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he lied about the break up but still wants to be friends?
15/f
(sorry it’s so long but please help)
So I was dating the starting quarterback for my highschool football team and he had gotten a concussion a couple of weeks a go. He was diagnose with post concussion syndrom that made him depressed for a while. I told him that I will always be here for him if he needed me to be. And that I love him unconditionally. He said he loves me too and that no matter how it didn’t seem like it at the moment he did. A week later he breaks up with me saying that his concussion messed up his emotions so much that he can only see me as a friend now. I didn’t believe it because he seemed super happy after the break up. So I gave him a second chance to tell me the truth. I walked up to him and said I needed closure and just needed to hear the real reason why he broke up with me. He blamed the concussion again.
I left it alone for a couple of days then asked him when did he realize he didn’t want to be with me anymore. He said a couple of days after the concussion. He said that it just kept progressing because of the concussion. So I just left it as that. I thought I had gotten my closure he stayed with the same story and I felt I was ok with that.
Then one of my friends calls me the same day and tells me that he actually confessed that the concussion was just an excuse. He had just gotten bored of me. I really do appriciate the truth no matter how much it may hurt. I gave him 3 chances to tell me the truth and he hadn’t. that’s what bugs me the most and we had a really close relationship when we were together. He said he really wants to stay friends but why if he lied about the break up? I know there’s that possibility that he thought if he told the truth that we wouldn’t stay friends but he confessed to one of my closest friends so obviously it would have gotten back to me you know?
I just would like to hear what other people think about this.
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hey sweetie, you need to let go. here's a quote i found that i think can relate somewhat to you:
get over him. He's not even worth it. He is not worth your time or your tears. Yea you loved him, I know that. And i know you just cant see yourself with anyone other than him,i get that. Ive been there. But why should you spend all your time sitting at home, bawling your eyes out and wondering where he is and who he is with. Do you honestly think he is thinking about you? No. Sure it hurts, the fact that he is out there falling in and out of love with other girls.Yea your gonna see him with one of his new girlfreinds. Prepare yourself, coz straight up;its gonna hurt. He will hold her a little closer and squeeze her hand a little tighter just because he knows your watching.He knows its killing you;thats why he will do it. Dont let him get to you because that, well thats exactly what he wants.Dont give him what he wants.He doesnt even deserve it.So what if he doesn't talk to you;do you honestly wanna be friends with an asshole like him anyways?Thing is i know you still do. But give it time.Because all he would do is talk about his new girlfriend and just try and make you jealous, do you really wanna hear that?No. Screw him and his girlfriend.He will be sorry. trust me. When he finally sees you with some other guy whos not him. With that huge grin on your face and your boyfriend holding you close + with that huge grin on your face and your boyfriend holding you close, he will realise how happy you are now.And how happy your boyfriend is because he has you;the girl of his dreams.He will realise the huge mistake he made when he let you go, when he decided to choose her over you.When he decided he just did not love you the same.Trust me, he will be sorry.And dont you sit there thinking he won't be sorry I know you are.But i guarentee you now;He will be sorry.So dont go on spending your nights waiting for that one phone call you know your never gonna get.Or that IM you know he will never send you simply because he likes to ignore you. He like to pretend he does not see you online, he does it outta spite just because he knows its killing you.When he walks past you in the hallways he is gonna look past you,but you needa know he will do that coz he knows somewhere inside you,it will hurt.+i aint gonna lie to you.It will hurt.It will hurt alot.But it will hurt even more when you see her name and how much he loves her in his profile.Its all gonna hurt.Knowing your not the girl thats making him smile.Knowing your not the first person he thinks of when he wakes up and the last before he goes to sleep.Knowing your not the face on his backgroud of his phone anymore.Knowing if he hasnt already he will delete the album of pictures of you he has on his phone.Knowing you wont be spending every single moment possible with him.Knowing theres not gonna be no more late night phone calls argueing about who loves who the most.And you know what, today, tomorrow, next week,months from now;your phone will go off with a text message,you will instantly grab your phone hoping its him saying he wants to give your relationship another shot.But trust me;hes got to much pride.Even if he wanted to be back with you,he wouldnt tell you.Your soon gonna realise he doesnt care about you anymore and he wont be the first person you call when your upset.He wont be the one to put that smile back on your face. And yea its gonna hurt;its gonna hurt alot.But you know what your gonna do?Your gonna hold your head up.Your gonna show him your better than him and you dont need him in your life.Your gonna prove to him that he made the biggest mistake of his life letting you go+ that you never really needed him anyways.
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girl! wow! thats really messed up! no dnt become his friend! make him regret wat he did!
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Apperently you may have loved him but hes a complete jerk you should tell him off and stay a bit angry.
Or you could talk it out, that may be best but sometimes its best to keep distance and show your anger for awhile. So he knows the mistake he made, if he really wants to be friends he'll eventually try to talk to you about it.
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