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Are my insercurities worth having?
I've been going out with my boyfriend for over a month. And for the past three weeks, it has been great. We both get on really well and we both have been enjoying eachother's company. But now I feel like he doesn't want to make the effort. Nearly half the time I have to get in touch with him first. He comments other girls on a website called bebo instead of me. I dont want to sound obsessive so I have left this minor detail out from the conovsations i have with him. Many of my friend's say he doesn't realise he's doing it but I dont know. It feels like he doesn't like me as much as he used to. He always wanted to see me everyother day and now its reduced to a week where he hasnt mentioned seeing me at all. A while ago, It felt like he was ashamed of me and so I asked him, and he came back with positive comments saying he's not. I want us to stay in a relationship because I really like him. But I don't how to overcome these insercurities? I've spoken to several of my close friends and they said it's all natural to feel this way. Am I getting too attached to him? Is this the end of our relationship?
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listen up guys do this when they realize girls are obsessed with them .you were always the one that made the first move so he got used to that....you shouldnt be the one whos always callin him if he dont call you DONT CALL HIM give him a taste of his own medicine and let HIM be the one whos always callin you for a while then you can start callin him again but not too much or hell get used to it again...so till then just ....chill...you were always followin him around now hes probably bored of u doin that so he chekin out other girls....you have to play hard to get
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Of course this isn't the end of your relationship, but you really do need to communicate more. If him commenting other girls is upsetting you, it is best to tell him. He won't think you're being obsessive. Who knows, he might realize he isn't paying you enough attention.
Tell him you feel like it's always you who tries to make the effort. He probably doesn't realize he is doing this. Alot of people don't until they are told.
Don't let it get you down. If you both want to be in the relationship, it's worth telling him how you really feel. Hope it goes well.
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hmm.. well whatever you do, make sure you don't get obsessive and let him know that you're obsessive, because if he does know how attached you are to him, the relationship won't workout. i can't really tell if its the end of your relationship, it could just be a minor bump in the road, but maybe you should give him some space, because if you guys used to see each other everyother day, he could have in a way gotten sick of you (not to make you feel bad, i'm just trying to help you out) so, if maybe you don't call him for a while, he'll have to call you and it will make him wonder why you haven't called which means he's thinking about you and maybe even getting a little bit obsessive. This guy sounds like he wants a girl who "plays hard to get", but then again, i'm just giving advice based on what you have told me. If after a while he hasn't made much effort, then he doesn't deserve you. i had a boyfriend who didn't make much of an effort, and when i'd try to tell him that that hurt me, i think it got him annoyed, so the relationship ended after 4 months.
its ok to be attached to him, but he should be attached to you too. Just don't let him know how much you like him because if you "play hard to get" it will leave him thinking about you, which is always a good thing.
hope i helped =]
and i hope you and your boyfriend work it outt.
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being attached to another person is never a time where one can feel totally secure you can only trust and have enough believe in your boyfriend. love wasnever secure that's probably why it requires so much work. no i don't think it's the end of your relationship, and yes it is natural to feel this way. if it's bugging you to insanity, have a talk with your boyfriend and make sure he knows you are dead serious about this issue. hope this helps! and my best wishes for you =]
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