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I was wondering if it was possible to somehow run my xbox360 Internet connection plug into my computers port to boost the signal? My computer is wireless cable and gets great reception but where my xbox is that doesn't so would running the wire from my pc to the xbox make the signal from my pc go to the xbox?

Your best bet would be to "cut out the middleman", so to speak, and go directly from your router to your XBox 360. Even if it were possible to connect to your PC instead, it just adds another link in the chain and thus, another potential bottleneck for your connection.

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I uninstalled internet explorer on my computer and deleted any folder that is named internet explorer. so what i did specifically was uninstalled every details that it could still have left. i tried to install it again because i had the ie installer downloaded and when i did it it says cannot install because it has detected a newer version already installed. but it cant be because i already uninstalled it. so i want to know if there is something i could do to install it back or is there some kind of error in my computer.

The short answer is that so long as you are using a Windows system, you can NEVER, EVER completely uninstall Internet Explorer. It's so ingrained into the OS that it's basically impossible to uninstall. What you (Deleting any folder named Internet Explorer, etc) did was both dangerous and counterproductive.

Re-install windows (Or repair your current installation). That should fix any problems you have with it.


Edit: Alternatively, don't bother, and download a copy of Opera.

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my boyfriend and i have been dating for 5 months. he is 18 and just graduated high school in may. in all the time we've been dating, or since i've known him which was in august, he hasn't had a job. he had a car until he got his license suspended in november for a speeding ticket. this means that all this time we've been dating, I'VE been either going to his house to see him or been lugging him around everywhere we go and I'VE been paying for us to go out. and quite honestly, i hate it. he was supposed to get his license back in april but couldn't because it costs over $200 and he doesn't have the money. his parents are helping him and he's mad at THEM for the fact that he cant get it back. he has done some yard work and stuff for neighbors to get money occasionally but it's just not a stable job you know? he's not aspiring to go to college so whatever he does is just going to be a job, not a big career. he's takin me out and payed for me a few times, but it's majority me 95% of the time. we dont even go out every night or anything. his mom is apparently on his case to get a job, which he hates. he's always complaining of sittin around bored when im not there and ill ask him 'do you have a job yet?' or 'why not go look for a job?' and he gets ill. i understand that he doesnt want me nagging him about getting a job or getting his license back like his parents do, but on the other i dont just wanna lay back and let him think im some bank. i've had a job for a year and a half and i work for my money and i pay for the gas in my car that's used when we go out. i dont wanna push him about it because that's what caused my best friend and her boyfriend of almost a year to break up, because they were in the same exact position and she was sick of riding him around and paying for him, and he was sick of her nagging so he dumped her. i dont wanna be like that, but he's 18 for god's sake. he has to do SOMETHING with his life besides rely on other people or else it's not gonna be me that he relies on. everytime i ask him about finding a job, he's always like "im workin on it" or some smart remark, but i've never once seen him turn in any application anywhere, or heard him say he's been out looking for a job. i just want him to be responsible, and be able to get his license back and be able to have a [i hate to say this but..] "normal" relationship. that doesnt mean i want him to shower me with gifts and jewelry and go to a fancy dinner everynight, but being able to go out to eat or to the movies would be great sometimes without me having to pay. he has zero dollars saved up to get his license back, and not one speck of a job in sight and he could honestly careless. i know it bothers him that he doesn't have his car but i want him to DO something about it. i hate it, my mom hates it that im in this situation AGAIN because it was the same exact thing with my ex, and just UGH! how can i talk to him and try to encourage him to get a job without sounding like a mother? i've even tried by telling him places that are looking for help and would be easy, even part-time jobs, but no. what can i dooo? i hate doing this!

Up until very recently, I was in the exact same situation as your boyfriend (Except for the licence bit). Both my mom and my girlfriend would nag me or "encourage" me to get a job. All that didn't end until I decided for myself that it needed to change. Although it probably isn't what you want to hear, he's not going to get a job until he convinces himself to.

So, what can you do? Issue him an ultimatium. Give him a set amount of time to get his shit together before you dump him. It sounds drastic, but if that won't scare him into employment, nothing will. And frankly, you deserve better, especially if this has been going on for several months.


Also, you seem to have a history of attracting (Or possiblely seeking out) this type of guy out. It could just be a coincidence, but if you end up breaking up and your next boyfriend has the same problem, try some introspection to see what it is that is attracting you to these men (or vice versa),

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hi me and my boyfriend have been dating for 6 and a half months im 19 and so is he when we first starting dating it was great he called me every night he texted me all the time and we always had fun together now he rarely calls or texts if he does call its around midnight and if i call him he is always with his friends and either says i cant talk right now or he talks to them the whole time while i am on the phone listeneing and sometimes he calls me when he is with the friends and i just have to listen to him talk to them and now we are always fighting he never invites me to do anything with him and his friends anymore either he awways teels me wat hes doing as hes doing it doesnt even invite me and his friends are over every night and he says he didnt invite them that they have a key and he doesnt even wanna b there with them we never really go out anymore we just sit at home and watch tv he says he is always romantic but i cant even remember the last time he was, we only see each other like 1 a week, we both really love each other wat should i do to save our relationship

hi well sometimes people change the problem might be him but the problem might also be you too try to rexamine your expectations of your relationship and his expectations and try to come to an agreement on what you guys should be doing and how often fights are common after the honeymoon stage and should be considered normal unless they happen very frequently and/or are very serious if you can't agree on a set of expectations it might be best to break it off since neither of you are happy as things stand hope I helped.

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Why did the age change for jobs? Most jobs you have to be 18 now. Even in grocery stores, fast food restaurants, etc. There's only ONE fast food place that hires at 16 and of course it's already full. What happened? Most 16 year olds have jobs already but every time I try to apply elsewhere.. they say I don't qualify because of my age (17) I just wanted to be bagger for a grocery store! I'm moving out next year and I don't know what to do! I know I'm getting kicked out so am I just supposed to live on the streets until I'm 18?

Even if you were 18 and had experience, it's not easy to get a job. I was job-hunting for about a year after I turned 18 before I found something. What you need is a lot of perserverance and patience and a little bit of luck.

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when does sex stop hurting?

Unless someone is doing it wrong, after the first few minutes of sex (Or the next time you have it, whichever comes first). Of course, like all things, this does vary.

If sex is hurting you consistantly, try to relax and enjoy yourself more. Feeling nervous and anxious during sex can manifest itself in the form of pain.

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what are some game for a ps3 that are like call of duty....im getting a game for my bf and idk anything about video games....and about how much does one game cost?

Brand-new video games usually cost around $40-$60, depending on the production value, with $50 or $60 being the usual.

As for a PS3 game like Call of Duty...You really don't have that much selection availible. The PS3 has a very poor selection of games. If he owns any other console besides the PS3 (Or a good gaming PC), get back to me and I'd be more than happy to help.

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this is gonna get long, sorry.

my ex and i dated for a almost 17 months and we were amazing together. understood each other, never once fought in all that time, just completely compatible. but we broke up in november for complicated reasons. i started dating another guy in january/february who i had been sort of crushing on since august. things went way down hill and we started fighting alottt, mainly because of his jealous, obsessive ways. we're currently on a break/broken up but still kinda together. basically, we just dont have the title right now but we act the same and are hoping things will get fixed. my ex has not dated anyone else. we still love each other, and we know it. we were each others first loves, talked about getting married, everything. and i dont doubt that we still will end up married. we still talk, he tells me he loves me, and i resist from saying it because of my current guy. my mom and i were talking tonight and even she told me how great my ex and i were together. i wanna tell him soo bad that i will always have feelings for him, and that i hope one day we will end up back together, possibly forever. just everything ive been keeping in since the breakup. the only thing that's holding me back is the current sorta-boyfriend. i love him alot, but i know it's not gonna be forever. when we're not fighting, we're great together and he's so much fun, and we've wanted to be together ever since we met. but i feel like i just really need to get this off my chest to my ex. last night he said he loved me, i was playing around and said 'naww you dont'. he said 'yeah i do, i know you dont love me anymore, but i still do'. that almost killed me. and i wanted to say all this then soo bad! but i feel as if that wouldnt be loyal to the sorta-boyfriend. i would never cheat on him, especially with my ex. but ARGH! they dont like each other, so they dont talk, so im not worried about word getting around if i talk to my ex. i just dont know if it's the right thing to do. i want him to know im still here, ya know? i figure technically im single, so i dont know what it would really hurt, but a part of me is saying it would be wrong. like i said, i love my sorta-boyfriend, and it would break my heart if we broke up for good, so it's not like i would immediately go running back to my ex, but in the future, i can totally see it happening. and i know he would give anything to have me back. gosh i just need someone to help me.

In almost any case you'd care to name, honesty is the best policy. For you, this means two things:

1) Tell your ex what your feelings are for him, if any. Not only will it get it off your chest, but I'm sure it will help with getting you two back together, which seems like something you both want.
2) Tell your current sort-of boyfriend where your relationship stands. He has a right to know.

Granted, these things are easier said than done, but the right thing to do usually is.

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last night, my boyfriend and i fooled around and he tittie f***** me. Before he put his penis between my breasts, he started kissing there and stuff and after tittie f****** he ejaculated all over my chest. Today I look in the mirror and it looks like i have a big rash all over my breasts and in between but there red bumps, but they dont itch or anything. What is it? Can I treat it? What should I do? my parents would kill me if they found out.

It is NOT herpies. Herpies has an incubation period of 6-8 days. You would NOT see any sign of herpies on the next day.

In addition, 13% is a vast overestimation of women who are alergic to their partner's sperm. Far more likely is that your rash is caused by the friction of being tittie-fucked.

Nevertheless, if you're worried, you should consult a doctor you trust.

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Im 19 years old and still a virgin and kinda want to stay like that but then again dont want to cause i want to enjoy my life What you think i sholud do ?`

As with all "Should I?" questions, nobody can answer for you. You need to make up your own mind for what will make you happiest.

Having that said, I must comment on the futility of trying to stay a virgin for it's own sake. Unless you plan on becoming a monk/nun, or have some sort of irrational date or time set for you to "lose it", your virginity shouldn't be something to worry about.

Dispite what society would have you believe, your virgin status (or lack thereof) isn't really all that important, and unless your first time is truamatic for some reason, you're still going to be the same person post-virginity as you were pre-virginity.


Of course, as a disclaimer, just because it's not that big of a big deal, don't go out and start having random sex or taking similar risks just because you can. That would be a stupid move.

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so my boyfriend had been trying everthing to get me to orgasm, but I seem like I can't. He had fingered me, eatin me out, has had sex with me nothing happens. I get close but it goes away. I want to have a orgasm so bad and better yet cum...can anyone give me advise or help on what to do. I will rate!

Orgasms for women work quite a bit differently from orgasms from men. For women, you can't attain one by brute force or some magic technique, dispite what popular sex myths would have you believe.

From what you're describing, your boyfriend isn't doing a bad job. You are coming close, but you end up "losing it". Improvement on his part probably won't help very much.

Keep in mind that it's very rare for women to have an orgasm before the age of 20, and about 10% of women never have an orgasm in their entire lives. Don't be too worried about having one right now--concentrate on enjoying the sex you have for what it is, and improving upon your sex life for it's own sake. Your orgasm will come when you're good and ready.

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Ok well here's the deal. I was with a guy for around like 7 months. Then we broke up, and went on a month break, but we never really stopped caring about each other. I broke up with him because he was really disrespectful and basically took me for advantage. He didn't know what he had at all. Then we got back together because he wanted me back, and i still really cared about him. We went back out for about 1 1/2 months then i broke up with him agian. He totally acted like he didn't care at all...again, and so i wasn't going to put up with that. He even asked me to go over to his exgirlfriends house. This exgirlfriend is easy, and hooked up with him before we started going out. I said i wouldn't like it if he went. He reluctently said ok, but then after that things only even worse. He was a total jerk and stood me up.
I know that i may be making him sound bad right now, but this is all the pain he's caused me. And i mean you know, easy right, if someone causes you pain you don't go back to them. I guess its just that i want to believe he'll change. And for the most part he is changing. Like he is trying harder but maybe its because he knows he can't control me anymore. I don't know. And to make matters worse he is pressuring me to go back out with him when i don't know what i want.

Next problem. I've kinda had another guy stick around for me through all this. He's been there for me through everything, and helped me out all the times i was miserable from my boyfriend (ex now). I really want to give him a chance but i'm scared he'll hurt me like my ex-boyfriend did. Also i can't quite let go of my ex-boyfriend. I want to be with him, but i know it's bad for me. Also, this new guy is kinda pushing me to go out with him too, and i really don't know if i can do that. I mean i feel bad because they both want to go out with me, but i don't know how to say no, so i feel like im leading them on when i just don't want to hurt their feelings.
What should I do in your opinion?

This seems like a no-brainer. Your ex obviously makes you miserable. You've given him second chances. Don't take him back unless you have overwhelming, undeniable proof that he's changed.

As for this new guy, if he hasn't done anything to hurt you yet, there's no reason for you to think that he'll turn out to be just like your ex. That doesn't mean you have to say yes to him--Enter a relationship when you're good and ready.

The best way to say no is just to say it, and explain why. Sugar-coating things never helps, and leaving your situation ambiguous makes it seem like you're playing hard to get.

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What are some amazing classics? I'm thinking along the lines of Pride and Prejudice or A Tale of Two Cities. (But not those because I have already read them... i love them.) I need ones that I will thoroughly enjoy reading.

"1984" and "Animal Farm" (Both by George Orwell) are very solid classics. If you like them, you may also enjoy "Brave New World" by Aldous Huxley. All of the above titles deal with deep issues on government and morality, if you're into that kind of thing.

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I am 17 and I was driving home tonight, and as i was driving up a hill (i'll admit...probably a little too fast) i realized by lights were off- so i turned them on...and then a second later i saw a cop car behind me so i pulled over. When he came over he was just like (nicely) "I saw you fly up the hill with your lights off" (i wasn't going insanely fast). But he asked for my license (which was valid and everything), and he was just like alright have a good night. He didn't ask me for my registration, he didn't give me a ticket, and he didn't specify a "warning"

So my question is:
Am I on some kind of record now? like as far as i could tell he didn't write my name down (he was right in front of me the whole time).

And should i tell my parents?? I am kind of scared too- but i feel like i should- but idk whyy...

THanks soo much!!!

Chances are, no, you're not on any record on anything like that. He probably just wanted to scare you (And by the sound of it, he did).

Telling your parents is up to you, I guess.

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Hi

well i want to get a new laptop soon and i was just wondering which one i should get? I was going to get a pink vaio but the website says its not for sale any more. So yeah.
thanks a bunch :)

As far as operating systems go, I would suggest getting a mac only if you're computer-inept and want your computer work itself instead of having a computer you can truely costomize. Keep in mind that, assuming you know what you're doing, there's nothing you can't do on a Windows XP/Vista machine. And because it's such a widespread system (Something like 84% of all computers run a windows OS of some sort), there are plenty of people who can help you out with issues.


As far as specific laptops go, keep in mind the specifications and benchmarks are often more important than brand or manufacturer. It would be a poor move to get a Pink Vaio just because it's pink, or just because it's a Vaio.

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Hey my name is Michelle im 15,

My question is i gave my boyfriend a blowjob for the first time on Tuesday then the next moring i woke uo with a sore inside of my mouth.
I am so scared and dont kno weather to tell my parents or wat it is.I read about herpes and all that,but it says u kant get it the next day.
It is now Saturday and i still have it.it looks better but im still scared.if you kan help me please do.

Thanks

Michelle

Herpes has an incubation period of 6-8 days. If you do have herpes, you wouldn't see any sign of it before then.

This sore of yours is just a cooincidence. There is nothing to panic about.

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I have dated one guys for 5 years now an he has cheated on me 17 times. I moved out from his house an now i live with someone i really get along with. Everytime i try to break up with the other guy he begs me not to do it that he will change. Please i need so advice on how to tell him i dnt want him no more

The plain and simple truth is almost always the best thing to say in situations like this.

Tell him you're sick of his bullshit, and that you don't believe that he'll change, and you don't believe that "this time will be different". Tell him, plain and simple, that you don't want him anymore. Don't take no for an answer.

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My family is going to the movies this weekend and I was wondering which movie is better for little kids? I know Iron Man is in the lead in the box office but I was wondering which would keep him more occupied watching it?

Speed Racer declares war on epileptics. The kids will love it. With any luck, it might get them into the classic series and help them connect with generations past.

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So for a long time I have had boy troubles. I like someone and the feeling is never mutual or we do the whole dating thing and nothing happens after that. I feel like I might be doing something wrong. I don't come off too strong and I never jump the gun. I just feel like I lost track on how to attract a guy and how to keep him interested. Its been a long long time since I had a boyfriend and I would really like to know what to do.

"Hunting" for mates never works out. Don't try to attract a guy. Don't try to keep him interested. If you two are a good match, things will happen on their own.

My advice is to stop worrying and stop trying. It shouldn't bother you that you haven't had a boyfriend in a while.

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i have the motorola razr (red) from sprint and have had TONS of problems with it. recently it will tell me i get a text over 2 hours after it was sent. this is completely inconvenient especially in case of emergency. is it my phone or the service that is the problem? what are good RELIABLE phones for sprint?!

The razr has it's issues, no doubt. My father used to have one and he had to change the screen on it four times because it would keep breaking.

However, the problem you're describing (Text messeges coming in late) is not your phone's fault, but your service provider. I know first-hand the sprint sucks, a lot. The only advantage to them is that they're inexpensive.

My advice to you is to switch service providers (I recommend AT&T), and get a Nokia phone. The N70 is a fantastic choice, although it's a bit old. If you have the money for it, try something in the N90 series.

Here's an honest, no-bullshit review on the N70, compared to the iPhone: http://www.thebestpageintheuniverse.net/c.cgi?u=iphone

(A fair warning, though. The above reviewer has a bit of a potty mouth...)

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