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Boyfriend uses Myspace for Masterbation
I am not a registered user of myspace, but am pretty familiar with the site. I’ve known for awhile (by stumbling across some history on his computer) that my boyfriend of almost a year uses myspace not as a social networking site, but solely to check out hot chicks profiles. For some reason, this really bothers me. I don’t mind that he checks out porn online—I have no problem with Playboy, Penthouse stuff. However, the fact that these chicks are real people who are not posting their picks for some dude to drool over is kind of creepy. Also, it upsets me that he would want to check out regular chicks online and use them for sexual purposes. I know mentally cheating should only be a problem for insecure 16 year olds, but I am having trouble getting past this. I will talk to my bf about this but wanted an outside opinion first. What’s your take on the issue? Would it be out of line for me to ask him to cancel his account?
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Hi, for a start you have every right to feel awkward about this. But sadly he is a typical male, alot of males do it even mid-life men and seniors. The problem sometimes with men is that they are not always satisfied with what they've got, were as other people would love to be in there shoes and have a lovely girlfriend like yourself. In away he is cheating on you, and you have every right to confront. Bare in mind though that he's a typical male and still a teenager. Daniel.
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ha i was kind in this situation but except it happened when i was there. me and my bf decided to go take pictures last week and after we went and picked them up he told me he didnt like the way he came out and i was kool with it and decided that we will come back and take differnt ones but still i wanted to give him one to keep you know. ans right at that moment some guy walks up and hands my bf and his friend 4 flyers wit a girl wearing a thong and all you see is her ass.
This drove me crazy. i hated the way he looked at it and excepted that and not my picture.
Just like you i dont mind my bf looking at pron. but at that time it drove me crazy. i over reacted adn grabbed it and ripped it up and throw it away i admit it was wrong and we got into a huge fight about it but were still together
anyways enough about my store back to yours( i hope u can tell how it relates to yuors)
if i were you i would talk to him about i and explain to him how you feel about the point of view. but then again try not to worry about it so much because of the fact it is just a picture.(it isnt like he gonna leave you for them) the chance for that to happen are very and i mean very slim..dont over react about it because he will get mad and bad things happen when guys are mad.
hope this helps you out.
♥ steph
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I don't think it's anything to worry about. You really should ask him though, because it seems to be getting you down alot. You could always get your own account on myspace. That way, he will know you are registered and knows you will be able to see what he does on there. It might encourage him to stop viewing other girls profiles.
Maybe he doesn't realize how badly this is affecting you. I'm sure he wouldn't do it on purpose.
Hope all works well. :)
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I know you feel bad right now and I am really sorry. All guys look at porn, but if he's looking at real girls profiles and not just porn stars, its okay to be a little worried. Especially if the girls live in your area..because this COULD be a sign of him cheating or feeling he needs to cheat. I would definitely talk to him about how you feel. Does he know you know about his myspace? I wouldnt ask him to cancel his account because theres a strong line between being like his mother and being his girlfriend. But, ask him why he needs to look at these girls? Tell him you know he likes to look at porn but you'd feel more comfortable if he looked at magazines, etc. If he is a good boyfriend, he will care about how you feel and he will do whatever he can to make you feel comfortable with him. Give him another chance. If he keeps doing it or lies to you about it, I would consider dumping him or taking asking him to cancel his account.
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I dont think its only a problem for 16 year olds. Everyone is pretty insecure, I'm sure a 50 year old women wouldnt want her husband to be doing this either.
Now if your absolutely positive that thats whats going on, talk to him, ask him if your being everything he wants you to and if you are making him happy?
I dont think it would be out of line to have him cancel his account, seeing as he might just make a new one and not tell you, but I'd be really upset if my boyfriend was doing this too you know?
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