15/f
(sorry it’s so long but please help)
So I was dating the starting quarterback for my highschool football team and he had gotten a concussion a couple of weeks a go. He was diagnose with post concussion syndrom that made him depressed for a while. I told him that I will always be here for him if he needed me to be. And that I love him unconditionally. He said he loves me too and that no matter how it didn’t seem like it at the moment he did. A week later he breaks up with me saying that his concussion messed up his emotions so much that he can only see me as a friend now. I didn’t believe it because he seemed super happy after the break up. So I gave him a second chance to tell me the truth. I walked up to him and said I needed closure and just needed to hear the real reason why he broke up with me. He blamed the concussion again.
I left it alone for a couple of days then asked him when did he realize he didn’t want to be with me anymore. He said a couple of days after the concussion. He said that it just kept progressing because of the concussion. So I just left it as that. I thought I had gotten my closure he stayed with the same story and I felt I was ok with that.
Then one of my friends calls me the same day and tells me that he actually confessed that the concussion was just an excuse. He had just gotten bored of me. I really do appriciate the truth no matter how much it may hurt. I gave him 3 chances to tell me the truth and he hadn’t. that’s what bugs me the most and we had a really close relationship when we were together. He said he really wants to stay friends but why if he lied about the break up? I know there’s that possibility that he thought if he told the truth that we wouldn’t stay friends but he confessed to one of my closest friends so obviously it would have gotten back to me you know?
I just would like to hear what other people think about this.
hey sweetie, you need to let go. here's a quote i found that i think can relate somewhat to you:
get over him. He's not even worth it. He is not worth your time or your tears. Yea you loved him, I know that. And i know you just cant see yourself with anyone other than him,i get that. Ive been there. But why should you spend all your time sitting at home, bawling your eyes out and wondering where he is and who he is with. Do you honestly think he is thinking about you? No. Sure it hurts, the fact that he is out there falling in and out of love with other girls.Yea your gonna see him with one of his new girlfreinds. Prepare yourself, coz straight up;its gonna hurt. He will hold her a little closer and squeeze her hand a little tighter just because he knows your watching.He knows its killing you;thats why he will do it. Dont let him get to you because that, well thats exactly what he wants.Dont give him what he wants.He doesnt even deserve it.So what if he doesn't talk to you;do you honestly wanna be friends with an asshole like him anyways?Thing is i know you still do. But give it time.Because all he would do is talk about his new girlfriend and just try and make you jealous, do you really wanna hear that?No. Screw him and his girlfriend.He will be sorry. trust me. When he finally sees you with some other guy whos not him. With that huge grin on your face and your boyfriend holding you close + with that huge grin on your face and your boyfriend holding you close, he will realise how happy you are now.And how happy your boyfriend is because he has you;the girl of his dreams.He will realise the huge mistake he made when he let you go, when he decided to choose her over you.When he decided he just did not love you the same.Trust me, he will be sorry.And dont you sit there thinking he won't be sorry I know you are.But i guarentee you now;He will be sorry.So dont go on spending your nights waiting for that one phone call you know your never gonna get.Or that IM you know he will never send you simply because he likes to ignore you. He like to pretend he does not see you online, he does it outta spite just because he knows its killing you.When he walks past you in the hallways he is gonna look past you,but you needa know he will do that coz he knows somewhere inside you,it will hurt.+i aint gonna lie to you.It will hurt.It will hurt alot.But it will hurt even more when you see her name and how much he loves her in his profile.Its all gonna hurt.Knowing your not the girl thats making him smile.Knowing your not the first person he thinks of when he wakes up and the last before he goes to sleep.Knowing your not the face on his backgroud of his phone anymore.Knowing if he hasnt already he will delete the album of pictures of you he has on his phone.Knowing you wont be spending every single moment possible with him.Knowing theres not gonna be no more late night phone calls argueing about who loves who the most.And you know what, today, tomorrow, next week,months from now;your phone will go off with a text message,you will instantly grab your phone hoping its him saying he wants to give your relationship another shot.But trust me;hes got to much pride.Even if he wanted to be back with you,he wouldnt tell you.Your soon gonna realise he doesnt care about you anymore and he wont be the first person you call when your upset.He wont be the one to put that smile back on your face. And yea its gonna hurt;its gonna hurt alot.But you know what your gonna do?Your gonna hold your head up.Your gonna show him your better than him and you dont need him in your life.Your gonna prove to him that he made the biggest mistake of his life letting you go+ that you never really needed him anyways.
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Josh 17
AJ 18
Me 15
Ok so as many of you might no I was dateing Josh but he dumpd me for the other girl [Jess] on the same day I was going to dump him because my ex [AJ] came back in my life. AJ and I dated for 5 months and I love my vergianty to him so I still love him. Well i told him how Josh dumped me and he got pissy and he said that he wont stand for it so he is going to confrunt him about it and he will always protect me. Dose he still love me 2? Ethier way he is going to collage friday so I am REALLY upset and I dont want to show it because we are just friends now. I dont know how I can be friends with them both and not show I have feelings for ethier of them. But if AJ does still love me how do I take it I mean he is moving...do I take him back?
hey baby!
well..let's just say there are many different options for ya here. i still think that aj could have feelings for you, or it's just that he really does care for you and doesn't want to see you get hurt but see's you as more of a best friend. i would tell him how you feel before he goes to college and see what you get in return. some people do the whole long-distance college thing, and if he isn't going that far away i would say go for it if he wants to get back together. it's really hard staying friends with ex's though, trust me. you start to get all your feelings back again and then want to be something more again, even if it's not the best for you. i use to hang out with my ex because we were best friends, and i wanted to stay like that even after we broke up after a year but it was just too hard. i wouldn't be anything more with josh because it seems that you still really love aj and i don't think it would be fair to either one of you to be with him again, and if you really think you can still be friends with josh after you two broke up, go for it sweetie but i just don't want you to get in deeper than you already are. i hope i have helped some if you need anything else, or need some clarification just let me know! ♥ LU
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So there's this guy, and he's my neighbor; but his sister's are bestfriend's with my brother. So it makes him a total no-no. But I just can't help myself but to like him. I'm in eighth grade, but he's in tenth. Everything about it's wrong. Do you think I like him because I know he's off limits ? What should I do ?!
hey sweetie.
age aint nothin but a number :)
and there's that saying, "you always want what you cant have" and i think that's what your going through right now. we're more attracted to someone, that we can't have. i dont think its so wrong though, and i dont consider this boy to be off limits with you just because your brother is friends with his sisters. ask your brother what he thinks about it, im sure he wouldnt care! if you need anything else let me know ♥ LU
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well i don't really know what category i was supposed to put this in so sorry. Any way i'm turning 14 and i want to have a slumber party with some friends. The theme is gonna be a spa day and i was wondering if you guys had some idas of how to make this party awesome. Thanks! any ideas are highly appreciated. XOXOXOX
WEAR ROBES! :) and slippers!
do each other's make up and nails.
do facial's and put cucumber's on your faces! haha
play music while you do all of this and dont
forget foooood!! need any other suggestions let me know hun! hope you girls have fun ♥ LU
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what goes well with green and orange? i havea lot of shirts but id nt know how to put them all together! i always ware black or white with them! i have brown, pink, orange, red, white, green, and yellow! how can i match them. i like wareing tank tops under them!
green goes best with pink and white &
orange looks good with pink white and sometimes yellow! :)
♥ LU
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I have a best friend, whos a guy. He use to like me but I was to nervous to admit it so when he told my other best friend she told him i just liked him as a friend so he told he was going to try to give up. He ended up with a girlfriend the next week and I found out. Everyone said he just went out with her to get over me. They've been dating for about 4 months now, he says he loves her and stuff. I don't believe it, everytime he's with me, theres something there and we flirt a lot. His girlfriend goes to a different school. But the more we get closer, he just keeps pushing me away. I'm really depressed. I know I had my chance with him, and probably still do. The whole situation is making me depressed. Should I try to get over him or what? A few days ago we had a really deep talk about all of this, and he just found out I "used" to like him. Please help me out!
"IF YOU DONT TAKE CHANCES YOU MAY NEVER KNOW HOW AMAZING SOMETHING MIGHT BE" i love this quote and i beleive it fits your situation. i use to have the SAME problem..weird! neither of us told each other that we liked one another and then he ended up going out with another girl and they are still going out and it's been two and a half years and i still wonder what if i told him before he went out with his girlfriend. every night i regret not talking to him about it and still everytime i see him, it kills me knowing he loves someone else. he still flirts with me and even tried getting with me and as much as i wanted to, i couldnt because i knew that he would still stay with his girlfriend. We were best friends but now drifted apart because he is always with his girlfriend. i even went out with an amazing guy but it still didnt seem right because this guy wasn't the one i wanted, the one i've waited for. if you still like him, tell him and see what he says :) because i don't want you to go through the same thing i went through, it truly is one of the worst feelings, i know! hope everything works out ♥ LU
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so my ex and i were together for a year and half. and we broke up like 2 months ago. i am soo ready to just move on, but it seems like there's no one there that likes me, or wants to be with me. What should i do? i really want to just move on and forget about my ex. but i just need somebody to move onto.
thanks to anyone that helps.
me and my boyfriend just broke up not too long ago too and we were going out for about a year. we tried to make it work so many times, but finally i just needed to be happy and that meant not being with him anymore. what i did to get my mind off him was to hangout with my girlies :) they always know how to take your mind off guys! i wouldn't suggest getting into another relationship right away, find time for yourself first and enjoy being single. i know thats might not what you want but i definately think it's whats best! go out, have fun with no worries. live your life and don't let anyone get in the way of your happiness. if you find that nothing i said helped, be sure to let me know and we can talk some more! good luck girl ♥ Lu
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My boyfriend and I love each other to death, but we're drifting apart..
Any songs to help?
Thanks so much
brandy- right here (departed)
ne-yo- mad
josh gracin- unbelieveable
tim mcgraw- best friend & i need you
LAX- stop drop roll
donnie j- you make me feel
usher- trading places
if you need any more, let me know :)
i have alot more i could think of!
♥ Lu
here are some more for ya!
lloyd- i can change your life
plies- number one fan
shontelle- tshirt
avant- i want to be close
cherish- only one
gary allen- best i ever had
ne-yo- make it work
since you've been gone- day 26
rascal flatts- you
hope this is good for you! not sure how many
more you wanted but if you still need more just
let me know!
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im 12 years old and dont really know about periods, discharge, thrust etc. And i need help on this.My friends know about all of this and i feel lonely. Can you please help me ?????
hey sorry sweetie i didnt go on this for awhile
did you still want help?
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i cant tell if this guy likes me. we text everyday, and we've hung out ALOT but he sends such mixed signals. when he asks me to hang out i cant tell if its a date or not because he doesnt want to do it anymore when i invite me friends ( he hasn't said it but i can tell), but if i dont invite my friends they get mad because they like him too. please help :(
guys are so confusing. i just got out of a relationship of almost a year.. but im pretty sure he is starting to like you! if you want to hang out with just him a few times do that but if you would feel more comfortable with your friends ask if he would mind they come and see what his reaction is that way you know if he want's it to be just you two or not. it could also just be turning into a best friends kinda thing. because my friend was going through the same thing but they are just friends and she think's he is just flirting with her, but doesn't want to go anywhere with it. if you need anything else let me know hun ♥Lu
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it's my freshman year of college and i'm taking general chemistry. the class is made up of a mix of sopomores and freshman, and i think there's a few juniors in there.
my lab partner is a sophomore. but she has no idea what she's doing. granted, sometimes i'm not much more competent, but i do have the general ideas down. on the last test, she got the lowest score in the class (while i was just below the class average). she always wants to get together to do our homework together and always call and texts me for help.
is it rude of me to not want to help or give her the answers? it's just getting really annoying. i barely have time to do my own work, let alone explain it all to her. i feel like it's hurting my grade because i'm always helping her and explaining things to her and i don't even have time to do my own work. anyone have any advice on what i should do?
girly i've been in your situation..many times. i dont think it's wrong at all to not want to help her, but dont be mean about it. you want to focus on doing good but it's hard to when someone else is distracting you. just tell her that you would rather do it by yourself and i wouldn't just give her the answers because then she will never learn, and maybe you can let her know that! tell her that your not doing much better than her and you just need time alone to study and try to figure everything out :) if you need any more help on this let me know! ♥Lu
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Okay, my boyfriend has quit smoking for 2 months now. He keeps saying that if he only has one, he wont be addicted again, but I think that if he has one, he's going to be right back where he was.
If he has a cigarette, will he be addicted? Please help!
hey sweetie. my friend use to smoke and she said she didnt do it anymore, but as soon as someone offers her one or she smells one, she will take any chance to have one again. dont let him have just one because honestly, he will be back to his normal ways. if he still wants one, he is still addicted and the only way to help him get over this is to try and keep him away from people that smoke so he wont be tempted. if you need anything else let me know ♥ lulu.
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Please help me hun!
i had sex with theis guy i BEARLY know at a party the other night! im only 13 and its the most stupid choice i have EVER made but now i have a feeling im pregnant! i dont know what to do..how to tell my mum or where to go to get a pregnancy test done! i have skipped a period and have been feeling really sick! plese help me!
oxox beth
p.s- do u have msn? if u do add me
beth.k@hotmail.com
well i think you should tell you mom for sure. just sit her down and say okay mom, i know this is not what you would want to hear but we need to talk about something. explain to her that you know you were wrong doing this but it happened, and there is nothing you can now. as for the pregnancy test, im sure you can just get them at like a wal-mart, drug store type thing :] it may make a difference if he was wearing a condom, but you still have a good chance if you skipped your period already and arent feeling too well! please please please do me a favor and talk to your mom about it. she will be mad that her 13 year old daughter had sex, but she will want to help you!
i dont have msn, but i do have aim!?
let me know if you need anything else ♥
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hey! i am not yet 18 but my boyfriend and i have been talking about having sex soon in the safest possible way. i dont want to bring this up with my mom (i do talk to her about things but i dont think she would understand this one.. and im not asking about how to tell her) but im just wondering any other ways i could let her get me birth control. for example... my period is irregular so i asked to use it to make it more regular so it doesnt just surprise me.. any other ideas would be great!!
thanks!
hey :) well i have been on birth control for about two years now. i just told my mom, "my periods are really bad and heavy and so can we please go to the doctor to see what they can do for me" and so we did! the doctor told me that you dont get as bad cramps and you are on a time schedule so you know exactly when your going to get your period! this was before i started having sex, but now i can also be safe too! if you need any more ways, let me know
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13/f he's 16/m
MMkay , wellme and my new boyfriend have been dating for 4 days and yesterday he wanted a handjob...I've done it before and all but I told him no , he had to wait because I have my own morals and I'm not a slut...I know it was a good choice to wait.
Also , he's 16 and expelled from school , so he doesn't go to school and has no plans on going...meaning he basicly has no future.This upsets me...
Another thing is that yesterday we were talking and he asked me what are my limit's ? And I said nothing below the belt.And then we were talking about how many previous sexual partners we've had and I told him I'm kinda a virgin [ well techniclly not because penis in vagina = non-virgin ] and he said he'd had about 35 girls who he's had sex with and 15 who have given him blowjobs.I was like :O man whore.He said if he tried he wouldn't beable to rememeber all their names and he didn;t know all their names in the first place.This also upsets me.
So , I'm thinking about asking him to get tested for STD's , STI's and AID's and all that before we do anything.
Answers ? Opinion's ? ANYTHING would help me...I can't get this out of my head !!
well, if i were you i'd get rid of him right now! i mean come on 35 girls. thats a ton. it seems to me that he is just adding you to his "collection" im sorry if you dont like hearing this, but it seems to be true. plus you have only been going out for 4 days and he is already asking you to do this stuff?! me and my boyfriend didnt do anything like that until at least 8 months! but i understand everyone is different and moves at a different pace. but it seems to me that he just wants some from you :[ dont let him take advantage of you. keep your morals, and you wont regret it once! hope i helped ♥
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I live in England. I've been going out with this boy for nearly a year now, and we still haven't gotten around to having sex yet. I think I'm still a bit scared but I really want to. I want him to be my first. The thing is we don't really know where to go. We've had 'the talk' and his house is never free and either is mine as my mum doesn't work. do you have any suggestions of places we could go?
I want it to be perfect.
there is never a time that either of your parents arent home? well this is a hard question but i'll try. i'd say maybe outside somewhere? like in a park :) i mean you can make it romantic, at night! it is hard if both your parents are home all the time, but there has got to be a time that one of them are gonna be gone. some people do it in the back seat of a car, but im not sure how romantic that would be haha. it all depends on where you are willing to do it! like i said, its hard if your not at one of your houses. but leave another one in the inbox telling me some places you would feel comfortable like inside, outside, things like that! ♥
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so im 18/female..thinkin about getting my belly button pierced but i had a few questions..
1. how much does it cost? the price includes the ring?
2. how much does it hurt?
3. how long does it take to heal, or atleast for the pain and soreness to go away?
4. what do you use to clean it and how long/often should it be cleaned?
thanks for the help. (=
its all depends on where you go for how much it costs. my family owns a piercing store, and it only costs about $15 for everything, but if you do it somewhere like that, you have to get a stud put in first. and you get it at a tattoo place, my friends have told me it costs about $50. but im sure it will range!
i didnt think it hurts at all. it might sting for like a second and then its over :)
for the pain and soreness. from personal experience it took mine only about two weeks. it definately didnt take a YEAR. my family says 3-7 days about if you wanted to switch your ring.
sometimes stores have things that you can clean it with, ear solution. the thing you DONT WANT TO USE is alcohol. it will dry it out and it will not heal!! you can also put neo sporen.
well hope i helped! if you have any more questions let me know.
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17 female!
im in 12th grade. and in school, i talk to the hockey boys alot :) i dont know why but im just attracted to them. well i have these two boys nick and ben in two of my classes. they both have girlfriends. in our third hour nicks girlfriend is in our class with us but i dont really talk to them in there but our last hour they are always yelling my last name and stuff. and like today they were like COME HERE! and then i was like what and bens like i have to ask you something. and i was like what? and hes like will you go out with me and i just start laughing and hes like no im serious im like yeah thats why your going out with your girlfriend. and hes like no i dumped her. i know he was joking but then nick is like well if he wasnt going out with her would you go out with him? i probably would but i was like no! hahaha and then its freezing in that class, and i asked nick if i could wear his hockey jacket during class and ben is like noo dont let her she makes me want to kill myself because she wont go out with me. like jokingly. but then he gave it to me and ben walked away and i took his pencil back to my "lab table" with me and sat down. well all of a sudden i hear ben go, where is my pencil!! and then, he comes up from behind me and wraps his arms around me and takes me off of my seat. and when we line up at the door at the end of class and talk, ben was just staring at me. and i was like what are you doing! and i pushed his face the other way. and when us three were walking they were like hey hold hands with me, and i was in the middle and bens like i'll take front and you take back nick and they start laughing. they are always like you going to hangout with us today? and im like ummm no! because i always think they're joking around. i never know when they are being totally serious and i dont want to make a fool of myself...but i dont want to make them think i dont like them you know.
do you think they are serious about anything they say or do!?
thanks so much
heyy girlie. funny thing, this kinda happened to me too. my boyfriend plays hockey & his name is ben too haha but anyways before we were going out he was always messing around with me, calling me buddy and after awhile i was thinking, im actually starting to fall for this boy. i asked him to hangout with me and some of my friends and after that, everything went from there :) if your interested in ben, i wouldnt try to ruin him and his girlfriend's relationship, but hangout with him in a group of people, see how he acts around you! you NEVER know what boys are thinking they are so hard to read. but if you dont give it a shot, you'll never know!
♥ lindsaylu
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Well my bf is coming over next tuesday and i told him to bring some scary movies.He couldn't make it to the movies last time we were mean't to go out and i was expecting to kiss him then so no i want to kiss him this time.This will be our first kiss and mine first ever kiss so my question is should i make the first move or should he and what else should i do.My parents won't be there..
Thanx
i would let him make the first move. if he doesnt towards the end of the night and you REALLY want to kiss him; id say go ahead and do it then! guys do like girls who can take control and make the first move sometimes ;)
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i have only gone tanning once in my life and starting next week im going tanning. so i dont really want tan lines so would it be okay if i dont wear a bra in the tanning bed and just a thong? would that be okay or would that be bad?
hey :) when i go tanning; i dont wear anything. haha so yes it would be fine if you wore just a thong. but make sure you dont burn your butt!
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