info.php?products_id=59

that is my hair straightener and i was wondering if those are ceramic plates and why is it important for straighteners to have ceramic plates?

yes they are ceramic plates and the perpose of ahving ceramic plates is that it is supposed to reduce killign your hair and less burn in it when you striaghten it. thats all.. hope this helps.
♥ Steph

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I am not a registered user of myspace, but am pretty familiar with the site. I’ve known for awhile (by stumbling across some history on his computer) that my boyfriend of almost a year uses myspace not as a social networking site, but solely to check out hot chicks profiles. For some reason, this really bothers me. I don’t mind that he checks out porn online—I have no problem with Playboy, Penthouse stuff. However, the fact that these chicks are real people who are not posting their picks for some dude to drool over is kind of creepy. Also, it upsets me that he would want to check out regular chicks online and use them for sexual purposes. I know mentally cheating should only be a problem for insecure 16 year olds, but I am having trouble getting past this. I will talk to my bf about this but wanted an outside opinion first. What’s your take on the issue? Would it be out of line for me to ask him to cancel his account?

ha i was kind in this situation but except it happened when i was there. me and my bf decided to go take pictures last week and after we went and picked them up he told me he didnt like the way he came out and i was kool with it and decided that we will come back and take differnt ones but still i wanted to give him one to keep you know. ans right at that moment some guy walks up and hands my bf and his friend 4 flyers wit a girl wearing a thong and all you see is her ass.
This drove me crazy. i hated the way he looked at it and excepted that and not my picture.

Just like you i dont mind my bf looking at pron. but at that time it drove me crazy. i over reacted adn grabbed it and ripped it up and throw it away i admit it was wrong and we got into a huge fight about it but were still together


anyways enough about my store back to yours( i hope u can tell how it relates to yuors)


if i were you i would talk to him about i and explain to him how you feel about the point of view. but then again try not to worry about it so much because of the fact it is just a picture.(it isnt like he gonna leave you for them) the chance for that to happen are very and i mean very slim..dont over react about it because he will get mad and bad things happen when guys are mad.

hope this helps you out.
♥ steph

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well a couple days ago my friend was talking to me and she said something about her masturbating and i was kinda confused because i thought only guys could masturbate and then like 3 days later she asked me if i ever masturbated and i said yes but i really havent and she asked me the process i went threw but then my mother came in and we never got to finish the sentence until yesterday she kept asking me and i didnt know what to say because im afraid she might tell other people that i lied about masturbating witch i really did but i dont want people to find that out what should i say to her? i mean weve been friends since kindergarten and i dont want it to end up in something bad! HELP ME PLEASE?!

honestly a lot of girls do it to pleasure themself insterad of leting a guy do it becaus eof the fact it is harm less doing it to yuorself because you cant get pregnant.

hun a lot of girls do it your not the only one..

but since you only said that to impres your friend i would suggest to tell her the truth. you gusy have known each other since kindergarten i bet if you talked it out with her it wont bother her as much.

in my opion i was raised not to do anything like that so i just dont do it. i dont think it is wrong i just feel like it isnt right for me to do that.. you get me?

♥ Steph

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Ok, this question has probably been asked a thousand times before but here goes.. i broke up with my girlfriend because i no longer trust her.. problem is i still love her and i dont see myself getting over her anytime soon. Too many reasons to list y i lost my trust in her but a few of the not so cool things shes done.. i was leavin the state and we hadnt seen each other for awhile.. the last day i was there she was supposed to hang out with me all day.. i wound up getting to see her for about 30 min because she was hangin out with a friend.. was a guy and i know for a fact that they have slept together before.. i went back to visit a couple months later.. stayed for 2 weeks.. seen her for a total of about 4 hours =/.. shes 18 btw so parents arent a big issue. the guy in question just got a myspace that she made for him and right above one of my favorite pictures of her is the question whod id like to meet.. answer: already found her and i love her.. she says that was an accident and shes gonna help him fix it soon.. even as im typein this i know i sound stupid for still haveing anything to do with her but... like i said i still love her even though im not treated the best and maybe shes not lieing about all the coisedences

this wont make you any happier but if she doesnt treat you right then why bother. you need a girl that will respect you and honor with you doing the same back of course. but if you have had strong evidence of her cheating on you then the onl thign you can do is move on. i mean if she hurt you once she will keep doing it..

about the passoword thing i dont think it is that she is hiding soemthing from you just that she wants her privacy. that is how i am but except with me and my bf i let him look through it by being with him n lettign him look throgh it because i know that things will happen if i give him my password like him talking to peopel on my list and starting shit.

honestly you just need to move on and let her go.

you can try talking to her about it but i doubt you will get anywhere with it.

hope this helps you out.

♥ Steph

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I have had unprotected sex a lot and my boyfreind had accidentaly ejaculated inside me before quite a few times and while im on my period he always does because i've never gotten pregnant.. does this mean that i'll never get pregnant? is something wrong with me?

please help

nope not true just because it didnt happen that time doesnt mean it wouldnt happen again. i would try not to have sex while you are on your period because it just isnt right. you can still get pregnant it just might be more difficult for you then regular women. hope this helps.
♥ Steph

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My bofriend and i have been together for about 3 months and now i'm moving I won't return his calls because I'm afraid that I'll get to close to him and break my and his heart when I leave.Am I wasting our valuable time together or am I preventing a broken heart???????????????
yours truly,
please not another broken heart

this is the last time you going to be with him.. wouldnt you want to cherish the moments? i would.. one way or another you will get hurt.. you might as well enjoy the time you have with him and not waste them

♥ Steph

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My boyfriend and i for the first time got close to having intercourse. He had an erection and he had the head of his penis moving up and down of my vagina,but his penis was not inserted. Should I be worried about pre-cum? I dont think he ejaculated. Could he feel it the pre-cum?

nope you got nothing to worry about because one pre cum isnt a lot. 2) speerm cant live in air.

♥ Steph

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does anyone know this song.. the begining goes girl, girl, girl, girl ..its like a recent song and its like r&b

it could be a lot of songs

e-40 white girl

paul wall oh girl



if you can tell me more about the song like who sings it (guy or a girl) and more words to i could probaly tell you..

♥ Steph

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i was recently out with a few of my friends when the topic of another friend (who wasnt there) and her boyfriend came up. Then someone said the have been going out for 4 months and they have only made out. we are going to be sophmores in high school (we are 15) and to me that seems far enough. How far shouldd they be going?? am i just been wierd?

i am 15 and i have been going out wit my bf for a year and we have done almost evrything. i think it would all depend on her feelings for him and how far she wants to go with him. i think it is a great thing when a girl waits it out because of the fact that most guys now a days that is all they want. at 4 months i think your right that is all they need to be doing. hope this helps.

♥ Steph

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Everytime my boyfriend fingers me I bleed. I heard that sometimes you bleed a little the first time so I really didn't think anything of it. But now whenever he does it I bleed..sometimes its just a few drops of blood like he might have sratched me but other times its thick and heavy flow like a period and soaks my underwear. I'm not sure what to do. He couldn't possibly sratch me that hard that I would bleed like that so there must be something else wrong. Advice please?

it is possible he doesnt know what he i doing and is hurting you without you knowing it. it might be because your not used to it but even though it isnt your first time it is possible you body doesnt like it etc..

sorry if this didnt help you much.

♥ Steph

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ive always thought dat my life was messed up. y live a life dat i hate? dat changed after my boyfren came along. i felt special. i felt LOVED. now his paents are moving to NY. real far away from me. im really sad. i hate myself. i hate everything. i wanna kill myself. im nothing without him.is life really worth living for? how can i get over the person that changed my life? how am i gonna live without him? please some1 tell me wat to do? i feel so hated by god. y is he treating me like this? y is he takin away the love of my life? please help! :(

i almost went though that and will go through everything you aid again in february when my bf leaves. but ,y bf did the same he changed my life and gave me a reason to live i hate knowing he will be with another girl doing who knows what. my advide to you is tha no matter what happens nevr forget him. keep in touch with him and when he turns or u turn 18 go see him. maybe u guys can work things out and get back together.. i mean you never know what can happen.

i actually attempted on killing myself over my bf. i can suggest not to do it because i know how you feel and what you are goign through. i am very sorry but it is a part of life that we have to except.

i was always taught god gave you people to help you out in life and that you should alwasy aperciate them because you never know when they will be gone.. =(

if you need anything elsw tell me and i will help you out with everything.

♥ Steph

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Okay so someone keeps prank calling me and i know they know me but they keep blocking their number. Is there any way i can find out who's number it is even though they used *67 or whatever...
thanks

yes call your phone company provider and ask they should tell you

♥ Steph

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Hey, Im a 16/f and recently i stayed over and one of my guy friends house, and we were fooling around and ended up having sex, and he told me he wanted our relationship to stay as friends but still be able to do things like that. Do you think thats wrong?

friends with benifets to me means you being a fuck body. someone who he can relie on whenever he wants to do whatever he wants to even if he has a girlfriend. i wouldnt get involved with that. tell him he can only be one or the other but not both.. hope this helps.
♥ Steph

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I need to lose weight and I love to swim. I've heard it was good exercise but i dont know what to do. I would like to lose the majority by the end of the summer. I would really appreciate anyone's help.

swimming is a wodnerful way to loose weight. all you gotta do is swim back and forth and pratcie your swimming skills at the same time. then you will be gettin in shape and improving your swimming skills. hope this helps.
♥ steph

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hey im 15/f Im sorry if this is long, but i appreciate your answers! Ok so here it goes. My ex boyfriend and I were talking about hooking up again, we hung out on Thursday of last week and he put his arm around me and all that "love" stuff. But today i come to find out that he has a girlfriend already but he tells me that he doesn't. He made plans to go to the fireworks with me but he went with his girlfriend instead. But he keeps on lying to me. I guess they've been going out for about 2 months now. And i asked him if he was going out with lets call her Amy. And he said no that was just a rumor but come to find out that he is. And hes just not telling me how can i get him to tell me the truth? Hes just breaking my heart.. and i have no idea what hes doing... Please someone give me advice on how to "get him" or make him tell me that hes going out with her.. Also are there any songs that fit this situation as in hes lying when he has another girlfriend? If not thats okay i appreciate it thanks a bunch!!!

you have seen it and heard it so he is just messing your heart because he knows he can get to you. just leave it alone and move on there really isnt nothing else you can do but move on. if you keep messing with him it will just keep hurting you even more. it might take a while to get over gim but just do it. it will help you in the long run.




songs

move along americain rejects

make damn sure taking back sunday

stab my back americain rejects

hope this helps.
♥ Steph

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