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Older boyfriend
13/f he's 16/m
MMkay , wellme and my new boyfriend have been dating for 4 days and yesterday he wanted a handjob...I've done it before and all but I told him no , he had to wait because I have my own morals and I'm not a slut...I know it was a good choice to wait.
Also , he's 16 and expelled from school , so he doesn't go to school and has no plans on going...meaning he basicly has no future.This upsets me...
Another thing is that yesterday we were talking and he asked me what are my limit's ? And I said nothing below the belt.And then we were talking about how many previous sexual partners we've had and I told him I'm kinda a virgin [ well techniclly not because penis in vagina = non-virgin ] and he said he'd had about 35 girls who he's had sex with and 15 who have given him blowjobs.I was like :O man whore.He said if he tried he wouldn't beable to rememeber all their names and he didn;t know all their names in the first place.This also upsets me.
So , I'm thinking about asking him to get tested for STD's , STI's and AID's and all that before we do anything.
Answers ? Opinion's ? ANYTHING would help me...I can't get this out of my head !!
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When you are less then a week into a relationship and you discover that your values are not possibly compatiable, you break up.
That is the rational, intelligent, adult thing to do here.
Listen to the 'upset' feeling. It's telling you that you made a mistake. You now have hard proof that he is unmotivated, sexually indiscriminate and quite possibly a liar. It's okay to make mistakes, but once you realize it's a mistake, the best thing to do it stop making it.
Don't 'get him tested'. If he hasn't been yet, he doesn't, or wont care, and might even lie to you about it.
Just break up with him.
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Whoa, red flag. THIRTY FIVE girls? Seriously?
You'd better make him get tested.
I don't even know him and I already don't like him.
You asked for opinions, so here's mine: you shouldn't be involved with a guy three years older than you, who's been expelled from school, and has messed around with over thirty girls.
I'm honestly worried that he's gonna try to push you to do something "below the belt", and that you're gonna be upset.
I don't mean to sound like an overprotective mom, but this is the kind of guy I'd tell my (hypothetical) daughter to stay away from.
"Manwhore" is right, be careful...
Don't let him push you to do anything you don't want, and please for your own safety, reconsider your relationship with this boy.
Good luck
-Siren =)
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Jesus christ.
Ok. Reasons why you should not be going out with him.
1) Youre 13 and he's 16. At 13 you have not even been dating a year. You should be going out with 13-14 year olds if anything, the similarly unexperienced. 3 years is alot of gap at your age.
2) You're gullible. He hasnt had 35 girls. Ive known manwhores. I came close to being one when I was younger. If he had actually had sex with 35 different girls, he would be with one of them, having sex. Not with you, the virgin. The fact that "he cant remember their names" is a big clue. Thats a smoke screen so that he doesnt have to make up fake names of 35 girls, or name girls whom you just might be able to ask.
3) You've been dating for 4 days. 4 days. Thats not "we've been dating". Hes a sleaze, all he wants is to get laid, and hes found a girl he thinks is gullible enough to let him have some. Don't be that girl.
4) Expelled? At 16? Do you know how hard that is?
At 13 the last thing you need to do is date a guy who just wants sex, who lies (badly) about his experience, who is a loser, etc. You were completely right about it being a good choice not to touch his dick. You've got a good head on your shoulders, and you're cautious. But consider this a severe learning experience. Guys are full of shit. Being a guy, I can say that.
Right now, you need to be dating. Dating as in getting to know a guy, going out and being cute together, and being giddy about kissing. Leave anything sexual (which means hands do not go under clothes) for a few years from now. And drop this guy. He is lying to you. Thats not a question, its a certainty, and you don't need to date a guy who lies.
If you don't dump him, demand that he gets tested, and demand to go with him to the STD clinic when he gets tested and when he gets the results.
But please, don't make the mistake of "giving him a second chance". He doesnt deserve it and you'd be better off not putting yourself in the situation of dating a horny 16 year old loser.
I have a movie to recommend to you. Its called "Kids". Its not a fun movie, its actually kind of depressing, and its definitely not meant for your age group. But if you do watch it, remember the following.
Your 16 year old? Hes Telly.
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Dont bother please. you will only be left feeling used and hurt. If he asked for a handjob only on the 4th day he only wants you for one thing. I would break up with him asap because he seems like a complete asshole.
any other questions about my experiences feel free to ask =]
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Oh deary! Obviously he just wants in your pants. Sorry, but he justs want to have sex with you. I'd break-up with him.
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well, if i were you i'd get rid of him right now! i mean come on 35 girls. thats a ton. it seems to me that he is just adding you to his "collection" im sorry if you dont like hearing this, but it seems to be true. plus you have only been going out for 4 days and he is already asking you to do this stuff?! me and my boyfriend didnt do anything like that until at least 8 months! but i understand everyone is different and moves at a different pace. but it seems to me that he just wants some from you :[ dont let him take advantage of you. keep your morals, and you wont regret it once! hope i helped ♥
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